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 mcbobly
Joined: 8/28/2005
Msg: 10
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More often than not they do end up ruining a relationship after time. As much as it is a fantasy for most, me included, I would never follow through with it. I'd rather just keep it a fanatsy that will forever be unfulfilled, and that's ok.
 drambuie62
Joined: 11/21/2007
Msg: 11
threesomes: do they ruin relationships?
Posted: 12/23/2007 7:11:29 AM
No! at least certainly not by themselves. Insecurity and dishonesty (which are interrelated of course) do some damage. I have enjoyed an open relationship. The times we spent exploring our sexuality together in whatever group environment we chose was wonderful and only served us up images of pleasure. It was the "separate" playing that wounded our relationship (but didn't destroy it). It was selfishness that destroyed it (non sexual).
 idkkitty
Joined: 6/22/2007
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Posted: 1/20/2008 9:26:16 PM
truely this situation has to be open for all involved--if its all in fun then the situation can last a long time..if you start your relationship as a 3 some then it may be a great situation for all involved the experience can be of great pleasure...take it as an experiencing moment in your life....if something developes then discuss it with all involved...I think that you could have a great 3some relationship if your all friends and have fun and enjoy each other---thats the key to success
 dsleeth
Joined: 12/30/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 2/26/2008 2:19:41 PM
Well, if you are ok with the fact that you don't satisfy your spouse any more...
 dsleeth
Joined: 12/30/2007
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Posted: 2/26/2008 2:20:21 PM
I don't think it's about jealousy as much as it's about knowing that you no longer totally satisfy your partner.
 UrAlternative
Joined: 4/5/2005
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Posted: 2/27/2008 1:24:38 AM
lets just put it this way, if youre not secure with your relationship to begin with, you shouldnt endeavor into threesome, foursomes or moresomes... you have to have AMAZING communication with your partner, meaning no secrets and have a good understanding of what the other person wants

now that being said, in my experience, no threesomes dont ruin relationships...
 Blonde_charm
Joined: 9/18/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 2/27/2008 4:29:03 AM
First of all.... its completely dependent on that particular relationship. To wave a wand and say it ruins ALL relationships can't or isn't accurate.

Second, all these people referring to Dr. Drew and whatnot... religion is a form of belief, monogomy is a form of belief (we are created to enjoy sex, other life forms may mate for life out of security... not pleasure) so its subjective.

I do believe there are things you need to be concious of. Communication is key, making sure that there are no resentments, and that it works for the couple in question as well as the third. I have been the third a number of times with great success.

I am in an open relationship thats not typical, but after 9 years we are more in love with each other than ever. Do I recommend it??? NO WAY!!!! You have to be so secure that it won't adversely affect your primary relationship.
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