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 blue_eyes_blue_skies
Joined: 7/14/2008
Msg: 303
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I have them in my car... just in case
I think most man do!!!

I don't know if anyone posted this little tidbit yet as I just happened upon this thread BUT.........

It is not safe to use condoms that have been sitting in your car!!!!! The heat breaks down the latex. Duh! Only keep condoms in a cool, dry place until you go out. Then put it in your pocket or where ever and keep them out of your wallet, again, the heat. If someone complains that they rip, it's because they have been improperly cared for, not because someone thinks they have a big johnson. Puleez, have you seen how big regular size condoms get? They may be uncomfortable on big guys but they won't rip.
 Dr. John A. Zoidberg
Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 304
What is it with
Posted: 10/4/2008 9:30:50 AM
Easy scenario. While youre dating, use the Troj`s. When you are in a serious, committed relationship where you can trust each other completely, get tests, and decide if you want to use something else when your tests (should!!) come back clean.

Or if you are both virgins. (yeah, riiiight)

-T
 TakeMeTheWayIAm
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 305
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 10/4/2008 10:59:47 AM

JenJen1976: "OK iam very frusterated, why would a women never hear ...sorry we cant have sex as i have no condoms??? men seem to think bareback is ok even though they have no clue of your oast, they assume its cool cause they say (FAMOUS LINE)---> "dont worry i wont cum in you"
So okay buddy does this make it safe, **** NO, Im talking even after a month of dating u still dont really know a person & if u descide to get frisky why ASSUME no condoms is a good thing? Like fuk i dont know where u have been !!! sorry men but this is rather annoying especially cause it happens over n over arent u guys worried about any risks???"


Why is it his job to bring the condoms? If you think it is then that's a double-standard.

Personally, I'm tired of buying a new box of condoms and watching them (one or two at a time) rapidly deteriorate in my pocket over time. I then throw them out and put a new one in my pocket, just in case someone thinks it might be a good idea to have sex.

Think about it: if you're a guy you always think that sex would be good. That's 365 days of the year. And you, the woman, might honestly be open to the idea of having sex, what?, 12 times per year. So you expect us to bear the burden of baby-prevention and STD-prevention because you don't want to, presumably.

Stop complaining and just go buy condoms. It's not that we aren't worried about the risks, it's more like putting that condom in our pockets 365 days of the year starts to make us feel like we have no control over whether or not we have sex. And the first day you stop putting that condom in your pocket *then* that's when some girl like you starts chatting us up. If anything, a condom in your pocket sends out some invisible force field that prevents women from talking to you.
 sbry5150
Joined: 11/24/2008
Msg: 306
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What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 2:38:13 PM
With the female condom on the market, Women really have no excuse not to have a supply of female condoms on hand and to use them. You have complete control over whether or not you practice "safe sex". Just install the female condom before actual intercourse starts.

If a woman does not like the feel of them or the fit of the female condom-welcome to a mans world. If installing the female condom kills the moment for you-welcome to a mans world. Women now have complete control over whether or not they have "safe sex".

Sure the female condoms cost quite a bit more than a high quality male condom, but that is no excuse for a woman not to have a couple around and ready to go.

So a woman's male sex partner does not want to wear one, you can circumvent the whole debate and drama and pull out your own condoms. After the first time, you can tell the guy-next time you bring and wear a condom or there will be no more sex. If it is going to be a long term relationship, perhaps you could establish a a 50/50 arrangment-he wears the condom 50 % of the time and she wears the condom 50% of the time.

I would love to see the look on a womans face when she asks her male lover, do have a condom--there will be no sex unless you have and use a condom. Then he pulls out the box containing the female condom and says--here you go. Sure this scenario is likely to never happen, but it would be fun to see what the woman does and how she reacts.
 liftinand lovin
Joined: 1/9/2009
Msg: 307
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 2:50:25 PM
scooter trojan does make a xxl magnum I know I buy them. also it is about making sure the woman is wet enough trust me I know I have broken some condoms and it doesn't help that I'm pierced but I still use condoms if it does break that is not my fault and I will put a new one on.
 CHUCKY70
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 308
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Posted: 2/12/2009 4:00:08 PM
I "ALWAYS" use a condom & come prepared all the time.I would question her if she didn't want me to use 1.I've made it 38 years w/o an STD & I'm gonna die that way.Condoms aren't that expensive,"cheapasses"! cheaper than death & STD cures.I hope you like my 2 cents:D
 Asphalt_Cowboy6
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 309
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 4:29:08 PM
Wow!! unprotected sex is so stupid. I wouldnt even dream of it in this day and age. I think I would have to date a woman for a long time before I would trust unprotected sex. I have been cut and cant knockem up but the risks out there are way scarier than a child. wrap it
 tantocoed
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 310
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 7:54:18 PM
My sister once said:
"No glove, no love! No protection, no affection!"
Bottom line, in this economy, I'd rather spend a few bucks on condoms versus hundreds of thousands of dollars over time for a child.
I cannot fathom having been a parent earlier in life. I'm not a dad now, nor do I plan to be. Those who do give birth, unmarried, at younger ages... God bless them.
 Confident247
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 311
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:19:57 PM
Op,

