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 rcwiz
Joined: 2/7/2009
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What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!Page 14 of 24    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24)
Here's my take on Condoms.

1. They are necessary.
2. If your alergic to latex then get the other kind they are more sensitive anyway.
3. Don't store them in your car as heat deteriates the latex and causes the lubricant to leak out. also if you have your insurance papers in the same place as the condoms and a female cop pulls you over ... awkward.

Also there are other ways to contract an STD and condoms are not the end all be all, but they are a first line of defence.

ok that's my 4 cents worth. you know inflation and all
 notwow
Joined: 6/9/2008
Msg: 327
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Posted: 2/12/2009 9:00:01 PM

have to disagree there my x partner was extremely well endowed n despite buying xl size in condoms they still broke on a regular basis and although this may not be normal it can and does happen


With my last GF we agreed condoms until both of our tests came back. Hated the condoms... we had trouble putting them on, and yes, the XL are really not all they say they are. Sex sure was a lot better without them.
 worldclassman
Joined: 2/7/2009
Msg: 328
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 2/12/2009 10:40:32 PM
When we got a boner we tend to think with the wrong head. After we bust a nut then our reasoning comes back and we're like "DOH!!!"

 lazythekid
Joined: 6/7/2005
Msg: 329
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Posted: 2/12/2009 10:42:29 PM
speaking from my own experence only , sex has always been better when i could feel it .
 edvis1
Joined: 12/15/2008
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Posted: 2/13/2009 9:46:43 PM
I have no problems with condoms. I'd rather let it happen naturally thatn have to do the pull out masturbation shit anyday.
 edvis1
Joined: 12/15/2008
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Posted: 2/13/2009 9:48:52 PM

When we got a boner we tend to think with the wrong head. After we bust a nut then our reasoning comes back and we're like "DOH!!!"


And 'busting a nut' for most guys is the typical porno star jerk off technique to end the deed.
 wildhoneygirl
Joined: 5/17/2008
Msg: 332
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 3/13/2009 11:13:21 AM
Hello there:

It is so incredibly shocking that so many people don't value their own life or anyone else's life. In the year 2005, I had priviledge to care for a woman who was dying from AIDS. She had weighed around 200lbs prior to contracting this horrible disease. After five short years of humiliation and ridicule, she died in a small nursing home at the age of 38 years young and she weighed approximately 75lbs. When I first met her, she was a walking skeleton. She had been about 5'9'' or 5'10'' but now she was a little hunched over as if she were always tired. I was told that she was once so beautiful. The only thing I saw was a wilted rose. She was dried up and I did not know that she was about to die, but I believe she knew. One day I had to take care of her. I doubled my gloves and put a smock on top of my scrubs. I had to clean her and her bed. It was a horrible thing to see. Her back and back side were covered with bed sores. She was so small it felt as if I were caring for a fragile child. I remembering asking her why had she not called anyone for help. She had a call light. She only had to lightly push a button. Her bed was completely soiled and had to be clean and clean linen placesd on the bed. Once I finished this magnanimous task, I asked her again as I lay her back in her bed, "Why didn't you put on your light for help?" and she simply responded,"Because I knew no body would come anyway." I looked in her eyes and the only thing I saw there was dispair. She was tired. She was tired of everything. A couple of weeks later, I overheard a member of the office crew call her a nasty slut as she walked by. My heart broke into a million pieces. I cried. I could not believe that anyone could be so bold and make this woman suffer anymore than she already was. This sweet soul went to visit her family for thanksgiving and when christmas came around, she refused her visit with her family. She stopped eating, was placed on hospice and 2 weeks later, a couple of days before christmas, she was gone.

This happened nearly 4 years ago. I still cry when I think about it. There are so many people who are so lucky. Each one of you playing Russian roulette is so lucky, but I can tell you that one day your luck will run out. When it does, if you have read this story and did not change your ways, you will hate yourself for not learning from someone else's mistake. Dying from AIDS is probably the worst way that I have seen so many pass away. It is a disease that kills you first and then leaves a shell of you to suffer. It is a cruel horrible disease and all it needs is for someone to be stupid enough to let it in and then it takes over you and everything about you.
 mandakay
Joined: 3/4/2009
Msg: 333
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:45:45 AM
condoms ALWAYS. pregnancy is one of the worst STDs there is.
 LonestarStar
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 334
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:50:09 AM

condoms ALWAYS. pregnancy is one of the worst STDs there is.


