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 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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Why a virgin?Page 18 of 19    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19)
If someone is a virgin at 40, they probably have more issues than I'd ever want to deal with.

Being a virgin is irrelevant to me. Sounds like he was way too insecure.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 6/20/2010 2:55:46 AM
somebody said you dont want a slut to be the mother of your children, i hate the double standard,if a woman has a high sex drive its just that,,,, a high sex drive
had a couple of virgins, when i was a young kid, they where very bad experiences, the did not know what to do, i want as much experience as i can get
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 6/20/2010 7:06:47 AM
i was a kid too and did not know much more then they did
now that i am 38, i want a woman that is a great lover, has had many men, is imaginative and creative in the sack,i find the more men a woman had the more open and wonderful she is, and is willing and able to please ,not just take pleasure
 want to travel
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Posted: 6/20/2010 7:29:45 AM
you know i was not a good lover until i had an affair ,i was 17,18 at the time she was 35
she taught me how to really have great sex, she was patient with me, she also showed me a wold of finer things in life, living so close to detroit we would go to concerts, art galleries, and fine dinning
 Georgeofthemountain
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 279
Why a virgin?
Posted: 9/16/2011 7:30:50 PM
"If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, 14And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: 15Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel's virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate: 16And the damsel's father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her; 17And, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. 18And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him; 19And they shall amerce him in an hundred shekels of silver, and give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days.

20But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: 21Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father's house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.

22If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.

23If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her; 24Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbour's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.

25But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die: 26But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter: 27For he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her.

28If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days." (Deuteronomy 22)

It's sad, and wrong, to despise one's virginity, and either give it away without marriage, or take someone else's virginity, without marriage. And there are consequences. Now, God can use what you destroyed, and give beauty for ashes, if you turn around: http://www.myspace.com/annielobert

Now, the generations of those who turn around are blessed:
http://wearinghispurity.blogspot.com/2009/09/my-love-story-part-one.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DkTzk1oLX8

Turn around!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZhMnx1R2kVg
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
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Posted: 9/16/2011 9:28:24 PM
at 42, I know there are not any my age; hell in some neighborhoods you would have to date elementary girls to find one.
I would just prefer not to have slept with the entire foot ball team, done the groupie slut tour, or been in porn......
 Bladesmith81801
Joined: 10/30/2010
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Posted: 9/17/2011 6:49:03 AM
Any man who says that is an idiot. Period. ESPECIALLY after inviting you to his bed! What a slap in the face! "Sorry, you've had a few in you(My Gods how very crass), you're no longer good enough to marry. But you're good enough to F***!"

Truth told, I've deflowered a couple of virigns in my time, and with the exception of one, it was a chore. If I wanted to be a teacher, I'd get a teaching license.

I hope you avoided him like the plague from that point on.
 cbbull21
Joined: 3/9/2009
Msg: 282
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Posted: 9/18/2011 8:40:18 PM
What a load of crap. Alot of guys and girls don't want virgins. Well, virgins have to get experience somewhere. I admit it's pretty asinine for a non-virgin groom to want a virgin bride. However, I don't see any indications that you think there are any virgin grooms. What's wrong with "fairy tale marriage"? (if love is really a mutual learning process given both parties put forth the effort). If you're looking for a stable, satisfying sex-life before marriage, I doubt that you'd ever find it after.
What ever happened to "courting" and "going steady"?
Every sexual encounter is a game of roulette with your future on the line. What's worse is the payout's marginal at best, equatable to drug use.

This may or may not be my honest opinion, but it is a logical conclusion.
 grandman37
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 283
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Posted: 1/10/2012 12:48:17 AM
There are a lot more older virgins that are in there 20s to 40s out here then you might think because most virgins don't put it out there for every one to know and some like me are tired of hiding it. So there are more virgin singles boards and dating sites now.

I am a single virgin man 40 and don't have a problem with being one. I guess it's the old saying that you don't miss what you haven't done yet. I don't see the point in sex just to have sex more or less the possibility of getting an STD/HIV or an unwanted pregnancy.

I would prefer to have a relationship with a virgin woman to. But I am not playing the double slandered here by not being a virgin myself.
 wiseguy_89
Joined: 1/7/2012
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Posted: 1/10/2012 12:04:18 PM
I don't think its the virgin problem.I never had sex with someone whom I don't love so someway I expect the same from the other person.Casual sex is in someway a turn off for me.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
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Posted: 1/10/2012 1:23:54 PM
Virginity is a specifically male issue that stems from thousands of years of a hypocritical patriarchy.

There is ONE reason why men long insisted on a woman being a virgin: it meant that there was no risk of her being pregnant when the couple married. A man didn't have to worry about raising (unknowingly) the child of another man.

This is why when the Israelites were committing genocide in Canaan, they could spare the virgins. However, they weren't supposed to have sexual relations with them for a year so they could make sure the "virgins" were really virgins and not pregnant.

