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 Greeneyesblonde
Joined: 11/12/2006
Msg: 101
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Hmmmm good question.. the number one thing keeping me single is the lack of men that actually WANT to have a relationship..instead of them just wanting a one night stand or a piece of a**

GEB
 pseudonymJay
Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 102
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/10/2008 7:39:57 PM
Hmm, #1 reason: TO women are too fickle to ever have a LTR after age 40. I am investigating outside Toronto, much better results from everywhere else. Seems to be poisoned or something in the city.

Sorry TO ladies, wish you good luck though...you will need it!

J
 SpaDiva4u
Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 103
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:36:37 PM
Well.. Im still single because I don't have much time for a social life and live in a very isolated area. I was unhappily married for 30 years and no longer wish to live that way. The last man I dated for 2 yrs.....I was extremely atracted too imdediatly, and I don't even know why? If I saw him on the street I would have not looked twice. There was just something about him, his smile was amazing, it was all very mysterious, a wonderfull connection. Now Im waiting for that feeling again... maybe it's wrong but it was wonderfull! I would not consider myself picky but I do have to feal that attraction ...whatever that was it was intoxicating. I long for that one more time, nothing less. It's either there or it's not. So far not.
 painter32
Joined: 7/29/2005
Msg: 104
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Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/12/2008 9:12:02 PM
Im just an idiot!!!!

I have poor social skills , and nobody likes me

just kidding

im just an idiot !!!!!
 miss_jam76
Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 105
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/12/2008 9:49:54 PM
For me it would be my sense of independance and responsibility. My kids matter the most to me and in exchange for spending every second with them, I put everything else second and beyond and have little time for the attention and effort dating requires. I've been told (more than once) I have a "whatever" attitude about dating and letting people get close to me. I suppose that's true and it would be hard for any guy to "fit in" to our lives as I'm sensitive about things like involvement with my kids, time I spend away from the kids, attitudes towards my kids and changes to our already-established life etc.

Yep... I'm heading for the rumor-mill as the "cat-lady down the street who wears pj's 24/7 and ****es when the paper is 30 seconds late"
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 106
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:22:09 AM
Well I have tried many times to break it off with the palm sisters !
So I can get out and do some dating .
But those nasty Botches refuse to move out !
They even follow me everywhere I go !
And their even in my face sometimes 24/7 and that does get boring after a while !
I even tried hookin them up on a singles site with other ladies and thought they'd chase someone ! But they don't .
So I guess I am still stuck with the palm sisters and if someone decides to date me they'l have too do something about them sisters ! As I have given up on them !
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 107
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/23/2008 10:41:00 PM
Oh come on now all of you guys !LOL
Look number one thing keeping firmbear8 single is I scare the hell out of all the women . And they are afraid to go after a good catch as they might enjoy life for a change ! But other then that they don't like an honest /caring /straightforward type of guy like me. Plus they can not figure out why I am always in a good mood even if they decide to try and put me down !LOL

And yep I want a woman who is not afraid to come right out and tell me she wants to be my girl. But as I have found so far no women on here with the guts to say it !LOL
But I will say their chances to catch me are slowly running out ! As soon I will be only coming on here for forums & will be only here for local events news . As I figure its almost time to pack it in waitin.
 roxygurl_22
Joined: 1/23/2008
Msg: 108
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:46:33 PM
WELL ONE THING THAT KEEPS ME SINGLE NOW. IS MEN WHO USE WOMEN.. MY PAST 3 RELATIONSHIPS WERE WITH MEN WHO DIDNT KNOW HOW TO TREAT WOMEN. MY LAST ONE I FOUND OUT HE WAS NEVER OFFICALLY BROKEN UP WITH HIS GURLFRIEND WHO HE WAS WITH WHILE WITH ME. WHICH IS VERY GROSS AND DISHONEST. BUT WHAT IS KEEPING ME SINGLE IS I AM STARTING TO LOVE THE SINGLE LIFE. IF SOMEONE COMES ALONG AND THINGS WORK OUT THATS FIND.. BUT I PRETTY MUCH HAVE JUST GIVEN UP ON DATING FOR WHILE. I AM DATING BUT JUST NOT RUSHING INTO THINGS. FOR MY SAFETY THERE IS ALOT OF DISHONEST MEN OUT THERE......


