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Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 194
are the pay sites scamming usPage 13 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
I didn't bother to read all 11 pages so if this has been mentioned forgive me. is another completely free site. Lots of singles but I confess I haven't had any more luck there than I have ever had anywhere else but it is free.
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 195
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 2/11/2008 4:40:01 AM
There are people that think the pay sites need to be shut down. There's still a site called amatuer match and that's a pure rip off.
Joined: 7/23/2007
Msg: 197
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are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 2/11/2008 7:23:57 AM
Does anyone have any information about SINGLES NET.COM?

Do you have trouble getting off that site? Do you find that they charge you when you think you are off? Any one have any info on them?
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 198
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 2/11/2008 11:18:27 AM
I won't ever go on another pay site. I think that it's ridicoulus to pay sites just to have an Internet date. This is why I asked for many contacts of mine to help me find a girlfriend.
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 201
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:44:06 AM
I would stay with this site or meet Christians or OK Cupid rather than the pay sites. I even us myspace. I am on that site for everything.

There were people successful with I don't think that anyone is successful with the dating services that cost money these days. I think that most people computer dating are in community chats rather than dating services.
Joined: 9/24/2007
Msg: 202
Some are, some aren't ..
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:59:54 AM
I joined RSVP in Australia, three years ago. I've had a fair number of genuine enquiries in that time, and that is a site where one pays for the privilege.

Others, like Adult Friend Finder, for instance, well ..... I've been convinced it's a scam. A bait email will arrive, a bit of to-and-fro, then nothing.

As for POF, my experience is that it's been pretty genuine, with some good people here, so hang in there!
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 203
Some are, some aren't ..
Posted: 2/13/2008 1:21:40 PM
Those people should than be arrested. Those pay sites should be shut down as of distrust on new people to take them over.
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 204
Some are, some aren't ..
Posted: 3/3/2008 4:41:58 AM
Has anyone ever reported, eharmony or yahoo personals to the Internet Crime Complaint Center? I heard that people reported to them. Even the Texas attorney general and better business bearau.

We should even report adult friend finder and fling.
 Straight Christian Lady
Joined: 6/14/2007
Msg: 205
problem with
Posted: 3/6/2008 10:07:23 AM

most of the women on Match are nonpaying members. They are just fishing for attention (free of charge) and are not sincere. They can receive messages but cannot respond to your message even if they wanted to.
I have to disagree; it's possible the women realized it was not working for them so they gave it up, hence no response. It doesn't mean they are insincere or just fishing for attention.

Why would anybody do that? The whole point of getting attention from someone else is for that someone to KNOW the attention is received, but as in this case the women can't reply, how is the man to know that? .. so he then concludes she must be just out for the chance to think "hey, that guy's hot, but I CAN'T ANSWER HIM!!!"

Ease off the chipped shoulder, Luv.
Joined: 1/17/2008
Msg: 207
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 3/29/2008 8:24:14 AM
I got engaged two days ago to someone I met on My grandmother is living with a man she met on It's a good site and it obviously does work if you're willing to put in the time and energy. I met FIFTEEN men from a few different dating sites. Fourteen of them were losers. One was great and I am engaged to him. He lives ten minutes away from me, goes to school down the street from my job, and I love him immensely.

So, it costs money. The 150 dollars I paid for six months of was worth it. Look at it like this: I spent 150 dollars and got a husband. I think I got the better end of the deal.
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 208
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/2/2008 4:39:40 AM
There have been a bunch of dating specialists on I lost trust in I will come back to it if they get thier act together and straighten up.

Have any of you heard of Dawn Yanek? I am not sure whether or not she's trustable. She's pretty. She doesn't work for but just associated with them and did a commercial.
Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 209
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:03:01 AM
I have had no issues with pay sites, you just have to be smarter than they are. I prefer the pay sites for meeting ladies. There are more women to choose from because most of the men won't spend the money required to sign up. I have not had a no show yet.
5-40$ is nothing to spend when it comes attached with a nice lady at the other end.
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 210
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/2/2008 12:04:11 PM
I haven't had much issues with pay sites. Sending winks on doesn't get paying but does.

I heard allot about with the billing. I don't think that or yahoo personals are as guilty as The site should be called and was always a pay site while yahoo personals and started out free.

I don't have much problems with pay sites but I gave them up from what I read about complaints and about them on those message boards.

Maybe I will go back to and yahoo personals.

Also on and yahoo personals we could forward profiles to friends like anyone who we want to. I wouldn't even go onto eharmony if we have to pay just to see the photos. I think that it's silly to.

I never even tried perfect match and I don't ever want to get married. I am just looking for long term and short term dating.
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 211
Some are, some aren't ..
Posted: 4/2/2008 12:53:38 PM

Msg: 278 -- Those people should than be arrested. Those pay sites should be shut down as of distrust on new people to take them over.

I haven't seen a paysite YET that delivers AS PROMISED.

POF is FREE, and the ONLY thing they promise is an OPEN communication channel to other singles. Honestly, how can ANYONE realistically promise anything ELSE?

