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 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 201
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mtn.lover said,
I think it has much to do with age group. I feel the younger people are more serious, have less baggage and stand a far better chance. For the most part, I think us older people are just kidding ourselves. Most older people own their own homes, settled in their lifestyle and wouldn't risk moving or selling their house to take another shot this late in the game. They like the fantasy, and getting approached to feed their self esteem, but that's usually as far as it's really going. Older ladies with an empty nest soon refill it with dogs, cats, and grandchildren. Why they think they have time for a man or think one is interested in playing second fiddle to all her other priorities is a mystery. Same goes for older men...


Shoot! talk about letting the cat out of the bag here! lol
imo, the hunt, mtn.lover is to find that 10% who still ,willingly,can come around the wall without their bag's already packed! lol good luck...
 late™
Joined: 2/1/2010
Msg: 202
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Posted: 5/17/2010 8:51:12 PM

FACT:more women than men which make women more picky.and men drop their standards.so those men who drop their standards all go for what they consider less than average women so now the less than attractive women get picky.so then you have pof where cute and ugly women alike get to be picky and most men end up bitter cuz they cant get email even from the girls who are not worth looking at lol yes call it mean but that life


Good luck with that world view
 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 203
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Posted: 5/17/2010 9:26:16 PM
There are not too many fish in the sea.It's peoples perceptions
that are off. Just because you see people you are attracted to everywhere
does not in any way mean that they would ever be attracted to you.The lure
of online dating is that all of these pretty people you see are potential mates
for you when in reality these people would not even look twice at you.



FACT:more women than men which make women more picky.and men drop their standards.so those men who drop their standards all go for what they consider less than average women so now the less than attractive women get picky.so then you have pof where cute and ugly women alike get to be picky and most men end up bitter cuz they cant get email even from the girls who are not worth looking at lol yes call it mean


Most likely the woman you are angry at for rejecting you find
you "not worth looking at" and are wondering why you are bothering
them.There are leagues my dear and you are not in theirs if you keep
getting rejected by them.
 KingRomanticRebel
Joined: 4/5/2010
Msg: 204
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Posted: 5/18/2010 1:04:59 AM

Posted By: annie - Most likely the woman you are angry at for rejecting you find
you "not worth looking at" and are wondering why you are bothering
them.There are leagues my dear and you are not in theirs if you keep
getting rejected by them.


DITTO!
I believe that most women on POF are 'foolishly and unrealistically' waiting for that "dream guy" that is WAY outta their league as well!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 205
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Posted: 5/18/2010 6:13:40 AM

DITTO!
I believe that most women on POF are 'foolishly and unrealistically' waiting for that "dream guy" that is WAY outta their league as well!


Totally agree. That "dream guy"-the one who girls consider as good looking as their favorite movie star, rich, great personality, sexy, funny as all hell-don't need to cast a line in POF to snag a catch. Same with the "dream girl"-they have no need for POF as well. That leaves only 99.99% of the single population to flounder in the water looking for Mr./Ms. Perfect.
 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 206
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Posted: 5/18/2010 2:26:04 PM
ajfedz there may be women and man who are holding out for a dream
they will never get but it's not most people who are doing that.It's a
few. If you had actually read what I had written you would see that
I was responding to "one" specific person who I had quoted in my post.

You sound very angry and bitter.
 KingRomanticRebel
Joined: 4/5/2010
Msg: 207
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Posted: 5/18/2010 4:41:45 PM

Posted By: annie was here - You sound very angry and bitter.

Wrong, and you purposely made this statement to get under my skin. Shame on you! That's a woman for ya!


there may be women and man who are holding out for a dream
they will never get but it's not most people who are doing that.


Its funny how you voice your opinion as 'fact' when indeed, it is ONLY your opinion. Well, I beg to differ!


If you had actually read what I had written you would see that
I was responding to "one" specific person who I had quoted in my post.


I ACTUALLY did read what you wrote and I stated my 'opinion' based on what you stated as 'fact' and I stand behind my opinion 100%.

***You sound like a know-it-all and I hate to break the bad news to you -- you don't!!!***
 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 208
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Posted: 5/18/2010 4:59:13 PM
Ajfedj all I can say is wtf!!! Seriously you don't understand what someone is quoting someone else in their post!!? For real?? The person who wrote "fact" and then went on a tirade is the one I quoted.Could you not see that that part in my post was quoted? It was even outlined.I stated nothing as fact the person I quoted did.





you purposely made this statement to get under my skin. Shame on you! That's a woman for ya!


Actually I said you were angry, misogynistic and bitter because you actually are angry, misogynistic and bitter, and I think you should work on those undesirable personality traits you have developed.Get some help please.


By the way the person I quoted was mr nonchalance.Message 214.

