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 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 263
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your lucky; if your in a committed relationship you shouldn't even have a profile. There are plenty of women who have boyfriends and even husbands that contact me and are looking for a little cyber fun or even in person.
 VaFishnetstockings4u
Joined: 9/3/2006
Msg: 264
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Posted: 4/27/2008 5:47:29 AM
It's A Matter Of Trust & How Committed You Are

I would not give her my password , that is yours and if she trust and loves you she
will understand and accept your decision on this matter. If she is having trusting
issues with just a simple password and making demands already she will have it
on many things.

But as someone said if you are in a good healthy relationship have
this lovely girl friend why are both you on here still ?

If you are committed and love
this woman don't let a simple password come between the two of you.

It's your
choice as to what you want being here on POF
and giving up your password or proving
to your girlfriend that she can trust you that you are committed to her .

Another thing
if she has trust issues then something has happened before
to make her want to ask you for your password.

Yes many are dishonest online but not all ,
and there are also men that are married
and have girlfriends in a committed relationship too.

That are on here for just alittle afternoon delight
or some discrete fun
so it's just not the women on here lets
not lay the blame on the sexs it's all not just one sex.

If you love this woman hon , you will do what you feel is best
to maintain the relationship
take a look at her trusting issues.

Perhaps you two come to a happy medium on this matter follow
your heart and do what
you feel and know is the right thing to do about your password.

Is she going to want to know what your password is on other things
like your bank account and anything
else that she is going to make a demand on ?

You see my point at what I'm getting at is,
if she can't handle you being on here and asking to see your password
she does not trust you but it's not your fault it's hers .

Trust is a two way thing. well you have tried
to re assure her that she has nothing to worry about it
and you've gone out of your way for her.

You have a few choices.

Give up the password , or close your account or come to an agreement;
or tell her no, that she has to trust you and leave it at that .

Only you can decide what is important and matters the most to you !

It's a matter of trust and how committed you are to her and also I see a red
flag that she has issues of trust and also making simple demands .

Prehaps
ask her why ?
Then do what you feel is best to stay in the relationship.

Good luck in this matter hope it comes ,
to a happy medium for you both
true love is hard to come by ,if you have it hang onto it
once it's gone it's very hard to get back
you have a good thing with this woman ,
so do what you think is right!

All the best thanks for sharing this post Brenny
 Iamshay
Joined: 3/14/2008
Msg: 265
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/29/2008 8:35:26 AM
Very middle ground, caring sharing solution Birdy! Nice! Clearly there are issues of trust. If you care about her, and the strength of the relationship, do what is necessarry to make it better. I always say, turn the tables. If you are doing something that if the tables were turned might feel uncomfortable if the other person were doing the same...you either shouldnt be doing it, or you should look for another fish!
Peace
 musicianfriend
Joined: 7/23/2007
Msg: 269
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:37:05 AM
Whats the big deal....Give it to her. I think the internet makes it so easy to meet others.....She has an investment of time in you. She has the right to know if her world is possibly getting taken away from her.

GIVE HER THE PASSWORD IF YOU HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE.
 .Selena.
Joined: 9/3/2007
Msg: 270
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:11:56 PM
3 yrs later, I wonder if he gave her the password.
 Looking4OCMan
Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 274
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 10/12/2008 11:48:11 AM
If you have a girlfriend and you are in a manogamous relationship
then their is no need to be on POF? You shouldn't be. This is a sight for people
that want to meet someone special. If you have someone special and it is upsetting
her then you should delete your profile. Why rock the boat, unless you like to
make her feel insecure. I went through this with a boyfriend, these type of men
are not worth it.
 robfish
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 275
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 10/12/2008 3:48:13 PM
I think she has every right to feel insecure and the fact that you're not willing to give her your password makes it even worse. Instead of writing a three paragraph essay of what I think about this i'll keep it simple >>> POF Forums or your girlfriend?? Make your choice. Sure, the forums can be entertaining but why anyone would put their relationship on the line by keeping their profile active on a dating site is beyond me.

The whole point of being here is to find someone special, you have and now you won't leave. If you don't do something about this soon the trust issues will ruin the relationship......but hey, at least you still have the forums right??
 acitalriwt sixela
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 277
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:12:19 PM

POF Forums or your girlfriend?? Make your choice. Sure, the forums can be entertaining but why anyone would put their relationship on the line by keeping their profile active on a dating site is beyond me.


