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 TAKEN fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 276
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What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!Page 12 of 24    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24)
Oh and also. I do carry my own because I can only use one kind without irritation. Trojan Sensitive in the purple pack I absolutely HATE all the other ones so why not come prepared. Doesn't make me a slut.
 simha
Joined: 11/15/2007
Msg: 277
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/4/2008 12:32:36 PM
condoms are good and all, if you can't wait. if you've ben dating someone for awhile and both agree condoms suck just drop in at an std clinic and make sure you're both all spic n span. No? Just a thought.
 Savory77
Joined: 8/20/2007
Msg: 278
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Posted: 1/4/2008 12:42:15 PM
Talk about lack of education. This is ridiculous to say that a person probably contracted HPV (Warts) from doing prostitutes.
Do you have any idea how common HPV is?! You are an absolute fool if you think you haven't had sex with a woman who hasn't been exposed to this.

Approximately 20 million people are currently infected with HPV. At least 50 percent of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives. By age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection. About 6.2 million Americans get a new genital HPV infection each year.


The types of HPV that infect the genital area are spread primarily through genital contact. Most HPV infections have no signs or symptoms; therefore, most infected persons are unaware they are infected, yet they can transmit the virus to a sex partner. Rarely, a pregnant woman can pass HPV to her baby during vaginal delivery. A baby that is exposed to HPV very rarely develops warts in the throat or voice box.

Most people who have a genital HPV infection do not know they are infected. The virus lives in the skin or mucous membranes and usually causes no symptoms. Some people get visible genital warts, or have pre-cancerous changes in the cervix, vulva, anus, or penis. Very rarely, HPV infection results in anal or genital cancers

Genital warts usually appear as soft, moist, pink, or flesh-colored swellings, usually in the genital area. They can be raised or flat, single or multiple, small or large, and sometimes cauliflower shaped. They can appear on the vulva, in or around the vagina or anus, on the cervix, and on the penis, scrotum, groin, or thigh. After sexual contact with an infected person, warts may appear within weeks or months, or not at all.

Genital warts are diagnosed by visual inspection. Visible genital warts can be removed by medications the patient applies, or by treatments performed by a health care provider. Some individuals choose to forego treatment to see if the warts will disappear on their own. No treatment regimen for genital warts is better than another, and no one treatment regimen is ideal for all cases.


For those who choose to be sexually active, a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship with an uninfected partner is the strategy most likely to prevent future genital HPV infections. However, it is difficult to determine whether a partner who has been sexually active in the past is currently infected

HPV infection can occur in both male and female genital areas that are covered or protected by a latex condom, as well as in areas that are not covered. While the effect of condoms in preventing HPV infection is unknown, condom use has been associated with a lower rate of cervical cancer, an HPV-associated disease.

Information taken from CDC facts about HPV. I simply googled it.
I suppose for some, ignorance truly is bliss.
NOTE that the fact is, even condoms do not prevent the spread of HPV.
 SensualAquarian
Joined: 6/2/2007
Msg: 279
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Posted: 1/4/2008 1:22:38 PM
Though I do agree with the whole idea of this thread....Use a condom, play it safe.....Not just cause you can make a baby ...But all the STD's now days....However I have to laugh, cause it seems there are plenty of self righteous people.....

Come on some of you are telling me that you haven't had a hot night and made a whoops...I am sure it has happened to the best of us at some point....So long as you go in and make it a priority to get checked afterwards and keep getting checked....Even I have had my 1 wild night or 2 in my lifetime.....And not anymore....I have 2 kids now I need to consider...But, nobody is perfect....How do you think these STD'S started in the first place....Somebody havin too good of a time....
 The Ace in the Hole
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 280
What is it with
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:41:12 PM
...somebody not being careful and packing heat! Keep condoms on you at all times and you never get in that position where you aren't with one! It only takes 20 seconds to put one on...not sure why people fumble with them. I have in the past, and if it happens in the future will do so also, walked away from an encounter bc I didn't have a condom handy. I've made the drive at 2am to the convenience store to buy them HOPING she's still in the mood when I got back. The spread of STD's has come from those who choose to live their lives rather cavalier and not protect themselves and others.
 simha
Joined: 11/15/2007
Msg: 281
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/9/2008 11:36:22 PM
why would you be having sex with someone you dont trust enough to be clean? I'm all for condoms but... really...?

