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 traditionalove
Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 263
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When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDSPage 19 of 19    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19)
If she choose a guy who is still living with his ex over you, she is unworthy of you. She is an idiot to choose a lover she has to sneak around with.
 NocturnalPrincess
Joined: 8/26/2006
Msg: 268
When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 1/5/2007 12:13:26 PM
I have a friend who is a 28 year-old man.

He just got "dumped" by a 27 year-old female. She was involved in an abusive marriage, and then another abusive relationship for 10 months, where the guy broke her nose.

I advised him that she is addicted to abusive relationships, and that he was guilty of being nice to her. It is a bizarre thing that happens, and this woman probably isn't even aware of her pattern. She also has 3 DUI's. Unfortunately, dysfunctions breed a lot of baggage.

My advice to you would be to step back and consider the advice that you would give a friend, because often we give good advice but do not follow it ourselves.
 Neil Levesque
Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 270
When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS
Posted: 1/10/2007 11:12:28 AM
If at first you dont succeed, try try again. But after that, just give up. theres no sense in being an idiot about it
 Mayse
Joined: 1/17/2007
Msg: 281
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Posted: 1/21/2007 6:51:46 PM
To the original poster, if you only read one message in all of this 14 pages let it be this one. Send me a private message and I 100% garantee you'll thank god you read this.
 doubleohseven
Joined: 3/7/2006
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Posted: 1/31/2007 3:19:20 AM
She sounds like the type of girl you should avoid but if you insist then try giving her some of her own medicine,
Next time you see her bring along a girlfriend or at least another woman who will say she is your girlfriend to see what her reaction is.
If she doesn´t show any feelings for you or get´s jealous then she probably is not attracted to you, she seems to like married guys that treat her bad so either treat her like her married boyfriend treats her or forget her and move on.

doubleohseven
 eduhbuhl
Joined: 7/4/2006
Msg: 288
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Posted: 1/31/2007 3:44:45 AM

her and hang out at her house. I've done so much for her that I could write a book but not once did I ever get any type of affection or anything in return and


Maybe you should write a book about it. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and for wasted time. If not affection, at least get some money back from all the effort invested in loving one-way.
 nightflight7
Joined: 8/31/2006
Msg: 289
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Posted: 1/31/2007 7:47:59 AM
sounds like someone copied an entire passage out of david d's newsletter, huh?

don't worry about it man, it's cool.
 Mayse
Joined: 1/17/2007
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Posted: 2/12/2007 12:57:29 PM
Am I the only guy on here who this has never happened to and knows how to get around it? I tell you what if I ever feel down in the dumps I just come to this forum and I feel all better. Haha just messin around guys.
 CountryByHeart
Joined: 1/20/2007
Msg: 298
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Posted: 2/16/2007 12:51:35 AM
Well I dont like the-" I cant wait until he ripps her heart out etc
Revenge.
What is it you think she has done wrong?
Shes been honest with you hasnt she?
You have helped her and been a friend to her> ; Thats nice'
Dont spoil what you have between you.
Good friends are hard to find.
If you cant cop it then move on.
Who knows .
Has it ever occured to you if you step back NICLEY she will run to you when shes recovered from a broken heart.

if you put preshure on her now you certainly wont ever stand a chance in the future.
Another thing.
You dont seem to be worried for her only angry with her.
Thats not love- or even friendship

I think she probably deserves better all round personally.

Remember- If you love something set it free - If it comes back good
If it doesnt it never was.
I think you need to search your heart and be honest with yourself
She hasnt hassled you to do thinfgs for her has she?
You have been tri[ping over yourself trying to win her heart
Your angry now becuae you cant get what you want. She ows you nothing.
Back off and maybe you might end up with the girl
Just not right now ok
Goodluck and I am sorry your sad.but better days ahead- I promise ok?
 musicnut46
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 300
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Posted: 2/16/2007 1:23:38 PM
That be my "Modus Operandi". Get to know them as well as they like as slowly as they like and eventually decide if you're gonna be just friends for now but leave the door open for more or not. You meet some women and will always just now them. Don't mean you can't hang-out and have fun and/or be there for them in whatever way necessary. That goes for "Friends" too. You just never know,one day they might just say gee... Be very,very cartful about the wanting and/or needing to be around "friends" all the time though. It sends the wrong message. Be even more careful about sending the wrong signals to "Friends" too.
 doubleohseven
Joined: 3/7/2006
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Posted: 5/13/2007 1:36:27 AM
Hello Cusack
I met a woman many years ago that acted similarly to what you describe, when we met she flirted a lot with me and seemed to be very interested in me, there were other guys that were trying to flirt with her also but she seemed to like me best.
I also was very attracted to her and we went out a couple fo times and also spent some time at her place talking and messing around, the next day she decided that we should be just friends.
I fugured she was playing hard to get, so cooled off a little, things didn´t get any better.
She liked my company and flirted a lot with me but when I got closer to her she would back off, when I backed off she would get closer.
I decided that if she was not interested in me, she had a neighbor that was also attractive and flirty, I told her about it and she tried to hide here jealousy but didn´t do anything to keep me, so I went ahead and went out with her neighbor for about 5 years, anyway I broke up with her neighbor and she of course is alone and acts like she has someone, my only guess is that she is just a teaser like your friend , so my advice to you is to go out with someone else and let her know what she will be missing, find a woman or even a friend to go out with you and introduce her to your friend.
At least you will know if there ever was a chance with her or not.
Save her for a rainy day, you never know what the future might have, but don´t get your hopes up.

Gregory 007
 NocturnalPrincess
Joined: 8/26/2006
Msg: 313
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Posted: 6/5/2009 11:20:28 AM
Wow. I am a year late here in posting. When a woman says she wants to be just friends, then she likes hanging out with you but sex isn't part of the equation.

At least she was honest enough to tell you that up front.

It could also mean that there is someone else that she is physically interested in. The bottom line is that she isn't interested in you as a physical partner.

A long time ago I heard a joke that a woman needs three men in her life: One to pay her bills; one to meet her physical needs; and a gay man to provide for her emotional needs.

I am not insinuating by any stretch of the imagination that OP is gay, but if she just wants to be friends, she is definitely not wanting to have her physical needs met there and wants to explore elsewhere. The sizzle is just not there for her.

I do not have three men in my life per se, but I have a lot of close male friends (they are good for heavy lifting and fixing stuff!). What is cool about that is that I have an endless lot of big brothers.

I hope by now OP has moved way on, but I also hope my words help the next person.
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