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 ginghamgal
Joined: 2/13/2016
Msg: 110
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Neither. Doesn't matter to me if the last sex a man had sex was the day before he met me or 5 years ago.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 111
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 5/10/2016 7:55:36 PM

Replace "self respect" with "can't find anyone up for it", and THEN what...?


Yes that can happen. Some people aren't looking for sex outside a relationship. Some people are looking casual sex and weren't interested in whomever was available at the time. Some people are looking for casual sex and couldn't find anyone that was interested in them.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 112
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Posted: 5/10/2016 9:58:31 PM

Regardless of experience, anyone that had sex could have a STD.

And those who haven't -- virgins, too. Just because something's transmittable via sex doesn't mean it requires sex. 10% of virgins are estimated to have HPV, not to mention other things. One could really scare themselves silly.

Replace "self respect" with "can't find anyone up for it", and THEN what...?

If he can't ever find anyone up for it (and trying) over a real long period of time, then yeah, he can't exactly brag on self-respect. Nor one who has sour grapes about it either.

Some people are looking casual sex and weren't interested in whomever was available at the time.

True... but to relate to another thread, I think that's where the proposed "6-10s are all the same to me" concept comes in, when it's not quite that way. One would be more apt to be bothered by minor incompatibilites with those they see as 6 VS minor incompatibilites possibly not even seen with the 10s. One will be more apt to have their desire limited to casual sex with what they see as a 6, but obviously Very inclined for more with a 10. Also, one may be turned off in some ways (outside of looks) with a 6 to not want to engage in casual sex, while someone who's a 9 or a 10 in their eyes, oh they most certainly will want to engage (but may not want to go further than that relationship-wise).

I think if someone's looking for everything from casual sex on up, but over a long period of time on that fertilization egg hunt they can't find anything, they can say they weren't interested in whomever was available at the time -- but basically what that means is everyone they found good looking enough weren't interested.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 113
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 5/11/2016 7:10:17 AM

I think if someone's looking for everything from casual sex on up, but over a long period of time on that fertilization egg hunt they can't find anything, they can say they weren't interested in whomever was available at the time -- but basically what that means is everyone they found good looking enough weren't interested.


Perhaps. But it is also possible they found very few people that were good looking enough for them. Some people can be extremely picky about whom they would have casual sex with. They may not consider anyone that is below a "8" or a "9" in their eyes.
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 114
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 5/11/2016 10:42:18 AM
Hmmm.....I meet 2 women, one says they just had sex YESTERDAY, the other says they haven't had it for over 9 months....which one would be more appealing ?


Yeah, that's a tough one !

( eye roll )
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 115
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Posted: 5/11/2016 11:54:53 AM
^^^ Uh... both?

That is, both are equally appealing, right?

I mean if they were both equally attractive, then who cares if it was 30 minutes or 30 days or 30 months?

I have always heard that a woman is never more willing than when she just did. And a lifetime of actual experience tends to back that up, so ...
 Butterchickenchuck
Joined: 9/18/2015
Msg: 116
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 5/11/2016 12:02:58 PM
^^^^^^ EW

IOW, I beg to differ


Call me squeamish all you want, I don't like the idea of dipping into some other guy's goo.

Different strokes
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
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Posted: 5/11/2016 2:04:34 PM

Perhaps. But it is also possible they found very few people that were good looking enough for them.

Yeah, true, that's possible... although with just "I wasn't interested any of those available during that [long stretch of] time [on a hunt even for casual sex]," even for the very pick

It wouldn't be the best answer by them, tho. Otherwise, I would assume they'd emphasize, over this long period of time when they were also on the Hunt even for casual sex, that there wasn't hardly any somewhat cute guys/girls out there at All. I would think that'd be their main frame of mind, right?

Just "I wasn't interested any of those available during that [long stretch of] time [on a hunt even for casual sex]." If I were in Vegas, I'd make good money (but no, not win every time of course) that they just couldn't get ones they were attracted to.

They may not consider anyone that is below a "8" or a "9" in their eyes.

Yeah, some people can be like that (although for being open for just casual sex, people won't be as picky compared to Date-worthy)... but if they're on the actual Hunt, there are going to be options. They either get shot down too much (going for 8s/9s when they're a 6 but don't mention it) -- or too scared to face it head on To get shot down much... so I guess you could add in "too shy" despite allegedly being on the hunt.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 118
No sex in a long time .. good or bad?
Posted: 5/12/2016 6:58:00 AM

Call me squeamish all you want, I don't like the idea of dipping into some other guy's goo.


To each their own. I don't make any assessments about a person simply based on the last time they had sex without knowing any other factors.
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