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 japfl26
Joined: 6/7/2009
Msg: 89
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I agree. I do travel as well. There have been times when I have gone to a pub or club by myself. The only problem I have is making men realize that I don't need another drink. No, I don't feel like dancing. Sometimes it's just nice to get out by yourself. I think people who travel are more likely to do this without second thought. I have met some great people by going and just talking. For me, they instantly know that I'm not going to put out and that I'm independent and not like most women. I think it's how you carry yourself when you're in this atmosphere.
 Wicked_Cricket
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 90
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Posted: 10/23/2009 10:36:13 PM
Neanderthal - this might come as a surprise to you .. sit down.
This universe does NOT spin around penises.
yeah that's right, I said it. WE have what YOU want. Wars are fought over it, songs are written about it - ADAM GOT CAST OUT OF PARADISE FOR IT ..
ANYTHING men can do, we can do right the first time; and anything I can't do myself, I can hire done.
"Masters of the Universe" hardy har harr
and as for owning a penis - yeah, we can - can buy em all day long
The difference is - I don't let my genitals do my thinking
what else u got?
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 91
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Posted: 10/23/2009 10:36:26 PM
"Grew a Penis" nope just some balls...

I go out...who cares what others think.
All I know is...Mr.Right is not just going to come knocking on my door.
 808 syndicate
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 92
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Posted: 10/23/2009 11:15:34 PM
You gotta love the typical mentality of some people. If a woman posesses something that is in high demand, then why in the hell would she have to buy a bag of c*cks all day long?? this is to funny...

And I agree, the 60's is definitely calling back
 wolftxus
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 93
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Posted: 10/23/2009 11:38:33 PM
"women would come in for the same reasons men do"
Do they also try to forget for a brief moment that a nagging b!tch on the rag awaits them at home?

"ADAM GOT CAST OUT OF PARADISE FOR IT"
In the book I read he got cast because of a woman. Now do you want men to be cast out of bars as well? Aren't we still paying for Eve's sh!t? If women are so much better than men, what sage advice do you have on escaping women and being left alone? I guess if bars are not it, that only leaves the bathroom...

"WE have what YOU want."
Yes, a man-bashing, derogatory and non-sensical running mouth fueled by a superiority complex. Women were in more demand when they stuck to letting their pvssies do the advertising...
 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 94
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Posted: 10/23/2009 11:40:18 PM
If I walk into a pub and see a single older woman sitting alone and drinking, that is all I see her as...just another single older woman. Although my first reaction would be like maybe she's just looking for a quick f*ck, or possibly a one night stand.



so lemme guess your there for the drinks???


pfffffffffffft! bullchit



But he'll find you at the bar ?
Good luck to you too....


it beats her coming across as.sholes on the internet.


LOL!
 808 syndicate
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 95
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Posted: 10/23/2009 11:47:26 PM
so lemme guess your there for the drinks???


pfffffffffffft! bullchit



^^^And what does it matter to you as to why Im there?

Let's see, you already followed me in three forums already. I think Im starting to see a pattern here..
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 96
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Posted: 10/23/2009 11:48:14 PM
But he'll find you at the bar ?


Not my expection but like I said sitting behind close doors is not the answer either...

Is this any better?
At one point the meeting of ppl at the bar was frownd on as was internet dating...is there really a right way or wrong way?


Good luck to you too....

Thank you all the same!

it beats her coming across as.sholes on the internet

Meet a few of thoses lol

 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 97
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Posted: 10/24/2009 12:12:18 AM

Not my expection but like I said sitting behind close doors is not the answer either...

Is this any better?
At one point the meeting of ppl at the bar was frownd on as was internet dating...is there really a right way or wrong way?


the nice thing about internet dating is you can spot the as.sholes by what they type.
 808 syndicate
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 98
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Posted: 10/24/2009 12:26:42 AM
You really are obsessed with asses huh ?
I am starting to see that trend too.....


^^^You took the words right out of my mouth. What's funny is he made a comment in a forum the other day about a**holes and dildo's. You gotta love the one's that put their own foot in their mouths..
 startle
Joined: 7/22/2008
Msg: 99
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Posted: 10/24/2009 2:12:47 AM
i have gone into bars to pick up on men lots of time ..what's wrong with that...isn't that what they are for...lucky for me they invented online dating...picking up men in bars is too hit or miss.. plus you have to drink...which is bad for your health... see how easy telling the truth is..i'm still alive...
 cattalist
Joined: 9/10/2008
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Posted: 10/24/2009 4:10:54 AM
the nice thing about internet dating is you can spot the as.sholes by what they type.


Actually this is a good point - you really see a lot "behind the profile" of how people are and think by what they post. It's been said many times....maybe in softer words, but you get a much clearer idea of someone from the forums than you do from their profiles.

OT - I have a neighbourhood pub that I have no problem going to by myself, it's very rare that I don't see people I know there and it's one of those places several women I know feel comfortable going to alone.

