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|Well I dont know ladies and gents..I respond to everyone..even if its just to say thank you..or happy fishing. I takes up time and I have to admit I am behind..but I do read all of them and answer them. So if any of you have emailed me I am still working on some from March 2, but i will answer..|
Posted: 3/24/2006 1:21:59 AM
|I hate to say it, but you're right. Only rude and/or hostile comments get responses. That's why I don't send very many emails or post very many comments in the forum's. It's easy to be a jerk whether one is a man or a woman.....especially online. Being nice is difficult because 1. it makes people think you're weak, and 2. as has already been stated, nice comments don't even get acknowledged letalone a response.|
..................................sigh...........................frustrating to say the least.
Posted: 3/24/2006 2:40:34 AM
|Well yes it was nice that you took the time to write, but no one asked you to do that. Its similar to receiving a gift (especially something you didn't request or want). A gift is yours to do with as you please, as is a recevied email. |
Just because you chose to send me something doesn't mean I'm obligated (especially to some stranger) to use it, enjoy it, be grateful for it, or return any favors for it.
And a second email b*tching or trying to throw a guilttrip at me will only get you blocked.
I get enough pressure from people I DO know, let alone some text on a screen.
Posted: 3/24/2006 3:35:52 AM
|Sparda, I will only reply to guys who REALLY interest me, so what is the point of my replying to you if I do not think you could be someone who I would like to get to know. I am sure your life is busy enough without your having to read rejection emails, that list several little reasons why you are not the perfect one.|
The woman who is perfect for you WILL reply.
Posted: 3/24/2006 3:42:40 AM
|Sparda By reading the forums I got a few pointers and they helped. Change the pics and add a few more, avoid profile pics. Put long term instead of friends, did that doesn't work, for the children part put something else even prefer not say. Other than that I liked what was written. A little aside I've written about 5 or 6 emails expressing honest compliments nothing else, no reply even to that, so go figure.|
Posted: 3/31/2006 11:59:02 AM
|^^^then go in with a more pessimistic view, not expecting to be responded to. That way when you are responded to, you'll be pleasantly suprised.|
See the problem is you don't understand what its like to have dozens of emails all basically saying the same things over and over. At 1st you answer them, but after awhile it gets really more and more like work.
Its kinda like how when Superman first got shot at he probably swatted the bullets out of the way by reflex, but after awhile he just got so used to them that he just ignores them. Same analogy here: We get so used to:
"Sup lady here's my number .... holla at cha boy"
"wanna get naked?" "lets go out to dinner tomorrow (from some total stranger I know nothing about)"
"Hey lets chat, whats your AOL?"
After 1000 of those you don't bother anymore. No offense to those guys, but its boring after awhile. If ya got something to say, then cool, I'll respond, but those cheesy dime a dozen lines are boring and get nothing from me. Especially when its 9 out of 10 emails all the time.
And an autobiography isn't necessary either. Wanna response, guys. Then comment on something she mentions in her profile. Talk about some interest she has listed or the city she's from.
Posted: 3/31/2006 5:15:54 PM
|Its a free site and the only things we're obligated to do are follow the TOS of the site. Thats all we "have" to do on POF.|
Posted: 4/1/2006 10:29:33 AM
|yea i guess there are some women that dont respond, but there are alot of men out there that dont respond either. so men can take some of the blame as well.|
Posted: 4/1/2006 12:36:01 PM
|the ones who reply immediately and excited to hear from you, more than make up for the unresponsive ones. (you gotta know there are going to be some "dead fish" in the net.|
Posted: 4/1/2006 2:37:11 PM
|I wish men would do that too when I go to the trouble of writing to them. I've written to a few men who totally blew me off. One I was attracted to, and I tried it again. Still no response. It is better to let people know, then it's easier to go back to . It can be a blow to someone's ego if someone writes several emails and gets no replies in return. Even a polite, "no thanks" is better than no reply at all.|
Just my two cents' worth.