I have always had alot of friends of all races asian, mexican, viatnamese, blacks and whites. But most of my whites friends do not use condoms an when i ask them why they give me the same two reasons.
#1 Because they hate buying condoms because it's embarrassing to them
#2 Because they like they way it feel with out a condom

I have only had unprotected sex once and i was engaged with her at the time. With so many std's and unplanned pregnacies out there i am amazed how many people have unprotected sex with stranger after stranger and how many women that let it happen. I have had a few women that wanted unprotected sex but it isn't worth the risk.
 Palifornia562
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 312
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:40:25 PM
I would never have sex without a condom....any woman that tells me she doesn't mind I don't have a condom is not someone I want to be with.
 rcwiz
Joined: 2/7/2009
Msg: 313
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Posted: 2/12/2009 8:50:19 PM
Here's my take on Condoms.

1. They are necessary.
2. If your alergic to latex then get the other kind they are more sensitive anyway.
3. Don't store them in your car as heat deteriates the latex and causes the lubricant to leak out. also if you have your insurance papers in the same place as the condoms and a female cop pulls you over ... awkward.

Also there are other ways to contract an STD and condoms are not the end all be all, but they are a first line of defence.

ok that's my 4 cents worth. you know inflation and all
 notwow
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 314
What is it with
Posted: 2/12/2009 9:00:01 PM

have to disagree there my x partner was extremely well endowed n despite buying xl size in condoms they still broke on a regular basis and although this may not be normal it can and does happen


With my last GF we agreed condoms until both of our tests came back. Hated the condoms... we had trouble putting them on, and yes, the XL are really not all they say they are. Sex sure was a lot better without them.
 worldclassman
Joined: 2/7/2009
Msg: 315
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 10:40:32 PM
When we got a boner we tend to think with the wrong head. After we bust a nut then our reasoning comes back and we're like "DOH!!!"

 lazythekid
Joined: 6/7/2005
Msg: 316
What is it with
Posted: 2/12/2009 10:42:29 PM
speaking from my own experence only , sex has always been better when i could feel it .
 edvis1
Joined: 12/15/2008
Msg: 317
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Posted: 2/13/2009 9:46:43 PM
I have no problems with condoms. I'd rather let it happen naturally thatn have to do the pull out masturbation shit anyday.
 edvis1
Joined: 12/15/2008
Msg: 318
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Posted: 2/13/2009 9:48:52 PM

When we got a boner we tend to think with the wrong head. After we bust a nut then our reasoning comes back and we're like "DOH!!!"


And 'busting a nut' for most guys is the typical porno star jerk off technique to end the deed.
 wildhoneygirl
Joined: 5/17/2008
Msg: 319
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 3/13/2009 11:13:21 AM
Hello there:

It is so incredibly shocking that so many people don't value their own life or anyone else's life. In the year 2005, I had priviledge to care for a woman who was dying from AIDS. She had weighed around 200lbs prior to contracting this horrible disease. After five short years of humiliation and ridicule, she died in a small nursing home at the age of 38 years young and she weighed approximately 75lbs. When I first met her, she was a walking skeleton. She had been about 5'9'' or 5'10'' but now she was a little hunched over as if she were always tired. I was told that she was once so beautiful. The only thing I saw was a wilted rose. She was dried up and I did not know that she was about to die, but I believe she knew. One day I had to take care of her. I doubled my gloves and put a smock on top of my scrubs. I had to clean her and her bed. It was a horrible thing to see. Her back and back side were covered with bed sores. She was so small it felt as if I were caring for a fragile child. I remembering asking her why had she not called anyone for help. She had a call light. She only had to lightly push a button. Her bed was completely soiled and had to be clean and clean linen placesd on the bed. Once I finished this magnanimous task, I asked her again as I lay her back in her bed, "Why didn't you put on your light for help?" and she simply responded,"Because I knew no body would come anyway." I looked in her eyes and the only thing I saw there was dispair. She was tired. She was tired of everything. A couple of weeks later, I overheard a member of the office crew call her a nasty slut as she walked by. My heart broke into a million pieces. I cried. I could not believe that anyone could be so bold and make this woman suffer anymore than she already was. This sweet soul went to visit her family for thanksgiving and when christmas came around, she refused her visit with her family. She stopped eating, was placed on hospice and 2 weeks later, a couple of days before christmas, she was gone.

This happened nearly 4 years ago. I still cry when I think about it. There are so many people who are so lucky. Each one of you playing Russian roulette is so lucky, but I can tell you that one day your luck will run out. When it does, if you have read this story and did not change your ways, you will hate yourself for not learning from someone else's mistake. Dying from AIDS is probably the worst way that I have seen so many pass away. It is a disease that kills you first and then leaves a shell of you to suffer. It is a cruel horrible disease and all it needs is for someone to be stupid enough to let it in and then it takes over you and everything about you.
 mandakay
Joined: 3/4/2009
Msg: 320
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:45:45 AM
condoms ALWAYS. pregnancy is one of the worst STDs there is.
 LonestarStar
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 321
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:50:09 AM

condoms ALWAYS. pregnancy is one of the worst STDs there is.


