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 BearGal
Joined: 1/15/2007
Msg: 63
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Sadie,
Love your " country" and Town.. Lucky Girl you have some Great music to listen to.

Chatting folks up is great , I enjoy that as well. I have found dressing down to the point of "un make up" and a hat or anything that might turn off any comers works wonders. Folks will still chat you up but may think twice about bedding you ?

What do you have to prove ?
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 2/10/2007 9:03:05 PM
i actually think this varies from place to place. here in the states? yea, a woman alone in a bar is often thought to be looking for a pick up. in ireland? no way, lotsa people go to pubs and they are not pick up joints the way bars in the US are. etc...

anyhow, i would probably not go to a pub alone because if i am going out by myself it is probably because i have a writing project i'm working on, and i need light and coffee :-) as opposed to the dim lighting of most bars and as opposed to booz. i often go to cafes and would almost always find myself in that type of venue as opposed to a bar or pub.
 CrazyDiamond97
Joined: 12/21/2006
Msg: 65
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Posted: 2/12/2007 11:59:31 AM
Well said, Mari - I have no problem going to pubs alone, either. (Fancy you finding one with Kiwis in it - hahaha). Anyway - in all of those countries you mentioned - especially NZ and England - it was a common practise - we didn't think anything of it - Do you remember the Ladies Lounge? For the most part, our husbands/boyfriends would likely turn up later. Then there's the Darts Teams - women and men alike belonged. It wasn't until I came to America that I found out there is a stigma attached to single women who go to pubs alone. I refused to take on that pressure and stigmatize myself. There's a huge difference between a single lady going into a pub alone, and a single 'tart' going into a pub alone. It's blatantly obvious to me, so I'm guessing it's pretty damned obvious to the blokes who are in there and just happen to know which ones to hit on. I say 'piffle' to a man who will lable me a (what do you call it? a slut/whore?) - I prefer tart/harlot! - Whoa betide him if he calls me that to my face - he's likely to wear a # 6 1/2 boot right up his fundamental orifice!
 CrazyDiamond97
Joined: 12/21/2006
Msg: 66
Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 2/12/2007 12:02:34 PM
If you want a drink and you're out, stop off for a pint....why not? If you're single and you want to get laid, go out and get a drink....why not? Guys don't have to justify why they go into a bar alone, why should you?


WELL SAID!!!!!!!


 SouthCarolina45
Joined: 3/3/2005
Msg: 67
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Posted: 2/12/2007 12:40:39 PM
I go out to clubs/bars by myself - every so often and I usually get asked "what are you doing here alone?" or "I can't believe you are here by yourself" For the last 25 years, I have replied with the same answer. Guess what? It's ok now, they have passed a new law and women can now go to bars alone! Works like charm. Most of the time it is fun, but sometimes you do get strange looks, if I get that I just go to another bar/club.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 68
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Posted: 2/12/2007 2:35:28 PM
I don't like hanging out in bars by myself very often, so I usually just wonder, "Where are her friends?" and that's about it.

