|unresponsive womenPage 3 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)|
"Well hello there. How are you? I have just come across your profile and I must say, you strike me as a very...unique individual. Love it! 11 tattoos eh? Did they hurt? I hear they can be addictive... and since you got 11 of them, I won't dispute it
Unique? That is the best compliment you can come up with? That sucks. Then you notice/talk about her tattoos. Every guy and their little sister has noticed them and asked her about them. She is sick of guys coming on to her with boring conversation like "Did those hurt?" Geeze, notice something and talk about something that no other guy would.
So you are looking for a man that is not a loser, user, cheater or beater eh? And you even rhymed with it. Now that's talent! Well, I am none of those things. Quite frankly... I'm just a very eccentric fellow looking to meet someone whom I can communicate with and who might be open-minded to meeting someone not quite like the norm (but in a good way, I think...).
Well you did this wrong too. Instead of highlighting your strength's, you highlight what you are not. That doesn't do any good. The brain doesn't accept negative commands. Then in the paragraph in general you are qualifying your self to her and coming off as insecure. Then at the end, you say she isn't quite like the norm? Why would you say that?
Well, this email is probably long enough, no doubt. Have a great day and I hope that I might hear from you sometime. Cheers
"I hope" is another insecurity indicator.
Do you have any pictures of your two cats? I like lil puppies and kittens. They can be oh so....cute in a fluffy sort of way :-)
Oh by the way, I do have better pics. I don't mind showing them to you if I might have the opportunity to get to know you. But this pic (if its the one with my shades on) is because I'm just getting used to this putting my face on the web thing. Later. "
Why are you trying to qualify yourself again with your so called better pics? If you are serious about finding someone on here, you'd have them up already.
Posted: 2/5/2006 12:40:49 PM
|SweetieGuy81, I personally have no problem talking to anyone without a picture posted. I don't require certain statistics to just talk or be friends. But, like you said, if it were someone I was planning on meeting, then yes, at that time I'd like to see a photo as I'd share mine as well. We all have our preferences, and there has to be chemistry there to start before you can go any further. Like I said about preferences, what's attractive to one person, may or may not be attractive to another. Don't you agree?|
Posted: 2/6/2006 4:04:11 PM
|Sparda are you whining again??? When are you gonna realize that your personality and penchant for calling women "broads" is just one more reason why women are smart enough to know what they don't want. |
QUIT BEING A BABY.. and you might want to think about some personality classes.. I hear they have medication for that these days too.
This is getting as old as BBW and nice guys... will ya'll just get over it... There are too many people in this world to be concerned over lack of companionship.. but you guys... if you are constantly being ignored or shot down... might want to start to question whether or not the problem is YOU
Posted: 2/6/2006 5:10:57 PM
|no response= no interest,,,,,,,, just learn to accept it and keep on truckin|
Posted: 3/6/2006 6:16:20 PM
|Ah, yet another thread started by Sparda, cleverly disguised as "gee, women sure are big ol' meanies", yet referring to women as "broads". Grow up, and realize that men do it to women as well. |
You reap what you sow
Posted: 3/7/2006 10:27:02 AM
I find it strange that women claim they are honest, and that if you want to know anything about them, just ask...when you do ask, they don't reply back.
Isn't that totally dishonest? I realize it depends on how and what you ask, but still, the underlying point still holds true.
dis·hon·est Audio pronunciation of "dishonest" ( P ) Pronunciation Key (ds-nst)
1. Disposed to lie, cheat, defraud, or deceive.
2. Resulting from or marked by a lack of honesty
Not responding to a stranger isn't being dishonest -- you might consider it rude, but unless the person clearly states in their profile that they answer absolutely everyone, it's not being dishonest.
The men on here have to realize that women receive far far far more mail than most men do. I can't speak for every female here, but I know that I have better things to do w/ my day than sit on the computer telling everyone that I'm not interested. While I do try to respond to everyone, it becomes overwhelming when you're trying to respond to ppl, and then respond to their replies. Honestly, I'd need a secretary to keep up.