Oh my god, I know. I caught pregnancy TWICE and no matter what I do, I can't get it to go away. They say a steady dose of tequila and Xanax for the next 18 years can minimize the symptoms, though...
 tayl0rd
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 335
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:51:10 AM
Yep! KIDS is a slow, painful death!
 goodone4ya
Joined: 10/12/2004
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Posted: 3/13/2009 12:06:59 PM
That is a very sad read wild. Aids is such a touchy subject-most people are afraid to even be around someone with it-hence her not wanting to see family or be around anyone.

I recently began trying to convert my life into a holistic one-everything natural. In my past i would get into ltr and after a while stop wearing em. After alot of reading and online surfing theres more than just pregnancy and std's that people have to worry about when it comes to sex. Yeast does more damage than alot of people know about. Someone you have sex with-or even kiss opened mouth can have and it can alter everything going on inside u. Women dont have to have a yeast infection to pass it onto their partners. We all produce it-but theres the gd kind and the ugly kind. The ugly kind can spread into all our vital organs-and even turn into parasites. Most people reading my post might not agree with what im saying-or think that its far fetched-but i know its true. When i was in my late teens-i drank a whole lot of beer-even with dinner sometimes-lol. I didnt work out that much and could eat a loaf of bread by myself in a day. I was in a long term relationship and wasnt seeing anyone else-she was on birth control and we would do it without condoms. The first year everything was fine, the 2nd year she got multiple yeast infections. At the time i was young and naive and i figured she was sleeping around and thats the reason she was gettin em. After my research i know it wasnt that-it was my eating habits-the drinking-those thongs and her birth control that played an important part of her gettin em back to back like that. Today if i get involved with someone-me being intimate with em wont be a problem at all-protection will always be handy-even for oral sex. I know im clean cuz i get reg checkups-but knowing what i know now-we all have gd and bad bacteria-when joining together-kissing open mouth-and having sex with no protection-we're sharing all of eachother-the gd and the bad even if theres no std's present. You really have to know someone in and out to go there-and that takes time-even then-people slip up wether its diet-or having sex with someone out of the heat of the moment without protection. Im just not crossin that boundary unless im trying to have babies-and even then i'd still be extra careful-id go as far as paying all her bills-and shackling her to the bed post-and only feeding her salads-lol. In reality though people need to be aware of what they're doing in everything they do-sex isnt something u should hand out like panthlet-ur giving a part of urself to someone else-people need to learn to take the time to inspect eachothers habits before the actual sex happens. You wanna share an intimate moment with eachother upon first meeting eachother-get involved in using ur hands to get eachother off-if ya cant use ur mouth with condoms and dams u shouldnt even try to have sex-just my opinion
 guyfromsky
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 337
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 3/13/2009 12:10:49 PM
i personally find condoms more relaxing, as you can concentrate on having fun rather than thinking of cuming inside or outside,
also it gives man more time which is a bonus for a longer play, and allergy to latex is not that common as it is made up, lol
 goodone4ya
Joined: 10/12/2004
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Posted: 3/13/2009 12:18:10 PM
I also find that i last longer with condoms on also-its like a giant****ring or something-lol with the benefits of knowing nothing inside her is gonna float into my body. Sex is mental to many focus on the physical feeling of it-i always tell my friends there no such thing is bad kitty unless its infested with stds or stanks. If thats the case ya shouldnt be pokin it-other than that sex is what both people make out of it. Anyone can get off-its sharing an experience with someone else and blowing the socks off the person ur laying down with is what really makes it what it is. You dont have to be hung like an elephant or as tight as u were when ya hymen was still in tact.Its about appreciation-imagination-and patience-mixed with some rythem.
 hirpit
Joined: 2/27/2009
Msg: 339
What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 3/13/2009 12:32:01 PM
I am a man and I have no problem telling a woman "Sorry I can't, I don't have condoms", I have been known to say that.

Yes the sex feels so much better without one but the down side is not worth the risk. I am 33 years old, no kids, no STDs (knock on wood). First thing my parents told me about the birds and the bees was use protection. Also as someone mentioned it is a lot more relaxing to know you are covered, gives you the piece of mind.

Back in college, I was seeing this girl for a while (6 mos) and we were not using a condom. I was going to break up with her and she told me she was pregnant and she said we couldnt break up and yada yada. Turns out, she was lying to me to keep me around (some major issues with her) but that scare was enough for me not to ever do a thing like that.