Unless she is loaded and making passes at every guy that walks by, then I think something else.
 PickyProfessional
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 69
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Posted: 2/12/2007 7:47:29 PM
i have absolutely no qualms about going to a bar by myself. in fact, i prefer it. a gaggle of women together screams insecurity and "we can't wait to be hit on." i feel a single woman at a bar is showing her independence and free-to-be-me attitude. i feel like most men feel in that regard. if i wanna go to a bar, then i do. i often stop off for happy hour on my way home from work at a seafood place near my house. good food, a relaxing drink, and a lot of fun people-watching (maybe even some good music too).
 anyonereal?
Joined: 11/30/2006
Msg: 70
Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 2/17/2007 7:37:42 AM
ya know, i have no problem going to a bar alone....and it's not because i'm looking to drag something outta there. it's usually because i'm in the mood for a beer, or a crowd of people watching a football game or some karaoke. yea, i have friends i can do this with, but most of them prefer to stay home instead of going out, and when i do take them with me, i worry if they are enjoying themselves, but going out alone...only person i have to worry about having a good time is me. and i've met some really cool people out alone too. i recently moved to alabama from the dallas area, and go to a local pub to watch my cowboys play. actually ran into someone from dallas that have never met, but we know a lot of the same people and hung out at a lot of the same places. had a whole lot more fun watching the game with a fellow fan than at home alone. ya know, us women enjoy kicking back and drinking a few too. it's not the 50s anymore...
 allsmiles24f6ce
Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 71
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Posted: 2/17/2007 7:52:40 AM
That's funny when I look at it that way. I never realized that I might be perceived as a slut at first glance. I like to go to bars when there is karaoke, 'cause I like to sing. I'll go right up to the bar and plop next to anyone where there is room...What can ya do? Find a seat! Guys used to hit on me a lot, but it's not bad anymore....You see, the trick is, don't go dressed like a slut. I go in the plainclothes I was wearing all day, and I go with confidence. If a person seems cool to talk to and hang out with guy/girl, I hang out...and I leave it at that...and I don't spent any time looking at other people and wonder why they are there...I don't care why...not my business. I'm 25, I have no fear, and I am there to drink and sing, and perhaps make a new friend.....
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 72
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Posted: 2/17/2007 8:05:28 AM
I go where I wish to go, probably 90% of the time there is going to be a band or DJ whom I already KNOW playing. Of course this is also pretty much small town or neighborhood establishments. I don't care what anyone else thinks, and I can't recall ever having any sort of problem that I couldn't deal with myself. Of course in that setting it HELPS to look like you could benchpress a 1958 Chrysler...
Cindy O
 SWEETIE237
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 73
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Posted: 2/17/2007 10:58:21 AM
I personally don't like to go to bars by myself anymore.All I attract r users n losers or lesbians.I mean,come on.Do I look gay?? My assumption is n from personal experience is that if a woman or even in some cases a man is alone in a bar.It could mean they r very lonely,desperate n vulnerable n an easy target.But that's just my opinion.I just stay away from bars.Most people r there to just get laid n nothing more.
 BearGal
Joined: 1/15/2007
Msg: 74
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Posted: 2/17/2007 12:10:02 PM
What does gay look like ?
 indianrose
Joined: 9/10/2006
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Posted: 2/17/2007 12:44:50 PM
I could not go to a dance club by myself just dont have it in me but I will go to a pub like around 6pm to have a drink after work on a friday night and take my work with me to the pub while I have a dinner or drinks before I call it a night, guys may think what they want or try to come over but I always look busy at the table so it makes them confused but the truth I am busy doing my work so I can have weekends free to myself and bf.
 justlooking4you
Joined: 12/10/2006
Msg: 76
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Posted: 2/17/2007 12:48:33 PM
I for one admire a older mature woman that goes to a bar by herself. I shows a great deal of confidence in herself. Showing that she likes to get out and not staying at home playing internet " tag " games with men.
 classy_lady99
Joined: 4/5/2006
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Posted: 2/17/2007 2:20:20 PM
Well I prefer to go out by myself. People often ask who I'm with and I tell them me, myself & I and that I prefer it that way. I can dance if I want to with whom I want to and I'm not responsible for anyone's happiness but my own. I also tell them I wasn't alone very long. Sometimes just long enough to take off my coat and I'm on the dance floor.

You would get to know single ppl in a hurry and they would become friends as a lot of ppl frequent the same places. Bars aren't just for the young and they're not just for men. Mature single women are becoming more and more accustomed to going out alone. They are not considered bar sluts if they're not being picked up by men nightly. You won't have to worry about sitting alone if you simply show up later while everyone is already having a good time, dancing & walk around mingling.

Try it a few times and if you like to get out I'll just bet you'll like it!
 This is Now
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 78
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Posted: 2/17/2007 3:45:35 PM
I go to a bar where I know the female owner and her family who run it. I was introduced to her by my last boyfriend so most of the people there still have a residual hands-off policy with me. If somebody is bugging me I usually make eye contact with her or one of the family members and they help steer the person away.
 justlooking4you
Joined: 12/10/2006
Msg: 79
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Posted: 6/19/2009 7:24:36 AM
I admire a woman that goes to a local bar or dance place by-herself. Shows confidence in my book, like's to get out and adventure out for entertainment, food and friendly chats. Also can lead to friendships also if the woman intends to lead that way also. But, woman do not do this cause they are afraid " broken winged woman " that prefer to stay at home and not encounter the public to possible meet someone through a conversation which could lead to more. There are no woman in my age bracket that do come out in my area at all.
 tas star
Joined: 1/9/2009
Msg: 80
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Posted: 6/19/2009 7:31:53 AM
When I am travelling for work and get room crazy, I like to escape to the hotel bar for a while. I would usually have a quiet drink or two, never been hassled - though the last time another patron, a woman who was with a man, sent over a glass of wine. Maybe she felt a little sorry for me
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 6/19/2009 8:50:33 AM

