Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Dating and Love Advice  > I need help PLEASE      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 ronforu
Joined: 1/11/2006
Msg: 24
I need help PLEASEPage 6 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
Hi Missie,

If this guy is not on your lease he can be removed immediately, the incident should be reported to the police so that it is on record, taking out a firearm and loading it during an arguement is considered a threat and he should have been removed from your house.

Sounds like you are in a dangerous situation and there may be retaliation after he is evicted.
I operate a protective service agency for woman and children, we are armed and well trained in domestic violence situations. usually are presence is enough to deter violent individuals. Our methods seem to work better than the police because were not bound by the same laws and procedures they are. if you need further assistance you may contact me, we can work with you if you cannot afford such a service.

I do recomend that after he is gone to be cautious and be aware of your surroundings, change all your locks, also be carefull what you say to other people about this guy, sometimes people who you trust can be your worst enemy. He sounds like hes controlling and probably obsessive so look for recording devices or cameras he may have hidden in your house.
Good Luck
Ron
 JustMe1819
Joined: 12/18/2003
Msg: 25
view profile
History
I need help PLEASE
Posted: 1/19/2006 2:00:09 PM
well I am still away from him and he is leaving me alone now. I have not heard from him in almost 2 weeks. So I think that he has taken the hint and went his own way. I am still not going home though. No until I am sure that he is gone and not comin back. So I think things are starting to look up now. Just wanted to give you all an update on how things are.
 JustMe1819
Joined: 12/18/2003
Msg: 26
view profile
History
I need help PLEASE
Posted: 1/20/2006 6:16:53 AM
thank you. I really appreciate it. I have only been to the house once and from what I noticed his stuff was gone. But I really didnt have time to walk around and look for everything. But eventually I will feel safe in my home again and I will be able to go home. Cant wait for that day
 starrider
Joined: 6/17/2004
Msg: 27
view profile
History
I need help PLEASE
Posted: 1/20/2006 1:49:32 PM
It is better to walk out on 2 legs than to be carried to the grave by 12.---Seen it before
 stout81
Joined: 1/19/2007
Msg: 28
I need help PLEASE
Posted: 2/2/2007 6:11:21 PM
yes, install a mini camera into multiple parts of your house, make sure it's hidden, move into a friends house for the time being, take only the most important things with you, material items can always be replaced. have all the legal paperwork in ready for him for when he gets home on the table or fridge and your not there. eviction notice and all the goodies. if he damages any of your things it's on camera, if he physically hurts you then it's on camera, the only way is to make him be without you, change your schedule, you should stay with friends he doesn't know if he knows them all rent out a room and board for a couple of weeks, meanwhile have new friends check on the house on a daily basis, hire a private investagotor or a personal security company to watch your house and look for any suspicious behaviour. this will be expensive but it will work men are idiots and they make us good guys look terrible.
 THE*JOSEY*WALES
Joined: 3/14/2006
Msg: 30
I need help PLEASE Call the Cops
Posted: 2/3/2007 12:01:59 AM
It's a TERRORIST THREAT for a BF to take out a gun in front of you and load it.

It's a threat to kill.
I'd file a report and a restraining order, and ask the cops to take him the F*CK out of there.

I'm sure they would. I would if I was a cop.
 Reel Tyme
Joined: 7/16/2006
Msg: 31
I need help PLEASE
Posted: 2/3/2007 9:48:14 AM
friend you need to repoet this to the police so they can have a record. i once helped with a female self defense class and most women did not report the kinds of incidents and that is why they continue. after that go to a friends or relatives house for safety. take some self defense classes so you will be able to handle yourself with confidence. also when you go around him take some male friends or brothers. most men that do those things to women will be less likely to try something when other men are with ya. next time if you can do a little research on the man you mess with so you can be safe friend.
 JustMe1819
Joined: 12/18/2003
Msg: 32
view profile
History
I need help PLEASE
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:00:23 PM
UPDATE: I have been away from him for almost a year. He has not bothered me in over 5 months. So Everything is going good now. I have ran into him a few times and nothing ever comes of it. I think everything is ok.
Just so everyone knows, I did contact the police and shelters and everything. I had posted that on this thread, No one would help me. Everyone told me that there was nothing they could do. So I figured it out alone.I do understand that this is not the best place to ask for this kind of advice. But when you have tried everything else, I thought I could at least get other ppls opinions on what they thought about the situation. And I really want to Thank everyone that helped me through this, whether it was advice or talking me through things. Thank you all so much!
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 33
I need help PLEASE
Posted: 5/2/2009 11:09:56 AM
Almost 90% of women murdered are by a guy they are with or used to be with. There has been a huge rash of men killing his woman and his family and it's scary.

Any idiot with a gun using it to intimidate is a loaded cannon.

Move in with family or friends and get him out. Whats sad is that you picked a real loser; dont' tell me out of the blue you see his destructive ways and temper. Start being smarter with men.

I would get armed myself; this guy is bad news; you have huge issues with picking a guy; get the cops and the law involved; this is scary; do it now and get out of there.

I may even have him arrested; i'm sure the gun isnt' registered and all you have to do is say you felt very threatened.
 gemini_pinup_girl
Joined: 5/18/2007
Msg: 34
view profile
History
I need help PLEASE
Posted: 6/9/2009 12:44:48 AM
If you cant have an honest talk without fear of violence or verbal abuse: File a restraining order, have him removed from your home while being served. Include all threatening behavior and the part about the gun. No one deserves to have to live in fear. There is a crisis hotline for domestic abuse...they can help you "get your ducks in a row". Check the yellow pages or online. You can be anonymous if you wish. Don't give up! You are a brave woman to admit there is a problem before it gets even worse! Follow your gut! You were born with instincts for a reason.
Show ALL Forums  > Dating and Love Advice  > I need help PLEASE