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 MDNinja
Joined: 1/9/2005
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It depends on the people and their up bringing. All the black women(but not all black women) I talk to in clubs, seem stand offish, even one that I am friends with! But I do know one couple that is a black woman and white boy. So I really think it boils down to the person and not the race.
 metelyk
Joined: 8/7/2004
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Posted: 12/15/2005 9:19:43 AM
I work with a lot of East Indians, and have a lot of conversations with them regarding their culture. Many asians cultures still focus very heavily on tradition, and respecting your parents. Many of the older generations are still the rule-makers, and the children still listen to them.

I'm all for inter-racial dating though, I guess it all just depends on how open your family is to it, and how much you want to please them.
 metelyk
Joined: 8/7/2004
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Posted: 12/15/2005 10:13:17 AM
I think this is true, or how most Asian cultures see it. But Why is falling in love with someone of a different race seen as being disrespectful to your own?


Thre's only one answer I can come up with: Tradition
Have you ever seen "Fiddler on the Roof"? It's not all make believe. Some cultures cannot let go of tradition, and respect it more than anything else.
 tcky123
Joined: 12/9/2005
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Posted: 12/22/2005 6:08:44 PM
i am trini indian and my bf is persian and I use to date all types mostly white, as Indian myself I dated guys from india which I was never crazy about and it always end up their mother want them to date a virgin indian girl from india, sometimes I wonder if they say this to get some booty and it a quick way to get out of a realationship. I preference as Indian girl or trini indian was not to date my kind because most of them I dated was sly,then I open my eyes to all races and all I was looking for was a sweet nice guy but most people from india like arrange marriage for some reason. not me.
 sayonara7
Joined: 3/13/2006
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Posted: 4/13/2006 3:03:57 PM
Hey thats not a race issue, its a culture issue, in Hinduism we have caste system and all the BS...I am a hindu, but I do not believe in it, it's just crazy, so because of that she wouldn't date anyone other than her own caste, if she is very traditional and cultural, I'm traditional too, to some extent, but the other thing is, there is a lot of family pressure and all that, or else why do you think all asian people go to college, huh?We've been taught to work hard and stick to our own right from small, well working hard is good, but I don't believe in sticking to our own, because love has no boundaries.That's all, don't lecture to me on this , people, I come from that part of the world, so I do know what I'm talking about.
 KoffeeBean
Joined: 12/17/2005
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Posted: 4/14/2006 1:22:48 AM
My family (both mom and dad sides) have inter-racial marriages.
 kitsguy4u
Joined: 11/19/2005
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Posted: 4/14/2006 4:07:19 PM
I think it can depend on how long the family has lived here. I have dated many different women. The only case where race was an actual issue with a family was a long time ago. I was in my early 20s and dating a girl from Hong Kong whose family had only recently moved here. Everytime we met to go out I would meet her somewhere and she would also find her own way home. Well once things were getting a bit more serious I wanted to be able to pick her up at home and drop her off. I was actually shocked when she told me that I couldnt because if her father saw he would be angry. Her parents had told her that there would be no other dates but chinese men. I thought it very odd as I had dated other asian women before but then I realized that they had either grown up here or had lived here a long time. Anyway that relationship didnt last very long although I did bump into her about 4 years later and she was still living with her parents and she was in a long term relationship with a white guy that her family did accept. So I think in that case it was just a case of being new to the country and probably holding onto an old world attitude.

Its funny, I dont even notice that people are interracial couples. I have just sat here and thought about it and I know a fair number of couples that are mixed from just about every ethnic group. I just dont think about the fact they arent the "same".

I dont care who or what people are. If you find love then go for it.
 BikerBiker53
Joined: 6/11/2005
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Posted: 6/29/2006 11:25:06 PM
Having lived from coast to coast,

And seen lots of different cultures,...

And being the father of a young, under 21 daughter,...

I am against interacial dating.

Due to the most part of seeing young, DUMB, single "WHITE" mothers,..being seduced by all these black men,...and then dumped,..to raise their "Multi-Racial" children without a father.

Its sad to say, but I see too many young white teenagers being swept off their feet by these so called gangsta thugs,...then after they bear their children,..the fathers are gone,...and only remembered by their street name of "Lil G",..or "T Baby",..without even knowing what their real names are.

I have two young white teenagers living next door to me,...the oldest is 18,..and is free to do as she chooses,..her younger sister is 15,..and both these girls prefer to "Date" black men,
some of these men that seek to gain these girls affection are in their 50's,...

The 18 year old, already has a mixed baby,....father unknown,....and her younger sister is soon to follow suite,..the only people that hang around these girls are a bunch of punk azz
wanna be gangsters that continue to break into our cars and homes, and just last week 3 of them knocked an elderly man off his scooter, and stole it.

