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 five-marie
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My first husband tried to kill himself when I left him. I called the ambulance, went to the hospital. They let him out the next day. I felt a lot of guilt but didn't allow that to change my mind about being with him.
Most recent boyfriend just broke up with me again, which he did every 2 weeks, because of some perceived horrible thing I've done. He called me up and told me he was sitting in his garage with the car running, he'd had enough. My brother killed himself this way so of course I panicked.
I called the police then his sister as I wasn't sure of his exact address. She yelled at me then hung up. I later called the police and he was okay, admitted to the hospital for observation.
Both attempts made me angry. Behave like an ***hole then try to make me feel guilty for the rest of my life?
It makes me angry when someone cannot take responsibility for their own actions and the results that their actions cause.
My first husband was an alcoholic, he still is.
Boyfriend was verbally abusive, freaked out about every 2 weeks over nothing. Loved to get everyone's pity by telling them how horrible I was. I was so horrible he had to kill himself?
Broken hearts mend, it just takes time. Those who commit suicide have other issues or are trying to hurt the one who left.
Not worth it.
 five-marie
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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 9/25/2011 9:57:25 AM
My post showed my anger, this just happened last week. Sorry.
I am not without sympathy for those who commit suicide. My brother had a very unhappy life and I felt relief along with grief when he did this.
My stepbrother killed himself on Father's Day when his wife left him.
My son's best friend killed himself 2 years ago, he was 18.
A friend's husband killed himself when she told him she was leaving.
downsynzday1 you are absolutely right about what suicide does to family and friends. It's something you never get over. It is also so senseless in most cases. The heart heals, life goes on. What these people are feeling now will not be the same way they feel in a year.
Suicide breaks my heart.
 BackToTheAreaGuy
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Posted: 9/25/2011 4:01:07 PM
I hear ya... sorry if this has happend to you!!! I have been suicidel now for over 2yrs from my first attempt. The doctor and nurces actually called me a miracle. And now with my mother passing it has been even worse.... I feel its a choice and yes its a selfish one but also if you talk to the ones around you and explane you have lived your life and you are content with everything, then its your decision. LOVE is a really strong feeling and some people must have that at all times or its really hard to funtion.
 morta1ez
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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 9/26/2011 1:35:21 PM
Strange how many say that those that end their own existence are viewed as selfish, and lack the ability to take responsibility for their actions. but those same people who cry at the funeral are often the same people that helped put him in the box.

how you treat others goes along way toward making the difference, for the last 40 or so years we have been told to put ourselves first, well look at the result. Teen suicide has actually gone down over the years, suicide by middle aged males has actually gone up, can we imagine why? studies have shown married men live longer, there are many reasons for this, single males 3 times more likely to end their own life between the ages of 35 and 55 than females the same age and widowers(that lost their first wife) are 6 times more likely to take their own life within 3 years than widows.

We live in a world where its now socially acceptable to cheat, in the past cheater were looked down on and ostracized, this is nolonger the case and we have a 50% divorce rate inwhich a cheater can move on with their life without getting what they deserve.

Is it any wonder many dont wish to play this game?
 joemac356
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Posted: 10/5/2011 3:39:20 PM
I came close on two occasions to ending my life over a broken heart. My first wife left me for another guy, suddenly, and without warning. She took our two sons with her.
Is there anything in this culture that is worse for a man?

I lost a son to suicide three years ago.
He was struggling with issues that an ex-girlfriend forced onto him. She'd promised that if he ever left her, she would make his life a living hell.
She kept her promise, using the courts to her advantage.
He couldn't sleep and it was getting to him. I moved in with him and worked with him and his boss for a few months. Things were getting better (slowly), but he still struggled and was not getting the relief he needed in the form of recuperative rest.

Sleep deprivation can have many consequences and it doesn't help when one suffers deep depression.
He finally went to a doctor out of desperation. The doctor wrote him a prescription for Ambien, which is technically a hypnotic. It didn't help him to sleep.
He disappeared out the back door one Monday morning and I never saw him alive again.
It took us nearly three weeks to find him. The empty Ambien vial was in his jacket pocket.

Suicide is what happens when the ability to cope is overwhelmed by the severity of pain.