So, if we don't always answer, don't assume that we're being "dishonest" or that we're hos, sluts, ****es, broads - etc. I have a small child that will ALWAYS take priority over email, and the men that can't appreciate that aren't the men I'm interested in talking w/, anyway
Posted: 3/7/2006 10:47:06 AM
ummmmmm....we don't come on here looking for popularity - you men make us popular
Posted: 3/7/2006 11:08:36 AM
well, how did you meet women before you got a computer? maybe this isn't the best venue for you
Posted: 3/8/2006 4:20:13 AM
|if there's one female for every 50 guys then there's gonna be 49 "she didn't do whatever" complainers.|
Posted: 3/9/2006 3:48:16 AM
|there's a good example with Dae's comments. When someone insulted her, she responded. Yet when the next guy supported her and even complimented her on her words, she said nothing. No acknowledgement from the nice comments. But the rude comments got acknowledgement.|
Maybe thats why so many people are rude in these forums and in emails. They know it provokes a response from people.
Posted: 3/10/2006 11:56:10 PM
|I guess some of us just prefer to be bitter.. .. dang I didn't know it was that difficult for you guys.. .. big hugs to those of you that think it is.. . I'm sure none of us women thought it was ... .. and on behalf of women everywhere I apologize !|
Posted: 3/11/2006 4:40:56 PM
|Well I dont know ladies and gents..I respond to everyone..even if its just to say thank you..or happy fishing. I takes up time and I have to admit I am behind..but I do read all of them and answer them. So if any of you have emailed me I am still working on some from March 2, but i will answer..|
Posted: 3/24/2006 1:21:59 AM
|I hate to say it, but you're right. Only rude and/or hostile comments get responses. That's why I don't send very many emails or post very many comments in the forum's. It's easy to be a jerk whether one is a man or a woman.....especially online. Being nice is difficult because 1. it makes people think you're weak, and 2. as has already been stated, nice comments don't even get acknowledged letalone a response.|
..................................sigh...........................frustrating to say the least.
Posted: 3/24/2006 2:40:34 AM
|Well yes it was nice that you took the time to write, but no one asked you to do that. Its similar to receiving a gift (especially something you didn't request or want). A gift is yours to do with as you please, as is a recevied email. |
Just because you chose to send me something doesn't mean I'm obligated (especially to some stranger) to use it, enjoy it, be grateful for it, or return any favors for it.
And a second email b*tching or trying to throw a guilttrip at me will only get you blocked.
I get enough pressure from people I DO know, let alone some text on a screen.
Posted: 3/24/2006 3:35:52 AM
|Sparda, I will only reply to guys who REALLY interest me, so what is the point of my replying to you if I do not think you could be someone who I would like to get to know. I am sure your life is busy enough without your having to read rejection emails, that list several little reasons why you are not the perfect one.|
The woman who is perfect for you WILL reply.
Posted: 3/24/2006 3:42:40 AM
|Sparda By reading the forums I got a few pointers and they helped. Change the pics and add a few more, avoid profile pics. Put long term instead of friends, did that doesn't work, for the children part put something else even prefer not say. Other than that I liked what was written. A little aside I've written about 5 or 6 emails expressing honest compliments nothing else, no reply even to that, so go figure.|
Posted: 3/31/2006 11:59:02 AM
|^^^then go in with a more pessimistic view, not expecting to be responded to. That way when you are responded to, you'll be pleasantly suprised.|
See the problem is you don't understand what its like to have dozens of emails all basically saying the same things over and over. At 1st you answer them, but after awhile it gets really more and more like work.
Its kinda like how when Superman first got shot at he probably swatted the bullets out of the way by reflex, but after awhile he just got so used to them that he just ignores them. Same analogy here: We get so used to:
"Sup lady here's my number .... holla at cha boy"
"wanna get naked?" "lets go out to dinner tomorrow (from some total stranger I know nothing about)"
"Hey lets chat, whats your AOL?"
