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 regalrose
Joined: 8/28/2007
Msg: 297
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What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!Page 10 of 24    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24)
Well, just a lil' info for ya clockworkboy and those like ya....you can look up a list of all std's and find that not all give symptoms....and when you ask to be tested, they usually (at least in my area) only test for the most common and AIDS....the rest? well, you could be a carrier and not even KNOW, so don't be so sure you are so clean! Go get tested and ask to be tested for those less common. You might be lucky, or you might just find you aren't as clean as ya thought ya were!
 Kliewer_Stunts
Joined: 10/13/2007
Msg: 298
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 1:28:22 AM
I have two simple rules that I adbide by, everything else goes!

Condom is a must, and I'll never finish inside a girl. Mix the two together and you've got a fool proof plan! Besides it's more fun to get a little messy when things are at their peak anyways.
 The Ace in the Hole
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 299
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/21/2008 6:47:05 AM
Gottalovebbws, I am completely on your side here. I refuse to have sex without a condom unless I am in a serious relationship with the person and we have discussed and agreed to have another child. That, my friends, isn't happening ever again, so I''m investing in Lifestyles Corp. and Latex Ltd. and will wear a rubber until my vasectomy is done and the waiting period is up, and even then I'll likely wear one after for the most part unless I'm in a really serious relationship. But most likley it'll stay on as a safety net if she's not on the pill/patch/shot then, or maybe by then the male oral contraceptive will be available! I have walked away from sex bc either the condom broke or it she had an old one (I keep good tabs on mine) or neither of us had one period. And in the case of where a girl will insist I don't use it I am DEFINITELY done. If I was in a relationship with this person I could hear them out first before saying UH NO! LOL But if its' someone I'm just dating, or maybe even a first or second date, I'm going to get upset bc like you said they do not know where I've been and I don't know what's been inside them! And the fact that someone is willing to take the risk of getting pregnant with someone they don't even know scares the hell out of me!

Another point I'd like to make is people keep mentioning the life span of a condom and they fear using them bc they are not reliable if they are expired. I only buy the 12 packs just in case, even if I'm having a LOT of sex unless I'm in a serious relationship, because you never know when you might hit a dry spell or break up with your current gf/bf. At least if you are in a committed relationship you can bank on using up a 48 pack, hopefully in short order! But if you can't use up a 12-pack, or heck even a 3-pack before the expiry date perhaps you need to take a step back and consider your sex life! Maybe you don't like sex or it's not high on your priorities and if it happens it happens but otherwise meh. I just grabbed the condom I keep in my jacket here and checked the expiry date. The expiry on it is 11/2011. That's 4 years from now! If you don't use up the condoms you bought in four years why are you holding on to them?! Give them to people who will use them! I have some worries about using condoms from other people too, as one poster mentioned he fears holes being poked in them. This is why I always bring my own. I don't think women are malicious in general, but I'm sure there are some out there that want to trap a man. They are probably very few in numbers, but the fear is still there. I'm sure there are guys that have done the same thing too!
 healthconscious
Joined: 7/8/2007
Msg: 300
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/28/2008 5:27:41 PM

Guys you do not know where she has been, and if she gives you sex on the first night, Get your head out of the cloud, she gives it to everyone else --


while that is true of some, I would appreciate you not painting us all with the same brush. Maybe the girl married her high school sweetheart and 20 years later and a divorce, she needs to let loose for a bit. Maybe she wanted to break a dry spell of 3, 5, 10 years, whatever. Maybe...there's lots of other reasons. What about the fact that if he's willing to do it with the girl on the first night, then who did he do it with last night? And, did he wear a condom last night or did he think that he's invincible, went bareback, because he thinks he's special and won't get anything?

The thread here is about why men don't want to wear condoms and not about girls that will do it on the first night. In general, it's men that have an easier time with one night stands than women (noticed I said in general). In general, it's men that think of sex more often than women, but in general, it seems that the gender that thinks of it more often and wants to do it more often, doesn't seem to "THINK" of putting a condom on and has to be reminded, even when they are right there, at an arm's reach.

