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 asianace10
Joined: 2/23/2007
Msg: 68
Is it necessary to have common interests?Page 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
I'm curently dating a man that is also a Capricorn as am I, that loves God, the Bible and also is a counselor for troubled young adults, two things that also interest me and that I admire.......... it definitely helps me to feel a stronger attachment for someone that has similar interests and goals, and I'm sure we will learn new things from each other as time goes on;
 Wolfie65
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 69
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 9/21/2007 8:49:36 AM
I gave up trying to find someone who's interested in the same things I'm interested in so long ago, it's not even true anymore.
As long as you find each other attractive and don't have an y really serious personality clashes and can more or less tolerate each others' interests, points of view, etc., it's all good.
All the rest is just decoration.
 extrememale2004
Joined: 11/1/2005
Msg: 70
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:24:41 PM
One thing I thought about with having common interests with a person is each person is going to have things they like and a person has to be theirself and not be something they are like. I mean it all starts with respect with a person's interests. Like my job as a Direct Care Assistiant some dont understand how I got into that field teaching adults how to used their basic skills but I love what I do. Think about this God didn't created everyone to be the same so somethings it is good to have common interests on but other times you might not share all the same things in common with a person. Like my brother and his wife they have been married for 7 years and they have some common interests on somethings but not on everything and they get along well.
 elky1
Joined: 8/10/2006
Msg: 71
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/14/2007 11:21:06 PM
thats too funny.....hell, i woulda popped a cold one and watched it with ya....
 clay71
Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 72
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 10/15/2007 12:29:51 AM
I think you should have common interests,and still keep the things you are already interested in or excell at. Just because your in a relationship,does'nt mean you have to sacrifice everything.I would'nt ask for someone to give up their goals and dreams,I would encourage them to keep pursuing them.And that would be returned to me as well,hopefully.
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 73
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 7/15/2011 9:34:42 AM
I have dated and married men whom I share no common interest with. AND look were I am. So learning from one's mistakes should be paramount to the growth of a human being. I need him to have at least 3 of my interests then we will work out the rest.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 74
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 7/15/2011 9:56:55 AM
Personally, I think having shared interests is irrelevant. I can become interested enough in anything if someone else is interested enough in it to make it interesting. All I cared about was that a woman be interested in something.
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 75
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 7/15/2011 10:03:39 AM
I think it's great to share some of our MAIN interests. I love the water and spend a lot of time on, in, or near the water.
It would be nice to have a partner who enjoyed it as well. I also enjoy learning new things so if he had different interests to share that's good as well.
 north-coast
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 76
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 7/16/2011 8:56:33 AM
I think we should have at least some common interests. Otherwise we may not have much to talk about or do together. Having said that, I don't think 2 people must like exactly all of the same thing though. A couple can learn things from each other. I also think each person should have a social life outside of their partner.
 Janet_Always
Joined: 12/7/2010
Msg: 77
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 7/16/2011 10:22:07 AM
If both are open-minded and generally like to try new things, then no.

At my age people tend to get a bit set in their ways and they need to find someone that shares their lifestyle perfectly.

That's what makes relationships almost impossible for so many.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 78
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 7/16/2011 10:27:05 AM

Is it necessary to have common interests?

Opposites may attract, but commonalities survive. (OK ~ so I'm SO not a Dr. Phil fan, but this has been proven many times in my own personal life, so I quote it once in a while.) Common interests are vital. So are differences. At least for me. I need a LOT of common interests and a vast number of new thoughts/ideas/hobbies, etc., if considering a relationship with someone. I learn from my SO everyday, and he learns new things from me, also. We'd not be a good fit if we weren't very similar, but a little different. To each their own ~
 Naadirah
Joined: 6/3/2011
Msg: 79
Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 8/3/2011 8:39:05 AM
I do not think that common interests or hobbies are important, although I see this stated on many of the male profiles I read. I'm looking for a romantic partner, not an activity partner. I would like any future significant other to have friends and interests outside of the relationship so that we both have the necessary 'me" time.

I'm at a loss, I'm contacted by many outdoorsy or sport types that say similar interests are a must. If I reply, sorry I do not share your hobbies or interests. I'm countered with that's okay, but you should be willing to try it. The funny thing is that I have tried most of what they list (mother of 4 boys), and I know that I hate camping. That I love the outdoors, but it doesn't love me back.

Should I make willing to try belly dancing a requirement?
 cheryl1229
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 80
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Is it necessary to have common interests?
Posted: 8/3/2011 1:32:09 PM
That depends on the relationship you are looking for.

If you are looking for a long-term, committed, possibly leading to marriage type of relationship, a few common interests are fairly important. If you are looking for just dating, hanging out, fwb, just sex, etc. then common interests are not so important.

Mostly, they are there to help you rule out who you know you won't like. For instance, the outdoorsy, athletic, run-a-marathon-every-day-before-breakfast type isn't going to be attracted to your garden variety couch potato, so skip that profile and move on.
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