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 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 101
'toooo many fish in the sea?'Page 5 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
There are not too many fish in the sea.It's peoples perceptions
that are off. Just because you see people you are attracted to everywhere
does not in any way mean that they would ever be attracted to you.The lure
of online dating is that all of these pretty people you see are potential mates
for you when in reality these people would not even look twice at you.



FACT:more women than men which make women more picky.and men drop their standards.so those men who drop their standards all go for what they consider less than average women so now the less than attractive women get picky.so then you have pof where cute and ugly women alike get to be picky and most men end up bitter cuz they cant get email even from the girls who are not worth looking at lol yes call it mean


Most likely the woman you are angry at for rejecting you find
you "not worth looking at" and are wondering why you are bothering
them.There are leagues my dear and you are not in theirs if you keep
getting rejected by them.
 KingRomanticRebel
Joined: 4/5/2010
Msg: 102
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 1:04:59 AM

Posted By: annie - Most likely the woman you are angry at for rejecting you find
you "not worth looking at" and are wondering why you are bothering
them.There are leagues my dear and you are not in theirs if you keep
getting rejected by them.


DITTO!
I believe that most women on POF are 'foolishly and unrealistically' waiting for that "dream guy" that is WAY outta their league as well!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 103
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 6:13:40 AM

DITTO!
I believe that most women on POF are 'foolishly and unrealistically' waiting for that "dream guy" that is WAY outta their league as well!


Totally agree. That "dream guy"-the one who girls consider as good looking as their favorite movie star, rich, great personality, sexy, funny as all hell-don't need to cast a line in POF to snag a catch. Same with the "dream girl"-they have no need for POF as well. That leaves only 99.99% of the single population to flounder in the water looking for Mr./Ms. Perfect.
 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 104
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 2:26:04 PM
ajfedz there may be women and man who are holding out for a dream
they will never get but it's not most people who are doing that.It's a
few. If you had actually read what I had written you would see that
I was responding to "one" specific person who I had quoted in my post.

You sound very angry and bitter.
 KingRomanticRebel
Joined: 4/5/2010
Msg: 105
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 4:41:45 PM

Posted By: annie was here - You sound very angry and bitter.

Wrong, and you purposely made this statement to get under my skin. Shame on you! That's a woman for ya!


there may be women and man who are holding out for a dream
they will never get but it's not most people who are doing that.


Its funny how you voice your opinion as 'fact' when indeed, it is ONLY your opinion. Well, I beg to differ!


If you had actually read what I had written you would see that
I was responding to "one" specific person who I had quoted in my post.


I ACTUALLY did read what you wrote and I stated my 'opinion' based on what you stated as 'fact' and I stand behind my opinion 100%.

***You sound like a know-it-all and I hate to break the bad news to you -- you don't!!!***
 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 106
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 4:59:13 PM
Ajfedj all I can say is wtf!!! Seriously you don't understand what someone is quoting someone else in their post!!? For real?? The person who wrote "fact" and then went on a tirade is the one I quoted.Could you not see that that part in my post was quoted? It was even outlined.I stated nothing as fact the person I quoted did.





you purposely made this statement to get under my skin. Shame on you! That's a woman for ya!


Actually I said you were angry, misogynistic and bitter because you actually are angry, misogynistic and bitter, and I think you should work on those undesirable personality traits you have developed.Get some help please.


By the way the person I quoted was mr nonchalance.Message 214.

Ok I am done feeding the troll now.Back under the bridge for you.
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 107
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Posted: 5/18/2010 5:38:29 PM

there may be women and man who are holding out for a dream
they will never get but it's not most people who are doing that.
I would like to find 'princess charming'.....oh wait what are princesses supposed to exhibit? Beauty? Poise? Oh wait....it's the "princes" who are supposed to be charming I think. Also who is this "mr right" fellow I keep hearing about all the time and why are so many looking for him constantly?

Live laugh love!

Who else enjoys imitation crab meat?
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 108
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Posted: 5/18/2010 5:43:11 PM

I would like to find 'princess charming'.....oh wait what are princesses supposed to exhibit? Beauty? Poise? Oh wait....it's the "princes" who are supposed to be charming I think. Also who is this "mr right" fellow I keep hearing about all the time and why are so many looking for him constantly?


I think this thread is beginning to flounder.

 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 109
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 5:57:43 PM

I would like to find 'princess charming'.....oh wait what are princesses supposed to exhibit? Beauty? Poise? Oh wait....it's the "princes" who are supposed to be charming I think.


Lol! I think princesses can be charming. I have to admit
however that I don't mind if male fishies have a little bit of princess
in them.If he starts wearing makeup that's where I draw the line though.


Also who is this "mr right" fellow I keep hearing about all the time and why are so many looking for him constantly?


He has a really big ***k and a talented tongue.

