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 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 153
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Women who only have men friends are insecure about being around other women.They don't think they measure up to their female friends so being around all men is easier for them.It's also a bit of an ego boost for them being the only female in the group.


Where do people be pulling this nonsense from? Their asses? I only have ONE male friend, but if I decided to have only male friends then that would be my own choice and not because of insecurities and feeling inferior to other women.


Both ex's gave the reason that women are selfish, backstabbing, b*tches.


This is definitely an accurate reason as to why some women prefer male friends over female. I only have one male friend, and have enjoyed his company more than I have ever enjoyed the company of female friends. Guys seem to be easier to get along with, and there is less stress.


I have guy friends. I seem to get along better with men than women. It's a personal choice.


Proves the point further.
 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 154
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/18/2010 10:30:25 AM

Women who only have men friends are insecure about being around other women.They don't think they measure up to their female friends so being around all men is easier for them.It's also a bit of an ego boost for them being the only female in the group



God if I didn't know better, I'd say you sounded jealous.
 cinsav
Joined: 6/10/2009
Msg: 155
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/18/2010 2:36:41 PM
To RushLuv - one of my fav posters here.

I DO believe it is possible for men and women to truly be just friends - but I think it is very, very rare. I believe that 9 out of 10 guy "friends" want to do you. But, that leaves ONE who is genuinely interested in nothing but friendship.

Hell, I'll be the first to admit that of my "female friends" - as I am single - if given the opportunity to sleep with them. Hell yes I'd take it. Which is when I am in a relationship I do not put myself in situations where "something" could happen or perceived to have happened.
 cherryyblossom
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 156
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/20/2010 5:51:55 AM
i wonder if this thread also applies to men who only or mostly have female friends like me. some of my friends' boyfriends think I get too close to their partners and that they are cheating on them. in fact, i might have actually killed a few of their relationships and friendships.
 broncsbuff
Joined: 4/18/2008
Msg: 157
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/20/2010 6:09:43 AM

in fact, i might have actually killed a few of their relationships and friendships.


probably cause you want to bone some of your female friends....

just saying...eventually you have to look at the source of the problem...
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 158
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/20/2010 6:54:44 AM
I don't have a problem with a woman I am dating having male friends as long as they accept the two of us as a couple and the woman is ok with me having female friends. It's all about whether both of you feel you have not comprimised the trust in the relationship with your opposite sex friendships and some people are more open minded than others. The one woman I have dated that had only male friends was very distrusting of any female who was even remotely friendly to me so there was too much of a double standard there for me for it to work.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 159
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/20/2010 1:47:01 PM
I look for BALANCE of friendships,where that is possible. I also look for men who don't have to have somebody trailing along with them every waking moment. I also look at the nature of the friendships.
Another poster made a comment about women who have reproduced don't have lives...guess what, Toots? They have GIVEN life, and that trumps just about any other thing going, in my books. Take that from a woman who remained childless sort of by choice and sort of by default, and does not regret it-but women who have chosen to birth and raise children do not deserve to be disrespected as "not having a life".
As for all the rest of it-again, each situation should be considered individually and in context. I'm sure that as many relationships with "tomboy" women/women with only guy friends fail as relationships with women who are part of a flock of hens. I seriously doubt that the predominant gender of someone's friends,in itself, is not a strong indicator of mental illness, personality disorder, or shoddy values.
Cindy O
 JustaNHguy
Joined: 7/18/2010
Msg: 160
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/20/2010 3:38:01 PM
I think it really depends on the dynamic of the relationship and the friendships. I really don't think there's a wrong answer to the question. Some people think its okay to have opposite sex friends, some don't. People who like having opposite sex friends should date people who are okay with it, people who don't like it should date people who also don't. Thats how I see it, anyway.
 foreverstacey
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 161
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/20/2010 5:55:00 PM
I have mostly guy friends. It hasnt affeced anyone ive been with because theyve trusted me.. and I havent given them any reason to distrust me. I even introduced my ex to some of them.
 cenomeno
Joined: 4/21/2010
Msg: 162
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/20/2010 5:59:16 PM
And I have only female friends. If it's ok, then ok with me too.....
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 Dumpling-Girl
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 163
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Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/21/2010 5:10:38 PM
I grew up with older brothers, so am very comfortable with friendships with men, but I had plenty of opportunity to have female friends growing up (in school, etc.), so I think if a woman has only male friends, it's probably more than just about growing up with brothers. Having lots of male friends is great but the worrysome part is the absence of any female friends. Even if you don't like talking about girly girl stuff, there are plenty of tomboyish women around to connect to, so that doesn't really explain it either. And whether there are conversations about other things besides girly things completely depends upon the particular women involved. I talk about current events, social justice issues, scientific questions, mechanics, medicine, philosophy, etc. with the same girls who will talk about a pair of shoes for an entire conversation.

Friendships with women are deep, personal and rewarding (and yes, more difficult to maintain, but worth it). I think both men and women should have at least some women friends. If I met a man with absolutely no women friends, I'd probably wonder about that too.

Men's friendships seem easier - a guy will outright admit they think their friend is a jerk and that they wouldn't behave like their friend ever, and then still play poker with that friend every week and refer to him as a friend. It seems like you don't have to be a particularly good friend (whether you're male or female) to keep a few male friends around . If you can't keep at least one female friend around though, you might be missing something that other people (men and women) have. eg. for women, perhaps you don't appreciate people of your own gender and are somewhat misogynist (so how can you fully appreciate yourself), perhaps you have some sort of competitiveness and insecurity that is triggered when you are around other women, perhaps you are missing a certain level of sensitivity or empathy, perhaps you lack social skills and the only way you know how to interact is by using your sexuality, etc.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 164
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:25:37 PM

(xoticdeeva) All of my friends are males (not 2 say that I'm opposed 2 having a femme friend, I just get along w/guys alot better)... my guy friends are not petty, catty, full of "drama" or 2 faced, not 2 say ALL women r , I believe there's an honor/trust that should come w/friendships & I have yet 2 get that from any of the women I've met in the past, so guy friends tend 2 make better company 4 me so far, this should be no different than guys who only have or have a majority of female friends...


Drop the text speak. It makes you sound very unintelligent.

Dr. ES...
 citygal95
Joined: 10/14/2010
Msg: 165
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/28/2010 7:44:26 PM
I don't think this should be a big deal. Some people largely hang out with their co-workers. Perhaps most of a woman's co-workers are male. Some women are interested in things that are in general more likely to appeal to men. Whether it's football or hunting or fixing cars etc.
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