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 PalpableTension
Joined: 8/20/2005
Msg: 501
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Ok this one I'm not going to leave alone. If someone comes home from work and smokes some marijuana sometimes while relaxing before bed, how is that any different than the millions of users of this site that come home from work sometimes and have a few drinks with dinner, or after dinner etc.?

There is no difference.

Also, to imply that people smoke weed so that they can avoid "the hard work of therapy to deal with your demons" opens a can of worms that I don't even wanna get into except point out the obvious fact that I seriously doubt you can properly make that broad of a generalization as to assume every last pot smoker has these problems.

Marijuana is used recreationally for all the same reasons as alcohol; it's a depressant, relaxes us, helps us wind down. It unfortunately has a certain stigmatism attatched to it which I don't think it deserves because the side effects are much less harsher on the human body.

guess i need change on a nickle now ;)
 drg1301
Joined: 12/20/2006
Msg: 502
can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers?
Posted: 2/16/2007 12:13:34 PM

Bright eyed intelligent people turn into mumbling idiots


Sounds like the effects of alcohol as well yet you drink socially.
 devilslilangel
Joined: 6/19/2006
Msg: 503
can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers?
Posted: 2/16/2007 12:14:43 PM
I myself almost never smoke pot. I did alot of it back in my earlier days, but have settled down quite a bit. When it comes to dating a guy, I would prefer a guy similar to myself. I have dated drug addicts in the past and all it did was ruin the relationship. The relationship between us centered around the drugs and I'm not having that anymore. But of a guy smokes a bowl or a joint at the end of the night before bed it doesn't bother me. But not around my kid!!! I'm a mother first and foremost.
 Harry Peter
Joined: 12/25/2006
Msg: 504
can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers?
Posted: 2/16/2007 4:21:22 PM
Remember grasshoppas, er, grass smokers, Nancy Reagan wants us to just say no to drugs. Hmm. She ever say not to hang out with druggies? Don't recall. I heart goodie goodies. Ouch. My nose just broke my monitor.

A lot of people here would love the comedian Bill Hicks. He did a lot on pot versus alcohol etc. He's dead btw. Not drug related either. Even though he did some. I might post some funny quotes later.
 Woodstar
Joined: 2/16/2006
Msg: 505
can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers?
Posted: 2/16/2007 6:30:28 PM
Gypsy...Me and My Demons are just fine thank you very much.

How are yours???

To bad "people like me" get judged by "people like you" and "those other people". Its really to bad because, we're cool about the whole affair. We are fairly well adjusted people without addictive personalities. We're not prudes. We can say "no"...or we can say "why, I'd love to!" And feel good about it either way.

The prudes judge us for partaking and the druggies and alcky's judge us for having a life.

....not.

 quadmom
Joined: 11/6/2006
Msg: 506
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Posted: 2/16/2007 6:51:41 PM
You have to realize this is not about smoker vs. non smoker. Its about what someone believes to be right and wrong. If someone who doesnt' smoke doith esn't mind dating someone who does, its because they don't think there is anything wrong with it.

Folks who are against it, generally won't date pot smokers.

I gave it up years ago, but under the right circumstances...(ie, with my man on a night we just wanna go nuts TOGETHER)hahahaha C'mon y'all, its from the earth! Haven't done it in years, but wouldn't have a problem with it in other words. I can take it or leave it, obviously. Thats the type of smokers that I can deal with being around. No "wake and bakers". Huh uh. ITA with Woodstar.

For the posters who spout off about how it lowers sperm count, kills brain cells yada yada yada..read ANY study. That is PROLONGED and HEAVY use. I don't think thats what we're talking about here. Everyone who has said they WOULD date a smoker has stated clearly that they would only date someone who smokes occasionally or in moderation.

My ex was Bob Marley's long lost white brother, and he fathered 7 kids so far. So give me a break on the sperm count thing. Do you even know how many sperm a man produces in one cycle? Most can stand to lose a few. Bahahahaha! ok ok, kidding, damn.

In other words, I don't care as long as the person isn't an idiot about it.
 Woodstar
Joined: 2/16/2006
Msg: 507
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Posted: 2/16/2007 7:41:04 PM
Thanks for the backup Quadmom. Thought I'd pop in for a private hello but I am to old to talk to you. To bad. I'm always lookin for a possible daughter in law...don't tell my son I said that
 gypsywinds
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 508
can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers?
Posted: 2/16/2007 9:47:20 PM
If someone comes home from work and smokes some marijuana sometimes while relaxing before bed, how is that any different than the millions of users of this site that come home from work sometimes and have a few drinks with dinner, or after dinner etc.?