Although the responsibility should be on both, it is interesting that the brunt of the responsibility seems to fall on the female for insisting to wear a condom for protection. ( did we set the precedence for ourselves with birth control?) And, why? It appears because he "doesn't like it", or "he can't feel anything". But, then, I wonder what guy would own up to saying, "I have a death wish", or, "I'm not responsible, but just a big schmuck"? That's not to say that there are women that are doing the same, and it's irrelevant about who should be providing the condoms, because again, the thread is about "Men N freaking condoms". (although a thread can always be started on the other topics, if they don't exist already)

It's not only about who was with who the night before. As many have pointed out, there are many STD's that can go completely undetected. There are many more STD's nowadays than there has ever been, and gone are the days when all we had to worry about was a pregnancy. (I miss the seventies, too). To me, it's a complete turnoff to hear that someone I am/was attracted to does not take responsibility for his own health by protecting himself.

Unless I'm in a committed, monogamous relationship, I am going to be responsible and insist that condoms are a must.
 seattlerain11
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 301
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/28/2008 5:59:13 PM

hey top draw night table and two in the console of my truck never leave home with out them.


Hey Desireu35,

I don't mean to poke holes in your plans, so-to-speak, but "in the console of my truck" is a sure fire way to have condoms disintegrate as you use them. NEVER store condoms where the temperature can get over 90 degrees (32 Celsius) because the heat destroys the latex. (same goes for wallets... the pressure and heat destroy them.)

I'm in the Seattle area, and even on our mild summer days, my truck can reach WAY over 90 degrees (32 C.)

James, Port Orchard
 wondering1980
Joined: 1/18/2008
Msg: 302
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/28/2008 6:08:09 PM
i'm not a guy but hate condoms big time...well i can't afford them either cause clinics down here don't give latex free condoms out for free and with my budget theres no way i can afford to buy them either. so i have to give up on the condom factor but even before this allergy developed i hated using them

i don't feel anything while there being used so no i'm not worried about the risk like many out there arn't. i'll worry if i have to but that hasn't happened yet so its not a concern to me. mind you i won't sleep with any guy either. i have to be friends with them and get along with them before i'll even consider a kiss or hug lol. so many i have turned down because they figured just cause we hung out or went on a date that i owe them a kiss or should be putting out...why because there horny??? poor muffins thats what porn is for or barbie's lol.
 blue_eyes_blue_skies
Joined: 7/14/2008
Msg: 303
What is it with
Posted: 10/4/2008 9:10:27 AM
I have them in my car... just in case
I think most man do!!!

I don't know if anyone posted this little tidbit yet as I just happened upon this thread BUT.........

It is not safe to use condoms that have been sitting in your car!!!!! The heat breaks down the latex. Duh! Only keep condoms in a cool, dry place until you go out. Then put it in your pocket or where ever and keep them out of your wallet, again, the heat. If someone complains that they rip, it's because they have been improperly cared for, not because someone thinks they have a big johnson. Puleez, have you seen how big regular size condoms get? They may be uncomfortable on big guys but they won't rip.
 Dr. John A. Zoidberg
Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 304
What is it with
Posted: 10/4/2008 9:30:50 AM
Easy scenario. While youre dating, use the Troj`s. When you are in a serious, committed relationship where you can trust each other completely, get tests, and decide if you want to use something else when your tests (should!!) come back clean.

Or if you are both virgins. (yeah, riiiight)

-T
 TakeMeTheWayIAm
Joined: 7/19/2008
Msg: 305
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 10/4/2008 10:59:47 AM

JenJen1976: "OK iam very frusterated, why would a women never hear ...sorry we cant have sex as i have no condoms??? men seem to think bareback is ok even though they have no clue of your oast, they assume its cool cause they say (FAMOUS LINE)---> "dont worry i wont cum in you"
So okay buddy does this make it safe, **** NO, Im talking even after a month of dating u still dont really know a person & if u descide to get frisky why ASSUME no condoms is a good thing? Like fuk i dont know where u have been !!! sorry men but this is rather annoying especially cause it happens over n over arent u guys worried about any risks???"


Why is it his job to bring the condoms? If you think it is then that's a double-standard.

Personally, I'm tired of buying a new box of condoms and watching them (one or two at a time) rapidly deteriorate in my pocket over time. I then throw them out and put a new one in my pocket, just in case someone thinks it might be a good idea to have sex.