To anyone even remotely contemplating ending their life: please get the help you need.

morta1ez, please, give me a shout, Bro. I tried to message you, but your settings have me blocked.
 verygreeneyez
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Posted: 10/30/2011 10:52:03 AM

Strange how many say that those that end their own existence are viewed as selfish, and lack the ability to take responsibility for their actions. but those same people who cry at the funeral are often the same people that helped put him in the box.

I call those types of people "suicide assistants." I know at least two and I will never understand if they were crying/hurting at the funeral because they felt guilty or if somewhere in them there is some sort of soul.

We live in a world where its now socially acceptable to cheat, in the past cheater were looked down on and ostracized, this is nolonger the case and we have a 50% divorce rate inwhich a cheater can move on with their life without getting what they deserve.

Is it any wonder many dont wish to play this game?

I've never known someone that has committed suicide due to divorce, but when my son died two years ago, until autopsy results were in (6 weeks post Celebration of Life Ceremony) I assumed suicide and to this very day, I'm not convinced it was not. He'd had an accident 6 months prior and it left his right arm paralyzed. He'd been an all-state athlete and a semi-pro footballer and the loss of the arm simply destroyed parts of his life that gave his heart/mind/soul fullness. The gal he loved dearly began cheating and toying with his emotions in the most cruelest of fashions. He attempted twice prior to actually dying. His arm was repairing slowly (stretched from the spine, not torn) but his heart/soul simply were no longer what they once had been. The loss of the girlfriend, or rather, her total abusive nature towards him near the end shattered what was left of an already broken heart/body. Add an addiction to the medications needed for the injuries he sustained and his mind became more of an enemy than as assistant in recovery. There came a time when he told me to "stop trying to love me better" in the context of a conversation about death. It was then, that I knew, he had lived on his own terms as an extreme sportist and he would die on his own terms if that's what he truly wanted. It was not easy to "stop trying to love him better" but it was clear that his minds darkness combined with other factors, time was going to be short. I was lucky in that I had 3 months of honest, open, loving and at times, heart-wrenching time with him before he died. Whether suicide or "accidental" as was finally put in writing, makes no difference. He didn't have heart or will any more. He was a walking/talking shell of the young man he'd once been. Although I miss him all day, every day ~ he no longer suffers in a body he didn't understand and a heart that was simply shattered into such itsy tiny pieces that breathing in and out all day was more than he wanted to do most of the time. Selfish? Absolutely NOT. What's selfish are those who don't get that taking one's own life is very likely, at times, the least selfish thing a broken, truly broken soul/heart can do for those who are agonizing over their pain or watching them suffer. Until you've walked in shoes of the identical size, color, fit and the same flaws in those walking in those particular shoes? You'll never know what makes someone feel/act as they do.


its ridculous why wd anyone kill themselves over splitting up with someone, theres something obviously menatally wrong with a person who does that

And there's a lack of empathy/emotion in a person that would assume mental illness is the ONLY reason someone doesn't wish to live. JMO
 concertlover31
Joined: 10/9/2011
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Posted: 10/30/2011 4:35:43 PM
i think if the pain is that great and you cannot sustain it any longer then suicide is the proper thing to do.
 pansydivision101
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Posted: 11/1/2011 8:15:06 AM
um, i tried to commit suicide following a nasty break up.....i jumped off a bridge. at the time, i was so consumed in misery i didn't know what else to do. in hindsight it was a bit of a mistake, but oh well.... i survived.
 verygreeneyez
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Posted: 11/4/2011 9:40:10 PM

I'm almost 35, and it takes a long time for me to find anyone to connect with (romantically or otherwise). Yes, it's my own fault, and I've been trying to work on it. But I have nothing of any real worth right now, and at best (based on experience) a few years of painful digging to try an find another lover or close friend, much less someone that made me feel the way she did. I'm holding on for the moment, but it's pretty hard to come up with any logical answer as to why. Mostly it's just habit.
I'm toughing it out, but I really couldn't blame anyone else who feels this way for choosing otherwise.