Oh my god, I know. I caught pregnancy TWICE and no matter what I do, I can't get it to go away. They say a steady dose of tequila and Xanax for the next 18 years can minimize the symptoms, though...
 tayl0rd
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 322
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:51:10 AM
Yep! KIDS is a slow, painful death!
 goodone4ya
Joined: 10/12/2004
Msg: 323
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Posted: 3/13/2009 12:06:59 PM
That is a very sad read wild. Aids is such a touchy subject-most people are afraid to even be around someone with it-hence her not wanting to see family or be around anyone.

I recently began trying to convert my life into a holistic one-everything natural. In my past i would get into ltr and after a while stop wearing em. After alot of reading and online surfing theres more than just pregnancy and std's that people have to worry about when it comes to sex. Yeast does more damage than alot of people know about. Someone you have sex with-or even kiss opened mouth can have and it can alter everything going on inside u. Women dont have to have a yeast infection to pass it onto their partners. We all produce it-but theres the gd kind and the ugly kind. The ugly kind can spread into all our vital organs-and even turn into parasites. Most people reading my post might not agree with what im saying-or think that its far fetched-but i know its true. When i was in my late teens-i drank a whole lot of beer-even with dinner sometimes-lol. I didnt work out that much and could eat a loaf of bread by myself in a day. I was in a long term relationship and wasnt seeing anyone else-she was on birth control and we would do it without condoms. The first year everything was fine, the 2nd year she got multiple yeast infections. At the time i was young and naive and i figured she was sleeping around and thats the reason she was gettin em. After my research i know it wasnt that-it was my eating habits-the drinking-those thongs and her birth control that played an important part of her gettin em back to back like that. Today if i get involved with someone-me being intimate with em wont be a problem at all-protection will always be handy-even for oral sex. I know im clean cuz i get reg checkups-but knowing what i know now-we all have gd and bad bacteria-when joining together-kissing open mouth-and having sex with no protection-we're sharing all of eachother-the gd and the bad even if theres no std's present. You really have to know someone in and out to go there-and that takes time-even then-people slip up wether its diet-or having sex with someone out of the heat of the moment without protection. Im just not crossin that boundary unless im trying to have babies-and even then i'd still be extra careful-id go as far as paying all her bills-and shackling her to the bed post-and only feeding her salads-lol. In reality though people need to be aware of what they're doing in everything they do-sex isnt something u should hand out like panthlet-ur giving a part of urself to someone else-people need to learn to take the time to inspect eachothers habits before the actual sex happens. You wanna share an intimate moment with eachother upon first meeting eachother-get involved in using ur hands to get eachother off-if ya cant use ur mouth with condoms and dams u shouldnt even try to have sex-just my opinion
 goodone4ya
Joined: 10/12/2004
Msg: 324
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Posted: 3/13/2009 12:18:10 PM
I also find that i last longer with condoms on also-its like a giant****ring or something-lol with the benefits of knowing nothing inside her is gonna float into my body. Sex is mental to many focus on the physical feeling of it-i always tell my friends there no such thing is bad kitty unless its infested with stds or stanks. If thats the case ya shouldnt be pokin it-other than that sex is what both people make out of it. Anyone can get off-its sharing an experience with someone else and blowing the socks off the person ur laying down with is what really makes it what it is. You dont have to be hung like an elephant or as tight as u were when ya hymen was still in tact.Its about appreciation-imagination-and patience-mixed with some rythem.
 hirpit
Joined: 2/27/2009
Msg: 325
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 3/13/2009 12:32:01 PM
I am a man and I have no problem telling a woman "Sorry I can't, I don't have condoms", I have been known to say that.

Yes the sex feels so much better without one but the down side is not worth the risk. I am 33 years old, no kids, no STDs (knock on wood). First thing my parents told me about the birds and the bees was use protection. Also as someone mentioned it is a lot more relaxing to know you are covered, gives you the piece of mind.

Back in college, I was seeing this girl for a while (6 mos) and we were not using a condom. I was going to break up with her and she told me she was pregnant and she said we couldnt break up and yada yada. Turns out, she was lying to me to keep me around (some major issues with her) but that scare was enough for me not to ever do a thing like that.

Also I did get around a lot awhile back and it would have been a lot safer for me to play Russian roulette with a loaded gun than not using a condoms.
 OjosAzules777
Joined: 1/23/2009
Msg: 326
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Posted: 3/13/2009 3:33:11 PM
I've never met ONE woman who thought I was a manwhore for having condoms.
 islandprincessnikkie
Joined: 9/20/2008
Msg: 327
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 3/13/2009 4:25:52 PM
OP: Great post. I agree with you 100 percent
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