Posted: 4/1/2006 3:18:05 PM
|Dude ur a whinny ass, and not too bright a one at that. Women can see your posts as far back as 25 if they want. You writing fake posts just to look good on your profile is a little creepy. But forget about that. We outnumber (real men that is) women on this site by like 50-1. The good ones get dozens of emails a day, hundreds over a weekend. as far as I can see you don't even have a pic on ur profile, thats an automatic deletion. When I 1st joined this site I did the same thing...worked hard on an email only to have it read and deleted. I did a little whinning in the forum and got set straight on the facts, and never once did I use the term 'broad"... what a loser. Look dude I'm nothing special I have a decent pic, I worked hard on my profile to make it as honest as possible, and I get 10 or so emails a week, I don't have time to read and respond to those that don't offer a future for me. As for your email...you call that good? You need a creative writing class! Two "P.S." in a 1st email?? it's lazy and lacks style. and oh the cute lil puppies and kittens...I almost barfed! So if after you read this and if you are still looking for a 'broad" look in the yellow pages...you can call an escort a broad all day long as long as you pay! |
Posted: 4/1/2006 6:17:16 PM
|I don't see why anyone feels people are obligated to do anything on here. Thats an incredible amount of expectation from complete strangers. Your just setting yourself up for disappointment.|
Posted: 4/4/2006 11:35:53 AM
|Women are not going to be responsive to every single email that they receive... I get a lot of emails that I do not respond to because I am simply not interested. People that give me compliments I say thank you too atelast to acknowledge that they gave me a compliment and I appreciate it... But a word to the wise.... don't send poems professing your love or handing out your phone number right away.... That really turns women off or atleast it does me... And okay so you say something nice..... it doesn't mean that we are going to be intrested in you.... I can bet money on it that there are plenty of girls you are not interested in as well that email you.... we are not on here to boost our egos as one of the men responded... You give me a break.... We are on here just like you to find someone that peaks our interests and I have found a few people that have and I have talked with them... So I respond to the ones that I want to respond too.... I do have that right... So get over it!!!!!! Someone that is interested in you that you write to will write back..... just give it time... It will happen for you! You just never know. But I can tell you, I have had several men not write me back when I have emailed them so what does that say about YOU????? So please just get over it and move on........ For real!|
Posted: 4/5/2006 9:13:34 AM
|yeah thats nuts. The girls are looking too. Yeah its nice to get a response, but nothing to ruin your day over. If they don't find you interesting then its best to know that up front, rather get allow yourself to get led on.|
Posted: 4/11/2006 9:32:14 PM
|Not all of us are here to boost our egos. |
Perhaps the lady was simply not interested in his profile for whatever her reasons were and simply chose not to answer his email.
No one is under obligation to answer an email if they choose not to and people need to simply get over it and move on.
Posted: 4/12/2006 12:02:38 AM
|I agree with the Count -|
Sometimes I am overwhelmed with email. I don't get 100s - like the top 1% of ladies here...but I get 40 day n a half.
I respond to every single email with a response before either saving it or deleting it.
I have to delete emails or I end up with 15 pages of old mail.
I have to respond to every gentleman because it is common courtesy - and there have been many times where I read a man's profile and thought " I don't think so,"
then, we email and talk....and it is a wonderful new experience...so I cannot judge by the profile, unless they are going out of their way to sound unappealing-
I have only received 2 nasty emails from separate men..one was impatient..I was busy with work..and he later apologized.
The other told me I didn't give regular men like himself a chance - and that I was full of myself.....
when here I am answering all these freakin emails....so I told him to shut his trap, that I respond to everyone..and if other women are making it difficult for him to meet women on this site..then the problem is either with some ladies or him...
this lumps all women into a cheezy category, ...out of impatience and immaturity -
I do read what people post in the forums...that is another way of meeting new men.
I never ignore an email - because I would want the same courtesy.
That's me, though,
I love men.
