|Red Flags....Page 4 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)|
|I think a red flag would be when someone tells you he has met you....doesn't give many hints to who he is...but continues for weeks and weeks...and then tells you things about yourself...|
Posted: 1/1/2006 6:53:35 PM
|Yep...that's pretty creepy!|
Posted: 1/1/2006 7:23:11 PM
|Dano... I want you and I know where you live... I work in your building..lol LMAO... j/k Just trying to creep ya out...lol lol a simple coffee date will make me go away!lol |
Posted: 1/1/2006 8:29:12 PM
|I suspect that if ya meet someone and afterwards email/IM is blocked, and they dont return phone msgs... that's a red-flag? well.. it's definately a signal...|
Or perhaps they felt red-flagged by something...
It's a funny little virtual world we live in here...
Posted: 1/1/2006 9:19:19 PM
|seriously serious people who are serious all the time.|
Posted: 1/1/2006 9:27:27 PM
I wouldnt think that would be a serious issue...
Posted: 1/2/2006 1:42:07 AM
I would say if you meet someone and then find yourself blocked afterward, it is a definite sign...move on...People aren't always the best at communicating their feelings and perhaps it is just easier, albeit cowardly to do so....
No worries...always plenty of fish in the sea!!
Posted: 1/2/2006 2:44:40 AM
|Hey! It wasnt me you understand... it was this friend...of a friend... at band camp...|
I've heard from several people about this happening, and it amazes that someone would do that... But it's a mad mad virtual world!
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:54:26 AM
|I've heard of it too Doug...I guess it is just TOO easy for people to dismiss each other in that manner...sad, but true. |
Eli...what is all the hmmmmm-ing about???
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:55:31 AM
|Notta....best to let her vent..............|
Posted: 1/2/2006 8:58:22 AM
| She said why she is hmmm-ing...I just wanted to know if she was ok... Was hoping it wasn't a red flag!!! |
Posted: 1/2/2006 9:06:16 AM
|Hmmmmm....I haven't been on this site for long..but have to say I've seen my share of red flags...and thank goodness I've listened to them this time...I really don't want to embarass anyone on here so I should "keep my mouth shut" but you fellows know who you are...if some think that telling us that we are beautiful is going to impress us..well hun...think again...I myself, like to think that there is more to "me" than just a pretty face...besides I am not photogenic. To make a woman buy herself a cup of coffee is really cheap! (Call me old fashioned) Sheesh, don't remember how many times I've insisted on buying my own..and the offer being accepted..seriously......not sure how many people I'm going to offend with that one..I'll have to stay tuned...my advice to men and women is just be "Real" and go on your instincts!|
Posted: 1/2/2006 9:36:03 AM
|multiple profiles=red flag|
Posted: 1/2/2006 9:42:10 AM
I met a guy on here and after talking to him twice, he became obsessed with that fact that I could be talking to other guys as well that I had met off of POF. WEll duh...of course I was and he freaked on me. Said all kinds of nasty things. I won't repeat them tho.
Posted: 1/2/2006 9:49:08 AM
|Hmmmm, red flags eh. Sorta like women that have perfect finger & toe nails and no calouses. Not for me. There's work to do around the farm here. Grab the damn hammer and a pouch of mails and get at it. She always has to go to the big smoke for coffee or go shopping, when there is fence to fix. Doesn't know which end of a broom or mop goes on the floor. Spends to much time on the forums. Well, ain't I good enough for ya and yur still lookin. Hmmmmmm, grrrrrrrrrrrrr. And fix your own damn flat tire and fill the windsheild washer fulid and check the damn oil.. then come inside and fix my old blus jeans.. Geeeez, I am just to picky.|
Posted: 1/2/2006 10:17:30 AM
|ok, i think one has to listen to what the other person is saying, a person will reveal themselves in small ways.. (this is in person, i think) anyway, if you are a good listener and communicator you will be able to listen to the pros and cons of an individuals life and personality. in small ways everyone reveals themselves. |
the red flags will be as you determine as for what you are looking for in a mate,, the must haves and must nots, of course there is the obvious , like sex after coffee ummm if thats what your looking for no red flag, but if it is mentioned and that is not what your about it becomes pretty "obvious" right,,
you have to have discernment, and think you must know what your looking for no one person is perfect ,, i think...lol , any way i can write a book so ill stop , just some more food for thought... lotus lol
Posted: 1/2/2006 11:15:25 AM
Dano... I want you and I know where you live... I work in your building..lol LMAO... j/k Just trying to creep ya out...lol lol a simple coffee date will make me go away!lol
but Rae...what if I don't want ya to go away???
Posted: 1/2/2006 12:03:09 PM
|one of my personal faves was this guy i met on here and he wanted to meet for coffee....sounds ok right.....NOT......he wanted to have coffee at my place, no where else. Then he got all defensive when I said " uh, yeah,NO" and he was accussing me of not trusting him. Of course i didnt trust him. i didnt know him from a hole in the wall. |
Do I attract freaks? I am starting to think so lmao.........thats it no more men for me
Posted: 1/2/2006 12:18:33 PM
|You're female and it seems to be that there's no shortage of male freaks, so you're bound to get a few.|
Posted: 1/2/2006 12:46:46 PM
|wow thanks lol. maybe my dad is right, i should go and live in a convent|
Posted: 1/2/2006 2:09:53 PM
Sheesh, don't remember how many times I've insisted on buying my own..and the offer being accepted.
Just a thought but if you insist on buying your own coffee and he doesn't accept what does that say about his respect for your opinion. If he isn't going to listen to what you're insisting about now when you actually do want him to listen he may ignore your opinion again. If you do want a guy to by the coffee when he offers accept. If he doesn't offer well then I guess he hasn't heard of chivalry. Sounds like yet another of the 'games' that are all to familiar in dating.
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:19:01 PM
|Well I dunno...Learned the hard way if someone 'insists' on paying their own coffee/dinner/drink...don't fight it, cause it's a losing battle.|
Posted: 1/2/2006 7:43:02 PM
|Red Flags - when you meet a female aquaintance and they start telling you about the new guy in their lives and you recognize him as someone who you just met? HMMMMMMM|
Posted: 1/2/2006 10:48:30 PM
|That's more than a red flag!! that sounds like someone's gonna be boiling up a bunny soon!|