If we are all realistic about who we are,what we look like, and
what we can get then all of us should be able to find love so long
as we try our hardest to maintain a positive upbeat outlook.The
right attitude makes a difference too.So no I do not think there are
too many fish in the sea.If I wanted to be unrealistic then I would be
chasing after Enrique Murciano, but I could never get him.I know that
and I am cool with that.That doesn't mean however that I haven't found
men who rock my world past,present and if need be future.
 KingRomanticRebel
Joined: 4/5/2010
Msg: 110
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 6:07:07 PM

There are leagues my dear and you are not in theirs if you keep
getting rejected by them.


^^^ stated as fact! And may not be the case at all!


it's not most people who are doing that


^^^ stated as fact! Just your one sided opinion!


I think you should work on those undesirable personality traits you have developed. Get some help please.


**Is this how you deal with men in your relationships too? This is your attempt at mental abuse - you know, try to make a man feel bad about himself, when you are actually the emotionally unstable person.


By the way the person I quoted was mr nonchalance.Message 214


FYI, I knew that when I commented the first time.


I am done feeding the troll now. Back under the bridge for you.


So as soon as someone beats you in a forum debate, they are a troll? Please!
**See above rebuttal

Now you said you were done in your last post? Well lets see, I "believe" that you will post again, just to get the "last word" - GO 4 IT, it will be my gift to you!
 KingRomanticRebel
Joined: 4/5/2010
Msg: 111
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 6:15:55 PM

If I wanted to be unrealistic then I would be
chasing after Enrique Murciano, but I could never get him


Well in that case, if I wanted to be unrealistic then I would be
chasing after Pam Anderson, Carmen Electra or for that matter - Jenna Jameson!
Guess I will have to resort to my second choices on POF!
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 112
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 5/18/2010 9:25:26 PM
For some people there may very well be too many fish in the sea,but for most of us there are not enough.Sometimes if you don't want to be alone you have to take what is available and learn to love that person. Loneliness is terrible.
 ALMOSTABLONDE
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 113
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 12/27/2010 2:42:02 PM
how many times did guys start emailing me then they poofed or even stood me up-it's nutsy-koo-koo, or just damn rude- well guess what- I believe in Karma & what goes around comes around, so...
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 114
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 12/27/2010 3:08:00 PM
There are so many frogs in the sea it is hard to see the fish. I understand your point though because you would think we would use this technology to make it easier instead we choose to make it harder. I was very surprised to not get emails. Then when they added the meet me section I was shocked again because I thought that it would bring out the shy women whom were afraid to make first contact. It's not pof's fault people can't take advantage of something so simple. We have culprits on both sides but I think both the men and the women agree that it is mostly the women's fault that everyone has to spent the night at the lake with an empty line.Also you got to consider that it is only an image of a fish. A lot of people on pof put up their profile and never check it for messages.
 womaninblack
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 115
'toooo many fish in the sea?'
Posted: 12/27/2010 3:13:27 PM
As a fisher person, if you know what type of fish you like, do your homework:
Find out where they swim and what they like to eat (bait).

But please be honest in your quest, and not be like some...
Some don't even like fish, let alone fishing!
Some have a huge case of indigestion.
Some fish for sport.
Some prefer an aquarium only... or just snorkeling.
Some are out here just for the fresh air.

Which fisher are you?
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 116
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Posted: 12/27/2010 3:16:42 PM
Many women get few responses here. I respond to everyone who responds to me, although most have been from men looking for sex only or they are married or seem to want a social worker to listen to them. Maybe people are not reading profiles well enough to know that the match is not a good one before they respond to someone?
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 117
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Posted: 12/27/2010 5:34:37 PM

well guess what- I believe in Karma & what goes around comes around, so..


I hope you don't plan to try to bring it around on some other guy. That's a temptation when those things happen--if you can't get back at the person who shafted you, the next reasonable facsimile will do. In fact, when I've been on the receiving end of that kind of stuff, I've had the impression it was an angry woman just waiting to unload on some guy she thought had it coming. I try to look for little signs of that, but I'm not a mind-reader.
 ALMOSTABLONDE
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 118
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:01:54 PM

I hope you don't plan to try to bring it around on some other guy. That's a temptation when those things happen--if you can't get back at the person who shafted you, the next reasonable facsimile will do. In fact, when I've been on the receiving end of that kind of stuff, I've had the impression it was an angry woman just waiting to unload on some guy she thought had it coming. I try to look for little signs of that, but I'm not a mind-reader

not at all- that's more bad karma...I am done w/ online dating karma will deal w/ the baddies when & how she sees fit
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 119
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:32:53 PM

It was here that i realized that the internet was not a "shortcut" by any means. It was actually the longer way.. the harder way.. the bigger headache way.


I tend to agree, at least for men. Everything else being equal, women don't have to invest nearly as much time, effort, and money on Internet sites to get the same number of fun dates.