AND U GUYS KNOW WHO U ARE....
 SweetSherry
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 109
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:32:25 AM
yes and it is getting crowded move over.
 SpaDiva4u
Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 110
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/9/2008 3:51:58 PM
lookin4ulookin4me ....Im so glad to here its quiet there.. I was startin to get a complex

I haven't had any mail in months ...it's like after awhile your just looked as spoiled goods or something

In the meantime I havent dated in 2 yrs or better.. met a few people but no chemistry so far.... now no e-mail... ? As earlier stated gettin good at bein single!
 Timberghost40
Joined: 7/25/2007
Msg: 111
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:19:22 AM
Well I am such a sex symbol that I can't just save myself for one girl now can I??

JUST KIDDING....

I think my problem is that I believe in each person should still have their own independant lives and yet still be a couple. Two wholes instead of two halves making a whole.

Unfortunately my past relationships have been ... hi... now when do you want to get married.. (from her not me... ) and my response has been... we still have a lot of our life ahead of us... go slow... get to know me first...

I guess that now I am in my (more mature) age ... I am looking for someone that I know I can grow old(er) with.

BUT I AM NOT DEAD YET... and life does begin at 40!!

(I love this little guy!!)
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 112
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:32:47 AM
Well it could just be something about thier size!!
But I do not compromise on type of lady I would even consider dating!
Plus they also have too meet my other qualifcations also to date me.
But most women that do meet what I am seeking are not looking to date !
 VainH
Joined: 3/7/2006
Msg: 113
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Posted: 5/18/2008 8:17:35 AM
I would think that most women just out and out wouldn't be seeking what you have to offer. I think I'll start calling you infirmbear.
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 114
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:17:01 PM
Hey now I get dates but just not any women from Pof !
As the women on pof most are not looking for a good man for long time!
Most want a bad man for a short time and so they have something to talk & squawk about afterwards ! hahaha
And at least I don't need to bash others just because he can not get anyone to date him even in vain !
 Dspnk
Joined: 1/2/2007
Msg: 115
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:48:43 PM
I'm not single. But I would like to contribute. Maybe it will help someone.

I think that many people remain single because they do not honestly know and accept themselves and (more importantly) they don't know what they want in a partner. Your chances of getting from A to B increase significantly when you know where A and B are.

I think that when people are truly comfortable with themselves they become more attractive. And when they know what they want they naturally position themselves to find what they are looking for. Isn't it funny how when you focus on you and stop trying so hard to find that "right person" that right person finds you.

Happens all the time.
 Patchesdf
Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 116
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Posted: 5/28/2008 1:31:42 AM
The one thing keeping me single, more than any other.

Failure
 Greanize
Joined: 7/30/2005
Msg: 117
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:50:20 AM
Davidspnk has a great point. I have been doing just that the past few months...focusing on myself and doing my own thing. I have friends up on my profile for that very reason, I do not want to search anymore. I do get approached more and more now...mostly by Dweebs and Dorks, with a few honey's thrown in that are looking to dip their wick, but like the gal above, I probably have F***off written on my forehead too.
I even had this conversation with another gal fish a couple weeks ago. We seem to be the same when it comes to letting people get close to us. I can appear standoffish at a party or mixer, but that is just a facade. Don't let the F***off sign fool you. It can come down!

That and the fact that when I do meet someone, I choose the wrong man who has no time for me, is terrible at communicating, and breaks dates!
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 118
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 5/28/2008 10:05:49 PM
Well I don't know what keeps the rest of you single !
But for me it is being picky on who I would consider dating !
And I will not and never will change who I would consider dating !
And no I will never lower my standards just to get away from being single.
And those so called bad boys all the ladies seem attracted too are just doing what ever it takes to get what they want from the ladies .
And most bad boys are only looking for short time hot fun and then move on to the next one!LOL
And then we hear the ladies complain or **** about how bad they were treated by the bad boy ! LOL