I feel so sorry for these misguided women that fall for the "Rap", and smooth lines of these future Prison inmates.

Yeah,..you can waste your breath all you want to try and change my mind,..but,....like I say,....its a waste.

As far as I have seen,...dateing between Asian's, Hispanic, and Whites,...all seem to have a place in this world,.....

But when it comes to "Blacks" and "Whites",.....

I would,..and I will,...say,....Leave it alone.
 empress1978f
Joined: 6/2/2006
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Posted: 7/1/2006 12:55:06 AM
Wow,

Some of the above posts makes me almost certain that I can never live anywhere but California. I like feeling like I can date whomever I want, no matter what race, religion or creed and its okay. I couldn't stand to live in a place where people make judgements of who I am based on my race and whom I can and can't date based on race. Heck its tough enough for me to find someone I'm into without having to limit my options by race!

To bikerbiker53, the poster who seemed to think that black men are all gangsta rappers waiting to seduce some poor white girl.....2 points

First, you make the mistake of assuming this behavior is limited to black men, I assure you, it isn't. There are just as many white men who shirk responsibility and have no problem leaving a woman they get pregnant alone in the world with their child.

Second, a woman knows from the jumpstreet the guy she is having relations with. Its not like these men are hiding their true nature, they are thugs, they are gangsters, thats just that. Women know this and continue to mess with them, so to me, the responsibility is equal. I certainly don't assume that women are stupid, and they know that if they get pregnant what it comes down to is that they are stuck with the child. So I don't fall for one minute for that line that somehow some poor white simpleton female is seduced by a "gangsta" because I think that assuming all white women are that dumb isn't giving them enough credit. These are adults...not drooling 5 year olds you're talking about. Its that same mentality that got black men arrested and lynched in the early 1900's. Somehow white women are stupid like children and not responsible for their own actions with black men. Ultimately not only do you feel sorry for the black men, you feel sorry for the white women, how sad that society sees you as some moron who can't take responsibility for your own actions?

I'm black.

My father is black and he is a doctor and a colnol (even if I can't spell it) in the Army. He raised my sister, my two brothers and myself. He always provided more then enough for us financially and mentally.

My brother is a West Point graduate and graduated from there with his degree in physics.

My youngest brother is in a Catholic high school, only takes AP classes, is on the debate team and just got back from a trip with his class to Moscow

So you see how confused I get when people make blanket statements about black men? The three in my life don't really fit the mold. Neither one of my brothers has gotten anyone pregnant.

And certainly, certainly neither of them has to "seduce" any white women. The one who went to West Point is constantly hounded by white women. Thank goodness he has a nice girlfriend that he is faithful to. Lucky for him she is black so people can assume she has a shred of intellect and responsibility for her own actions. By the bye, his girlfriend graduated magna cum laude from UCLA and now works in banking.


Its funny to me that any one person knows lets say at most 50 black people, maybe even 100 and yet they will make a judgement about all black people based on that.

Do you realize how many black people are in the world????

The 50 or even 100 you know don't even represent 1% of all black people yet you will make a blanket judgement based on your severely limited knowledge of the race, that doesn't even make any sense.

As for people accepting black and white interracial couples, to be honest, I think it has a lot to do with the history between black and white people in America. I think from the very start the relationship between black and white people in America has been unique.

Oh and by the way, no one is trying to change your mind. The girls you describe sound like morons anyways and since this is the type of person that you seem to know, I hope you persuade them not to date black men, because I would be horrified if either of my brothers or any of my friends got involved with people are moronic as the ones you seem to associate with.
 itsmeinco
Joined: 5/18/2006
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Posted: 7/6/2006 4:07:21 PM
"Sticking to your own"

Is another word for racism, no matter who says it.

If you love another person, the color of his/her skin is irrelevant.

Just my two cents.....
 BikerBiker53
Joined: 6/11/2005
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Posted: 7/13/2006 7:47:43 PM
Wow, empress1978f

Did you not understand a thing I stated, or what ?

You seem to of just jumped on the racial bandwagon and whipped out your "Race Card",...just like a lot of black people do when they feel threatened, or go on the defence when someone thinks differently.

I didnt make any racial comments concerning decent honest people of color,...I mearly pointed out that in my neighborhood there arent any. All we have around here are thugs.

You must not understand the mentality of these punks,..and yes,..they come in all colors,..all they want to do is score with someone,..and move onto the next victim.

Lets see,...you stated....

"To bikerbiker53, the poster who seemed to think that blacks are all gangsta rappers waiting to seduce some poor white girl.....2 points"

I didnt say anything about them being "rappers",.....I mentioned they have a "Rap" that they spread on the girls they seduce,...and now your gradeing me,..."2 points",...is this on a slideing curve, or straight across the board ?,...LOL

Then you say,...

