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 PhyneLiquor
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 101
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I would prefer to have all female friends (Well not all..) but mostly ,

because to me most men are competitive, macho, overbearing a-holes with other guys, always trying to have a bigger swinging dikk.. (one upmanship)

but I'm sure the same guys seem much 'nicer' to women (b/c they think it might help to get into their pants, maybe?)

Just as the same women that are "catty b*****s" with other women can be sweet as pie to men..

strange, huh? :)
 Devil~Doll
Joined: 6/17/2005
Msg: 102
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/18/2005 10:10:18 PM
My guy friends have always been a problem in every relationship I've ever been in. For what reason I don't know. I just have always found it easier to be one of the guys than one of the girls. I've never been a girly girl... but I'm not so much one of the guys that people would mistake me for gay either. I have one true friend thats a girl and a dozen or so that are guys. Purely because I've grown up with them my entire life and we share more of the same interests than my one girl friend and I do. I would and have never let a friend come between me and a boyfriend, but I'll never let a boyfriend come between me and my friends. Friends are like family... it's a package deal.
 stillme2
Joined: 8/16/2005
Msg: 103
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:12:00 AM
The majority of my close friends are guys, and who ever thinks men and women can't be platonic friends are wrong. My guy friends are like brothers to me I have no interest in dating them or being involved with them in any way, they know that and feel the same way about me. I always treat their dates nicely and they have always treated guys that I date with respect and include them in any activities we have planned. Now that doesn't mean that if a guy is treating me badly they won't step up to the plate and say something but that is only because they care about me and don't want to see one of their friends get hurt. I have always found it easier to hang around with guys too but my guy friends have NEVER been a problem when it comes to relationships. It probably has something to do with the fact that I only have brothers and was use to their friends always being around when I was younger. I just feel that sometimes it's easier to hang out with them because they are less catty then a lot of women I know. I hate drama and don't want to be part of it and for the most part men think the same way so that is probably why we get a long so well. I am not saying all women are like this, I have a couple of very close friends that are female and we talk almost daily but my female friends are a lot like me and also have a ton of guy friends.
 mr.classicchevy
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 104
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 3:28:42 PM
I know what you mean.Me and the guys i work with are single.And all we look forward to is to get a girl just to be our friend.We have one that meet up with us a nd play cards on saturday nights.And then on sunday we go shopping together...On monday morning when us guys go back to work all we talk about how can we beat her in cards.Or what kind of clothes did we shop for on sunday...She is rather attractive woman and let me tell you,Not 1 of us even wonder what it would be like to jump her bones No No no .That never comes up on a construction site.
 Dog Mommy
Joined: 7/11/2005
Msg: 105
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:47:13 PM
I get along better with men....always have. I grew up with 3 brothers, and was always a tomboy. Women in general, not all, but in general, can be very petty.
 PhyneLiquor
Joined: 4/29/2005
Msg: 106
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 6:56:10 PM
^^^^

Yes, people can be..You've never met petty men? I sure have..
 mr.classicchevy
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 107
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/19/2005 7:10:57 PM
Yes,I much rather play cards with my women friends.Alot more fun than going out on a date.All the guys i work with in construction agree with me.I love my women friends.They are alot more fun than a regular girlfriend....Went out to lunch the other day at work with the fellas and there was one guy in his 20s wanted to find out if 1 of the attractive waitresses would be his friend.She told him they could be friends.That young fellow was jumping for joy when we went out of the reatuaurant....He told us that i hope she does not want a intimate time.He just wants to be friends.Since she is attractive,He siad it is better for them to be friends......That friday night they played cards...When he came to work monday,All he talked about was how good she was in cards..And the word (sex) never came up.NO!NO!NO!
 Majestic_Lizard_Returns
Joined: 7/29/2005
Msg: 108
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/22/2005 11:39:31 PM

When I've had friends they were all mainly male...I dont see what it would matter as long as they were just friends. Girls just never wanted to hang out with me at all. I guess I have more in common with guys.


Probably because you liked to do things other than gossip, fight over shoes, and show off your clothes.

I don't think you have much in common with guys though.
 livewirehere
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 109
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/23/2005 12:22:41 AM
I forgot to tell you fishbill, that one of my best female friend was one of my ex-husband's good friends.. He introduced us. She now lives in Washington State, because she met her "dream man" last year, and is getting married..... They used to fish together, hike together, and he had tons of pictures of the 2 of them together...((she's been my very best friend for almost 20 years)).

