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 Doin_it_old_school
Joined: 8/29/2006
Msg: 107
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How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?Page 8 of 14    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14)
remember.. sex takes two othewise its maturbation. you need to both work at it. and if it sucks.. and they care for you it wont be hard for you to tell them wihtout being rude.
 bolotye
Joined: 12/21/2004
Msg: 117
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/10/2006 1:19:05 PM
How do you tell your lover they suck in bed....


Well lets see...does she carry mace constantly strapped to a garter belt that never leaves her leg? Trust me, she will use it.

Does she have big older brothers that might beat the ever living Shitttt outta you? Thats a biggy.

Does she has psychopathic tendencies? Your car , dog, house and next of kin might be in danger. Move immediately. Matter fact , leave the whole flippin country for good measure.

Or...

She might be open to hearing guess what....Im thinking about doing some new things to your body, Id love to show you what i had in mind. You game?

Now that could be fun...
 LuvsButt
Joined: 8/16/2006
Msg: 128
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/12/2006 7:21:51 PM
While they sleap you get dreased make sure to leave a dead fish in your spot on the bed and tip toe out the door. (LMAO )

Actually Be honest and tell Him or Her streight out forward and Blunt exactly what was good IF ANYTHING what was WRONG if list not too long And that it's finnished. This will enable Him or Her to reflect on things after they calm down ofcourse and in doingso maybe they could learn something about themselves and their technics.
 stevea29
Joined: 10/15/2005
Msg: 135
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 9/14/2006 8:36:05 AM
He gets a better woman..thats how
 crazycat0131
Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 147
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 11/10/2006 10:27:42 AM
communication is always a good thing, however it may not change a persons ablilties, and you should never tell them they are a bad lay, just because they are to you may not make them to someone else, and if your relationship is sololy a sex thing then break it off and find someone more compatable with you, you never know she may think you are a horrible lay as well.
 crazychristy266
Joined: 6/9/2006
Msg: 152
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 11/11/2006 9:58:20 PM
thats hard. i dunno how i would. if ur in a close and open relationship then its easier cuz well u usually talk about it anyway and feel open and can suggest stuff. instead of saying this sux say i like this or lets try that. but yeah ive had a couple really really bad ones. and if they are that bad i dont even bother. would take too much work LOL.
 ShanKat
Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 153
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 11/11/2006 10:26:52 PM
Well if you have any respect for your partner, you'll stop expecting them to know what to do. Maybe point them in the right direction during, or talking about it outside of the bedroom in deeper discription.

Chances are they think you suck too.
 Sparklin
Joined: 9/1/2006
Msg: 163
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 11/14/2006 7:00:03 PM
As long as I'm in the bed - no guy could be bad !
 Chef_Charles
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 168
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 11/14/2006 8:53:01 PM
LOL,,, I tell them they are better than my first wife, but not by much.

I only have had the one wife that was poor at it, but that was after she was thinking of other men and not me.

My second wife, never had that problem, she was better than I was in bed, and then she started saying things about me and all of them positive. Enough said there.

I would be gentle, not wanting to hurt feelings, in fact I doubt I would say anything. I would be having to much fun showing them how to be better. If you are better at pleasing then your duty is to your mate, give them the needed care to be better. Don't tell them, show them. Take the time to understand yourself and them and push toward being better than you are, and they will respond or not.

If they don't respond to the above urgings to be better, then talking to them on a more serious out of bed time will be needed.

Love the person not the actions. What you want out of the relationship is the key.

What do you want OP?
 Mesnafugal
Joined: 7/12/2005
Msg: 169
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 11/15/2006 2:10:17 AM
I've decided (I'm in a bad mood this morning)....

Why not do them like they do us... just pack your bags... and sneak out while they are sleeping!!!!

No.. not really..

oh wait.. I did do that once... he was at work one night, I loaded up my clothes.. dog... horse...threw it all in my horse trailer and went HOME where I belonged. But, not only did he suck in bed, he was verbally abusive...
 cedar77
Joined: 7/17/2006
Msg: 175
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How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 11/19/2006 3:19:09 PM
OP......I think you can pretty much always make it very good (-: ....so enough with the belly aching already.
 browneyedstallion
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 176
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 2/9/2007 7:01:08 PM
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?

Or do you just ride it out?


Sometimes it could be because their last lover sucked and there love making became a boring routine. I dated a girl who just laid there the first time we had sex, but after awhile I was able to bring out her bad girl and she became quite animated in bed. Some women have inhibitions and you have to find what flips their switch. Once you show them what you like and you're able to push all their buttons in the process they can become very good in bed.
 BrnEyesLostMind
Joined: 1/27/2007
Msg: 182
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 2/10/2007 4:13:49 PM
Wonder what he'd think if I broke out my nail-file and started to give myself a manicure before he was done? Might be a clue I wasn't thrilled with his efforts.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 10/20/2008 7:08:16 PM
Nicely of course...

We all need a little help sometime...
 LoveVampy
Joined: 2/2/2009
Msg: 204
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 2/26/2009 4:05:45 AM
"You Suck" ..

Works...

depends if u want a replay , or if u just gonna show him the door .
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 209
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 3/1/2009 4:39:16 PM
ehhhh, shove a finger up her ass, that'll make her move!!!
 w/ehappenz
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 211
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 3/16/2009 12:25:32 PM
Tell them hey i want a refund!!! Honestly if they need help then watch porn together or read a good sex book.
 asteliapuff39
Joined: 8/9/2007
Msg: 213
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 3/16/2009 12:40:53 PM
how? easy

boyfriend... let me introduce you to mandingo, he will show you how you should do it...
now I will handcuff you and sit you right on the corner of the bed so you can see how its done. No complaining either! so shush!
 Divinity
Joined: 2/16/2008
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How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 3/25/2009 11:30:22 AM
Easy, YOU SUCK IN BED


Now that wasn't hard.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 227
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/17/2012 8:45:52 AM
Before you say anything ask yourself this questions.

Did they suck in bed from the beginning of the relationship?
Is this something new?
Why did you put up with someone that sucked in bed for so long?
What is going on now that they can't concentrate in having the good sex they had before?
Have you/them tried anything new?
Did you try to teach that person what you liked?
Did you ever, ever, ever asked what turned them on?
Did you ever talked about sex outside of the bedroom?
If she/he sucked in bed, what does that make you?
Do they think you are great in bed, so so, or also suck as hell?

If you had it your way, what would you like your partner to do to you?
What would your partner would like for you to do to them?

Have you ever verbalized it to your partner?
Have you ever asked them to repeat exactly what you and them would like to do?
 billingsmason
Joined: 2/3/2012
Msg: 229
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/17/2012 5:35:55 PM
How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?

maybe from far away....with a txt.

JK.... I don't think there is such a thing really.
If you're having trouble- it's not totally someone else's fault.

Maybe step up the dominant in you and handle this.
Not saying to get all kinkified.... just be assertive and well.... train them. You know, with a crop.
 longte
Joined: 7/19/2008
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How do you tell your Lover they suck in bed?
Posted: 12/27/2012 3:08:17 AM
If lovers of either sex dont suck, in bed or anywhere else, they aren't having much fun
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