Virginity became a religious issue because of this--but then, religious tenets are often social aspects cloaked in sanctimonious excuses.

In the world of double standards, men could have sex with whomever they could get away with having sex. There was the chance of STIs, of course, but he wasn't going to get pregnant and paternity was impossible to establish before blood tests (which were faulty) and DNA testing. Of course, some men were subject to shotgun weddings, but that was to save the woman's honor.

People continue to have mixed up ideas about sex. I don't think humans will ever be able to look at sex objectively.
 cribbagenut
Joined: 12/29/2011
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Posted: 1/10/2012 2:04:01 PM
well because I haven't found the right 1, not for a lack of trying I assure you of that.

I think women are too picky and uptight about their body or the way they look, it's what inside that counts.
Yes looks help, but it's not everything!!

I think that men enjoy sex more than women because they have it on their mind more than women do, also why do women complain so much when the guy wants to have sex?

Women on here say there not looking for sex, that is a big lie, you know you want it , just finding the right guy is all it takes!!

If women hate sex that much why do they get pregnant then?

That's my huge Opinion!!
 Samuel1786
Joined: 7/25/2011
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Posted: 1/10/2012 2:11:48 PM
What!? What man wants a virgin? Are you crazy? Go ahead, take that virginity, see how long it takes before she gets curious about other people.

Most guys don't want a virgin. Guys who want a virgin really want a girl who they think will be easy to manipulate. Or guys who just have a fetish for it.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
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Posted: 1/10/2012 4:22:40 PM

well because I haven't found the right 1, not for a lack of trying I assure you of that.


Does this mean that you are a virgin or that you are seeking a virgin?


I think that men enjoy sex more than women because they have it on their mind more than women do, also why do women complain so much when the guy wants to have sex?


Come in to the 21st century--women LIKE sex. And if you are the virgin, how do you know women complain?


Women on here say there not looking for sex, that is a big lie, you know you want it , just finding the right guy is all it takes!!


You just contradicted yourself: if women don't like sex, why do they want it?


If women hate sex that much why do they get pregnant then?


Oh, so now, women "hate" sex--make up your mind! This question makes no sense--a woman could actually hate sex but still want to have a child. And you were not even in the 20th century--ever heard of "birth control"? Believe it or not, but women can have sex now and NOT get pregnant. By the way, I am 59: I will not get pregnant unless I have big time medical help, but I still have sex because I enjoy it! Go figure!
 TheCritic
Joined: 3/7/2011
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Posted: 1/10/2012 4:33:25 PM
In many high cultures and upper class societies, women who "sleep around" or have many sexual partners are frowned upon in the higher circles.. While society in general has become more sexual and promiscuous, the general morality has not changed over the centuries.. There is still a certain elegance and fertility factors that go into a woman who is a virgin, and she is deemed more desirable and the process of "deflowering" one is so much more appealing than the lame excuse of having sex with an "experienced" woman.. It does not take a rocket scientist to be experienced in something like sex, and virgins are much more rare than slutty women, and by nature of supply and demand, what is rare is deemed more valuable.. thank you.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
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Posted: 1/10/2012 5:34:32 PM

slutty women,


So every woman who is not a virgin is slutty. I will be sure to tell my 86 year old mother this when I see her next.
 Digit69
Joined: 12/31/2010
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Posted: 1/11/2012 10:22:45 AM
Who would want a virgin that was boring in highschool any real man should be confident enough to handle the past and the experience never hurt either!!
 RoughAsGuts
Joined: 7/27/2008
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Posted: 1/24/2013 2:13:09 AM
Lets be honest here

Men care about virginity in much the same way women care about having a wealthy partner.

Its not a priority for many but it would be a bonus if they were lucky enough to come across one.

The day women can claim men are unfair to wanting a virgin, is the day all women renounce wanting a wealthy husband. Because at the end of the day both men and women have their own selfish pursuits and no one is responsible for anyone else or whatever fixation their partner might have. If a man can land a virgin more power to them, if a woman can marry a billionaire then good for her. Bottom line is that each has their own life lessons to be had, and some may reach happiness this way while others may not.

If you happen to be in a relationship with a person who pursues wealth to the point of jeopardizing love itself, its a very unreasonable attitude in my opinion. Much in the same way that a person who wants a virgin wife, is willing to torment a woman who isn't a virgin or reproach her at every turn. He should be man enough to let her be and if he so wishes to marry a virgin, then he shouldn't string her along for years only to cause untold resentment later. He should man up and set her free and let her meet a man who will respect her more. Then he can seek out the virgin of his dreams, otherwise he should just zip it.
 curviest
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Posted: 1/24/2013 2:56:59 AM
Country boy said: "You don't want a girl that has been with a ton of guys, you just cant trust her as much I guess."

Can anyone PLEASE explain the connection between how many lovers she has had in the past, and how trustworthy she is?