Posted: 4/12/2006 12:38:16 AM
|I too do not get that many responses but as a fishermen I know there is another out there and I just need to tie on another hook and cast another bait. Most likely at some point I am going to get bit (yeah, I may be in to that sort of thing sometimes )|
After talking with a few women here they have told me that they get an incredible amount of email & they are sorry if they do not respond. Just think of the ratio of men to women here. I don't get a lot of email here but I do my best to respond to every email I receive even if it's just a "Thank you" email.
If you don't get a response you don't have to be bitter just retie & make another cast and remember to always respect your ocean.
Posted: 4/12/2006 6:34:07 AM
|You know OP, Just try to post a pic of yourself and maybe that may do something.|
HOWEVER, if they reject you because of it, take it back off and maybe be more informative in your profile or do some other forms of modifications. But keep the patience and the confidence on.
Best of luck to you!!!!!!!!
Posted: 4/16/2006 12:20:49 PM
|SPARDA: your eg. of messages you send ladies are great. They sound personable, you mention something in them which shows compatability and some humor as well. I must admitt the messages I send are not so witty. Congrats to you. I also see you are on 9 members fav. list so you seem to be getting some responce.......NOW THE BAD NEWS. Do the research. Read a lot of the threads. Let me put it this way. I have a friend on here who is 6'3" . He has a very similiar profile to me. He gets huge responce & even ladies responding to him that he never responed to first. WHY? ;well as xandrialayne and most ladies state they prefer Tall men. Yea, a very,very few will read your responce and consider you but that really is one in a million. There can be other reasons why a women feels you may not be compatable with her but the BIG ONE is height. It sucks, thats life, we are not going to change that anytime soon. You & I just have to work that much harder. Look at thread "short men" ; I think around page 7 a woman mentioned she dated a short guy and found it great. The guy had no big attitude and even had a personality. There is hope for us yet!!! .|
Posted: 4/16/2006 12:50:33 PM
|some reply, some dont. -makes the chase more exciting. shouldnt take it personally, we dont have cookie cutter personalities. -i always wonder about the ones who read, but dont delete the message.|
Posted: 4/21/2006 11:36:35 AM
|Good answer! I agree 100% with journeyingsoul.|
Posted: 5/27/2006 5:46:31 PM
agree with CountIlbi the first time I see a post that bothers me a bit I do and check and see what forums they have responded to or started....every one of the OP's threads come off as judgemental about women just in the thread name alone... I feel OP of this thread really has some issues.
People with negative attitudes are just too much drama. I suspect other women feel the same way.
Posted: 7/4/2007 8:37:37 PM
|Plain and simple. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Move On. You have to be confident and secure enough with who you are to just not let it bother you. If your ego needs to be constantly re-inforced what does that say about you as a person. Is it any wonder that women are unresponsive to you. Also remember there is something like 30 men to every woman on most dateing sites. Need I say more!|
Posted: 7/4/2007 8:59:31 PM
|Though I do see your point if this were actually a face to face situation, but it is not. We are on a dating website and there is a certain amount of detachment that we have to any kind of personal responsibility to it all. Even if you were in a bar, would you expect a woman to sit with you or to join you and friends because you may have bought her a drink? It really doesn't happen that way, SORRY! You have your TYPE that you are attracted to just as a woman does.. and for that matter, men don't always respond to every email I get, why? Because he isn't interested! For his own personal reasons! I respect that. Ego bruise or not that is life in the dating world.. not always pretty, not always what we expect. EXPECTATIONS USUALLY LEAD TO DISAPPOINTMENT! I agree with the previous email that said get over it and move on. There are POF out there and it is unfair to generalize about this subject anyway.|
Posted: 7/5/2007 3:29:57 AM
|If someone isn't interested for whatever reason, they may choose not to respond. If they don't think you're compatible, the reason probably doesn't matter. There are too many women with too many different reasons when you can just be looking for the ones who are interested. Don't waste any more time, emotion, or effort on the ones that obviously aren't, or you'll probably just continue becoming bitter.|
All you need to know about her is that she wasn't interested after reading your e-mail, or she would've responded. That's that.
Keep in mind, no one has to give you a chance. Getting pissed off when they don't is a waste of time.