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 PlaynWithDummies
Joined: 9/18/2006
Msg: 43
do many women think about swinging??Page 5 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
^^ well I wasn't thinking that it would be necessarily easier on the back persay. I was thinking about wall sex, and when the guy is much taller for you than normal.

Unless you use a bench or stool, or you wear 4" heels. But I find that image pretty funny. Think about it, you are both butt nekked, and you are against the wall wearing your 4" heeled boots....

I just about piss my pants laughing. All that is missing is a whip! Yeee--haw.

So, the obvious choice would be to schwing baby.
 Kliener
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 48
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 11/18/2006 11:32:17 AM
Never well on my behalf I would never be interested in swinging.

That kinda stuff leads to being on Springer or Maury and everyone can laugh at you.
I don't want to be that kinda girl that has to test 7 guys to find out who the daddy is of my baby.
 sugar?baby
Joined: 11/15/2006
Msg: 62
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 1/21/2007 4:16:42 PM
hmmmmmmmmmm I have to reply to this message, number 4 that is! i am a Bisexual women as of recently i guess? Its something i allways wanted to look at since I can remember but just recently had my adventures with threesomesinc.. women, i joined a very hot couple for a night and i had another encounter with a women and a man whom were friends and yea i agree that most of my friends think about it too even if they flat out deny!I mean they asked soo many questions about the experience, but srsly women are beautiful, erotic, soft and yea men are beautiful too, just some advice if its something you really want to explore just go for it! it was srsly amazing and i am sooo lookin forward to more research on this lol, sooo yea saksyallie where abouts do you live???I would be happy to help ya out! :)
 floridaman4u
Joined: 1/9/2007
Msg: 87
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do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 2/11/2007 5:38:32 PM
it can be way 2 much fun... but be careful what you wish 4 and how you approach it...there are 4 the most part 2 types of swingers .(in couples ).. those who love it and those who it tears apart ... my advice is visit a local swing club with only intention to observe and then talk it over at a later date ....and never insist ,push or force your partner...and remember it works both ways you want another girl ..be prepared to share her with another man it will at some point be an issue.... swinging is a lifestyle not a fix 4 your marriage problems ... and it has to be 4 an added plus to ur sex life not because somethings missing ... if your both 100% in it can be the best if not your looking at disaster .... best wishes ..
 floridaman4u
Joined: 1/9/2007
Msg: 89
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Posted: 2/12/2007 9:00:10 AM
4 lack of a better word swinging describes all outside one on one ... my no mistake its swinging i have been involved in several different types of 3rd and more party type of relations and swinging is swinging ... have fun ...
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 91
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 2/12/2007 10:21:58 PM
thinking and doing are 2 completely different things
 rxxx2600
Joined: 4/12/2006
Msg: 97
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 3/30/2007 6:12:29 PM
I've been in the swinging lifestyle for about 6 yrs...and while swinging may not be for every couple...my experience has been nothing short of fantastic.
I am part of a loving, secure relationship and we have found swinging to be a very fun rewarding enhancement to our relationship. We only play together as a couple and there is no jealously or distrust in our relationship and the experience as even brought us closer as a couple
We are free to explore our sexual fantasies and have met some wonderful new friends along the way...
I've read this thread in it's entirety and a lot of folks have this pre-concieved notion on what swinging is...in short...swinging is entirely what ever you want it to be...there are many, many different variations. It's not always about swapping partners and having sex..It's about connecting with other open mined folks and having some good clean adult fun...and most of us heathly adults just happen to enjoy sex...
If your relationship is a little shaky or your confused with what you want out of a relationship...I don't recommend this lifestyle...it is more for those happy and secure with themselfs and their relationship and looking to explore what the lifestyle can offer.
 milehiguy12
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 102
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Posted: 5/23/2012 7:50:08 PM
I've been involved in the swinging lifestyle for a number of years. I was introduced by a couple that was looking to add a third. They appreciated my enthusiasm and I appreciated the opportunities they gave me. Swinging is all about sex and has nothing to do with love. Women have an almost endless capacity to enjoy sex while men have their limitations. Women living in and enjoying the swinging lifestyle are expressing their sexuality in a controlled environment. For those looking to explore their sexuality it can become something unmatched anywhere else. Are there men pushing their wives into swinging to play with other women? Of coarse. As soon as these couples are identified they are asked to leave. Swinging is based on trust and requires couples that are committed to each other. People in the vanilla world claim it is immoral or degrades women. In fact women are usually the ones setting the rules and usually in control over what happens. I know several couples in long term marriages in swinging. It may not be for everyone, but once you try it and get hooked there is nothing better.
 Eros_realm
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 103
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 5/23/2012 11:53:28 PM
rxxx2600 hit it on the spot.