Ok I am done feeding the troll now.Back under the bridge for you.
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 209
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Posted: 5/18/2010 5:38:29 PM

there may be women and man who are holding out for a dream
they will never get but it's not most people who are doing that.
I would like to find 'princess charming'.....oh wait what are princesses supposed to exhibit? Beauty? Poise? Oh wait....it's the "princes" who are supposed to be charming I think. Also who is this "mr right" fellow I keep hearing about all the time and why are so many looking for him constantly?

Live laugh love!

Who else enjoys imitation crab meat?
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 210
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Posted: 5/18/2010 5:43:11 PM

I would like to find 'princess charming'.....oh wait what are princesses supposed to exhibit? Beauty? Poise? Oh wait....it's the "princes" who are supposed to be charming I think. Also who is this "mr right" fellow I keep hearing about all the time and why are so many looking for him constantly?


I think this thread is beginning to flounder.

 Annie was here
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 211
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Posted: 5/18/2010 5:57:43 PM

I would like to find 'princess charming'.....oh wait what are princesses supposed to exhibit? Beauty? Poise? Oh wait....it's the "princes" who are supposed to be charming I think.


Lol! I think princesses can be charming. I have to admit
however that I don't mind if male fishies have a little bit of princess
in them.If he starts wearing makeup that's where I draw the line though.


Also who is this "mr right" fellow I keep hearing about all the time and why are so many looking for him constantly?


He has a really big ***k and a talented tongue.

If we are all realistic about who we are,what we look like, and
what we can get then all of us should be able to find love so long
as we try our hardest to maintain a positive upbeat outlook.The
right attitude makes a difference too.So no I do not think there are
too many fish in the sea.If I wanted to be unrealistic then I would be
chasing after Enrique Murciano, but I could never get him.I know that
and I am cool with that.That doesn't mean however that I haven't found
men who rock my world past,present and if need be future.
 KingRomanticRebel
Joined: 4/5/2010
Msg: 212
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Posted: 5/18/2010 6:07:07 PM

There are leagues my dear and you are not in theirs if you keep
getting rejected by them.


^^^ stated as fact! And may not be the case at all!


it's not most people who are doing that


^^^ stated as fact! Just your one sided opinion!


I think you should work on those undesirable personality traits you have developed. Get some help please.


**Is this how you deal with men in your relationships too? This is your attempt at mental abuse - you know, try to make a man feel bad about himself, when you are actually the emotionally unstable person.


By the way the person I quoted was mr nonchalance.Message 214


FYI, I knew that when I commented the first time.


I am done feeding the troll now. Back under the bridge for you.


So as soon as someone beats you in a forum debate, they are a troll? Please!
**See above rebuttal

Now you said you were done in your last post? Well lets see, I "believe" that you will post again, just to get the "last word" - GO 4 IT, it will be my gift to you!
 KingRomanticRebel
Joined: 4/5/2010
Msg: 213
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Posted: 5/18/2010 6:15:55 PM

If I wanted to be unrealistic then I would be
chasing after Enrique Murciano, but I could never get him


Well in that case, if I wanted to be unrealistic then I would be
chasing after Pam Anderson, Carmen Electra or for that matter - Jenna Jameson!
Guess I will have to resort to my second choices on POF!
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 214
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Posted: 5/18/2010 9:25:26 PM
For some people there may very well be too many fish in the sea,but for most of us there are not enough.Sometimes if you don't want to be alone you have to take what is available and learn to love that person. Loneliness is terrible.
 Angiebird
Joined: 11/23/2010
Msg: 215
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Posted: 12/27/2010 1:11:42 PM
Well spoken and well said yeah this is an issue before you get to even know the person over a period of a few text or even talking with them they are off to the next fish . I think it is because there is no shame in thier game if you look good than hey let me see if I can get someone who looks twice as good . In my opinion there is a lot of ways to get your feelings hurt and people of course misrepresent themselves I mean if you READ the profile and the person has children and you are not into that KEEP IT MOVING WHY TALK AND STRIKE UP A CONVERSATION BECAUSE I AM PRETTY MY KIDS COME FIRST AND IF YOU CANNOT ACCEPT IT KEEP FISHING AS FOR ME I WILL WAIT TO HOOK THE ONE THAT IS FAMILY ORIENTED. MAY TAKE ME SOMETIME BUT I WILL GET THERE .GOOD LUCK TO ALL.
 ALMOSTABLONDE
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 216
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Posted: 12/27/2010 2:42:02 PM
how many times did guys start emailing me then they poofed or even stood me up-it's nutsy-koo-koo, or just damn rude- well guess what- I believe in Karma & what goes around comes around, so...
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 217
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Posted: 12/27/2010 3:08:00 PM
There are so many frogs in the sea it is hard to see the fish. I understand your point though because you would think we would use this technology to make it easier instead we choose to make it harder. I was very surprised to not get emails. Then when they added the meet me section I was shocked again because I thought that it would bring out the shy women whom were afraid to make first contact. It's not pof's fault people can't take advantage of something so simple. We have culprits on both sides but I think both the men and the women agree that it is mostly the women's fault that everyone has to spent the night at the lake with an empty line.Also you got to consider that it is only an image of a fish. A lot of people on pof put up their profile and never check it for messages.
 womaninblack
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 218
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Posted: 12/27/2010 3:13:27 PM
As a fisher person, if you know what type of fish you like, do your homework:
Find out where they swim and what they like to eat (bait).

