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 Dmana3172
Joined: 9/7/2006
Msg: 228
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I'm almost 36 years old. From the time I was a teenager till now, I have never encountered one single woman whose brain have developed large enough to handle me the way I expected. In other word, regardless of age, there is not one mature or intelligent enough for me, anywhere, unless one will come and approach me.
 JadeMuse
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 231
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/16/2008 3:13:31 PM
Over 30? No.

Hopefully, it would be revealed pretty early on that the guy was an all-around good catch (mostly!)
anyway and he hadn't found the right one to share his life with.

Over 50? Probably would be cause for concern.
Commitment issues would come to mind.

He could be a Playah who is starting to get rejected regularly by the usual
30 year-old party girls so he wants to "settle-down" and get married
to the woman who will have his namesake, darn his socks, and
doesn't slurp her soup because he is feeling his own mortality.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 232
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/16/2008 4:45:06 PM
He could be a wonderful guy who seeks an unusual woman and does not settle for anyone except the one who is able to be as committed to him as he is to her and finding that person has proven to be the proverbial needle in a haystack. Perhaps he seeks a woman who has not been married and has found that most women over 30 have been married at least once and those women do not appeal to him. I would find positive things about him until proven otherwise,but then I tend to be a realistic optimist and being single makes me find common ground with the men who have not been married.
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 233
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/16/2008 4:54:49 PM

It would depend on the reasons why he wasn't married by age 30. Some men simply preferred to remain single. Some men were busy with school or work. Some men simply had bad luck and met a bunch of women that they weren't compatible with. Some men might have been shy around women when they were younger.


I agree. People shouldn't make generalizations about 30+ yr old single people, divorced people, or any other type of marital status.
 rosered38
Joined: 8/9/2008
Msg: 236
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/23/2008 5:31:16 AM
Pretty much but it depends on the women. I know I am but it would depend on what I'm looking for at the time. If it's friends yes, if I'm dating no. I know no one came come between a guy and his mother.
 superbadzzz
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 237
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/25/2008 4:34:59 PM
are sharks leery of swimmers who don't have a bite taken out of their ass?
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 240
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are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 12:26:53 AM
People who think negative thoughts and assume negative things about complete strangers just because they aren't married (and divorced) by 30 are people you probably don't want to meet anyway.
And don't be bitter about us "never married" singles!

I'm happy with my current life. Let's face it. Being single without kids at this age... just rocks! I have money, I have time, I got lots of friends, I got a great social life without having to attend PTA... life is good!


All you who have waited and used your time well in the interim, you'll most likely be great parents one day because you won't be stumbling around frantically trying to get a career started while juggling child care and finishing school. You would have acquired plenty of skills that younger parents just don't have at that age. Your nest is better lined, your kids will have more advantages in life.
There's plenty of stories of people who waited and got everything they wanted in one shot. I know many in my life like that and I am sure some of you know a few too. :)

So here's to those who wait for the right one...
Cheers!
May the wait be not too long...
 Ferruginous
Joined: 5/12/2008
Msg: 242
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 5:53:43 AM
Post 370 makes a pretty broad, and stupid, generalization.

Men who have never been married or had kids tend to be more selfish because they are used to being on their own.
Is the man, who has never had kids, more selfish, or less understanding, than the guy who's abandoned his own wife and kids?


Perhaps some men, who've never had kids, may be selfish, or may not be understanding of a mother's commitment to her kids.
But, perhaps many of these men are just guys who've never had kids yet because they've never met the right person. It doesn't mean that they're not clever enough to understand a woman's parenting responsibilities.

I'd like to think that some of the guys, over 30 with no kids, are likely more understanding and responsible than the people who were having kids at the age of 18.
 cuddles 2005
Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 244
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Posted: 8/26/2008 6:26:46 AM
Hi
I'm now 43 and have never been married and have no children. And starting to get worried that I to coin a phrase "Missed the boat" which makes me think that i won't say all but most women look for the younger guys and stay clear of us older ones.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
Msg: 247
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Posted: 8/26/2008 1:00:56 PM
Yep, there are still hopeless romantics. Those are the types of people who haven't given up hope. Bottom line I guess is: feel free to be leery of people over 30 who are not married...
There's people who are determined to think the worst of others.
But don't wonder why you keep bumbling around with the same revolving cast in the drama called your life.
We 30 plus people who patiently wait will eventually find each other and pair up.
To the "leery" people, good luck with dating.

 exilr8
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 250
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Posted: 10/7/2008 10:06:48 AM
Based on my experience yes. Plus it doesn't help to be nice AND shy. I'm screwed.
 mcopado
Joined: 10/25/2006
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Posted: 10/7/2008 12:01:04 PM
The women who are leery are fools..plain and simple.

I'm kind of stunned to hear that there are people out there who actually
think there's something wrong with me becasue I am over 40 and single an
childless. There's actually another thread on here that accuses me and
guys like me of being selfish simply because I happen to now be 40 and
never been married.

Let's see, maybe I could have been married a couple of years ago, but I
needed to put my new career and my life on hold for a year and a half to
care for my elderly parents who both became I'll at the same time, then
I lost my father, and need to make sure my 82 year old mother could
function without her husband of 65 years..Yeah I guess that's selfish...

Maybe I could have gotten married in the 6 years prior to that but
suddenly after working in a career since I was 16, I had a "calling" and
ended up (kicking and screaming mind you) to devote 4 years to going to
graduate school, so I could help my fellow man...yeah I guess that's
selfish...