Think about it: if you're a guy you always think that sex would be good. That's 365 days of the year. And you, the woman, might honestly be open to the idea of having sex, what?, 12 times per year. So you expect us to bear the burden of baby-prevention and STD-prevention because you don't want to, presumably.

Stop complaining and just go buy condoms. It's not that we aren't worried about the risks, it's more like putting that condom in our pockets 365 days of the year starts to make us feel like we have no control over whether or not we have sex. And the first day you stop putting that condom in your pocket *then* that's when some girl like you starts chatting us up. If anything, a condom in your pocket sends out some invisible force field that prevents women from talking to you.
 sbry5150
Joined: 11/24/2008
Msg: 306
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What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 2:38:13 PM
With the female condom on the market, Women really have no excuse not to have a supply of female condoms on hand and to use them. You have complete control over whether or not you practice "safe sex". Just install the female condom before actual intercourse starts.

If a woman does not like the feel of them or the fit of the female condom-welcome to a mans world. If installing the female condom kills the moment for you-welcome to a mans world. Women now have complete control over whether or not they have "safe sex".

Sure the female condoms cost quite a bit more than a high quality male condom, but that is no excuse for a woman not to have a couple around and ready to go.

So a woman's male sex partner does not want to wear one, you can circumvent the whole debate and drama and pull out your own condoms. After the first time, you can tell the guy-next time you bring and wear a condom or there will be no more sex. If it is going to be a long term relationship, perhaps you could establish a a 50/50 arrangment-he wears the condom 50 % of the time and she wears the condom 50% of the time.

I would love to see the look on a womans face when she asks her male lover, do have a condom--there will be no sex unless you have and use a condom. Then he pulls out the box containing the female condom and says--here you go. Sure this scenario is likely to never happen, but it would be fun to see what the woman does and how she reacts.
 liftinand lovin
Joined: 1/9/2009
Msg: 307
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Posted: 2/12/2009 2:50:25 PM
scooter trojan does make a xxl magnum I know I buy them. also it is about making sure the woman is wet enough trust me I know I have broken some condoms and it doesn't help that I'm pierced but I still use condoms if it does break that is not my fault and I will put a new one on.
 CHUCKY70
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 308
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What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 4:00:08 PM
I "ALWAYS" use a condom & come prepared all the time.I would question her if she didn't want me to use 1.I've made it 38 years w/o an STD & I'm gonna die that way.Condoms aren't that expensive,"cheapasses"! cheaper than death & STD cures.I hope you like my 2 cents:D
 Asphalt_Cowboy6
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 309
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Posted: 2/12/2009 4:29:08 PM
Wow!! unprotected sex is so stupid. I wouldnt even dream of it in this day and age. I think I would have to date a woman for a long time before I would trust unprotected sex. I have been cut and cant knockem up but the risks out there are way scarier than a child. wrap it
 tantocoed
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 310
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Posted: 2/12/2009 7:54:18 PM
My sister once said:
"No glove, no love! No protection, no affection!"
Bottom line, in this economy, I'd rather spend a few bucks on condoms versus hundreds of thousands of dollars over time for a child.
I cannot fathom having been a parent earlier in life. I'm not a dad now, nor do I plan to be. Those who do give birth, unmarried, at younger ages... God bless them.
 Confident247
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 311
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:19:57 PM
Op,

I have always had alot of friends of all races asian, mexican, viatnamese, blacks and whites. But most of my whites friends do not use condoms an when i ask them why they give me the same two reasons.
#1 Because they hate buying condoms because it's embarrassing to them
#2 Because they like they way it feel with out a condom

I have only had unprotected sex once and i was engaged with her at the time. With so many std's and unplanned pregnacies out there i am amazed how many people have unprotected sex with stranger after stranger and how many women that let it happen. I have had a few women that wanted unprotected sex but it isn't worth the risk.
 Palifornia562
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 312
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Posted: 2/12/2009 8:40:25 PM
I would never have sex without a condom....any woman that tells me she doesn't mind I don't have a condom is not someone I want to be with.
 rcwiz
Joined: 2/7/2009
Msg: 313
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Posted: 2/12/2009 8:50:19 PM
Here's my take on Condoms.

1. They are necessary.
2. If your alergic to latex then get the other kind they are more sensitive anyway.
3. Don't store them in your car as heat deteriates the latex and causes the lubricant to leak out. also if you have your insurance papers in the same place as the condoms and a female cop pulls you over ... awkward.