But please be honest in your quest, and not be like some...
Some don't even like fish, let alone fishing!
Some have a huge case of indigestion.
Some fish for sport.
Some prefer an aquarium only... or just snorkeling.
Some are out here just for the fresh air.

Which fisher are you?
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 219
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Posted: 12/27/2010 3:16:42 PM
Many women get few responses here. I respond to everyone who responds to me, although most have been from men looking for sex only or they are married or seem to want a social worker to listen to them. Maybe people are not reading profiles well enough to know that the match is not a good one before they respond to someone?
 MisterDynomite
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 220
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Posted: 12/27/2010 5:19:00 PM

my question is.,,, ARE THERE TOOOOO MANY FISHES IN THE SEA!!!. Are we becoming too picky now that we have so many choices?



POF worked for me... but in a way i never expected.

It was here that i realized that the internet was not a "shortcut" by any means. It was actually the longer way.. the harder way.. the bigger headache way. There are too many fish wherever you go.. but like someone mentioned before, internet dating is home to bottom feeders. As soon as i realized this, i set my filters on high and just came here for the forums 4 entertainment... and went back to dating the old way : Meeting people w/o help of the net.

I had to see hell on here first (reading horror stories of people meeting, pics not looking like the person, being stood up, etc) to realize that the old way really wasn't that bad in comparison.

I went back to the old way.. and lo & behold, found me a fishie. Thanks for showing me hell first POF otherwise i would have never found heaven!


(i doubt they will post this in their POF success stories.. LOL)
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 221
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Posted: 12/27/2010 5:34:37 PM

well guess what- I believe in Karma & what goes around comes around, so..


I hope you don't plan to try to bring it around on some other guy. That's a temptation when those things happen--if you can't get back at the person who shafted you, the next reasonable facsimile will do. In fact, when I've been on the receiving end of that kind of stuff, I've had the impression it was an angry woman just waiting to unload on some guy she thought had it coming. I try to look for little signs of that, but I'm not a mind-reader.
 ALMOSTABLONDE
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 222
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:01:54 PM

I hope you don't plan to try to bring it around on some other guy. That's a temptation when those things happen--if you can't get back at the person who shafted you, the next reasonable facsimile will do. In fact, when I've been on the receiving end of that kind of stuff, I've had the impression it was an angry woman just waiting to unload on some guy she thought had it coming. I try to look for little signs of that, but I'm not a mind-reader

not at all- that's more bad karma...I am done w/ online dating karma will deal w/ the baddies when & how she sees fit
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 223
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:32:53 PM

It was here that i realized that the internet was not a "shortcut" by any means. It was actually the longer way.. the harder way.. the bigger headache way.


I tend to agree, at least for men. Everything else being equal, women don't have to invest nearly as much time, effort, and money on Internet sites to get the same number of fun dates.

That's because most women can find the time to go through 15 or 20 e-mails every couple days, and even if they're mostly duds, it probably won't be more than a week or so before a woman who gets that many finds a guy or two she could see herself dating. Since she knows these men are already interested, all she has to do is write them back a short note or maybe two and include her number. And when they call, they're likely to arrange a date. If it's not just a first meeting, he'll probably end up doing all the driving and paying. The woman may not want just to have sex--but if she should, she can take it for granted.

A man will only be contacting women he could see himself dating. But most of them probably won't be interested. So he may only need to search for and e-mail say five women every couple days to find one or two every week or so who give their number and get in touch. But all the searching and e-mailing is still going to take him a lot longer than it would just to weed out women who had contacted him. He'll still get to do the driving and paying. And although he'll probably want to have sex, it won't often be his just for the asking.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 224
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:37:18 PM
^^^^I don't know about all women for sure, but I might get 2 responses in one year, and both are usually incompatible with me. It depends on a lot of factors, and seems as if location might have a lot to do with it.
 womaninblack
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 225
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Posted: 12/27/2010 6:51:15 PM

That's because most women can find the time to go through 15 or 20 e-mails every couple days,

Ya, I´d like to meet some of these women... granted, having my profile hidden and no pics helps...
When I posted full body pics I got tons more mail but definitely the wrong kind so it was a huge waste of my time.

location location location............quality quality quality.
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