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 DavePinFlorida
Joined: 10/18/2005
Msg: 9
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Hugs are fine.. handshakes are REAL bad.
 oneafternoon
Joined: 3/15/2005
Msg: 10
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does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 10/30/2005 7:46:23 PM
You are seriouly worried over nothing ... there are so many meanings for a hug


Just take it as it comes ... if she's still e-mailing you then things are looking good

Just go with the flow and not worry about it ... take things slow with her - that way you really don't have too worry

Peace
 spidey1087
Joined: 6/4/2004
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Posted: 10/30/2005 7:53:07 PM
I gotta admit at this point I'm just overwhelmed with the positive response I've gotten on here.

Hell, if I knew good advice was as easy as posting a question, I would have done it LONG before now!
 oneafternoon
Joined: 3/15/2005
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Posted: 10/30/2005 7:56:11 PM
Yea , your pretty silly ... and yet you've been on this site for awhile!

Just becarefull of people with fake profiles!
 spidey1087
Joined: 6/4/2004
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Posted: 10/30/2005 8:01:55 PM
Unfortunately, my spidey sense only senses danger....it's not worth a damn on a date! LOL
 spidey1087
Joined: 6/4/2004
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Posted: 10/30/2005 8:10:37 PM
The last date, origionally, was supposed to be just a walk in the park. We both had decided it prolly wouldn't last more than 20-30 minutes, and like I said we ended up talking for over 2 hours.

She called tonite around 9:00....the convo lasted for 30 minutes, even tho I was distracted by a football game (and she knew it...I told her I was watching it!). We've talked about every other day since the date, so I think that's a good sign too.
 spidey1087
Joined: 6/4/2004
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Posted: 10/30/2005 8:17:06 PM
The date is set for Tuesday nite (So I won't have to miss Monday Nite Football! )

I'll put a post here on tueday nite or Wednesday and let everybody know how it went.
 spidey1087
Joined: 6/4/2004
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Posted: 10/30/2005 8:34:06 PM
Ravens beat the Steelers?! Are you smoking the Ricky Williams weed?!

Ravens will get CRUSHED beneath the Steelers heel like so many bugs.....

And it was a mutual thing. She has bible study that night, so it worked out well both ways.
 sammysalt
Joined: 9/7/2005
Msg: 17
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 10/30/2005 8:57:52 PM
When you start seeing someone, don't get side tracked when you are on the phone with them, because thats a total turn off. Atleast I think so. You know people are different, but if you buy her a flower why you are out, its a lot sweeter, and makes a person feel special. Buy it on the way taking her home, so she don't have to carry it all night. That way you got all of the browny points. Oh yea, its not good to kiss and tell, incase she is on this site. She may hold back so the whole world don't know what she is up to. Even more so scence its in the new stages. You do things how you want, but I thought I would just add my two cents worth in there. People are different, so who knows if it will help.
 spidey1087
Joined: 6/4/2004
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Posted: 10/30/2005 9:16:45 PM
At this point any and all advice is both needed and appreciated.
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 19
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 10/30/2005 10:45:56 PM
Worrying over nothing.

If she really wasnt interested she would have shook your hand. Then be worried !

I dont kiss on the first date, Mostly because Im nervous or shy or I just dont want to give the wrong impression. Kissing to me is kind of an intimate thing.[ Im not referring to a quick peck] But I hug them if I like them.

first scenario -She could have been nervous / shy. Give it another chance.

other scenario - yes It could mean she hasnt made her mind up, but nothing wrong with that either. Give it another chance

I think just ask her out again...you will soon get your answer
 Dragoninrain
Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 20
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 10/30/2005 10:47:30 PM
IMNSHO/Experience - I hug only if I feel comfortable with the other person.

More about boundaries for me.... where is it written that we must share our personal space with everyone we interact with

A hug with a is the next step (second get-together)
 spidey1087
Joined: 6/4/2004
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Posted: 11/1/2005 8:22:04 PM
Well we went out tonite, and she basically said that she doesn't see this working out long term, BUT that she still wanted to call me for advice on other guys. "Oh, we can still be friends!"

I told her I wasn't gonna be one of her girlfriends and that it's not right for her to dump me and then expect me to help her attract other guys.

Do you guys think I was right?
 spidey1087
Joined: 6/4/2004
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Posted: 11/2/2005 7:35:43 AM
Funny that you should mention that....I was thinking the same thing.
 Mikey7619
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 23
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 9/17/2009 2:22:18 PM
Go in for the kiss next time and show her you got balls

she might kick you in the balls if she doesnt want you to kiss her
 roseyn
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 24
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 9/17/2009 8:43:01 PM
One of the most disappointing and irritating things to me, is when at the end of the night, if all goes well, the man expects a kiss. Really? If you just met, give it time. I had someone actually have the nerve to ASK for a kiss, after realizing I wasn't moving in for one and I was totally furious and turned off. There are certain things you don't ask a woman for cause if she wants if, she'll go after it
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 25
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 9/18/2009 1:57:20 AM
..if she meets up with you a second time, then she's interested, or at least, interested in seeing if she's interested :)

a hug can mean many things, i'd go by her rate of response to you to gauge her interest, more than by the hug
 unsolvedmystery
Joined: 8/18/2009
Msg: 26
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 9/18/2009 8:02:27 AM
wow this is golden...it's a 4 year old thread and the OP is still around. NOT GOOD.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 27
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Posted: 9/19/2009 5:48:44 AM
Why are people replying to a 4 year old thread?
 callmelori
Joined: 12/3/2008
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Posted: 9/19/2009 6:10:56 AM
Because they can?

:::::skippin' away and giggling::::::
 varinia
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 29
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 9/19/2009 2:09:19 PM
THe first time I'm meeting someone I'm kind of in observation mode. I mean, I need some neutral time after to think about it. So, I don't kiss on the first date, but give a hug. And that doesn't mean that I don't like him and that doesn't mean that I'm very slow. It just means that I just met him and my walls are still up until I decided that , yes, he's someone that I want to let my walls down for. I don't kiss just anyone.
 unsolvedmystery
Joined: 8/18/2009
Msg: 30
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 9/19/2009 2:43:00 PM
I pretty much only hug on the meet and greet wether or not I'm into them and I assume it's the same sort of thing for alot of women. I would find it odd that someone thought I'd be uninterested based solely on a parting hug versus a parting kiss. You can make out for 10mins and they still might not be interested to actually date you :P
 majyk1
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 31
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 9/19/2009 2:56:15 PM
HELLO......
Is anyone paying attention????

Oh well guess not!

The OP posted this in 2005......... DUH he's not gonna answer.
 Misfitluv
Joined: 11/10/2009
Msg: 32
does a hug mean she's not really attracted
Posted: 1/23/2010 6:07:40 PM
Um she touched you....it's a good thing.
 Red Fish GF
Joined: 12/3/2009
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Posted: 1/23/2010 11:14:48 PM
I don't think there was even a hug on our first date and the 2nd date I acted so aloof there almost wasn't a 3rd, he told me this several dates later. We were enjoying still emailing each other though and after not feeling a connection with another woman he met he decided to ask me out again. It wasn't that there was no interest I was just scared of getting close too soon. We sat in his vehicle and talked for hours. On this date, the 3rd I leaned over for a hug and he kissed me. I could tell he wanted to on our 2nd but he never tried.




A hug does not necessarily mean she is not attracted to you. Honestly some girls are more shy around a guy they do like then one that they do not!


I would think a hug was a postive sign and especially since she wants to see you again. BTW, I am now in a relationship with the man who thought I wasn't interested.


I just noticed this was an old thread hope you had better luck since then.
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