As has already been pointed out - we're in the 21st century here, it's time to lose some of the outdated assumptions.
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
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Posted: 10/24/2009 5:42:04 AM
In a local pub, I think of the show Cheers. A place where local people go to socialize with other friends or strangers from the local commuity, have a drink or a bite to eat and talk or sit alone and do thier own thing. I dont drink alchohol for medical reasons but ussually just go out cause I feel the need to be around others and to have a burger and frech fries and coke. Most of thse places are freindly places, not night club meat markets and the staff are usually friendly and watching out for thier patrons. Its a good place to meet locals and sometimes you may find a nice friend there. Lots make it a regular place to hang out after friday work days, or if there bored during the week and want to eat out and watch the tube with others. A good place for sunday football
 adventurousme57
Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 102
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Posted: 10/24/2009 7:25:18 AM
I would like to go to a pub alone without feeling uncomfortable. I feel very conspicuous...like I'm trying to 'find a man' and that alone keeps me from going. Plus I am a bit on the shy side so the whole thing makes me uncomfortable. Ugh. The only way I feel comfortable in a bar is if I'm there with a man. Goofy, I know.
 RobertKoi
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 103
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Posted: 10/24/2009 8:27:55 AM
A pub for men and one for women - problem solved.
 HardwoodFloorBoard
Joined: 3/27/2008
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Posted: 10/24/2009 8:28:11 AM
Personally, I tend not to spend much time in bars by myself unless I'm really thirsty, or really bored and wanting to get out somewhere. It's one thing to socialize with friends, or some other patron, or the bartender, butI have a hard time sitting in a bar by myself for more time than it takes to drink one beer.

So, when I see a woman sitting, drinking by herself, yeah, I wonder. But I don't make any assumptions. And frankly, I really don't see that many women out by themselves.
 misszmsz
Joined: 5/31/2008
Msg: 105
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Posted: 10/24/2009 3:16:20 PM
I travel all the time for work. Sometimes for months during the winter I have to be in Winnipeg, where I live at a very nice hotel. The company picks up the tab for the hotel and food, but I cannot use room service. The pub food is much more to my liking than the restuarant, so therefore I constantly am going into the pub alone, about 9pm when the entertainment is starting.

What other people think of me being there alone without friends is definitely not any of my business. I simply don't care.

I seem to get more looks because I am not bundled up in a heavy coat, since I do not have to venture outside in the cold weather to get there.

Around the globe, men hit on me almost anywhere I go from the airport to the corner cafe. I always thank them for the compliments and continue with what I was doing.

A confident woman who risks her reputation to be seen out in public without an escort, is in most men's books -- adventurous if not downright sexy.
 Fascino Italiano
Joined: 8/22/2009
Msg: 106
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Posted: 10/24/2009 4:33:31 PM
You know what.... who cares what other people think! If you want to go to a bar/pub by yourself for a fews hours to get out of the house for a bit then by all means do it! People read to0 much into this stuff...
 808 syndicate
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 107
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Posted: 10/24/2009 4:47:09 PM
Startle....It's good to know that there's still women like you that will honest and truthful in these kind of threads. At least your not in total denial, like some people..
 cuban delite
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 108
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Posted: 10/24/2009 5:35:48 PM
does it really matter what others think ?

If you feel like going into a pub..or a club by yourself...it shouldnt matter.

You re actions once in the pub, would diclaim the roomers ,if that is what you are worried about....too bad for the stigmas.



they say... those that matter dont mind, and those that mind dont matter
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 109
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Posted: 10/24/2009 5:50:42 PM

I would like to go to a pub alone without feeling uncomfortable. I feel very conspicuous...like I'm trying to 'find a man' and that alone keeps me from going. Plus I am a bit on the shy side so the whole thing makes me uncomfortable. Ugh. The only way I feel comfortable in a bar is if I'm there with a man. Goofy, I know.

If you really want to do it eh - just do it. Most of the time the uncomfortable feeling is just that you're not used to it. Once you do it a couple times, it isn't as weird to you.

I don't care what people think I am there for, they'll find out over time if they're that interested in what I'm doing - and honestly at the end of the day no one's that fascinated with what others are doing, if they have lives. Most people aren't generally paying that much attention to others in a room.

If I like the food somewhere or the atmosphere or drinks and I want to go, I just go. Public places are for the public. If guys think I am there looking for company and approach I correct them on it, that's all.

P.S. Bonus if you're shy - you get to enjoy a place without actually having to talk to anyone besides your server.
 farscapeprincess
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 110
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Posted: 10/24/2009 7:19:06 PM
I have done so and I'm not a slut. It's just a way to meet people when you're single. I pick places that serve more than alcohol. So I'll order some food. I've chatted with people and have had a guy who was also alone chat with me. I pick a place where I feel safe. I'm confident enough that I can go anywhere alone. How else can singles meet who don't want to always do the online thing. In fact, I read that picking a great sports-type bar that serves food is the best way to meet men. After all, aren't us females on this forum to meet someone. I try to stay out of neighborhood dive bars that serve only alcohol for the most part. Mostly you meet the neighborhood people in those or so I've experienced. That's not a bad thing, but...I'd choose not to.
 adventurousme57
Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 111
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Posted: 10/25/2009 6:41:37 AM
Thanks for the advice, WomaninProgress. You are right about people being more interested in themselves. That's what I tell my female clients at the gym who are afraid of what others think of them. Maybe I'll give it a try just for experimental purposes. Might be good for me!
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 112
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Posted: 10/25/2009 10:20:05 AM
^^^I went from realizing no one cared what I was doing, to hoping they did find it interesting. After all, if you're not nervous and causing people to talk, then you're not living.

I figure people who talk about others are usually living vicariously through someone they wish they could be like.

Eh, it's probably BS but it works for me.
 Fi Fi Foncho
Joined: 2/22/2009
Msg: 113
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Posted: 10/25/2009 1:44:50 PM

Maybe I'll give it a try just for experimental purposes. Might be good for me!


Try a wine bar. At the very least the patrons aren't drunk, or at least aren't very drunk. At best, you will be able to enjoy a nice glass of wine and probably have a conversation with someone interesting.

In my experience, I've never been to a neighborhood/sports bar/pub which didn't have it's obnoxious resident drunk. The one who think's it's their duty in life to plop down next to you and regale you with drunken babbling and foul breath. Even the nicer places have them.
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