obviously a key difference is that booze is legal and pot is not. but in terms of how it is used...i.e. to unwind- not much different. both are chemical solutions to relieve tension/ induce relaxation.

sure, in a perfect world we'd be happy all the time. but, we all know what kind of world this is. part of growing up is learning to deal with troublesome stuff. the easy way out is lighting up or pouring a drink. the hard way is navel-gazing and making changes. defensive declarations like "my life is just peachy" or "my demons are fine" don't getcha anywhere.

people keep saying that they like it because it makes them mellow or gives them a buzz. but there are thousands of other ways to get similar effects without introducing chemicals into the body. you can get a buzz or tension-relieving effects from a good massage, fantastic sex (even mediocre sex), a loving partner, spending time with a child, working out, playing with a pet, reading, working on a car... whatever. I honestly think that just working on stuff and seeking out reality-based tension relievers vs artificial ones are healthier for us.

and by the way... I'm involved with a man who partakes in both. vive la difference.
 RobLovesTo...
Joined: 5/17/2006
Msg: 509
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Posted: 2/17/2007 4:58:33 AM
I am definately ok with pot smokers.......was one myself for many years. My son and I used to embibe together, before he got into corporate and stopped! But I'm not about to change the setting on my profile, there are enough people out there looking for a way in, that do not need to be encouraged. If I get to know someone, and it is asked , I will always be honest, but at the level that most people communicate here, I don't feel it is necessary. Girls, change your setting to allow others to communicate with you, it would be fun to have some female cyber friends!
 quadmom
Joined: 11/6/2006
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Posted: 2/17/2007 5:16:31 AM
So now anyone who lights up a joint every now and then can't deal with life?

You're pigeon holing again. I'm an adult. I've been working, paying my bills and taking care of me and mine for YEARS. Its crazy to imply that EVERY person to ever get high is escaping life.

If thats the case, then every Friday night the bars are full of folks that can't deal with life.

Woodstar, did you try messaging me? Dammit, I need to change my settings. Sorry 'bout that dear.
 PalpableTension
Joined: 8/20/2005
Msg: 511
can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers?
Posted: 2/17/2007 11:26:06 AM
Either I'm very confused or every time you post it is a different person. You said:

"But self-medicating as a way of avoiding the hard work of therapy to deal with your demons is ...well.. less than admirable."

And if you only use weed for camaraderie and entertainment ... it would seem your world is quite limited."

Why then, are you involved with a man who is "less than admirable" and who's "world is quite limited?"

Methinks that being preachy and judging others is your marijuana. It seems to be what you use to help battle your demons.

You are so vehement about not dating a pot smoker that you dedicated almost an entire paragraph of your profile explaining that one should not even contact you, much less date you. You have explained about how pot smokers are basically people with so many problems that the only way they can cope is to become drug addicts.

Then you say you are dating one. Either this is just an elaborate joke, or you're a liar.

I do not think there is anything wrong with not dating someone who is a pot smoker. It is a lifestyle that some people choose not to be around, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I myself could never date a heavy drinker.

There is, however, something wrong with judging other people because their lifestyles are different from your own, especially when that lifestyle is not a particularly harmful one.

I realize that people are probably sick of hearing me talk about this, and this will be my last post on the subject. It was that last sentence of yours which made my jaw drop. It contradicted everything you previously posted in this forum and therefore made no sense.

p.s. you might want to add the fact that you are "involved" with an alcoholic drug addict to your profile, rather than making it look like you are single.
 edwardo66
Joined: 2/12/2007
Msg: 512
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Posted: 2/17/2007 2:54:43 PM
The way i look at it is that if you dont like it then dont be around it.I'm 420 friendly so if you dont like it then dont contact me.that simple.It even says on my profile i'm 420 friendly so i dont hide it so no one can say they didnt know.I try not to judge what others do,each to there own eh.its just an individual decision that everyone has to make,thats all. So keep on tokin
 drg1301
Joined: 12/20/2006
Msg: 513
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Posted: 2/17/2007 3:53:37 PM
You know I went through this entire post checking the profiles of posters who are still active and refuse to have anything to do with pot smokers. In all but just a few cases Those posters drink socially or 2-3 times a week with a few that even admit to regular. Yet the vast majority have stated killing brain cells the health hazards and even a few cases of spousal abuse( get real that wasn't the pot that was just the idiot you was with. All in all a pretty good bunch of everyday hypocrites.

There was a few cases of work related urine testing and health issues and those are understandable but at least these weren't hypocritical.
 edwardo66
Joined: 2/12/2007
Msg: 514
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Posted: 2/17/2007 8:04:09 PM
Right f**kin on.At least someone centered out all those hypocrites.Good job buddy!
 gypsywinds
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 515
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Posted: 2/18/2007 4:03:57 PM
Actually, PalpTension.... if you are going to quote- please get it right. I said that self-medicating to avoid the hard work of therapy is less than admirable. The distinction is ... people can be admirable, but still have behaviours and habits that are less so.