"assuming this behaviour is limited to black men"

I didnt say that,..you did,..you are the one that is "Assuming",..not me,...and thinking your way,..not mine,...I just stated my thoughts on the subject matter,..and you are adding a whole different train of thought,...LOL

Slow down, or you might jump track,...LOL

The you state,...

"Somehow white women are stupid like children and not responsible for their own actions with black men"

You said it empress,...not me.

Then you "Assume"

"Its funny to me that any one person knows lets say at most 50 black people maybe even 100 and yet they will make a blanket statement based on your severely limited knowledge of the race, that doesnt even make any sense."

Im glad its funny to you,..cause I know a lot of good decent hard working black people that wish they could shed that image and stereotype that the "Bad" blacks create for them. You see, you just made another assumption, and tried to put your thoughts across as mine.

I have known, lived with, and worked with , many fine people of color,...that dont complain, and try to point the finger at "Whitey" every time something go's wrong, or they dont understand anothers ideals.

I understand your proud of you family, and their achievements,..that great,..but you dont have to try and belittle my post, or my ideals,...just because you dont like them, or dont understand,...I was just stateing my point of view,....not asking for a personal attack.

Now you say,...

"The girls you describe sound like morons anyways and since this is the type of person you seem yo know, I hope you persuade them not to date black men"...............I would be horrified if either of my brothers or any of my friends got involved with people are moronic as the ones you seem to associate with.

Now I want you to understand what you just said,...look at it closely,...you are the one making a "Blanket Statement" trying to include me as some one who is "moronic" and to "associate" with. I describe these girls as neighbors,...not my friends,...I have nothing to do with them, or how they live their pathetic lives....yet you want to "lump" us together..

It looks to me,...that you are doing the accuseing and pointing the finger, defending your "Race"..even tho you have tried your best to dissassociate yourself from them....

Have you lived in a ghetto type neighborhood ? Have you had to endure the sound of gunfire 24 hours day and night,...and no,....Im not being dramatic,..it really did used to be that way,....now,...we hardly ever hear a gunshot. Has you car, or you familys car been broke into and stolen repeatedly ?

I grew in in this community,..it used to be all white, nice and clean,...very little crime,..till the blacks started moving in,..then the muggings,...the shootings,..the burglerys,..the murders started,...till just recently a black thug shot and killed a family of 7 here in Indianapolis,..you may of sen it on the news,....

The young 5 year old was hit with a blast from a shotgun,..the cops didnt even need a body bag for him,...they carried what was left of him out in a plastic sack.

What Im trying to say is,...dont go on the defence and start attacking something posted,....unless someone is disrespecting you.

When you assume,.."You make an "Ass out of You - n - me"

Peace be with you,..and beleive it or not,....I LOVE Black people,.....its the ni**ers I cant stand,..no matter what color.

Victor
 ash2006
Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 56
Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come?
Posted: 7/13/2006 8:33:43 PM
I am Indian and agree with the OP's comment that we are not as open to interracial dating. I believe that the reason for this is primarily practicality. For some reason, our culture is so rich that it just makes it easier to date people from the same culture. Food, language, values, traditions are all virtually the same among Indians, and while dating outside our race is fine, getting married outside our race is sometimes looked down upon. I believe the Asian (Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc) cultures and some European cultures are the same way. It all comes down to making life easier, especially when it comes to raising kids.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
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Posted: 1/26/2007 3:55:30 AM
well, you still have traditional folks man, not everyone is going to jump on the peace train, lol. I have a few friends that are not black or white, but they want to keep in the same race, personally I see no problem with people who want one of their own, it's their choice. as far as the just balck and white thing, I think that is not true, other races such as asian I see their women with white men, and let's not forget spanish they hop down with other races as well. I think it's more of a culture thing now, but that does not make us better than whoever wants to date their own though.
 Charm1ngMuse
Joined: 12/18/2006
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Posted: 2/1/2007 11:44:56 AM
PiscesCoda hit it on the head... at least in America. The blacks and the whites have lived together, side-by-side, one behind the other and every which way including loose now. At the root of basic primal vision (blind and ignorant) we see ourselves together and against the foreigners who migrated later from the islands, Asia and South America.

It takes generations for a people to become accepted. If you hold citizenship here, you are an American (undefined by race, color, creed, ethnicity and gender). If you don't, you are simply a foreign national. Personally, I will date an American over a foreign national simply due to the exceedingly slim chance the American will be deported... Silly, I know.