I have had my FILL of pay sites. I haven't seen one YET that delivers. I have met only a FEW singles here on POF, but then I don't initiate many contacts. Most of the ones that I have initiated resulted in friendly replies, although as yet I have failed to meet "My Fishie".

Then also, I have seen my fair share of "Unread/Deleted" and "Read/Deleted" messages. But to me, when I see one of those, that is just as good as an uninterested reply. I have read many complaints about these, but TRUTHFULLY, does ANYONE REALLY CARE about why they are not interested? I certainly don't. The only ones I care about are those INTERESTED parties who CHOOSE to respond. Those who express interest are GENUINE!! They may balk later on, but at LEAST I got a "nibble" from a real "fishie".

When I finally catch one, she will be a real "Keeper"!
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 212
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/2/2008 1:11:19 PM

Msg: 284 -- The 150 dollars I paid for six months of was worth it. Look at it like this: I spent 150 dollars and got a husband. I think I got the better end of the deal.

You got lucky, and more power to you because of it. I got burned and won't go back. It is all a matter of perception, anticipation, and satisfaction.

Suffice it to say I was NOT satisfied. But then, my requirements are a bit more than they can deal with, so I got as I expected.

I got one "ALMOST" here at POF. The prohibiting factor in this case was DISTANCE. I truly believe that if she lived CLOSER to me, things would have turned out better between us.

For what we lacked between us, I blame the DISTANCE.
 dogs rule
Joined: 10/12/2007
Msg: 213
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/2/2008 1:51:07 PM
To the person that asked about singles net. Its a rip off to. I did talk to some real women that were in my area but I got tons of emails from scammers from russia and affrica. Now that may not be the web sites fault but I do wonder how I get so many scammers emailing me from a pay site and yet pof is free and haven't heard from one scammer.
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 214
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are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/2/2008 2:33:56 PM
My experience was not bad, just not that good. I got a lot of responses, especially when I first signed up. I think the folks that were on immediately jumped on a new profile. The guys I met were not very interesting, though, and half were lying about their age, claiming they were younger than they were. After six months, I dropped it. I figure that on the free sites I have nothing to lose. Perhaps I've gotten better at figuring this out, but the guys I'm meeting are of a better quality.
Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 216
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are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/2/2008 4:00:53 PM
I think what is needed is a law requiring them to only show those people who can
actually respond to a message with another message. If this means they need to
let the ladies in for free, fine by me, but I have no interest paying for a site that
would require the person to pay to respond.

Advertising someone as a member when they have no real connection to site seems
like fraud to me.
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 224
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/3/2008 8:14:44 PM
Some sites are scamming us, yes, totally, as there are no "laws" setting parameters on this commerce format. If I added up the hours I have wasted on all these website I could have finished a Master Degree from Harvard Extension School . .. . . . Unfortunately for us older folks who are not young and glamourous anymore we have few other resources unless we enjoy hanging out in bars, churches, or gambling facilities. Men don't chase me down the street anymore--but they use to! The worse scamming experience I had was on I think the whole country of Nigeria contacted me with various photos that were obviously not the men behind the messages. will keep your profile posted even after you are in the grave and your will has been read, with the obitutary posted. I like POF. I would like to thank those who have contributed extensively to this particular blog.
Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 225
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/14/2008 6:12:57 PM
Maybe more success with and yahoo personals when they were free. I read some things about in the online dating magazine and even on rip off report.
Joined: 5/13/2007
Msg: 226
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:11:11 AM
im certain now that i was scammed by realsexdates. got a couple of emails sent to me and of course cant see them till you pay, so i paid. and of course those were the last times to get any emails. the emails i got were within 2 days of signing up. all this activity just till you pay then all stops and no responses back from anyone.

I think yahoo personals did the same thing, got a few women who simply fall in love with you sending long winded emails. 2 of the women with similar themes. then when you want to see the person finally, got a story that she was in africa stranded by her betraying lover.

i'm about to figure out where to begin not just to get my money back but see if a class action or similar suit was filed. this cant be allowed to continue.,
anyone know of how to attack back?

Joined: 12/22/2006
Msg: 232
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 4/28/2008 2:49:25 PM
This is how I lost trust in pay sites. I might as well come back to yahoo personals and

There's this feature called report a concern if we suspect that there's something wrong. They might do that only because of complaints of con artsits that they get.
Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 234
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:34:00 AM
got to be, they advertise having so many pretty young girls from where i live, that surely i should run across one of them at least once. and like ya say, u join, see hot gals, write to them, sometimes get a rresponse, most times not, and let your subscript expire, then come the e mails. k
Joined: 12/10/2010
Msg: 239
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 10/17/2011 9:46:32 AM
Would not know.Have never paid to belong to an e-mail sight. I still get more responces than I can handel(or want to) and I am short,old,and a little fat.Paying seems to me like being pimped with no guarenties(see I can't even spell)
Joined: 4/21/2010
Msg: 240
are the pay sites scamming us
Posted: 11/23/2011 6:52:02 PM
Your right,that is the way they do........I been done that way.........They need throwed under the jail for doing that....I mean UNDER.Paid sites puts fake profiles on there of women so there are women there for men to pay to message.Free sites allows anyone to get on so sorry people puts up fake profiles for fu n,games.
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