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 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
Msg: 321
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?Page 15 of 15    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15)

Any women can get laid?

I can ...except I have no desire to be 'laid'. The thought of any man touching me other than a committed partner is not part of this universe. I have zero sexual attraction to a man if not 'my man'


- Right... saying women can get sex anytime they want is like saying you can jump off a bridge - you are not going to do that, it's not reality. Most women want to be falling in love with a man, and that does not happen every day.

It's true that men have more rejection in dating. But women have their own problems... there are a lot of crazy guys out there who don't have sense enough to know when a woman is not interested. And there are lots of stalkers out there. I hear lots of horror stories from ladies I talk to... stalking, guys following them home after first meets, attacks, etc. If I had a daughter, I'd be scared to death for her... and I would probably buy a shootgun, lol
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 322
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/29/2014 11:19:43 PM
I would say any intelligent man would be leery of a really hot woman on a dating site and if he is not thinking with his smaller head. Only stands to reason. She is a scammer, a prossie or a fake is what I would think if I were a guy.
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 323
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/30/2014 3:31:22 AM
@Iam RFSF2014
Likely your masters degree filters out a large percentage of men who feel you might prefer the same.The people looking for a quick score would look elsewhere.
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 324
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why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/30/2014 4:27:08 AM

Dee: I flat out can't be bothered to address your post more in depth. But I'll say this:


Funny how you then went on to say all of THIS, though....


If you can't see that bringing your 'aw diddums' attitude to a thread with a title like this is going to be construed as combative, then I think you need to go and think about whether you should even be IN ths conversation.

FACT: Some people talk absolute shit about relationships in these forums. Seriously. So I'm going to pare this down:

When a guy enters a disscussion about rejection and guys' reactions to rejection, it REALLY pisses him off to see ANY woman posting here effectively saying 'ZOMG call the waahmbulance, measure up losers'. Sorry if that's not what you mean to imply by previous messages in this thread, but that's certainly the tone I've read into them.

Men have feelings too. We're sensitive about things and we have hang-ups just like women do. Because we're all - GASP! - human beings.

Now, before I exit this thread, delete my account and head out for a date - yes, an ACTUAL DATE , which I got from going out and socialising with people intead of wasting time with this crapfest - I will say this:

People generally want to date nice people. No lie! We don't necessarily want to know people who are going to 'disagree' (in quotations because, sorry, but you ARE arguing) with us in harsh, joe blunt fashion, or poo-poo the sentiments that come out in discussion.

Be nice, and you get nice back. Bring attitude, you get attitude back. End of.


Gee...guess that date must NOT have gone well, considering that your profile is STILL here,....no surprise to me....

Never said that I WASN'T arguing...sorry that your male ego is affronted by that...but I STILL see men from this thread posting the EXACT SAME NONSENSE about how women know NOTHING about rejection because "they have NO experience with it"on yet ANOTHER thread... I will argue til the end of time with such sweeping and erroneous statements...because THEY ARE NOT TRUE!!!!!
You can call it whatever foolishness that you'd like, I NEVER SAID THAT MEN DID NOT SUFFER REJECTION, all that I said was that women do as well....Unfortunately like many people you read/saw/reacted to what YOU perceived in what I wrote rather than what was REALLY there...go back and read what I ACTUALLY wrote...Unfortunately I don't think that you're capable of that, because it appears you have a SERIOUS case of terminal uniqueness here, where it comes to the topic at hand...you see what you WANT to when women DON'T agree...But hey, I'm SURE that most women are looking for some guy to tell them how it REALLY is for them, rather than pay attention to their own experiences...Why not? That's pretty much what's been going on since the BEGINNING OF TIME!!!
As for being combative...yes, that's GENERALLY how I react when being attacked...SO sorry that I didn't just roll over and show my belly at the first sign of male disapproval....NOW I am being minimizing and dismissive, see the difference???? lol
 Iam_RFSF2014
Joined: 9/4/2014
Msg: 325
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/30/2014 6:00:18 AM
You can call it whatever foolishness that you'd like, I NEVER SAID THAT MEN DID NOT SUFFER REJECTION, all that I said was that women do as well....


Dee, you and I are seeming to have very similar conversations in various posts.

Post theme: Women have it so effing easy in all things

Our response: Well, this particular women doesn't always have it easy, so that's not a completely universal truth

Response to our post: arguments or crickets...
 Dee4166
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 326
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why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/30/2014 6:21:09 AM

Dee, you and I are seeming to have very similar conversations in various posts.

Post theme: Women have it so effing easy in all things

Our response: Well, this particular women doesn't always have it easy, so that's not a completely universal truth

Response to our post: arguments or crickets...


THAT'S why I'm staying OUT of that one!!!! lol Let me know if you need "back-up"...LOL

But seriously...can't even BELIEVE that there's men out there who honestly believe that "women NEVER suffer rejection, and so have no ability to deal with it"......I mean...WOW! Can't even come up with anything better than simply...WOW...
 hemingway114
Joined: 6/16/2014
Msg: 327
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/30/2014 7:01:54 AM

As for being combative...yes, that's GENERALLY how I react when being attacked...SO sorry that I didn't just roll over and show my belly at the first sign of male disapproval..


- When they attack, drop to the ground and lie flat on your stomach. Spread your legs out (to prevent them from rolling you over easily) and cover the nape with your hands, locking your fingers together. Use your elbows to cover your face. Stay very still and silent and play dead.
 Blackwood85
Joined: 5/20/2013
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why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 9/30/2014 7:42:27 PM

I would say any intelligent man would be leery of a really hot woman on a dating site and if he is not thinking with his smaller head. Only stands to reason. She is a scammer, a prossie or a fake is what I would think if I were a guy.


I tend to think this too, I've met hot girls from this site in person but it's pretty clear when they're not real. When the message starts off looking for sex they're more than likely prostitutes or scammers. I've gotten messages from girls wanting to meet up in an hotel or someplace wanting to give me oral sex those girls tend to be transsexuals I've learned to just call them out on it and then they leave me alone. The fakes are just generic profiles with nothing in them but enough to try and trick you into thinking they may be real but they're really written by an midar dle aged man trying to write an 19 year old porn star but it comes across as them being 12.
 dinno76
Joined: 9/29/2014
Msg: 329
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 12/30/2014 1:50:22 PM
If they get bent out of shape after getting rejected online, then they are not worth dating. Rejection is a part of life.
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 330
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 12/30/2014 8:44:22 PM
Your mistake is entering into any kind of dialogue with those that don't interest you. Delete and block.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
Msg: 331
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 12/30/2014 9:01:41 PM
^^^
Correction.

Don't waste dialogue on someone that is not interested in YOU.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 332
why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks?
Posted: 12/31/2014 7:06:39 AM

But seriously...can't even BELIEVE that there's men out there who honestly believe that "women NEVER suffer rejection, and so have no ability to deal with it"......I mean...WOW! Can't even come up with anything better than simply...WOW...


Of course women can face rejection. But men get rejected more often because in general men are more likely make first contact.
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