Bless your heart for hanging on. I think we all hit that point at some time in our lives, hopefully we're still here in bodily form when we can gain enough insight to know it could happen. I recently counted the years of my adult life (since age 18) that I've actually been in a long-term relationship and I was shocked to realize that at 47, only 12 of those nearly 20 years were shared with someone other than my son. I've not felt the sting of loneliness or having experienced true romantic-heartbreak other than at age 21 and age 47. But the truth is? I've never thought of suicide either. Likely because I'm perfectly happy, maybe even happiest all alone. Like you, I'm working on things!! As for you not having anything of "real worth" at the moment? I'd differ with you on that note. You have you. And I think suicide, most often, is when the "you" is lost and can not be found anywhere in the mind's eye/heart/soul. You just keep holding on to what you have!! YOU!!! It'll all work out just fine in the end. We don't all have to have a SO, BF/GF for life to be blessed. We just need to forge ahead with even tiny steps, maybe volunteer or reach out to someone else, anything that makes you feel good about you. The connection part of life? It's tough for some of us. But just like me, I reached out to two gals here in forums after I lost my son and I now have "connection." There will come that day for you, too. JMO
 Della D
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Posted: 11/8/2011 12:48:11 PM
While I definitely believe that everybody has the right to decide for themselves in what circumstances, in/on what conditions they feel their life is worth living, I can not understand why someone would want to end their life over a broken heart.

It's not like a broken heart is a terminal illness where the person is doomed to suffer a slow and painful death. Even if it might feel that way at first for some people, it is actually NOT terminal.
 minpinz
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Posted: 11/17/2011 2:26:56 PM
I attempted it myself, serious attempt didn't tell anyone but I wanted to kill myself because I caused the break up, I pushed the man I loved into giving up on me :( I hurt him and the regret and pain I felt was enough to make me consider ending my own life. A friend caught me and had me admitted to the mental hospital where I stayed for 8 miserable days. I hated it there but I was not alone there were people in there who were just as bad off as me maybe even worse but there I was.

I still live with a broken heart to this day, theres just some things you go through in life that cannot be mended...........there will always be that mental scar, but I didn't have to attempt suicide because my body was practically already killing itself at the time. I stopped eating, I stayed in bed, I cried, I loathed myself, I thought about slitting my throat and wrists. Then come July I had a stroke that was later misdiagnosed as Multiple Slcerosis. the disease had been dormant but I let my health suffer to the point I helped the disease progress and here I am now. I got a second chance at life but this disease is eating at me. I know killing myself wasn't the answer but that was how I felt at the time. You think the one you loved wouldn't give a damn or only feel regret then. Its a terrible feeling and you just want it to end. This disease impacts me in so many ways I'm amazed I can even type and spell simple words there are some times I can't even do that. Am I still suicidal? some times, but not depressed enough to do it, just think about it and thats it.
A broken heart can kill you though............my great grandmother died of a broken heart a week before christmas. after seeing that happen I was sure it was going to happen to me and it still may.
 minpinz
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:16:06 PM
and it just might be today my illness is already affecting my lungs and im very depressed and choked up inside...........
 Railrunner
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Posted: 11/20/2011 6:17:44 PM
Tried it today. Went down to the bus terminal downtown. There's only two buses running on Sunday. As it was approaching, I jumped out in front of it.

The driver, a fellow who I know, and is also into model railroading, hit the brakes hard, and turned the wheels. Thankfully he was deadheading from the garage, and had no one on board. Missed me by a few inches.

Dealing with some pretty heavy stuff right now. Tired of being used for money or free computers and computer repair. Tired of being alone every day and night. Tired of seeing my peers settling down, starting families, buying a house, so forth.

Tired of being an unwanted spare.

I felt at that point, there was only one way out. Obviously it didn't work. I still feel alone, worthless, unloved, and so forth.

Fortunately, for the driver, he has a 2400 series bus, that has no continuious cameras on board, just a Drive Cam, which is motion (g-force) activated. Of course THAT one recorded the whole thing! But then, the person working dispatch at the garage, knows me too, and managed to "lose" that video before management could see it on Monday.

Word apparently spread quick among the people I know at the garage, got a bunch of calls from drivers making sure I am OK. Still though, I feel as low as low gets today.
 minpinz
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Posted: 11/25/2011 2:05:43 AM

One word. - Selfish.


