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 small*mtn*lake
Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 78
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i don't think words are going to do it anymore...... I mean the allfun is over and it's all downhill from here...... So marriages end...... surprised..... no, but then you have a choice how deep a hole you want to dig for yourself. Quit while your ahead
 sammysalt1
Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 80
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 12/29/2005 9:55:29 AM
Start by fixing what is wrong, even if she left, and she sees you turn around, and really try, and mean it. Then she might come back if she really loves you. If you can't do that. She wont be back to stay. You have to fix the problem. If you move on and get a girlfreind, she might see how fast you got over her, and always know how easy she was to replace, and that would remain in the back of her head always.
I would move on, if I were you and start dating, but not sleep with anyone, and work on what ever needs changed. If not, move on.
 sammysalt1
Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 81
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 12/29/2005 9:59:22 AM
Girls like to know they matter to you, and you would do what ever it takes to keep them, and mean it.
 Mary has Leggs
Joined: 12/12/2005
Msg: 83
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 12/29/2005 4:04:41 PM
She walked out on you and the kids??? Get yourself a lawyer!!!!!!!
Better shop around for a new personality also. Forget dating, your life belongs to the kids, be a father and a provider.
It might be good if you hold down the name calling in the future. You have burned your bridges MOVE ON.
 [ploklo
Joined: 3/23/2005
Msg: 84
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 1/4/2006 1:23:25 PM
sounds to me like a frmale is going out of her way to make a man fell lil and like he needs to beg her back.well i think you need to show her ass the boot and move on with you like.
 EagleEric
Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 92
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 4/18/2008 6:52:13 AM
Women will put up with abuse for a long time, but when they decide they're done, they're done. She's done with you pal, and you had better get used to it.

The Eagle
 akmusic
Joined: 1/27/2008
Msg: 93
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 4/18/2008 9:30:26 AM
If you really want her back, and I mean really want her back, agree with her. Tell her that she is right on why she left, she will feel validated and than back off and do nothing. Right now you are on opposing sides, she is pissed at you, she has told you that you did this and that and you never listened. By agreeing with her you are coming over to her side, now you just changed the dynamics. Don't tell her your sorry, stop apologizing you had your chances in the past, no show her. Agree with her take her side, and watch her open up, then if you really want to keep your marriage go seek counseling so that you figure out how to communicate effectively. Relationships cannot run on auto-pilot they need constant care and time. Even if things are great initially there is no guarantee that they will stay that way, needs change and so should people.
 Patrick45015
Joined: 1/30/2008
Msg: 94
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What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 8/9/2011 11:49:51 AM
This is about SIX YEARS OLD! What's the point of acting like the op just posted this
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 95
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 8/9/2011 1:18:13 PM

This is about SIX YEARS OLD! What's the point of acting like the op just posted this


Obviously everyone is paying close attention.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 96
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 8/11/2011 8:55:03 AM
I too noticed that the OT was back in 2005-and that the last post before the spate of fresh responses was like 3&1/2 yrs ago.
I did not read all 12 pages when I saw how old the topic was.
However, there is some relevance here because it's a situation that does arise in marriages and serious relationships...verbal abuse,emotional cruelty,and then the abuser boo-hooing because the SO exited the scene.
What struck me( and I admit I have not read all 12 pages for further dirt- oops,I mean DETAILS!), is that apparently the wife left the family home, even leaving behind her children. This makes me think that this verbal abuse/accusations/head games must have been pretty damn bad!
I think the only answer here is that the abandoned abusive spouse needs to get professional help. And that is for FUTURE interaction-if the children are in his custody, one has to be concerned with the verbal abusiveness being turned on the children. As far as "bringing my wife back home"- I think that ship has sailed and its' name was Titanic. She probably hasn't an ounce of love, respect, trust or confidence left in the OP,and returning to the marriage would feel like an exercise in long distance eggshell-walking. Who in their right mind would want to live like that?
Oddly enough, one of the classic elements of an abusive relationship is that the abuser DOES love their partner, and is so afraid of losing them that they try to undercut their partners' self-esteem, isolate them so that they have no escape, and continually accuse of cheating,because the ABUSER has no self-esteem and believes that the partner leaving is always an eminent threat. And the only way the abuser sees to prevent that is hypervigilance and continuous attempts to cripple the abusee emotionally.

I think it's probably a damn good thing that the woman left-I can't help but wonder if she didn't ( rightly so!) have concerns about the OP becoming PHYSICALLY abusive.

There are no words to be used or said that will bring the wife of this topic back home. She has fled a situation that she felt threatened her well-being and maybe even her safety.
Cindy O
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 97
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What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 8/12/2011 2:45:56 PM
Probably a carryover from the other thread with something similar happening.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 98
What words can i use or say to bring my wife back home
Posted: 8/21/2011 8:18:57 PM
OP- (having left the house) what words can you say or use???

I think your wife is full up with the words out of your mouth.

I cannot imagine she'd even wanna hear your ugly voice.


what makes people act like this?
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