I think it can be a really healthy thing.... If someone thinks otherwise, I think it's like the whole jealousy thing~~ The person that is usually the most jealous is generally the one doing something---and they assume the other person must be doing the same things, or thinking the same things.... Not always the case....
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 110
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 10/23/2005 12:26:14 AM
Yes, there are rare exceptions. Congratulations, on not following the usual mold. And sometimes I dont wear my seatbelt and didn't get in a car wreck. So its ok not to wear your seatbelt.

And on rare occasions, some people are born with a penis and a vagina, but is that the norm? So what do you folks think "the norm is". Some men are 7 ft tall with
 jumpypants
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 111
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 3:36:59 PM
I tend to be a bit hesitant about women with a platoon of guy friends.

Half if not more of the men want her, some have probably had her, and they will often be a pain in the neck if they see another guy moving in on their woman.

Kinda like trying to light a fire with 6 guys blowing it out when it is still small.
 lilblond
Joined: 1/25/2006
Msg: 112
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:06:45 PM
^^^ It always cracks me up when guys always assume that. I have a ton of guy friends..nope they don't want me...nope they haven't had me...and they are only a pain in the neck to a guy moving in on me when the guy is acting like a jerk. People can be friends with the opposite sex...sheesh.

I would never give up any of my friends including the male ones and yes I have the attitude that if someone I meet doesn't like it...they can keep on searching for a fishie that only has female friends. It comes down to trust, I know I am trustworthy and I know my male friends are too.
 mr.classicchevy
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 113
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:21:45 PM
I know what you all mean..I work in construction work..I work with 99% male..When we go out to eat at lunch time at our favorite resturant...We get to talk to all the good looking waitresses...When we go back to work we talk about how can we go about trying to be friends with them...Gosh this 23 year old young man wanted to play cards with one of the waitresses...he was asking for advise from us...Do you think she would be good at cards...I told him since she is good looking and about your age..It would be much better to go bowling...Or go play bingo...He went out that weekend...He siad they went bowling...He told us he had a good time..In fact he told us she was alot more exciting than his girlfriend.....He siad all his girlfriend wanted to do is have sex....He siad going bowling and gossip all night is alot more better......
 jumpypants
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 114
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:22:13 PM
lil,

Some guy friends are fine, others are the creepy ones lurking around hoping for a chance.

As a guy, you can usually spot the latter pretty quickly.

One girl I dated had a friend who set up some alarm bells in me. Guy was married, but kinda trying to interfere in a very possessive way. I brought this up, a fight ensues, but the result is the guy is on a business trip and calls her, and she asked "have you called your wife yet?" him: "no". Her: "maybe you should call your wife before you call me".

Then he faxes her this crazy porno fantasy of them together explaining that to him his wife is an angel and she is his whore. It went on for pages, crazy stuff.

I guess I tend to pass on women who cannot tell the difference. I prefer women to manage the creeps without my involvement, for the most part. And women who cannot spot creeps or who insist that obvious creeps "just want to be friends"? Oh man, next!
 jumpypants
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 115
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:43:13 PM
dead,

This is fine if the girl in question has good "creepdar" and the ability to vocalize why the guy in question really is "just a friend".

I mean, please, hanging around a pretty girl acting like her friend and hoping it will turn into more is very commonplace, and probably most or all men do it at some stage in their life.

My fiance is best friends with her ex husband. We camp together, he hugs me when he comes over, I like the heck out of him. I could not care less if they hang out together.

He is a fairly rare exception though.
 jumpypants
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 116
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:05:21 PM
Dead,

The only thing stopping the lurkers from acting is fear of disapproval if they let on what their true motives are.

Honestly, if a girl is surrounding herself with these, I tend to doubt her judgement or honesty. And whether she admits it or not, she probably has been with some of her guy friends. Women are capable of some pretty shocking things if they think no one will find out :) Why do you think they go so nuts on vacations?
 lilblond
Joined: 1/25/2006
Msg: 117
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:16:49 PM
Jumpy,

I have exceptional male friends and they probably ARE the rare exception. We treat each other with respect and they are like brothers to me and treat me like a sister. Most of them are married and I am friends with their wives as well.

I chose my friends in life very carefully and wouldn't hang out with them if they were creeps. I really do think it's all about trust and maturity though. They have no interest in me other than friendship and I feel the same about them.

This is another one of those topics that will go back and forth. You either think people of the opposite sex can be friends with no romantic interest involved on either part or you don't. I am sure that there are many guys out there who do want more..and will act like they are just friends with a girl but believes and hopes that more will come out of it.

But with my friends that is not the case, I have known some of them from more than 15 yrs...if we had any interest in each other we could at some point explored that possibility...but that has never been something any of us has ever had an interest in. So my point is ..it is possible to have platonic friends of the opposite sex.

