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 Fight Naked
Joined: 7/11/2008
Msg: 76
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Some can hardly afford to date let alone travel back and forth the way gas is so high and to fly is also costly. Had you thought about that?
 bsg789
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 77
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 9/2/2008 10:42:55 AM
I think 75 miles is a realistic requirement. A person would have to spend a lot time and money just traveling to see the other person. I'm not interested in relocating. However I also agree that there should be some other mileage options such as 50 or 100.
 carrela
Joined: 11/13/2007
Msg: 78
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 9/2/2008 3:29:44 PM

I tell you why!!, because not everyone is lucky like you and lives in a city!!...when your nearest City is 50 miles away, you have no choice than to look a bit further away!!...and bite the "travelling" bullet....think yourself lucky you don't have to!.


Before cities were as populous, people dated. People in small towns and rural communities also dated. They found spouses and the likes. Having said that, people in cities can be just as single or lonely and unable to find a decent date than those in small towns and rural communities.
 degostyle
Joined: 2/24/2008
Msg: 79
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 9/2/2008 4:06:58 PM
Now a days you have to be a little less demanding on the distance. Even if it doesnt work out you may learn something from it but not just that, why would you want to pass up a shot at love, regardless distance? Ill tell you one thing, Im just waiting to give my heart out again and I dont care if she lives in bumb fujed egypt, Ill go to the ends of the earth for the love of my life
 StealingPrinceCharming
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 80
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:32:38 PM
Within 75 miles is good for short term romance. Today they met, and tomorrow they can meet again. They want to go to bed together asap; otherwise, they get apart soon.
 Chocolatebrowne
Joined: 1/19/2006
Msg: 82
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 12:01:25 AM
Gas is expensive, and time is precious.....
 katt_411
Joined: 3/22/2008
Msg: 83
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 3:39:50 AM
It's easier to relocate for love when one is younger. I did ... to a different country altogether. Now, I don't want to change the life I have in the name of love. Not that we can control every aspect of this; it may happen despite .. love is messy (in a good way I suppose) but I'd rather it did not and he lived next door. Yeah .... I'd prefer that boy .. lol.

:)
 DirtyOldManInTraining
Joined: 9/17/2008
Msg: 84
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:10:45 AM
Sheep live inside a box and can't see outside of their little box.

To these sheep, 76 miles is a deal breaker.

Would you REALLY be interested in someone that couldn't think outside of the box?

I know that I wouldn't.

Here's some food for thought.

Me, listed in Indiana, came across an old friend on here, from where I grew up. California.

Dear old friend had the 75 mile thingy selected.

And yet, I was able to send first contact without creating a new profile. How'd I do that?

The 75 mile barrier is only a barrier to the unimaginative!

Besides, LADIES!!!!!

Do you want a guy that is cheap when it comes to you??

If he's willing to put forth the extra effort, for you, why not be open to it??
 MeereKat
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 85
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:56:50 AM
The reason that 99 of 100 long distance relationships don't work out .. is ..
Someone isn't giving the other a Decent chance to get acquainted....
...because of "DISTANCE'...!!!
They *SLAM* the door before finding out the _1_st thing about them..!!
 StealingPrinceCharming
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 86
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 8:40:11 AM

...99 of 100 long distance relationships don't work out...

Because they don't feel much special for each other. If one can have his or her life with everyone else, why does the one need to look for someone from a long distance?
 DirtyOldManInTraining
Joined: 9/17/2008
Msg: 87
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 11:49:31 AM
long distance means that you're willing and capable of going the distance.
 dragonhunter2
Joined: 9/24/2007
Msg: 88
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Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 12:10:51 PM
dang ............I get like.......none most the time
 justme1201
Joined: 7/22/2007
Msg: 89
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 12:23:06 PM
I've done the long distance thing. Doesn't work for me. No matter how many IMs, phone calls and emails are exchanged, and occasional visits, you still need to know that person day-to-day to see if you will "fit into" each other's lifestyles. That takes time even when a person is only 15 minutes away.