Also I did get around a lot awhile back and it would have been a lot safer for me to play Russian roulette with a loaded gun than not using a condoms.
 OjosAzules777
Joined: 1/23/2009
Msg: 340
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Posted: 3/13/2009 3:33:11 PM
I've never met ONE woman who thought I was a manwhore for having condoms.
 islandprincessnikkie
Joined: 9/20/2008
Msg: 341
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Posted: 3/13/2009 4:25:52 PM
OP: Great post. I agree with you 100 percent
 joedick
Joined: 1/14/2009
Msg: 342
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Posted: 3/13/2009 4:31:02 PM
my x broke up with me cus i didnt wanna have sex without 1 im 19 i dont needa kid now and lol 2 weeks later she gets preg with some guy :)
 saraonagain
Joined: 2/2/2009
Msg: 343
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Posted: 3/13/2009 5:03:48 PM
I think it is true, all to often men don't want to use them... It makes me uncomfortable. They know nothing about me yet they would be willing to trust me and sleep with me anyway.. Yeah I am good I think everyone should carry around condoms in there pockets or purse. I always carry one in my purse better safe than sorry... Just my two cents. Sara
 mandakay
Joined: 3/4/2009
Msg: 344
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Posted: 3/13/2009 5:08:09 PM
If I go on a date with a guy who has kids, I make him wear one at all times. At the movies, at dinner, ect. Fertile men scare me.
 amgreggor
Joined: 2/22/2009
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Posted: 3/14/2009 4:41:28 AM

just a bit of information...you don't die from AIDS. you die from opportunistic infections that result from having an immune suppression. such as Pneumocystis carinii, cryptosporidium parvum, cyrptococcus neoformans etc.
& yes if you have unprotected sex you increase your chances of contracting AIDS or other nasty stuff. & although as one poster said there should be a home std test available...the variety of stds prevents such a thing from being possible. Some are parasitic, some are bacterial, some are viral.


Hows about MRSA a.k.a. flesh eating disease ? mmmmmm yummy!!!!!!!!
 amgreggor
Joined: 2/22/2009
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Posted: 3/14/2009 4:45:42 AM
Here is a thread on condoms and
rcwiz says the word 'inflation'


ok thats my 4 cents worth. you know inflation and all


Maybe I'm just in an odd 'Beavis and Butthead' mood tonight but that struck me as funny!!!
inflation ha!
 .Marc
Joined: 2/11/2007
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Posted: 3/14/2009 4:55:57 AM
I tend to be the kind of person that waits until they really know someone to sleep with them. (Therefore, the whole "no clue of her past" thing is eliminated.) I'm also the sort of person that knows that a condom is not just to keep pregnancy at bay... and I don't want children anyhow, so I don't play these games.

What confuses me about this subject is why women put up with this behavior. There are two solutions to this problem as I see them:
Scenario #1

Woman: Do you have a condom?
Man: Naw, but we don't need one.
Woman: Get out.

Problem solved, man learns a valuable lesson.

Scenario #2

Woman: Do you have a condom?
Man: Naw, but we don't need one.
Woman: Yes we do. *Opens third drawer from the left.* Here.

Problem solved.

The real question, I guess, is why you would put your safety in the hands of someone else. Yes, you should expect the man to take responsibility, but at the end of the day he's not the one who will have massive biological consequences if things go wrong... protecting yourself only seems sensible.
 seattlerain11
Joined: 9/17/2007
Msg: 348
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Posted: 3/15/2009 8:40:43 AM
Amgreggor said
Hows about MRSA a.k.a. flesh eating disease ? mmmmmm yummy!!!!!!!!

Um... MRSA?? Are you serious?

Unless you're performing surgery while you have sex, then getting MSRA isn't possible. Do you really think it's a STD?


Marc Said
I tend to be the kind of person that waits until they really know someone to sleep with them. (Therefore, the whole "no clue of her past" thing is eliminated.)

Do you REALLY believe that "getting to know someone" gives you some special insight into any diseases they may have, STD or otherwise? You realize that you can talk with someone for years, fall in love them, know about every one of their past sexual partners and STILL contract herpes the first time you have sex with them, right?

James, Seattle, Washington, USA, Earth
 j0e0717
Joined: 9/2/2008
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Posted: 3/15/2009 9:21:55 AM
I don't want to be an advocate for taking unnecessary risks, but if you KNEW the person with whom you were about to have sex with had an std, would you still have sex with them with a condom? Most people will say no, because lets admit it.. it's "too risky."

So now I have to wonder.. why are you putting so much faith in condoms, when, it comes down to it.. you don't really trust them to protect you? Food for thought
 GerberData
Joined: 9/30/2008
Msg: 350
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Posted: 3/15/2009 9:45:01 AM
I don't find it necessary to carry condoms. Then again, I am unlikely to pick someone up in a bar and have sex with them. Maybe the responsibility thing should start before you ask the guy if he has one!
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