I admire a woman that goes to a local bar or dance place by-herself. Shows confidence in my book, like's to get out and adventure out for entertainment, food and friendly chats.

I met my G/F one night long before we actually started dating.... she was reading a book in the pub and having a drink....
We exchanged a few brief pleasantries... then we went our separate ways.... several months later, we bumped again and started dating.....
I was quite impressed that she had the confidence to not only go to a pub on her own, but also to do what she wanted in the pub without trying to 'fit in'....
 RichardMcLean
Joined: 6/5/2009
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Posted: 6/19/2009 9:09:13 AM
A lot of women round my way go into a pub on their, because they know other people in there, bar staff, other customers etc. It's normal in some pubs, but not so common in city centre bars etc.
 NotInnocent
Joined: 9/7/2007
Msg: 83
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Posted: 6/19/2009 9:41:36 AM
I go to bars all the time by myself. If I didn't I would be stuck home more often then I want to be. I go to bars that have entertainment going on, because I am not one to just sit at a bar. Karaoke, band, dancing. It's all fun! Actually trying to figure out where I want to head to tonight.
 808 syndicate
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 84
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Posted: 10/23/2009 9:47:46 PM
If I walk into a pub and see a single older woman sitting alone and drinking, that is all I see her as...just another single older woman. Although my first reaction would be like maybe she's just looking for a quick f*ck, or possibly a one night stand.

I would never think of her as a cougar cause even if she was there just looking for a quickie, chances are she would probably screw any tom ,**** or harry that approaches her..
 Wicked_Cricket
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 85
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Posted: 10/23/2009 9:59:16 PM
OH FOR GOD'S SAKE!
Drag yourselves into the 21st century people!!!!
Women are people - we vote and wear pants. ANYTHING men can do we can do. If you want to go for a drink by yourself GO - WHO CARES what strangers in a bar think? If you're caring what total strangers think about you - stay home all the time with your cats & talk to yourself - nobody thinks anything strange about that.

This is YOUR life - NO DO-OVERS and it's FAR TOO SHORT to try to please all of the people all of the time. Who says any of those ppl are better than you or have ANY business judging you?
Small, petty people are critical & judgmental - they put others (mostly women) down to feel better about themselves.
Disregard these people and live YOUR LIFE YOUR WAY. You only have to face yourself in the mirror.
viva liberte!
 Janewantstarzan
Joined: 8/3/2009
Msg: 86
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Posted: 10/23/2009 10:17:25 PM

OH FOR GOD'S SAKE!
Drag yourselves into the 21st century people!!!!
Women are people - we vote and wear pants. ANYTHING men can do we can do. If you want to go for a drink by yourself GO - WHO CARES what strangers in a bar think? If you're caring what total strangers think about you - stay home all the time with your cats & talk to yourself - nobody thinks anything strange about that.

This is YOUR life - NO DO-OVERS and it's FAR TOO SHORT to try to please all of the people all of the time. Who says any of those ppl are better than you or have ANY business judging you?
Small, petty people are critical & judgmental - they put others (mostly women) down to feel better about themselves.
Disregard these people and live YOUR LIFE YOUR WAY. You only have to face yourself in the mirror.
viva liberte!
Exactly! When I used to****ail a few years back at an upscale hotel lounge, women would come in for the same reasons men do. Most just to have one drink to relax and then they would leave. Yes, women can go in a bar alone without wanting to get laid, being a prostitute or flirting with any swinging d!ck that shows up
 808 syndicate
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 88
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Posted: 10/23/2009 10:30:07 PM
So now you grew a penis too ?
Yikes!


^^^Oooh snaap! now that's hilarious
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