While you think people who commit suicide are being selfish, you need to consider that a person has every right to end their own life if they choose to do so. Does it hurt others? Yes, but some people deal with feelings and emotions that can't be cured with medications or therapy. Some people just can't handle stress like others, that's why we're all made different. What one person can cope with and recover from might be something that another person sees as too painful. Is suicide really selfish if the person is suffering? Don't you think it's more selfish of someone to keep that person from what they want? Yes suicide causes a lot of heartache, but the person dealing with situations they're just not strong enough to handle. Some people are stronger than others thats just how it is. Strong people view suicide as "weak" because they're strong enough to fight the thoughts of it. Every single person has had a moment where they wish they would die. Death is an escape, the worst way out, but it is an escape. I don't support suicide nor encourage it, but I believe that if someone wants to commit it, they have that right to.

agree to disagree I really don't care.
 verygreeneyez
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Posted: 11/25/2011 9:56:15 AM
While you think people who commit suicide are being selfish, you need to consider that a person has every right to end their own life if they choose to do so. Does it hurt others? Yes, but some people deal with feelings and emotions that can't be cured with medications or therapy. Some people just can't handle stress like others, that's why we're all made different. What one person can cope with and recover from might be something that another person sees as too painful. Is suicide really selfish if the person is suffering? Don't you think it's more selfish of someone to keep that person from what they want? Yes suicide causes a lot of heartache, but the person dealing with situations they're just not strong enough to handle. Some people are stronger than others thats just how it is. Strong people view suicide as "weak" because they're strong enough to fight the thoughts of it. Every single person has had a moment where they wish they would die. Death is an escape, the worst way out, but it is an escape. I don't support suicide nor encourage it, but I believe that if someone wants to commit it, they have that right to.

agree to disagree I really don't care.

Exactly!!

My son shot himself a month ago over a girl.....I promise you, this is not an answer...never and answer....all you do is leave behind broken family and friends who will never be the same, never understand, and never be able to fill the hole in their lives where you were....when you choose this road, you can never change your mind, never know that the sun comes up tomorrow---and something better is around that road......as a mother I am devastated....and I would beg anyone thinking of this, please please please reach out to someone!!!! Please................

So sorry for your loss. I hope you find a way to peace in your heart and one day understand the why's of you son's decision. After I lost my son, I had to "surrender" to his reality rather than my own. I personally feel differently than you do ~ as my son had sought help and it simply wasn't in him to continue. (And again, my son's autopsy landed him in the "accidental" death category, but he'd attempted suicide three times in the two months prior to his death. Was it suicide? I don't know. If it wasn't? It was a sympathetic end to a suffrage I can't understand ~ but witnessed.) I had to learn to live without him, but there was a "peace" in knowing that he was no longer in wretched/wicked pain in his heart/mind/soul/body. I think for me? Putting myself out there for other Moms is what made it livable. If you can, get to therapy and support groups. Best wishes.
 MaskedNobleman
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Posted: 11/25/2011 1:05:53 PM
I use misery to drive me.

I do not use misery to define me.
 Railrunner
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Posted: 11/25/2011 7:01:28 PM
@MaskedNobleman:

After regrouping somewhat after last weekend, I am starting to think more in that direction. That was very well said.

I run my own business. I don't get a paycheck every two weeks for any specific hourly amount. After talking to some good friends this week, the going idea is to channel all negative, sad, depressed, what-have-you energy, and use it to build my computer business larger than it is.

While money does not directly make anyone truly happy, it can be used to buy the tools to make someone feel better, or closer to happy. For example, the money made from sales can buy a bunch of vintage model trains. Restoring said old trains does make me happy, seeing a locomotive run for the first time in maybe half a century or more. The feeling of saving and preserving these trains for future generations to someday enjoy (I have it planned for my trains to go to a railroad museum when my time comes), that feeling is priceless, no matter how much anyone else may not understand it.
 rfireguy
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Posted: 4/24/2012 7:30:27 PM
I broke up with a woman 3 years ago and I am very very heart broken. I cry every day and wish I wouldn't wake up sometimes.
 rfireguy
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Posted: 4/24/2012 7:32:33 PM
Who are you to call anyone a pansy
 RrEosDe
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Posted: 8/29/2012 12:22:04 AM
I haven't read all the comments. I just saw the title and wanted to reply. No one commits suicide over a broken heart. People who commit suicide have thousands of unresolved issues. The broken heart may be the last ... or the one that broke the camel's back, but certainly not the only issue. And what do I think of that person? I think I would have loved to have the opportunity to talk to them ... to beg them to get some help.
To tell them that this wasn't going to last. Tomorrow is a new day. Suicide over a broken heart ... hardly.
 DragonBits
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Posted: 8/29/2012 9:20:27 AM
I know two people who committed suicide.