After 1000 of those you don't bother anymore. No offense to those guys, but its boring after awhile. If ya got something to say, then cool, I'll respond, but those cheesy dime a dozen lines are boring and get nothing from me. Especially when its 9 out of 10 emails all the time.
And an autobiography isn't necessary either. Wanna response, guys. Then comment on something she mentions in her profile. Talk about some interest she has listed or the city she's from.
Posted: 3/31/2006 5:15:54 PM
|Its a free site and the only things we're obligated to do are follow the TOS of the site. Thats all we "have" to do on POF.|
Posted: 4/1/2006 10:29:33 AM
|yea i guess there are some women that dont respond, but there are alot of men out there that dont respond either. so men can take some of the blame as well.|
Posted: 4/1/2006 12:36:01 PM
|the ones who reply immediately and excited to hear from you, more than make up for the unresponsive ones. (you gotta know there are going to be some "dead fish" in the net.|
Posted: 4/1/2006 2:37:11 PM
|I wish men would do that too when I go to the trouble of writing to them. I've written to a few men who totally blew me off. One I was attracted to, and I tried it again. Still no response. It is better to let people know, then it's easier to go back to . It can be a blow to someone's ego if someone writes several emails and gets no replies in return. Even a polite, "no thanks" is better than no reply at all.|
Just my two cents' worth.
Posted: 4/1/2006 3:18:05 PM
|Dude ur a whinny ass, and not too bright a one at that. Women can see your posts as far back as 25 if they want. You writing fake posts just to look good on your profile is a little creepy. But forget about that. We outnumber (real men that is) women on this site by like 50-1. The good ones get dozens of emails a day, hundreds over a weekend. as far as I can see you don't even have a pic on ur profile, thats an automatic deletion. When I 1st joined this site I did the same thing...worked hard on an email only to have it read and deleted. I did a little whinning in the forum and got set straight on the facts, and never once did I use the term 'broad"... what a loser. Look dude I'm nothing special I have a decent pic, I worked hard on my profile to make it as honest as possible, and I get 10 or so emails a week, I don't have time to read and respond to those that don't offer a future for me. As for your email...you call that good? You need a creative writing class! Two "P.S." in a 1st email?? it's lazy and lacks style. and oh the cute lil puppies and kittens...I almost barfed! So if after you read this and if you are still looking for a 'broad" look in the yellow pages...you can call an escort a broad all day long as long as you pay! |
Posted: 4/1/2006 6:17:16 PM
|I don't see why anyone feels people are obligated to do anything on here. Thats an incredible amount of expectation from complete strangers. Your just setting yourself up for disappointment.|
Posted: 4/4/2006 11:35:53 AM
|Women are not going to be responsive to every single email that they receive... I get a lot of emails that I do not respond to because I am simply not interested. People that give me compliments I say thank you too atelast to acknowledge that they gave me a compliment and I appreciate it... But a word to the wise.... don't send poems professing your love or handing out your phone number right away.... That really turns women off or atleast it does me... And okay so you say something nice..... it doesn't mean that we are going to be intrested in you.... I can bet money on it that there are plenty of girls you are not interested in as well that email you.... we are not on here to boost our egos as one of the men responded... You give me a break.... We are on here just like you to find someone that peaks our interests and I have found a few people that have and I have talked with them... So I respond to the ones that I want to respond too.... I do have that right... So get over it!!!!!! Someone that is interested in you that you write to will write back..... just give it time... It will happen for you! You just never know. But I can tell you, I have had several men not write me back when I have emailed them so what does that say about YOU????? So please just get over it and move on........ For real!|
Posted: 4/5/2006 9:13:34 AM
|yeah thats nuts. The girls are looking too. Yeah its nice to get a response, but nothing to ruin your day over. If they don't find you interesting then its best to know that up front, rather get allow yourself to get led on.|