Thats why I have my standards & also why I can smile and have a chuckle when I hear women complain about the bad boy who tossed them away for someone new !LOL
 bbecky
Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 119
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Posted: 5/29/2008 10:09:50 AM
It is very hard to name one thing that is keeping me single. For one thing I am almost six feet tall and because of that have had very few people interested in me. I go to the single events and believe it or not am usually one of the tallest females in the place. At one point I thought I was too picky, but then I realized I have had noone to pick from. I have also been accused of being too nice, that just puts a smile on my face to think that doesn't make sense. I know I am looking for someone who is caring, understanding, loving, and the list goes on. I think the last reason for me is that I am not into one night stands, I want to be loved for me and to do that you got to get to know me longer then a few hours.
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 120
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Posted: 5/31/2008 6:21:54 PM
Well most important thing keeping me single is very simple !
99% of every woman I have chatted with online do nothing but tell lies !
Plus they couldn't speak the truth if they could be struck with lightening !
But thats kinda the norm now adays !
Yep okay for the ladies to play mind games but its never right for a guy to not speak the truth !LOL
Gutt the fish or toss it over board would you !LOL

 rob red bob
Joined: 10/13/2006
Msg: 121
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Posted: 5/31/2008 9:50:22 PM
pof.. is keeping me single... because i'm way past that .. oh and i'm a commitaphobe..NOT.. had to make a longer answer for the forum
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 122
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Posted: 6/9/2008 2:39:56 PM
Note to Lonely not desperate !
Hey when I hit 65 and still single I won't be wondering at all.
Your loss ladies is stil my gain !
As if I need a woman by then for anything sexual I can just buy her services !LOL
And I'll use viagra if it is needed by then.
Other then that it does not matter at age 65 or age 35 if women want to play the head games I'll just say sorry bye bye not interested .

As for me being picky well sorry not gonna change so maybe wait till I am dead ladies and then anyone of you can date me !HAHAHAHA
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 123
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Posted: 6/12/2008 11:56:29 AM
I have had some insight into why some people may be single!
I have made the effort to invite some people to a weekly meet and greet in their area and they didn't even take a moment to respond. One didn't even bother opening the message - the title was 'Event Invitation' - guess they don't bother getting out to meet people face to face! There was only one gentleman out of about 20 that even took a moment to say thanks for the heads up on the event!
If you sit at home and don't make the effort to mingle with other singles - then how do you get to know people?
If you don't respond or open messages how do you communicate with others to find out id there is a match out there for you?
Being proactive gets results!
I was lucky enough to meet my husband at a POF dance! We both made the effort to get out and meet others - we often went on our own to events - simply to meet new faces! We even remain to make friends and attend events to socialize! My husband is new to Canada and I have lost a lot of friends (passed away) - so we want to build new friendships!
Being interested in other people and being polite enough to chat - might get you what you desire!
 Firmbear8
Joined: 2/12/2006
Msg: 124
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 6/12/2008 5:35:48 PM
Attention !
Theses so called singles events are okay ! But !
When it is the same people attending all the time and very few if any new people attending then why is it worth the time & efford to keep gong to these ??
It is no better then gong out to normal bar nights out and same chances of meeting someone . And I personaly don't want to go out to a bar to meet someone as most times its a one time thing you'll meet someone and at best its not for a longtime down the road .


So if one has to be a bar fly to date someone thats not what I am seekng at all!
So if I stay single my entire life its your loss ladies not mine ! I have better things to do then hang out at a bar waiting for you to get nerve enough in your belly to come chat !
And drinking to get some nerve up to come chat won't be good in my match list book either . But I will say if you want me BE REAL &GET REAL LADIES !
Or good luck !

 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 6/12/2008 5:55:04 PM

When it is the same people attending all the time and very few if any new people attending then why is it worth the time & efford to keep gong to these ??

Well firmbear8 - all the events I go to seem to have the same people too and infact they still do - but hey one out of the 30 or 40 I have attended - MY HUSBAND WAS THERE!! Ya never know when or where that special someone will come into your life - but you can bet your life on the fact that they won't come knocking at your door!!
The reason I invited people to this event was to bring in new blood - to mix things up and to have some new experiences - but hey I tried!!
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