Generally speaking, I enjoy dating, talking, interacting with and meeting people of all cultures. It's all good kids!!!

 studplayrico
Joined: 12/9/2005
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Posted: 3/14/2008 11:09:46 AM
I have no problem dating outside my race. I have dated mostly Caucasian women and think they're great. I have been told to stick to my own race (Latin, Puerto Rican) beautiful people too but, it comes down to personal preference. Besides a woman is a woman and they all want to feeilng special.
 northeast25
Joined: 12/4/2007
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Posted: 3/14/2008 3:33:30 PM
Do you realize that if you were saying that every single boyfriend you had before was black and that they all treated you like garbage , and that now you had a white boyfriend who treated you like a queen you would be branded a racist.


She was replying to a post ( msg 35 ) where a man made negative generalizations about black men. I think her point is that there are jerks from all races. I don't think she was implying that these men were jerks because they are white.
 studplayrico
Joined: 12/9/2005
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Posted: 3/15/2008 12:57:51 PM
annikat
The common denominator in all of your previous relationship was you.If all you ever had were terrible boyfriends then the fault was yours for choosing them, not because they were white.


You couldn't said it any better.
 BikerBiker53
Joined: 6/11/2005
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Posted: 3/16/2008 12:36:06 PM
This is just an extension of the "How do you feel about interacial dating?" thread.

My question is, and correct me if Im wrong. It seems like Black and White people are quicker to accept an interacial couple than any other race. Why is this? One of my good friends is East Indian, and she is always commenting on "sticking to your own".
Feedback?


Well,...seeing as how this thread has suddenly came back to life,...after such a hiatus,
I'd like to re-address the Original Post,...and say,.......

I believe that with the passing of time,.....American Society, in General,....has became more lax in their opinion of interacial dating,.......

The older Generation,...that, to me,...that had "Stricter Morals", and deeper ,..."Family Values",.......raised their children,.... in the belief,...that it was NOT RIGHT,...for humans to date, ......nor Marry,...OUTSIDE THEIR RACE.

Gee,......Common Sense, tells most people that.

But as the older generation has died off, and replaced with a generation of swine,..... that are thoughtless degenerates, ..........who dont care if their babies are brought into a world of hate, and prejudice,.........it has become the norm,....and more accecpted,....
because of,.... MTV,.....MADONNA,.....
and all the other supposed "Role Models",..that our children are subjected too,...with a TV for a "Baby Sitter",............
What do YOU Expect ???

I dont think,....from what I see,...that Black and White people are quicker to accecpt
an interacial couple,........

I know,...there are still a lot of narrow minded folks out there,...that cant stand to see a white woman with a black man,.....you still hear remarks like,....."Thats disgusting",...or,...."That Tramp has no respect for herself",......and stuff like that.

But man,......its really odd to see a white man,....dating a black woman,.......

Oh My Gawd,........you get dirty looks from both the white people,............
and the Black people,...alike.

Now maybe in HOLLYWOOD,.....you all can mix, and mingle,..and not raise an eyebrow,.........but here in the Mid West,....or any where in the Corn Belt,..or the Bible Belt,........if there is a mixed couple,.....it gets attention,......BIG TIME !

My daughters sister,.....is mixed,....she is a doll,....a grown woman,..with 4 kids of her own,.......and the rude, snide remarks, she hears,..is down right horriable.

Her children go to school, or play outside,...and the other kids pick on them,...cause their Mixed,.....the whites dont want to play with them,....the blacks dont either,......
Now that is sad,.......

Now I dont mean that none of the other kids wont play with them,......just "Some"

And thats a shame,...that even little kids,..carry on that way,.....but when you consider that their learning it from their peers,......its understandable.

My daughters first boufriend was black,.......I didnt like him,.......and made sure they both knew it,........I didnt interfeer,....but I didnt encourage it.

Thank goodness my daughter finaly saw him for what he was,.....a player.

I dated a beautiful ,......."Lady of Color" for a couple of months,.......she is one of the sweetest women I know,.......
When we would go out,.....I would see all the disproving eyes on us as we dined,.....
we both agreed that neither of us was seriously interested in a relationship,.....
(she told me her dad would "Flip Out" if he knew she was dating a white man)
so we decided to not date anymore,,...neither of us needed, nor wanted anymore stress in our life.

So,...we remain friends,....we chat with each other once in a while,....but were not interested in having to fight against the narrow minded people, the rest of our lives, if we would of decided to make a commitment.

Common sense.

It all comes down to your own personal feelings,...and if their strong enough, to face the struggles your up against, everyday.

All that should matter,....is if two people truly Love one another,

Period.
 KountMacula
Joined: 12/15/2006
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Posted: 3/22/2008 9:57:59 AM
DOn't trip off of black women being standoff-ish. They're the same way to black dudes too.
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