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 vinadelmar
Joined: 6/21/2005
Msg: 187
When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDSPage 4 of 19    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19)
Very nice comments. I tend to agree with you about the difference in relationships between men and women.
True buddies are grate, just look at the veterans of the 2 grate wars and they well tell you about some grate friends and comrades, something that most women well never understand.
And to the men that let themselves be used by manipulating women all I have to say is, “Grow some balls man”, there is plenty of non manipulating people out there.
A true friend dose not use you. Think about that.
 sunny7861
Joined: 9/1/2006
Msg: 188
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Posted: 9/7/2006 6:56:58 AM
Hey dude i remember one sentence my dad told me and i never forget that look for some one who loves you not you love them and keep searching for that kind person i hope you will find ...............!

and dont give up ......
 Lady~Gurl
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 190
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Posted: 9/9/2006 2:33:57 PM
My bestest friend is a man and yeah...with privledges...I happen to honour and respect him (& him ...me!!) above all eles...when you find yourself...raking yourself over the coals...thats the time to bail..thats when its not healthy....& you always got to look after #1..!!
 Huggablehottie
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 195
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Posted: 9/15/2006 5:48:58 PM
If a woman wants to be just friends with a man, then
this means she does not find you attractive or sexy.
 ponygrl™
Joined: 7/22/2006
Msg: 206
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Posted: 10/3/2006 3:56:40 PM
..........just open your eyes and look around and you might just find one. i'm real, and i'm for real too.
 buck75
Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 209
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Posted: 10/10/2006 3:47:11 PM
hey spidey great advice going through somthing the same as cussak so think i,m gonna try and do what u say no matter how hard it is . it is just that i get from this girl that she wants to be with me just not right now as she doesn,t want to date or go out with anyone even though she does go and hang out with other guys as well as myselfso as u can see it,s hard but will try ur advice and keep you all posted as to what happens as for anybody else,s advice thank you and feed back would be appreaciated/.
 sassymartini65
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 218
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Posted: 10/22/2006 3:53:20 PM
I know I am a woman and all ,but yes you are being an idiot, try not talking to her at all. move on
 Poet102781
Joined: 8/22/2005
Msg: 221
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Posted: 10/31/2006 6:01:01 AM
Dont let them smell your fear!


Be nice, but not in a girly way.

Stand up for yourself, if you have a way of doing things, do them!

Dont switch your values, if you believe in something, stick to it.

Compromise...there are a few things you can bend on...like where to eat or whatever.

Be a man, for christ sake you dont have to like candel light dinners to be a man!...its good every once in a while...on a special occasion.

When it starts to feel like you are being used....you probly are...do what you have to do to fix the problem, or get out...simple.

You can love someone all you want, and most of the time they will accept it, because hey....who doesnt like attention?...but when they dont return it....its a no brainer!
 sunraker
Joined: 12/14/2004
Msg: 223
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Posted: 11/7/2006 11:41:34 AM
Hi, The problem that us men have to realize is women .....can not feel .... lust and longing for a man who is a wuss.It's not MANLY so don't do it. It seems like the nineties castrated most men and they can't get there balls back.LOL Suck it up and find someone else and don't make the same mistake again.K.
I no your going to say how much you did for her Blah Blah Blah but the bottom line is you prostrated your self and destroyed her feelings for you. WOMEN WANT A MAN---- 3 million years of evolution has taught them that stong men will be the best lovers,protecters,providers for the offspring and that is so instilled in there subcontious they have not much control over it.
Your prohably saying to youself..what a jerk.What does this guy know? But instead of sobbing why don't you spend your time thinking about......why do women sleep with the bad boys without so much as a kind word-or gifts-or dinners and i hope you have enough testosterone left to understand. I don't mean you should be abusive or uncaring,cause women are the best thing GOD put on this earth.Hope this helps.
 wuzzums2000
Joined: 10/17/2006
Msg: 224
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Posted: 11/7/2006 4:25:56 PM
hey women may want the "bad boy" at first, but eventually they mature and want a nice, loving caring guy. women like a little bit of both, if you can find that perfect balance of bad boy/mushy guy then you're in.
 evdogg
Joined: 8/14/2005
Msg: 237
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Posted: 11/26/2006 3:50:35 PM
Let me tell you what really hurts! I met a girl on this site two days ago and in my add I made it clear that I wanted to date only someone who is sure of what they wanted in a relationship. We went out on Friday to a movie and about a half an hour into the movie she grabbed my hand and put her head on my shoulder. That put a smile on my face and told me that she was indeed interested in me. I really liked her too. By the end of the evening together we were pouring our hearts out to each other. I was falling in love........and so wasn't she.....at least that is what she told me.
Come Saturday evening, she called me to come down to watch a couple of movies with her. I was all excited and I went. I really liked this girl. I got to the house and we cuddled and started to watch a movie but then one thing led to another. I was polite and asked her if she was really sure this was what she wanted. She insisted yes and I hesitated a couple of times but gave in like a fool. About three hours into the night she told me she needed to go over to a female friends house to spend the night and she did.
Come Sunday, she called me in the afternoon to come watch a movie and again overcome by excitement I went. I got to the door and she kissed me and we went to go watch a movie and again cuddle. She kissed me some more and about an hour into the movie got up and looked at me and told me I was not the man that she wanted and did not see a future with me at all and politely asked me if I would leave. I am getting so tired of all the games that women can play with a man. My heart is broken once again and now I do not even know if I want to even consider dating for another 5 years. So guys, just read my story and you can learn from a real loser right here!!!
 pegasus01963
Joined: 8/27/2006
Msg: 238
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Posted: 11/26/2006 4:36:28 PM
I totally agree with you on what you say and how to go about it. But its very hard when you love them so much. I’m in the same position right now. Thing I know what she is doing but you hang on for the hope they will change there mind. I am working on getting out of this situation as I now realise she doesn’t want me for who I am only for what I can do. Oh and I have only had sex with her the 1 time. Guess that was the bait for her. Every time try it with her now it not the right time o she’s on. But its going to be that has the last laugh don’t worry. Revenge Is sweet.