"I love you baby, now wrap latex around your dong because i dont trust you" yyyyyeah....

here's how this works:
you date
you click well
a relationship builds
if you both agree you dont like condoms, you get checked together
everythings spic n span... you know the rest.

it's all about honesty. if you can't trust him/her to be honst... you probably shouldn't be sleeping with him/her.

and an arguement like "what if he/she cheats?" do married couples wear condoms? Not likely. Have married couples cheated on each other? Yep!
 can_handle
Joined: 1/14/2006
Msg: 282
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Posted: 1/10/2008 12:11:52 AM
Well I don't have any ideal as to how many dates your talking about. I do not carry them or have them.
#1 Do not intend to date a ho Going to know this person well before I have sex
#2 Can not make any more.

#3 Im not looking for sex before I know if she is the one.
#4 Found out last time worry about sex first you will worry half your life away.
 Sauder
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 283
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Posted: 1/10/2008 12:24:24 AM
I don't know *who* you are talking *about*..... my rules are simple....

1 drink and no driving for at least 4 hours. More than 1 drink, no driving that night.

2 No Jimmy, no glove, no condom = NO LOVE from me.

Perhaps you should change the *type* of *male* you go for and find a good, ole *man*, like John Wayne, only younger and alive. :D

Lots of luck!
 Sauder
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 284
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:26:51 AM
Have you ever seen sausage stuffed and well.... meat made into sausage?

If you don't want to, then you may want to find at least a *large* size to carry to.

On the down side, You will have to stop to pick the right size wrench to go on the bolt but hey.. it's better than giving pain. :D Just a friendly suggestion.
 KinkyBastard
Joined: 1/3/2008
Msg: 285
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/10/2008 3:47:09 AM
Yeah... I know they are potential life savers, but I really HATE condoms. I'll use them of course (I've never had an STD in my life and wish to maintain that record!), but damn, they always take the sting outta my tail, if you get my meaning.

They're a hassle to put on and I've always found myself losing the "moment" when I'm there struggling to stretch it on (yes stretch... Condoms don't easily "roll down" on me).

On the upside I guess, at least it discourages me (a little) from sleeping around a lot, because I know that I HAVE to use them but HATE using them. But I also think that this applies to some women too. Virtually all the women I've slept with, know that they have to use condoms, but say that the sex just isn't as good when they're used.

But bottom line. If it's a choice between getting some horrible STD verses lower quality sex... Lower quality sex (or indeed NO sex LOL!) wins hands down.
 Zero Gravity
Joined: 9/19/2007
Msg: 286
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/10/2008 4:25:23 AM
Men are not generally worried about risk without condoms for a number of reasons.

1. Sex is inherently risky.
2. Condoms are notoriously unreliable:
They break, especially after about 20 minutes of vigorous use. They are not a secure barrier even if they do not break.
3. They smell and feel terrible. Thankfully we don't have to taste them.
With condoms the woman recedes during the intimacy. Theres got to be as much sensation in ****ing a bottle of motor oil.
4. Non drug using, purely heterosexual men are not at significant risk for contracting STD's from a woman using their standard equipment.
Put simply, the risk for healthy men engaged in heterosexual activity is a fraction of what it would be for a homosexual man engaged with another homosexual man. The risk a diseased woman poses to a healthy hetero man is minimal in select activities.
5. If one wants to engage in 70's style sex with one nighters and no history evaluation you might want to consider condoms as a unreliable protection option.
It's much safer to get to know your partner, get a current blood test and then **** condomless like bunnies. Women trying to rely upon the security of condoms are living in another era, deluding themselves and obtaining little to no protection if the man they **** that night has a bisexual history.
 The Ace in the Hole
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 287
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/10/2008 7:01:49 AM
I think the use of condoms is less about protection from STI's, bc there is a fairly great chance you'll contract something if you sleep with someone who's dirty and many people who seem clean have contracted an STI too, and more about prevention of unwanted pregnancies! The most common forms of STI's are gonorrhea and herpes simplex. How many guys put a condom on and wrap it over their scrotum?! And THEN plastic wrap their entire pelvic area after BEFORE having sex?! If the condom only goes on half way you are liking having some bare skin inside her and you just contracted whatever she might have had. If you are not well endowed and the condom happens to fit right to the base you still have the risk of any sweat or fluids transferring on to your crotch and then BAM, you've got it again.