A choise between POF forum and type of person who is so insecure and untrusting is easy for me.
 jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 278
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:31:56 PM
No. plain and simple No.
 beniandthejets
Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 279
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 10/12/2008 4:48:43 PM
If you have a girlfriend and it is exclusive, GET OFF A FREAKIN' DATING SITE!!!
 piscesangel
Joined: 9/6/2007
Msg: 281
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/14/2008 8:45:58 AM
Why would either of you have an account if you are already in a relationship. Sounds to me like some people want to have their cake and eat it too...
 acitalriwt sixela
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 283
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Posted: 11/14/2008 9:07:38 AM


When I'm in a relationship, I'm not going to be upto no good. So I have no problem letting her have a look-see. And if she still feel uncomfortable about me being in a place like this......then I'll simply close the account and find something else to do.


If he does not trust me and is worry so much of what I do on the internet, we have bigger problem than whatever I am do on the internet.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 285
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Posted: 11/14/2008 10:11:37 AM
i think that privacy and respect is important, she should have allowed you both
 acitalriwt sixela
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 287
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Posted: 11/14/2008 2:21:04 PM

Alexy: I would agree, in the case of a matured relationship. But, a young and fresh relationship wouldn't and shouldn't have complete and total trust.


Okie, but we must draw a line, no? You refuse to give password, my line is different. I am open to answer simple question of am I dateing from this site, but offer proof because he can not believe my words is not what I am willing to do.

I enjoy the forum here and many other thing online, and should not be force to give it up only because he can not accept my answer. Even in new relationship, if he can not trust my words, there is little future.
 acitalriwt sixela
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 288
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 11/15/2008 2:51:41 AM

BTW, I notice that your written English is getting better. Good job!


Also, thank you very much. I have good days and bad. :)
 gonzosgirl
Joined: 7/21/2010
Msg: 291
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Posted: 7/7/2011 6:19:01 PM
if you haven't anything to hide show it to her...I gave my bf all of my passwords right up front..he did not have to ask me..trust is earned not just given....
 gypsyfyre
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 292
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 7/7/2011 7:33:38 PM
It's not fair that she is testing you this way .. don't give her your password. She's just looking for a battle.

You are entitled to your privacy and she needs to suck it up and grow up and choose to either trust you , or not.

Good Luck
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 293
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Posted: 7/8/2011 9:22:26 AM
if she is so curious about what goes on here, go make some popcorn, she can sit on my lap as I go through the boards; panties optional ;)
this was actually a fun game that she liked to play. (off another site that I frequent)
oooh what about her ?!?! she is sexy why didnt you go for her ?!
and she always had the cutest thrust when she teased about it
as if there could be another competitor - sheeesh.
it was a home version of 'would you ever' where the points are big, and the final score is for all the marbles.
 johnnyj218
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 294
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 7/8/2011 10:26:33 AM
Well being that his profile is gone, I think we know what happened lol.
 dapo2
Joined: 8/19/2010
Msg: 295
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 8/21/2011 4:26:47 PM
WHAT YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND? What are u doing here?
 geoffonpof1
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 296
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 8/21/2011 7:01:44 PM
She has a trust issue with you being on this site, even with what you have told her she wants to see the emails and the replies for her own eyes.
If you have nothing from her then there is no issue.
 JL67
Joined: 3/19/2010
Msg: 297
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 8/22/2011 3:17:41 AM
My question for you ....is WHY if you consider her your "girlfriend"...why are you still on this site to begin with? I would think that if you have made friends that you communicate with that by now that could of been done through traditional email. I don't blame one bit for being curious to why and what you are still doing on this site.
Think about it...if the tables where reversed...how would you feel??????????
 I_4_Got
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 298
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 8/22/2011 4:33:48 PM
Heh, I wonder how long the OP of this thread kept his account active after he started this thread way back in 2005.
 faith_____
Joined: 8/19/2011
Msg: 299
Girlfriend Wants Plenty of Fish Password!
Posted: 8/22/2011 9:43:21 PM

if you have nothing to hide.. sure why the hell not. but get her's while your at it.. two can play that game.


That is the best thing you could do. I bet by asking her for her password she gonna feel like you felt. I personally would not even be on this site, if I had a boyfriend.
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