One totally ruined his life over a sexual perversion, likely he was looking at prison time and even without that would never be able to get another good job. He used exhaust gas in a car.

One was married with a good life, she was going on a vacation with her husband / children, stepped in front of a train. No good reason for this, but she has chemical problems in the brain / mental disturbances and these can't be understood by those that have never had them.

I think suicide is a valid option if you have a terminal disease that is going to end your life in a painful way and only bring misery to those around you. An example of this would be Tony Scott.

I know of another that went to prison, he got out and is now happily married with children. A friend of my mother suffers from manic depressive disorder and takes lithium, which is a serious drug to take as there are side effects. But she leads a happy life.

Doing anything like suicide only over a broken heart is just foolish, and you have to be young to even contemplate thinking this way. It always gets better.
 Railrunner
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Posted: 9/4/2012 8:56:29 PM

One was married with a good life, she was going on a vacation with her husband / children, stepped in front of a train. No good reason for this, but she has chemical problems in the brain / mental disturbances and these can't be understood by those that have never had them.


For anyone thinking being hit by a train is a possible out, if it is any kind of deterrent, think of your survivors: They will very likely receive a letter from the railroad's lawyers. It will not be a letter of condolence, but rather a hefty bill. As per law, the engineer of the train that hits a person, is put out of service, drug tested and sent to counsling. Plus cleanup costs of the locomotive and track, not to mention any equipment repairs or track repairs (when a train's air brakes are thrown over into emergency, depending on brake pressure, as passenger and freight equipment use different systems, it can cause structural damage to car wheels and the rails), and also any costs associated with train delays, particularly time sensitive freight. Your survivors can receive a bill in the six to seven figures quite easily. Plus, stepping onto the track is also considered trespassing at this point.

I used to operate locomotives for a railroad museum; Every time I powered up a unit, this always crossed my mind, that if a suicidial individual were to want to be hit by a train, an operating museum would be the easiest place to do it. Running a 100 ton diesel with limited forward and left-side visibility could be a nerve wracking experience. There are enginemen that end up becoming clinically insane or depressed after such an accident, and sometimes end up taking their own life!

Was actually kind of glad to see this thread come up. Been a pretty rough past couple weeks. Not rough enough to make me think of taking my own life, but seeing what others go through, and thinking back to what it was like operating trains, and knowing the aftermath when someone uses them as a vehicle of suicide, put things in perspective. I just hope somone reads about what happens when they end it by rail, and maybe re-think and seek help.
 Iredurbio2
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Posted: 5/3/2013 8:25:07 AM
It's great that we actually have choice.Sometimes the pain is so great that The sun doesn't come up anymore
and you have to realize that it is your best option.When you get to my age and you've invested so much time and effort to try and turn your life around.Then all that time seems like it's about to be redeemed and your told that you are not even worth the effort to talk to.That's after two dates,two dates so It is really nice to have available as a pain killer.
Just don't take anyone else out with you .Trust me you are'nt going to miss anything and no one is going to miss you
God Bless yo0u all.
 BaTkins408
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Posted: 8/8/2017 7:07:16 PM
Well...I think that when your screaming your lost loves name and no one hears it seems such a long road to come back from the void
 Cowgirlwannabe1
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Posted: 8/15/2017 12:31:45 PM
for most people ...we deal with a break up in our own way
maybe go out with friends
maybe sit home eat a pint of ice cream
maybe find someone new
maybe take some time to try and figure out what went wrong
and after a period of time...we bounce back again
most of us do this
but then there are some for whatever reasons...cannot seem to bounce back
but stay down and depressed
I hope that if anyone finds themself in this position you would reach out for help
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