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 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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Nope.

Dealbreaker for me.
 MichelleRenee1234
Joined: 10/19/2009
Msg: 660
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 3/19/2010 10:10:41 AM
Yes, and I am..... but it's tearing us apart, for sure.... If things don't get better and we break up, I will NEVER EVER EVER again date anyone who doesn't enjoy it. It's not just about the doing, but the enjoying. I don't know why some people take no pride in satisfying their partner...

It's actually breaking my heart :(
 Live1983
Joined: 4/11/2008
Msg: 661
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/13/2010 3:00:34 PM
yes I have. He had reasons why he didn't like it, I'd never want a partner to dread anything I want them to do. lol else then the dishes.
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 662
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/15/2010 6:56:37 PM
NO I would not! I don't have time for oral prudes. I ENJOY immensely GIVING oral and I ENJOY receiving it immensely (duh). I think a lot of people might have had bad experiences and then that can predictably make them shy away from it. That's why you have to be smart about it. You can't be half assed and uneducated about this. I've said this before and I'll say it again: exquisite hygiene is MOST IMPORTANT in this area for both men and women!!. Once that's taken care of everything should be great.

PS....I thought it was friday today and started drinking as if it was....... Posting while inebriated is fun.
 Cape Sunshine
Joined: 8/11/2009
Msg: 665
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/16/2010 7:04:47 AM
No, I wouldn't. I want someone who is willing to do and try just about anything.. :)
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 668
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/16/2010 9:09:58 PM
Absolutely freakin' not! What really chaps my hide are the those who expect it and don't reciprocate.

Note: I was tempted to post this in all caps, but didn't want to be rude.
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
Msg: 669
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/17/2010 9:42:55 PM
While an enjoyable part of sex, it is not a deal breaker for me..I actually like other things more ( as far as done to me) , as far as me doing..I also enjoy that, but, I still wouldn't consider it a deal breaker..there are just so many other things you can do, one or two not being done aren't that big a deal to me..I also hate the double standard thing though...just on principle..if I really liked a guy , and everything else was good...not a problem...
 Tim_in_NPR
Joined: 8/19/2007
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/20/2010 11:30:08 AM
Current GF loves for me to go down on her but forget it when it comes to her to do me lol It does bother me but it's not the end of the world.
 lalby
Joined: 12/5/2005
Msg: 672
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/20/2010 2:10:31 PM
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex?


Nope!
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 673
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/20/2010 3:44:24 PM
Intercourse is icing on the cake, and in addition to other love techniques.

I would really have to think about continuing to date a person who told me that they would not.
 johndoe67-1
Joined: 4/13/2010
Msg: 674
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/20/2010 4:46:58 PM
Although receiving oral sex does not do that much for me, if she is prudish or has hangups or thinks its dirty, she's not going to like all the other kinky activities I want to do! So my answer would be 'no.'
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/21/2010 4:23:12 AM
I would only seriously date a man who did NOT engage in oral sex. As most everyone here knows, I do NOT give oral and I do NOT want to receive oral.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 678
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/21/2010 3:22:46 PM
I certainly have dated women in the past who didn't give (regular or good) oral. (Though none that didn't like receiving.) But it's not like it's something someone would generally ask right away, or just share. Knowing this before you develop an interest in someone is not the way things usually work. I have to admit, I had a lot less patience with women who were not meeting my sexual needs/desires, than with those who did. Sexual compatibility helps smooth out bumps in a relationship. For a lot of people, oral is a big part of what they enjoy in the sack. I'll probably date women in the future who don't like giving head; but, not with foreknowledge.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/22/2010 1:36:04 AM
In reference to Sexy Scorpio's post: My opinion is opposite of yours. I don't understand people who want to do oral. We all have a right to our opinions. That is what makes these forums interesting, trying to undersatnd people who think opposite of us. Trying to undersatnd does not indicate anyone will change there own way of thought. In reference to "Making each other happy", if one person does NOT want to do something, it is not "making each other happy". Both people must be be mutually agreeable as to what they both like to do, to perhaps make each other "happy". We all have to find someone who mutually agrees as to what to do and not to do, before getting to the sexual encounter. Sexual likes and dislikes should be known by both people before entering into the sexual. Just reading this thread and many other like threads, it is very clear, the issue of oral, to do or not do oral is a deal breaker, and that weeds out the people who would not be right for whoever we are .
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/22/2010 7:24:36 AM
I enjoy both giving and receiving, and find it hard to imagine being with someone who does not feel the same way. The added variety and exceptional pleasure would be something I'd greatly miss if I were with someone who didn't enjoy it, so we'd probably be doing each other a favor to each find someone who was more sexually compatible.