Now the pregnancy issue is so much more critical here and I don't know why guys just take the chance and hope for the best, or think that it won't happen to them. You have to ask yourself....are you prepared for a child RIGHT now? If a girl called you and said you were going to be a father and you didn't even know her how would you respond? Would you man up and support her and the child before and after the birth, or would you cower and run like a punk? Why not just use the bloody rubber and prevent it from ever happening. There is a slim to none chance that you'll still get pregnant with a condom on but it's just that....SLIM TO NONE! And the idea of these things breaking?! You either need to use them for hours and be extremely violent and get a massive handjob the girl and she has to have huge jagged nails before those things will rip. You can put your fist into one and stretch it like 3 feet and it'll bounce right back to shape! You are ramming a fleshy tube into an ultra-fleshy void that is lubed. There's not much chance it'll break, and when it does you'll feel it. The only way I can see someone having a condom break often is if they are buying no-name condoms or ones that are expired, using expired condoms or ones that have been in your wallet or heat, or if you are trying to wrap a salami in a water balloon, and if that's the case you'll likely have to quit the sex due to cramp in your penis bc it's too tight! Buy good stuff, buy the right size, and it'll be fine. But give your head a shake and use a bloody condom, unless spreading your seed is what it is you desire! If so I feel for you.

And for the record many married couples do use condoms. I did for the entire 10 years I was with my ex, with the exception of about three or four times when we were trying to get pregnant but I'm sure it happened on the first try. LOL If I left it into "gods hands" as many seem to do nowadays I would have a bloody football team by now. I'm good with my two.
 man hattan
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 288
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Posted: 1/10/2008 8:38:15 AM
Lots of women don't like condoms either. In my experience, most women expect the man to give up the condom after a few months of dating. "Don't you trust me?" is a question I've heard plenty of times. Sure, she may be on the pill. But how would I know if she forgot to take it the last three days? That's a main reason I got a vasectomy.
 Swann85
Joined: 12/3/2007
Msg: 289
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What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/10/2008 9:03:24 AM
I think in my entire life I have gotten of only twice with a condom on, but still I use them every time till well into a relationship at least 6 months, now the question I really wanted to ask is, I have gotten tested many times in my life for me its like a regular check up and so far im all clean but never once have I gotten a paper saying I was clean they just give me a card and they say if something is wrong they will call and ill have to use the number on the card to get the results from them when they do. do you have to ask special or something???
 seattlerain11
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 290
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Posted: 1/10/2008 11:46:00 AM

Non drug using, purely heterosexual men are not at significant risk for contracting STD's from a woman using their standard equipment.
Put simply, the risk for healthy men engaged in heterosexual activity is a fraction of what it would be for a homosexual man engaged with another homosexual man.


I read through this tread and rolled my eyes at a few things stated as 'fact', but...

Congratulations, ZeroGravity... you win the award for the most uneducated thing said in this entire thread.

To restate what you said: "A straight man screwing a woman is not at significant risk of contracting a STD."

Wow... just, wow.


James, Port Orchard, Washington, USA, Earth
 The Ace in the Hole
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 291
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Posted: 1/10/2008 12:49:40 PM
Swann, I'm not sure where you live or how your medical system works there, but here in Canada you can request a printout of the results. You have to pay like $15 or something for the report. If you do it with another person (ie. your girlfriend goes in with you to get tested together) they'll sit you both down upon your approval and give you the results together. I've had it done with someone once before and this is how it was done. I've always wondered how you go about asking someone to actually GET a test! There's no nice way to put it is there? Any way you slice it you are saying "sorry honey, I don't trust what you've stuck up there....and I ain't takin' any chances with you. But I trust you and I really like you as a person! I just don't trust you down there." I'd be a little insulted if a girl asked. I'd do it to reassure her but I'd be insulted nonetheless. If I got an STI, which I hope I never do, I'd be getting it treated immediately and I woudln't be having sex until I was told it was all cleared up and no chance of it lingering. If they said 6 months I'd wait 6 months. Unless it was herpes, but then I'd take the necessary precautions and make sure to inform the girl what the deal was and give her the option to say no. I noticed a girl from my city on here the other day who was looking for intimate encounters. She said she has guys coming over every day so if she doesn't email you back she apologizes but there's only so many days in a week. Then she says "oh, by the way I have herpes simplex, so if you aren't cool then don't bother messaging me". What kind of a man does it take to say "hey, cool....she's hot, but she's got the wart....but I'm down with that....I'll just lick around it!". My word some people need to give their head a shake! Unless you already HAVE herpes...then I guess you are cool. Birds of a feather SHOULD flock together in these instances!