That's because most women can find the time to go through 15 or 20 e-mails every couple days, and even if they're mostly duds, it probably won't be more than a week or so before a woman who gets that many finds a guy or two she could see herself dating. Since she knows these men are already interested, all she has to do is write them back a short note or maybe two and include her number. And when they call, they're likely to arrange a date. If it's not just a first meeting, he'll probably end up doing all the driving and paying. The woman may not want just to have sex--but if she should, she can take it for granted.

A man will only be contacting women he could see himself dating. But most of them probably won't be interested. So he may only need to search for and e-mail say five women every couple days to find one or two every week or so who give their number and get in touch. But all the searching and e-mailing is still going to take him a lot longer than it would just to weed out women who had contacted him. He'll still get to do the driving and paying. And although he'll probably want to have sex, it won't often be his just for the asking.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 120
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:37:18 PM
^^^^I don't know about all women for sure, but I might get 2 responses in one year, and both are usually incompatible with me. It depends on a lot of factors, and seems as if location might have a lot to do with it.
 womaninblack
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 121
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:51:15 PM

That's because most women can find the time to go through 15 or 20 e-mails every couple days,

Ya, I´d like to meet some of these women... granted, having my profile hidden and no pics helps...
When I posted full body pics I got tons more mail but definitely the wrong kind so it was a huge waste of my time.

location location location............quality quality quality.
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 122
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Posted: 12/28/2010 3:24:47 AM
I wonder if it's actually a waste of time though because if you are in business like me as opposed to just working for someone you look for things that can keep you occupied while you are waiting for your business to pick up. I mean you have to advertise and do what you can to get the business going but everything else is just killing time. As far as dating the old fashion way by approaching people you like, it is still the easiest way to get a date.There is nothing like being three dimensional and that can't be done in a profile thread. You see them, you smell them, you hear them, and you try to judge if you want to approach them and if you have a chance. It's never been a problem for me the old way.My success rate has been very good but then again I ain't no player.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 123
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Posted: 12/28/2010 6:51:10 AM
...you would think we would use this technology to make it easier instead we choose to make it harder.

The technology is what it is. Whether or not that makes it harder or easier for a particular individual depends on whether or not that individual utilizes the technology in the way that best fits the technology. If you try to make online dating like real life dating, online dating will be harder. If you have difficulty making choices because a ``kid in the candy store mentality'' prevents you from recognizing what you want when you see it or you keep shifting your focus to the latest novelty, online dating will be harder. If you can't make yourself interesting to the people you want to meet with a written profile, online dating will be harder. If you have a good line of bs in person, but can't translate that into written messages, online dating will be harder. If you don't take advantage of the time you have before meeting people to filter them, you'll meet a lot of people you should never have met and online dating will be harder. Online dating is at least as easy as real life dating dating unless you are one of those fortunate people who crosses paths with lots of datable women as part of what you do everyday. For example, if I were a massage therapist in a trendy part of town, I'd probably have no reason to even know online dating exists.

It's not pof's fault people can't take advantage of something so simple.

For people who live in major metropolitan areas where they have a relatively large dating pool, people can take advantage of something ``so simple.'' I think most people who are used to dating in real life, (which at this point in time, is most people), are just resistant to changing the way they approach dating to fit the technology. Dating online is simple if one approaches it in the way that best fits the technology. If one thinks of online dating as real life dating with a giant dating pool, online dating will be frustrating. Real life dating would be even more frustrating if one tried to make real life dating work the same way online dating works.

We have culprits on both sides but I think both the men and the women agree that it is mostly the women's fault that everyone has to spent the night at the lake with an empty line.

I have to disagree that it's primarily the women's fault. I think men and women are at fault for different reasons, but I really don't think women are more at fault.

not at all- that's more bad karma...I am done w/ online dating

Really? After less than 3 months, you've decided that online dating is worse than real life dating?
 curmudgeon_ed
Joined: 11/24/2010
Msg: 124
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Posted: 12/28/2010 5:30:20 PM
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Peabody5.html

the above link explains a lot about why so many people dont seem to do well with dating sites and why we dont seem to do well with the people this link references....

in conclusion..most here dont operate within the realm of reality...
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 125
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Posted: 12/28/2010 7:15:56 PM
^^^^^I agree that a lot of people on dating sites may not be cut out for good relationships. But I'm not sure I'd take Susan Peabody's authority that all those identifiable types of addiction exist. She seems to have made some of them up.

I don't think most top medical authorities would call those things addictions, but rather symptoms of various emotional disorders. A lot of those things can interfere with sharing yourself with other people in ways that make you both feel good, and that you can make last.

That means you first have to know how to give of yourself like you would with any friend, and want to. What I've seen makes me suspect that a lot of people on dating sites who claim to be open to something serious with the right person really aren't. For them, there never IS any such person. For various reasons, they seem afraid to love.
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