Does each new penis reduce a woman's trustworthiness by one degree?

Please explain!
 curviest
Joined: 5/28/2010
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Posted: 1/24/2013 3:01:30 AM
Gwendolyn2010 "Virginity is a specifically male issue that stems from thousands of years of a hypocritical patriarchy."

+ 1
 licoricecat_1
Joined: 11/23/2008
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Posted: 1/24/2013 4:09:14 AM
My male Italian cousins wanted a virgin and only a virgin. Most of them married young 20 yrs old. The other one got a woman pregnant and that was overlooked but he called his female cousins sluts in they even went to a bar. Double standard. My mother did not stick up for us, so we had to defend ourselves. This was the same cousin that slapped me on Easter Sunday because my son gently hit the crystal on the lamp because he wanted to see it shine. I got hit and shoved out the door, me and my 2 yr old. son. I have abusive cousins and it is overlooked. These men are chauvanistic and want to wear a virgin on their arm. They feel that a virgin is untouched. It is an ego thing. Men though are allowed to sleep around and it is macho if you get more but when they settle down they want a virgin. She is worth more in their eyes, untouched. Why is it that men pursue women to sleep with??? I tried it both ways. They love to pursue a woman and then when they conquer her, they leave. The challenge is over....move on to the next. I have tried it both ways. When I did not sleep with the guy, there was just pressure and they go out of their way to please you with gifts, ......You know they don't really care, they are just trying to please you for their own egos. Women want respect and for you to appreciate who they are. Women do not want to be just the ornament on their arm so they could show you off to their buddies. They want to be loved and cherished. I would not go out with a guy who wants to just use me for their ego! I tried this and did not sleep with this guy and he started resenting me for saying No. He tried to hide me from his friends and did not stay with me at his friends daughters graduation. Most people did not even know who I came with. He drank alot and acted like I was not with him and then when he wanted to drive drunk. I told him that I would drive and he was screaming at me while I was driving and swearing and no one was on the road at that time. I handed him his keys, got out of the car and got a ride back to his home. He did not respect me more because I did not sleep with him. He resented me, swore at me, got drunk and hid me. He did not want me to go to the camp out that the host invited me to. He told me it was a guy camp out and I found out it was co=ed and they started teasing me that I would have to sleep with my friend. I became the joke so I knew that he was talking about me to these guy friends. I let the husband of the host drive me back to my car at his house.

I think if a guy wants a virgin, just to have a virgin, he is egotistical and chauvenistic and double standard. If he sleeps around why does he not want his girlfriend to? Double standard and not respectful. Egotistical that he wants a virgin on his arm. When you are young it is more realistic to find a virgin but when you get to our age, most people have been married and have kids, are divorced, have had sex, and not practical or realistic to find a virgin (untouched). There might be a few out there, but should not be ultimate goal to find a virgin at this age. Look at the heart of your woman...she is worth it!
 Lucky...13
Joined: 12/28/2012
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Posted: 1/24/2013 7:24:44 AM
I think I saw your boyfriend on the cover of SOLDIER OF FORTUNE..... He moved to the *middle east* and is now surrounded by a sea of virgins. LMAO
 paramedic52
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 297
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Posted: 1/24/2013 3:19:44 PM
if sexual experience is the only way for a woman to find a guy than i will be single for life. my guy count is one.
 RoughAsGuts
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Posted: 1/24/2013 3:50:55 PM
The double standard is in thinking that only men can be unreasonable or have lofty requirements for love.

If a man wants a virgin, then let him seek her out. His troubles are already double for putting such a high requirement on himself to find such a rarity. The same goes for women who think they will only ever be content living a millionaire lifestyle with minimal effort.

At the end of the day most people are shallow. Both men and women alike. And because people take so long to learn about life, I think its reasonable to just let them be. If you don't match with such a person then move on. But to say there is something wrong with any guy wanting a virgin is just dismissive and an unproductive way to look at the overall situation.

Men and women will want what they want. Nobody can say whether its right or wrong. If a woman thinks the only way she can be happy is to live rich then thats her perrogative. If a man thinks he can only ever trust a virgin or ever truly give his heart to one, then let him find out what life has in store for him. I have no sympathy for those who think the world is so simplistic that they try to fit everyone into a one size fits all on morality. There are always extenuating factors, like race, religion, culture, language and social conditioning. And at the end of it all you still have the gender thing, men and women don't think alike! And largely have different motives and goals where happiness is concerned. Live and let live I say.
 lowmiles2
Joined: 6/5/2007
Msg: 299
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Posted: 1/25/2013 9:53:51 AM
I have heard on this thread and others that a person's past sexual history is not important and that one needs to look to the future. That being said, if I catch Herpes from this gal someone is going to pay. The gift that keeps on giving. So yes he or she past sexual history is important. Marrying a virgin would eliminate the thought.
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