Sheesh, that was a long post for me lol...time to make dinner!
 mr.classicchevy
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 118
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:20:42 PM
Oh i know what you all mean...Back when i was 20 i had a girlfriend that went on camping trips with my friends from work(I work in construction)All my friends back then drank and partied..So i let her go on camping trips alone with them...Sex never ever came to my mind..Why would i ever think that theses guys would do this...All they talk about at work is how good women are at cards,shopping,gossiping,...The word sex never ever comes in the conversation at work..NO!NO!NO!
 jumpypants
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 119
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:21:05 PM
lil,

I believe you.

As a guy, however, I have come across my version much more often than yours.

If you are friends with the wives, I can see that being a huge indicator that you have exactly what you think you have - real male friends.

Lots of women have these single guys lurking around. Fine if they want that, but I find it a bit old, and I am definitely becoming crankier and quicker to hit the eject button as I age :)

Plus, as someone often presented to the new boyfriend as a friend, I know for a fact that women tend to um, "understate" the depth of past involvement.
 jumpypants
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 120
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:25:24 PM
dead,

Of course they can associate with whomever they choose.

Their choices simply might make me exit the picture or exclude them from any possibility of getting serious with them :)
 mr.classicchevy
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 121
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:49:12 PM
OH!!!Come on guys....Your making me laugh!!!!When a man sees a attractive looking women..The first thing he wants from her is to do hobbys with her..Playing cards,pool,shopping..ETC.....That is why when my girlfriend go off with the fellows i do not have a problem with it.....When i am at work(99%)male...All we talk about how much better women are at shopping,Playing cards,music.......Talking about sex never ever comes up in any conversation..I have been doing my line of work for 22 years i never known a man talk about how good looking a woman is and like to jump her bones...But i must admit it gets kind of old all we talk about is Shoe size of women,,And where they buy there make-up...What kind of cards they buy...What is there average bowling score...BUT sex i guess we refuse to talk about that...Especially if she is a good looking women..NO!NO!NO!
 jumpypants
Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 122
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:50:43 PM
Tarheelman,

oh *snap*

You go grrlfriend!! :)
 HottieScotty
Joined: 6/9/2004
Msg: 123
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:56:49 PM
Just the same as a fella....with lots of lady friends.
shouldn't be a problem.
 smile with your eyes
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 124
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:59:16 PM
Wow 4 months and the thread pops up again.

For the record...some guys on here are getting a bit snippy about the possibility of women having guy friends bla bla bla.

I have mostly guy friends but my best friend of 26 yrs is a female, however she is just like me. I can't talk about men all day everyday. It's not what consumes my life...so whining about why Bob dumped you will go for about 20 minutes before I wanna put a gun in my mouth.

Most of my male friends have been co-workers..and at times I'm forced to spend at most 5 hours in a small room with them doing our job...and never once has any of them ever suggested anything pervy. In fact we even talk about sex...as to me there is nothing more fun than picking a guys brain about the subject...helps me have greater insight into men. And I've had these male friends for over 15 yrs..and have never had sex with any of them...or even wanted to. In fact we have been known to joke about how gross that would be...as since they are like brothers...that'd be effing sick.

The other women you speak of must be weak. If a man were to ever cross the line...he'd hear all about it. But again..you set boundries from the beginning...and you get what you give.
 mr.classicchevy
Joined: 2/27/2005
Msg: 125
Women with only guy friends
Posted: 2/26/2006 6:19:20 PM
Well i work with 99% male(Construction work)Well there is about 2 females out of 100...All the guys want from them is friendshipThe word sex never comes up NO!NO!NO!...There is this 21 year old young man that wanted advise...He ask me how can i ask them to go play bingo with me on saturday night...I told him i would not go there..I told him i i think going bowling would be better...She did not look like the bingo type..Well that monday morning he told me he had a good time...He even siad it had a better time with her than he could ever have with his girlfriend....He told me all his girlfriend(20 years old)wanted to do was to have sex...I told him what a bummer dude!!!!He goes on and tells me if things do not straighten out with his girlfriend..He is planning on dumping her so he can spend more time going bowling,cards,going shopping with his new friend!!!I told him more power to you...I also told him with sex being the last thing on your mind your better off ..I kind of feel sorry for the poor fellow.....I really do not know what he is waiting on..He is choosing between going bowling,playing cars with the girls,going shopping in the mall on saturdays over having sex every night with a beutiful young lady.....Gosh!!!I Hope he makes the right decision!!!
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