Also there are other ways to contract an STD and condoms are not the end all be all, but they are a first line of defence.

ok that's my 4 cents worth. you know inflation and all
 notwow
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 314
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Posted: 2/12/2009 9:00:01 PM

have to disagree there my x partner was extremely well endowed n despite buying xl size in condoms they still broke on a regular basis and although this may not be normal it can and does happen


With my last GF we agreed condoms until both of our tests came back. Hated the condoms... we had trouble putting them on, and yes, the XL are really not all they say they are. Sex sure was a lot better without them.
 worldclassman
Joined: 2/7/2009
Msg: 315
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Posted: 2/12/2009 10:40:32 PM
When we got a boner we tend to think with the wrong head. After we bust a nut then our reasoning comes back and we're like "DOH!!!"

 lazythekid
Joined: 6/7/2005
Msg: 316
What is it with
Posted: 2/12/2009 10:42:29 PM
speaking from my own experence only , sex has always been better when i could feel it .
 edvis1
Joined: 12/15/2008
Msg: 317
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Posted: 2/13/2009 9:46:43 PM
I have no problems with condoms. I'd rather let it happen naturally thatn have to do the pull out masturbation shit anyday.
 edvis1
Joined: 12/15/2008
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Posted: 2/13/2009 9:48:52 PM

When we got a boner we tend to think with the wrong head. After we bust a nut then our reasoning comes back and we're like "DOH!!!"


And 'busting a nut' for most guys is the typical porno star jerk off technique to end the deed.
 wildhoneygirl
Joined: 5/17/2008
Msg: 319
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:13:21 AM
Hello there:

It is so incredibly shocking that so many people don't value their own life or anyone else's life. In the year 2005, I had priviledge to care for a woman who was dying from AIDS. She had weighed around 200lbs prior to contracting this horrible disease. After five short years of humiliation and ridicule, she died in a small nursing home at the age of 38 years young and she weighed approximately 75lbs. When I first met her, she was a walking skeleton. She had been about 5'9'' or 5'10'' but now she was a little hunched over as if she were always tired. I was told that she was once so beautiful. The only thing I saw was a wilted rose. She was dried up and I did not know that she was about to die, but I believe she knew. One day I had to take care of her. I doubled my gloves and put a smock on top of my scrubs. I had to clean her and her bed. It was a horrible thing to see. Her back and back side were covered with bed sores. She was so small it felt as if I were caring for a fragile child. I remembering asking her why had she not called anyone for help. She had a call light. She only had to lightly push a button. Her bed was completely soiled and had to be clean and clean linen placesd on the bed. Once I finished this magnanimous task, I asked her again as I lay her back in her bed, "Why didn't you put on your light for help?" and she simply responded,"Because I knew no body would come anyway." I looked in her eyes and the only thing I saw there was dispair. She was tired. She was tired of everything. A couple of weeks later, I overheard a member of the office crew call her a nasty slut as she walked by. My heart broke into a million pieces. I cried. I could not believe that anyone could be so bold and make this woman suffer anymore than she already was. This sweet soul went to visit her family for thanksgiving and when christmas came around, she refused her visit with her family. She stopped eating, was placed on hospice and 2 weeks later, a couple of days before christmas, she was gone.

This happened nearly 4 years ago. I still cry when I think about it. There are so many people who are so lucky. Each one of you playing Russian roulette is so lucky, but I can tell you that one day your luck will run out. When it does, if you have read this story and did not change your ways, you will hate yourself for not learning from someone else's mistake. Dying from AIDS is probably the worst way that I have seen so many pass away. It is a disease that kills you first and then leaves a shell of you to suffer. It is a cruel horrible disease and all it needs is for someone to be stupid enough to let it in and then it takes over you and everything about you.
 mandakay
Joined: 3/4/2009
Msg: 320
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:45:45 AM
condoms ALWAYS. pregnancy is one of the worst STDs there is.
 LonestarStar
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 321
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:50:09 AM

condoms ALWAYS. pregnancy is one of the worst STDs there is.


Oh my god, I know. I caught pregnancy TWICE and no matter what I do, I can't get it to go away. They say a steady dose of tequila and Xanax for the next 18 years can minimize the symptoms, though...
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