Get the hell out of it and don’t look back. If she wants you , you wouldn’t be on here now. Lets just say I have woke up from a dream that been ongoing for 18 month and its cost me thousands
 Merlin the Dwarf Lord
Joined: 5/6/2006
Msg: 239
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Posted: 12/6/2006 1:36:36 AM
I agree. That's how it's done. Girl's love treating a sucker for what they are and they will milk it for what it's worth. Get the uperhand early and they will fall in your lap.
 NocturnalPrincess
Joined: 8/26/2006
Msg: 243
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Posted: 12/11/2006 10:15:34 AM
JUST FRIENDS means she likes you but doesn't want to have sex with you.

You could hang out and stuff, but she doesn't want even a goodnight kiss. Buddies. Some schools of thought suggest that opposite genders cannot be friends like that. If romantic love is what you seek, then this is not the pasture in which to pursue.
 NocturnalPrincess
Joined: 8/26/2006
Msg: 246
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Posted: 12/11/2006 10:45:12 AM
Zandrous,
She is trying to tell you nicely that she doesn't want to be intimate with you. If that terminates the friendship, then that is your decision, but "ain't nothin' there!".
 taylor97526
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 247
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Posted: 12/11/2006 10:50:10 AM
hey dude, been there myself so can relate. The only advice I can give you is to not worry about her and put all that energy into yourself. What would you really have if you did have her??
You're the good guy hear and she doesn't want that. The chemistry is there or it isn't. Just leave her alone and you'll find some nice, together lady when you aren't even looking.
Nows the time to get to know yourself once again. Use the time wisely and good luck to you.
 taylor97526
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 249
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Posted: 12/11/2006 11:17:21 AM
hey look at it this way... look at the $200.00 money well spent to get rid of her. "What goes around, comes around".. very true.....
 NocturnalPrincess
Joined: 8/26/2006
Msg: 252
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Posted: 12/12/2006 12:03:40 AM
Zandrous,
I am a career Idiot Magnet. About a year ago, a man that was totally "not my type" and I began hanging out. There was no attraction there for me whatsoever. None. Nada. Nothing.

Then I began hearing that he referred to me as his girlfriend.

I kept trying to learn to like him in that way.

I even tried having sex with him once, and for me that was a complete THUD.

Finally, I stopped by his home, and just told him: "I have tried, but I cannot make myself feel something that isn't there. It isn't there, and it is never going to be."

The Truth doesn't seem to work any better than sugar coating the truth, because all that I wound up with was a stalker, who was trying to regain Lost Love that was never there to begin with.

For the record, our first "date" was when I treated him to dinner, because he gave my dog a bath, and so I wanted to say thank you. It was never Sizzle City!
 prettyebonygal27
Joined: 12/17/2006
Msg: 254
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Posted: 12/24/2006 11:51:03 AM
hey just wanted to reply to your message from a lady's perspective. sometimes u have to just let go. i know its hard but you have to realize that you are more important than she is and your happiness is even more important than your love for her especially since she doesnt love you back. she is in the same predicament than you because just as u love her, she loves another. life is not fair, but what we can look forward to is the fact that there is someone out there for us with whom we will one day share this love and at that time all the heart ache we have had in the past will not matter but will only provide justification for the utter bliss which we now experience with the one we love. good luck..... and be strong......

didi
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 258
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Posted: 12/26/2006 1:49:43 PM
"When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS"


Did I mention ....... well wait ...


IF the gal reminds you of your mother or IS in fact your sister and wants to be friends ...... sure.

IF you have ONCE OUNCE of attraction for her ..................... get out and get out fast and NEVER look back.

Oh ... I almost forgot to pull out the ***stamp out friends first sign*** (like I always do).

Male/female attraction takes about 60 seconds to access.

It takes months and months if not years to become "true friends"

I just wish that wrongly used friends first .......... um stuff was spoken in plain english vs babble.

"Don't expect me to get frisky with you until I figure out if I wanna do that"
 Ron9
Joined: 8/10/2004
Msg: 261
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Posted: 12/28/2006 11:52:31 PM
Yes vinxen_renewed - they can be friends if both of these two **must be true** conditions are met.

1. If he gets sick and pukes at the slightest thought of going to bed with her.
2. If she gets sick and pukes at the slightest thought of going to bed with him.

It has to be both - one side only don’t work.

That is it ..........






subliminal message > old geezers make better lovers - they don't tell and are grateful as he||
 traditionalove
Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 262
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Posted: 12/29/2006 12:33:26 AM
You don't just be friends when you are 3 hours away. If the person is nearby and have some common interest, then being just friends is fine. Some friendships do become strong love when both are unattached. The friendship here is unbalanced as you want her much more than she wants you. If you want her as a friend, then find someone else to love since she already has another lover.

She may be choosing a guy who is not fully available due to her fear of intimacy. You may be overwhelming her by going to her so much.

Good luck to you. Find a woman who really wants you, instead of some beauty who is half-hearted about you.
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