Seattlerain, I don't know HOW I missed that quote from Zerogravity's message but thank you for pointing it out! Can we pre-deliver the Darwin Award already?! If not I say we at least get the engraving done ahead of time to ensure a speedy delivery when the time comes.
 racheljay
Joined: 12/5/2007
Msg: 292
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Posted: 1/10/2008 1:21:26 PM
Well it's definately a double standard. I hear about women who would rather NOT have sex with a condom for the different sensations alone, so it's not just men. Everyone needs to just take responsibility for their own safety. If they won't, you should.
 seattlerain11
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 293
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Posted: 1/10/2008 3:56:34 PM

I've always wondered how you go about asking someone to actually GET a test! There's no nice way to put it is there? Any way you slice it you are saying "sorry honey, I don't trust what you've stuck up there....and I ain't takin' any chances with you. But I trust you and I really like you as a person! I just don't trust you down there." I'd be a little insulted if a girl asked. I'd do it to reassure her but I'd be insulted nonetheless.


Hey Deuce,

I think it's all perspective. Why not put in on YOU, not her...: "Hey hot chick, I really want to have unprotected sex with you, but let's both get tested since you don't know where *I* have been, and honestly, you don't know where a guy in your past may have been either."

Getting tested can be a bit scary... and embarrassing, but I GUARANTEE that the health workers respect you for coming in and don't think less of you in any way whatsoever.

James, Port Orchard.
 The Ace in the Hole
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 294
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Posted: 1/10/2008 4:29:37 PM
Well James that's certainly nicer to put it that way than the way I worded it! LOL I wouldn't actually say what I said.....but one can only imagine! I still wouldn't have unprotected sex......I'm a baby machine. I'll leave that to the gambling men. I for one have rolled the dice and crapped out nearly EVERY time......luckily only the one case materialized into a child. And I woudln't trade him for anything!
 crusinB
Joined: 8/14/2007
Msg: 295
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Posted: 1/10/2008 4:46:56 PM
It;s all about personal responsibility and respect, I am of the belief having sex to early changes the dynamics of a relationship, actually sometimes it ends it...
 vaxplant
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 296
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Posted: 1/10/2008 4:59:20 PM

do married couples wear condoms?

If she can't take birth control medications for one reason or another... yes!

Otherwise, that's how babies are made (especially when it's not a good time for them to be made).
 roddw
Joined: 1/7/2008
Msg: 297
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Posted: 1/10/2008 5:03:11 PM
the op has since gotten old and died of aids as she thinks it's all up to the guy.
Why is she so pissed, buy some rubbers and shut it.
This lady may actually be a registered voter!
im in favor of natural selection but we may need to speed it up for this one.
and to all the ladies that are packin rubbers and being responsable to spontaniuos sexual encounters, 100,000,000 kisses to you all.
 stnrphilip
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 298
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/20/2008 12:46:12 AM
Well i too have something to say about all of this hype about the Condoms..lol . It is kind of childish to be only haveing sex just to calm that craving down, and especialy when one is not useing a condom. First, if you are just going for the hit-it-andforget-it thing, USE A COMDOM!!! please!. Seccond, if you are in a commited relationship with one-1 Monogamous partner, and you both have been checked and are clean. Then i can see forgetting the condoms, but..you also then have to pull out, or risk cumming in the girl, and getting her pregnant. It is really up to both partners. While Useing a Condom does drasticaly cut down on the Pregnancy and STD's, a Condom does limit the feelings, and the fun too!. I mean come on... It is rubber, and not the real thing, you know??..lol i can atest that being in a Monogamous relationship and not useing a Condom totaly makes the sex so much better for both!! but you have to be ready for what can happen from not useing a Condom..all in all it goes both ways on this topic. I say that if you are with only one partner, and both of you are willing to take the risks in not useing a Condom then go for it!! right??..i mean, there has to be pleasure right?? along with safety..
 []mephistopheles[]
Joined: 6/23/2007
Msg: 299
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/20/2008 12:53:22 AM
heres an idea then, go to the ****ing health department and pick up free condoms. they'll give you practically a whole damned box. Don't **** because a man doesn't have a condom, take some damned intiative and get some yourself for him to use if it bothers you so much
 mheath4
Joined: 7/9/2006
Msg: 300
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Posted: 1/20/2008 1:56:17 AM
Savory77

Your reference left out one important thing. There is no reliable way to test men for HPV.
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