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 HeartyLips
Joined: 7/25/2008
Msg: 1228
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I can forgive him but he need to disappear in my life.
 dutchesofsyr2
Joined: 1/28/2009
Msg: 1229
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 2/25/2009 5:23:40 PM
That is a tough question,never been in that situation.AND hope never to be.
 Omaha Adventures
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 1230
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 2/26/2009 9:36:51 AM
Nope, 2 schools of thought. 1. Can you really bring yourself to forgive & FORGET? 2. They went elsewhere for something, therefore something was/is missing between you two..Move on
 cutie_2
Joined: 2/26/2009
Msg: 1231
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:09:04 PM
I would have a hard time forgiving... I think I would always think about it when I would make love again to him which would likely have a negative impact on the relationship.

I guess it would also depend on the circumstances, eg. how long have you been dating since this happened, were you happy with your sex life or were there any problems? Does he have regrets?
 Blk_Archangel7
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 1232
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:12:33 PM
I would forgive her but move on with someone else that would have better respect for me.
 djnicktyler
Joined: 8/29/2006
Msg: 1233
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:15:22 PM
the lowest circles of hell are reserved for betrayers...
it will never be the same anyway... he will think he can do whatever he wants from now on... don't
 Medrengard
Joined: 2/26/2009
Msg: 1235
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/2/2009 3:51:49 PM
^ The first part of the Ninth circle, actually. Not easy to get much lower.

Also, no.
 tallyover
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 1237
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/2/2009 5:16:45 PM
I believe that it's up to the cheater to figure out how to get forgiveness. The cheater made the mistake, so it's that persons job to solve the problem.
 evolution_99
Joined: 10/10/2008
Msg: 1238
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/2/2009 6:09:06 PM
YES,
That doesn't mean letting the betrayer back into my life. I forgive for myself not for them and I move on.........
 Asassylady
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 1241
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/2/2009 8:41:07 PM
I would never forgive and would walk away from a person like that in a heartbeat, If you have no trust and not enough respect for another person why be in a relationship and hurt them... Stay footloose ad fancy free then.
 daytimer69
Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 1242
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Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/3/2009 9:44:25 PM
ya know, people don't cheat unless something is missing in their relationship. For me, I have tried to explain to my spouse EXACTLY what is missing and she says "I understand" and things will get better but they NEVER do. I could forgive, never forget but I would have to ask her....what am I not giving you to cause you to cheat.

If you are giving to each other everything the other person wants and needs then there will not be a reason to cheat PERIOD
 daytimer69
Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 1243
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Posted: 3/3/2009 9:44:59 PM
if you cant forget you cannot forgive
 Cherish Luv
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 1244
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/3/2009 10:03:33 PM
If you are in a relationship wherein both proclaim love for each other and one is cheating then run from the relationship. Can you forgive someone cheating on you? You have to forget before you can forgive. Who forgets they've been cheated on! If they proclaim love for you and can cheat on you then you can bank on them cheating again.
 Silver Seduction
Joined: 11/15/2007
Msg: 1245
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Posted: 3/3/2009 10:36:17 PM
Trust the ones who have gone through it. Once is enough. You don't want to have to go through all that pain again. Experience does have it's merits, lol.
 tabuckey
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 1246
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/4/2009 10:31:07 AM
i can forgive...forgive myself for ever meeting u!!!
 1Georgia2
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 1248
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/5/2009 5:01:37 PM
OP,
You may forgive, but I highly doubt that you would forget. Not being able to forget does a number on the trust issue in a relationship and without trust, there is no relationship. Have I ever been cheated on? NO ! Would I stay with someone that did cheat on me? NO! Could I cheat on someone that I was in a relationship with. NO! If that person no longer meant anything to me, the relationship would end before anything happened with someone else.
 hookybaby
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 1250
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Posted: 3/5/2009 5:24:11 PM
sometimes I will
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 nonees
Joined: 1/22/2009
Msg: 1251
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/5/2009 8:18:54 PM
I will get out of the their life or get them out of mine, then I will forgive and forget them.
 Forumhobbit
Joined: 10/27/2008
Msg: 1252
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 3/5/2009 10:41:56 PM
Can I forgive? Nope. I tried that.. and it came back to burn me over and over and over again. Cheat on me and you might as well head straight to the curb, do not pass go, do not collect $200 and guess what.. there aren't any get off the curb free cards. Forget? (usually goes hand in hand w/ forgive...) Only thing I'll be forgetting is the person who cheated on me.
 a_chris79
Joined: 4/23/2009
Msg: 1254
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 5/1/2009 11:23:18 PM
Initially when the "im still in love stage" is in effect or MANY years later...I could forgive and get back together. Everything in between though...no. Not a chance.
 jacksab
Joined: 1/19/2009
Msg: 1256
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Posted: 7/11/2009 5:32:06 PM
I am in a deep mess,my 15 yrs married is in a jeopady as at now becos my wife cheated on me 7 yrs ago.
I asked her now and she confess to it and i am dieing of the lies of the past 7yrs.
What do i do?
 SimplyKendra
Joined: 5/22/2009
Msg: 1257
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 7/11/2009 5:41:24 PM
Nope..I can't. I believe once it is done it is even easier to do a second, third, or fourth time. Cheating ruins lives and ruins people. I tried taking back a cheater once, but I never did trust him again and what they say about "No trust=no love" is true.
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 1258
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Posted: 7/11/2009 5:50:38 PM
When you give a cheater another chance, you just give them the chance to cheat again. All trust is destroyed, along with the respect.
 GGSN
Joined: 6/13/2009
Msg: 1259
Cheating- can you forgive?
Posted: 7/11/2009 5:51:50 PM
Could I forgive, only as much as I won't hate the person. But the relationship would be over. The trust has been broken.
 HarrNels
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 1261
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Posted: 7/11/2009 6:01:10 PM
Yes, I have forgiven, but not likely to forget. You're only hurting yourself if you don't forgive because it will eat away at you and you will become (or stay) a very bitter person. And who wants to hang out with that?
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