Maybe I could have gotten married in my early 30's, but let's see I was
"working on myself" doing all sorts of personal growth stuff, so I could
be a better human being...to potentially be a great partner to someone,
and an even better father than my father was to me, because he came from
a time where men didn't necessarily show affection, especially to their
male children because they wanted them to be tough, and I didn't want to
be that kind of parent/husband when I did find the right person to share
my life with...yeah I guess that was selfish of me..

Hmm maybe I could have gotten married when I was in my 20's, yeah that
would have been a great time, when I was struggling financially, and was
basically an arrogant and immature tiwt who didn't know anything about
life, and was barely a few years out on my own..hmm that's a great time
to get married eh? A better time to be a parent too eh?

Getting married when we're "young and dumb" as opposed to when we've
learned a a few things about life, the universe, how to be a partner is
"unselfish?" Or the reason the divorce rates are so high, and there's so
many people in there 30's and 40's on here (and in society) who are
listed as seperated or divorced???


Now that doesn't mean I haven't had relationships...I was engaged once
when I was young and dumb, and again about 5 years ago, neither of those
worked for various and complicated reason. I've also had a couple long
term relationships, where we realized that we weren't "it" for each
other and parted ways, and countless other dates and periods of dating
women for a short period on the quest for finding the right one...

There's no shame in being single....Our lives are complicated. I'd
rather be single and relatively happy than with the wrong one and be
miserable...I've been there way too many times. The only difference is,
that I didn't jump into anything...I'm looking for a rest of my life
partner, I only want to be married once. I'm glad I found out before
hand that it wasn't going to work, with whoever it was....that way I
won't be bitter and judgemental like many of the people who start
threads like this.


It took me nearly 40 years to finally love and accept myself, to feel comfortable in my own skin, worts and all...I did a LOT of personal work to get to this space, and went through a lot of pain in the interim...But it's gotten me to the point where I know enough not to drag my Baggage into a relationship...and how to treat someone with love, honor, and respect...

Haven't you heard that we can't truly love another if we don't love and accept ourselves? That doesn't happen over night, or in your 20's...or 30's often either...

 phishkev
Joined: 9/19/2008
Msg: 252
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are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 10/8/2008 12:46:58 PM
I've never been married or have children and I'm over 30-I would think that my lack of "baggage" would be somewhat appealing...oh, well...sigh...
 adan 2007
Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 254
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 11/10/2008 12:54:34 PM
you really look awesome xxxx
 puredublin
Joined: 10/30/2008
Msg: 255
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Posted: 11/10/2008 2:39:34 PM
Thanks for posting this question desrt dude,i was curious too.Like yourself felt very similar,i am 42 (young 42)single ,never married because i travelled for 15 years,did a lot of triathlon and marathon running so i was very selfish as i enjoyed my travelling time,now i am back in Dublin and getting into the dating scene as i have done what i wanted to do,hope that doesnt come across as being too selfish,just never met the woman i wanted to settle with.Now i can say i can give a relationship the attention and not be distracted by my running.Being more mature now means i can be aware of the needs of future partners than i was say ten years ago.
 babiluvz30
Joined: 6/25/2008
Msg: 259
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Posted: 11/11/2008 4:49:23 PM
hi, well my name is michelle i have 4 kids and i have never been married..so dont feel bad i am 31....
 Scrappinbee
Joined: 9/9/2008
Msg: 265
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Posted: 1/12/2009 8:16:16 PM
I will be 36 next month and I have never been married.. I think we live in a world now where we can live out our dreams first then get married if we want later in life. it's not that I wouldn't want to be married but I like you just haven't found that person I want to be with forever
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 275
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/15/2009 12:30:06 AM
I am also 38, but I am divorced. I accept guys for who they are, but I am becoming leery of the ones 0ver 30, never married.

See, the ones I know still never moved out of Mom's house. They have no sense of responsibility.
 shawndw2105
Joined: 10/7/2008
Msg: 279
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/27/2009 12:35:52 PM
Obviously u r dating the wrong guys....
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 280
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Posted: 1/30/2009 10:29:37 PM

But I honestly think that a significant number of the never married guys are just patiently waiting to be "caught" by the right woman.

*raises hand*
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
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Posted: 2/11/2009 12:05:16 PM

...then I think I'm being judgemental and I'll meet/date the guy.

Whew! For a second there I didn't think there was going to be a happy ending.


Usually the "lots of baggage"/"issues" seems to be the predominant thing

Which means you two would seem to have lots in common.
So what was the problem again?
 PETEYQ
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 290
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Posted: 3/19/2009 3:55:17 PM
.....40 and never even came close to being married, mostly my job took me all over so establishing a relationship was difficult at best because i have to pick up and move every so often. Now that i'm settled in one spot looking to "be" with someone but most women my age group are married or they want to marry for practical reasons i.e. someone to take care of them rather than for feelings of love etc. "sigh" but i'm still remaining positive that it will happen in it's time
 LookininWi
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 291
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 3/29/2009 2:59:39 PM
Hey over here!
I'm 40 never maried and no kids.
 Pitch Blease
Joined: 3/4/2009
Msg: 292
are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 3/29/2009 3:15:54 PM
Some of us women are in the same boat but are not looking to get married or have a litter of kids either. I've never had the desire for either. Don't you know after you get married, you never want to have sex and then you die? I'll take my chances being single.
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