If you or your spouse are insecure in any way. swinging will eventually break you up. There are going to be guys better looking than you and have bigger D*** and there will be women better looking than your wife and that ride you like a maniac. So you must be very comfortable in your own skin and with yourself. I ran into my first swinger couple when I was 19 and was blown away by the guy's wife. LOL It is fun if you and your mate are secure and both wanting to do it.
 PinkNeonSocks78
Joined: 10/28/2011
Msg: 104
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 5/24/2012 9:57:09 AM
I've thought about it. I would love to find a partner that I'm very sexually compatible with so that I can explore other things but honestly this seems to be the hardest thing to find these days. I've have one partner whom I was thoroughly compatible with sexually. That did not work out. :(
 LipstickJunkee
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 105
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 5/24/2012 10:01:39 AM
Maybe its just my opinion but I would only be able to have a threesome type of scenario with people I didn't love, love.. ya know? Just make it about casual fun. However, I've never had sex with someone I wasent in love with, and don't know what thats like haha.. sooo.. lol
 hotmerlot
Joined: 2/25/2012
Msg: 106
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 5/24/2012 8:01:51 PM
Nope, this hits my ick trigger.
 RD2112
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 108
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 5/24/2012 10:33:09 PM
When I was married we talked about it when having crazy sex. Added the right amount of spice to the experience. We never acted on it though bc we were not trusting each other and we were trying to keep the marraige together. I wish we would have bc it would have been an awesome experience but we divorced and that fantasy has kind of evaporated
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 109
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Posted: 5/25/2012 8:19:55 AM
In my experience, based on many couples I've talked to who swing, the woman is usually the instigator/proponent in at least half of them, and in many of the rest, are enthusiastic participants. Where both are not truly open to the idea and who can't learn to both control jealousy and understand that it's recreational sex and not an emotional connection beyond possibly friendship, it usually doesn't happen at all, or leads to problems that either causes them to stop, or to perhaps split up (in many if not most of those few cases, I think they were headed to breakup anyway). It sure as hell won't save a relationship that's having problems, but I have seen it strengthen good ones.

Some people really do find it thoroughly enjoyable and don't experience any negative effects on their relationship. That was my experience, as well. However, what turned me off to continuing was the lack of people who had a combination of physical attraction and reasonably good sexual skills. It's truly suprising how many people think they're good in bed, but are terribly uninspiring! There were certainly some who were great, but too often they weren't local and/or weren't into also developing a purely social side to the relationship. I found that too many so-so experiences kills the thrills, especially as sexis always at least as good with my SO, and usually far better.
 onehappyfellow
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 110
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Posted: 5/25/2012 9:28:27 AM
I was in a 3some with my buddy and his wife, it was her desire. I lasted for years and was marvelous. Happy to discuss it with privately with anyone.

I have friends who are into threesomes and love the fact their gal pal is bi inclined and just loves to love another woman though there is no interest in him by the lesbian friend of his gal.
 BlokeInSydney
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 111
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 6/6/2012 6:36:57 PM

Even in Vegas we have a name for women like that.

Don't you just love judgmental people?

We have a name for women like that over here too: normal.

If a woman chooses to take more than one man to her bed, another woman or any combination she likes, there's nothing wrong with that.

What is wrong is the suppression of a person's sexual nature because it doesn't 'fit' with how others think they should act. Provided nobody gets hurt and they don't frighten the chickens, it's nobody else's business what goes on in the bedroom.
 laughingatliberals
Joined: 10/11/2011
Msg: 112
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 6/6/2012 8:03:16 PM

Don't you just love judgmental people?

We have a name for women like that over here too: normal.

If a woman chooses to take more than one man to her bed, another woman or any combination she likes, there's nothing wrong with that.

What is wrong is the suppression of a person's sexual nature because it doesn't 'fit' with how others think they should act. Provided nobody gets hurt and they don't frighten the chickens, it's nobody else's business what goes on in the bedroom.


For me it is not judgmental and I agree they are free to do whatever they want.

I have no desire to try and cross any ones freewill.

But it is not for me been there and tried it my mind couldn't get over the thoughts of STD's and felt like I was cheating.

I want monogamy true monogamy.
 BlokeInSydney
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 113
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 6/6/2012 9:33:06 PM

For me it is not judgmental and I agree they are free to do whatever they want.

Hi Cap'n, I appreciate your comment, the thing I objected to when I posted was the name-calling inference by the poster in question. eg: 'we have a name for women like that'
 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 114
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 6/6/2012 9:38:19 PM
ya know, i am not even remotely interested. i think many women say they'll do it, and yes, perhaps they may even go through with it because they think it will please their man...it sounds to me like you are the one who is really interested in the idea...i think it's one of those things that a person tries when they are in college or something...and unless you are truly bi-sexual or gay it's just an experiment...yawn...
 laughingatliberals
Joined: 10/11/2011
Msg: 115
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 6/6/2012 10:10:33 PM

Hi Cap'n, I appreciate your comment, the thing I objected to when I posted was the name-calling inference by the poster in question. eg: 'we have a name for women like that'


I understand, I was showing how you can disagree with something and also retain your dignity.
Demeaning a person for any reason is just....well it shows more about the one posting than the one that is being posted about.
 smilesgoalongway
Joined: 4/18/2012
Msg: 120
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 8/8/2012 2:48:06 PM
I've read alot of yes's but where are the NO's? Count me out!! I sure wouldn't want to give oral to a woman and I sure wouldn't want my man to give oral to a man cause that sounds gay/lesbian! Doesn't anyone have any morals anymore? If I find a man and he's that kinky then I don't want him!! I have enough confidence in myself that another woman/man is not needed!
 NewLifeOfFun
Joined: 7/2/2012
Msg: 121
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Posted: 8/18/2012 7:52:52 AM
My Ex and I were in the swinging "life style" (LS) for a number of years. It was very fun and we made great friends who I'm still close with even though I'm now single. No the swinging did not end my marriage. I'd like to find a sexy woman who is open minded enough to consider it.
 hotmerlot
Joined: 2/25/2012
Msg: 123
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 8/18/2012 10:08:01 PM
No, the idea is a huge turnoff for me.
 Here4ForumsOnly
Joined: 1/2/2013
Msg: 124
do many women think about swinging??
Posted: 3/16/2013 10:30:35 AM
"Swinging" is a oftentimes a subtle female power play for the FemDommes types who ultimately want only a cuckold.
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