I think that those who don't like oral are a minority these days, but should still be able to find someone who is compatible in this and other ways - it may take a little longer or be a little harder, but I see no advantage to settling on something that is important to you just to be in a relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong in having a preference one way or the other, as long you don't try to impose your preferences on someone else.

It's remotely possible that I could be in a relationship with someone who didn't like oral, but they would have to be close to perfect in every other way to compensate - and that's not likely! As it is, I don't have to make that choice, fortunately.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/22/2010 10:05:59 AM
Only if they were really, really good at anal and let *me* give *them* oral sex. I might be able to live with that. Maybe.
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 683
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/22/2010 11:00:19 AM
I think some people who for whatever reason(s) don't want to give or get oral could come around if given proper guidance. How do I know this? Long ago I used to be one of those people who thought oral was unnecessary and didn't fit into my 'belief' system. I didn't even have a RATIONAL basis for this as everytime I would talk with a buddy about it I would just deflect and repeat my mantra. It was all just me with a preconceived notion and trying to stick to my 'guns'. I also think for some it's a cultural thing that they really have a hard time getting around. The thing is the human mind is extremely flexible if you allow it. If you are rigid and have preconceived notions about how you'd never enjoy something, well then you never will break through. But that's fine. Some people are perfectly comfortable in their beliefs and don't have any pressing need to change even though they could be missing out immensely.
 forumrum
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 684
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/23/2010 8:51:35 AM
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha...........NO
 TravelingLight
Joined: 12/3/2009
Msg: 686
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/23/2010 7:36:13 PM
I would. I find it incredible that some people would consider oral sex a deal breaker in a serious relationship.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/23/2010 7:51:21 PM

I find it incredible that some people would consider oral sex a deal breaker in a serious relationship


Well then, try spending 10 years of marriage constantly desiring your partner to give you oral sex......and never recieving it.
You'll consider it a deal breaker after that!!
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/23/2010 8:23:34 PM
I wouldn't seriously date a woman who wasn't enthusiastic about giving and receiving pleasure, which almost always includes oral, but twice I've been involved with women who had a physical constraint against it. One had a jaw problem and although she really WANTED to give oral it usually caused real problems for her that took the joy out of it for both of us. The other just had a really tiny mouth, so her version was mostly hands combined with licking, which I guess qualifies as oral, but not the way most would envision it.

In both cases the enthusiasm was there. We just worked out what worked best for us with what we had to work with, and that was just fine.

Dave
 VicbiBell
Joined: 4/19/2010
Msg: 690
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/24/2010 11:26:55 AM
I married one, and regretted it ever since. Now would I date No, I have that. The main thing I want now is oral.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 4/24/2010 1:24:10 PM
I think oral was invented for a guy to get a few minutes of peace and quite....then he discovered how good it felt, anyway...a great sexual variation that I couldn't live without for one reason or another.
 biltmore2
Joined: 5/1/2008
Msg: 693
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 1/5/2012 1:17:46 PM
I have to agree with MsMicki.
I thought that I could but after too many years it became disappointing and later a bit of an obsession wondering what it would be like with a partner that enjoyed it. Cant go back there again.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 694
Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex
Posted: 1/5/2012 3:12:30 PM
I would still date a girl who says that.
and be OK with it.

and come to think of it....
I have dated two women previously who did claim that.
and both were fibbing.
:-D
but maybe it was just for me.
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