I do not think there is anything wrong with not dating someone who is a pot smoker. It is a lifestyle that some people choose not to be around, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I myself could never date a heavy drinker.... There is, however, something wrong with judging other people because their lifestyles are different from your own, especially when that lifestyle is not a particularly harmful one.


To give you the benefit of the doubt...you may not have meant exactly what you said in the quote above. But if you did, is it not contradictory? You feel its wrong to judge others based on a difference in lifestyle, but you don't think its judgemental to say that you'd never date someone who's lifestyle involves heavy drinking?

I'd say that the choice to be with someone who has some habits that one might not admire is an clear indication of the ability to suspend judgement. And I don't agree with your conclusion that "partakes" equals "alcoholic drug addict", by the way.

Maybe others are sick of hearing you on the subject... but I find your POV worthwhile. Just wish ya weren't so defensive about it all.
 missouri-gypsy
Joined: 7/31/2006
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Posted: 2/19/2007 11:11:29 AM
Hay there I seen Gypsy, I did not put down smokers, I did but I don't is all I said.
Also said I would rather be around smokers than drinkers
 all in 1
Joined: 11/1/2005
Msg: 517
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Posted: 2/19/2007 11:16:23 AM
I am not against someone who uses it,
but I would ultimatly prefer "no drug use" in my relationships
 Gotmail?
Joined: 7/24/2006
Msg: 518
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Posted: 2/19/2007 11:29:03 AM
WELL.........EXTREME SITUATION, BUT TRUE.

A young girl(24) I know fell for a guy who not only smoked, but sold pot. She knew it, but was never around/involved during any transactions. He got busted for selling. She fell in love with him/writes to him in prison. She cannot hear reason that she needs to move on. No, I am not saying he will not be a worthwhile person, but she is not in a really good financial spot and agood choice for a partner would be a man that is going to be able to take care of her, not the other way around. This man had 2 young children, and for him not realize the seriousness of his actions shows both stupidity and irresponsible behavior.

So..........................

To smoke or not smoke..... consider the legalities as well. They gotta buy it to smoke it, and it IS illegal.
 DriveInFan
Joined: 1/22/2007
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Posted: 2/19/2007 11:44:53 AM
I would never date a pot smoker....the simple reason is that it's against the law. I've got friends that are cops, and I would have a righteous ass kicking due to me if I was out with a pot smoker and go pulled over the cops found out she was holding.

I'm not trying to debate on whether or not it SHOULD be against the law, but the simple fact is that it IS against the law, and because of that, I don't want to be around it, or be socially linked to people who do it, and I sure as HELL don't want it in my car or my home.
 Coastergal
Joined: 7/24/2005
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Posted: 2/19/2007 11:50:19 AM
I don't really want to date someone that smokes pot all the time.

I had a roommate that used to try to get me high all the time..... she thought I was so funny when I drank... she wanted to see me high.

I've never smoked pot and I don't care if others do that's their thing.. I'd just prefer not to be around it.
 raleigh
Joined: 1/5/2007
Msg: 521
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Posted: 2/27/2007 11:13:38 PM
NADA iii -

Raleigh is totally with you. The people that say they would not lower themselves to even talk to someone who smokes pot - are uptight - inhibited - ignorant of the facts - snobbish - boors. Did I cover everybody?

Smoke'em if you got'em !

I, personally, would talk to, and yes, even be friends with, date, and have short-term/long term relationships possibly with intimate encounters.


Raleigh...
 Suelynnslovecafe
Joined: 11/13/2006
Msg: 522
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Posted: 2/28/2007 12:27:29 AM
I prefer a partner who doesn't smoke pots or use any other mind altering drugs. No alcoholics either! I think alcoholics are worse than people who smoke pots occasionally for recretation purpose. I'm quite conservative about drugs and alcohols, that's just me though.
 SaintElsewhere
Joined: 2/4/2007
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Posted: 2/28/2007 1:59:33 AM
B. Franklin "Grow the hemp plant everywhere."

Villifying pot was solely down in order to villify the counterculture.

Question: Would the Mardi Gras riots have happened if everyone was stoned instead of drunk?
 UPNorthman52
Joined: 2/7/2007
Msg: 524
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Posted: 2/28/2007 7:28:54 PM
Dime.........THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Door #1 any day !!!!!!!!!!!!!
 Solomon Kane
Joined: 5/28/2006
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Posted: 3/1/2007 12:55:54 AM
DA Leaf Rules !!!!!!!!
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