I don't want a weekend relationship, I want to date someone I can call when I've had a bad day and say,"hey, let's meet after work for a drink." Is that so horrible? Does that mean I'm not living "outside the box?" It's just a personal choice.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 90
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Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 12:29:36 PM
I rather see my guy regularly. 75 Miles for me would mean weekends only.
 StealingPrinceCharming
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 91
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 4:09:18 PM
I don't care about the long distance. The most important thing is if being crazy about someone special wherever he is.
 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 92
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 5:17:48 PM
Yes, and when I slip into a phone booth and spin around really fast, I can fly!!
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 93
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 5:46:33 PM

99 TIMES OUT OF 100..THE LONG-DISTANCE THINGYS NEVER WORK..

Distance isn't about geography. It's about the heart. He may not live in my house, but he certainly resides where I am.
 curiouscat604
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 94
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:00:03 PM
good point. changing settings now :)
 DirtyOldManInTraining
Joined: 9/17/2008
Msg: 95
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:25:47 PM
I once had a relationship where I had to drive at least 1 1/2 hours, one way to see her.

I did it every day after work.

The drive sucked, but I'd be thinking about her the whole time, which made it worthwhile.

And I can't help but think that she was just a bit more appreciative of my extra effort.
 StealingPrinceCharming
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 96
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:42:11 PM

Distance isn't about geography. It's about the heart. He may not live in my house, but he certainly resides where I am

Well said!
 veryordinary
Joined: 9/9/2008
Msg: 97
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 8:47:22 PM
If I kept my limit within 75 miles of where I live, I would never meet anyone because there is no one. There is only a handful of men on any of these dating sites where I live and most are a no go.
 countrymanisgentle
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 98
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 10/10/2008 11:06:31 PM
I don't think anyone with ALL of the long distance scope and details to be considered is just rip-roaring crazy about driving, driving, driving, all the time to see their special someone.

But as many of the comments were stating, and I totally agree, what if the females where I live from my immediate location to say 85 miles out WON'T EVEN GIVE ME THE SMALLEST CHANCE, the time of day? What do you do? ALL say they hate the bars/nightclubs. You've tried friends, family, where you work, church, etc. Do you give up??? When you want to be with someone seriously, and you don't like living and being alone ALL THE TIME, what do you do? What should one do to meet someone???

I have found only ONE option: increase my search area, reach out further, and be prepared to drive, drive, drive!
 sparklinhdgal
Joined: 12/11/2008
Msg: 99
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 1/18/2009 6:43:50 AM
I would love to be able to travel to see my guy. The only time it is an issue is when its snowy and slick out. Safety comes first.
 mountdore
Joined: 2/14/2008
Msg: 100
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 1/18/2009 8:59:38 AM
Choosing the 75 mile (120 km) limit does make sense, as the extra distance becomes an important factor pretty quickly. Time, fuel, phone charges all increase as the distance between friends increases.

Of course, folks living in a city have the benefit of a large POF pond, and the downside of limiting distant folks from contacting them is lessened. The 75 mile thing affects rural folks more because their POF ponds are smaller. On the other hand, we can also suffer the illusion that talent from afar is better than that from our backyard. It takes time and POF is just one of the many ways to meet new people.
 Luckygohappy68
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 101
Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 1/18/2009 10:16:30 AM
The reason I have the 75 mile barrier is the fact that I know that long-distance relationship don't work.

I have been in a couple of them and I know from my own experience.

I tried recently to date someone living some 80 miles from me. She was not very decided about the relationship thing, and I realized that it is not worth burning the gas to pursue a relationship that far away. I do not know how to set things right when the woman lives in next apartment, why would I think it would work so far?

What can I say? Even someone living 35-40 miles away may be too far. I was seeing someone living at that distance and it was hard even like that.

Probably I would feel very well around someone living in the range of 20 miles...
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