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 World Peace Kitten
Joined: 3/30/2006
Msg: 176
Why a virgin?Page 4 of 19    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19)
"However, it is true that an acquaintance rape where very little force is used does not harm a slut like it would a nice girl. After all sex is much like a handshake to a slut. So while the man should be convicted in both cases it is only reasonable that penalty, except for violent rapes, should be less for a slut since the harm was so much less and because sluts bring it own to themselves by being provocative."

I am disgusted. Both as a professional liscened psychologist who worked with both sex crime victims AND sex offenders almost exculsively....I am desigusted as a person, and I am disgusted as a virgin woman.


If there is 1001 men in town and the woman on the corner gives it away to 1000 of them in one night that doesn't give the last man the right to "take" it.

The user that posted this remark should be ashamed of is this kind of DISTORTED THINKING that keeps professionals like me booked solid six days a week and continues the cycle of devaint behavior that leads to one woman being forced into sex against her will every eight seconds and breeds sex offenders. I am deadly serious.

(and rape laws define force as non-consent which means the vicitim might still COMPLY or GO ALONG WITH the rapists demands even if there is no physical force or weapon is used, emotional/psychological coersion or threats are still forms of force...but this IS NOT THE SAME THING AS CONSENT)

So in the time it's taken me to write this post....9 women will have been raped.

It doesn't matter how many partners they have had before this
It doesn't matter how man times the vicitim had sex with the person BEFORE he raped her
When someone says NO or when someone cannot or does not give consent
its rape.

Again I am sickened and sadened by this kind of comment, I can hardly believe that ONLY TWO PEOPLE has said anything...I think THAT is what sickens me the MOST!

Shame on every one of you who read that comment and said nothing. Imagine a women is raped every 8 seconds those are pretty high odds that someone you know or will know has been or will be assaulted, maybe they have been and you don't even know it because of the kind of degrating attitude expressed by the woman who made that post...who is to say it won;t be or couldn not be your mother, your sister, your girlfriend, your wife, your bestfriend, your grandmother...for not standing up and saying something for them or yourself.
Joined: 8/9/2005
Msg: 178
Why a virgin?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:02:31 AM
Why a virgin indeed? They have no experience and their sexuality could turn out to be anything from frigid to nympho. Where are you going to find a virgin in her mid-twenties (which is very earliest anyone should marry).
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 188
Why a virgin?
Posted: 5/8/2006 6:29:52 AM
OK OK OK I would like add to this post I thought men would go crazy for a woman who is still a virgin but I was wrong men want a porn star in the bed room half of the men on this site said so but I think virgins are better wanna know why cuz no HIV no STD's safe! ok thats all I have to say!
Joined: 4/25/2005
Msg: 190
Why a virgin?
Posted: 5/16/2006 6:49:14 AM
OK let me ask what are men looking for a porn star in the bedroom or a virgin?
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 192
Why a virgin?
Posted: 5/16/2006 9:00:37 AM
"OK let me ask what are men looking for a porn star in the bedroom or a virgin?"

I prefer the virgin. Not to say that I would only date a virgin but I prefer a woman with more to offer than sex. If both men and women remained virgins untill marriage and sex outside of marriage was looked down upon socialy as it used to be marriages would stand a much better chance of lasting. Sex is only one small part of human existance yet is given so much play it cheapens it. Our society has become so self serving and so many people think nothing of using others simply for their own gratification that the elements of trust, loyalty and commitment are rare. In fact they are so rare that when one does find them they are suspicious and question if they are for real or just conning with what they think you want to hear.
Joined: 1/18/2006
Msg: 199
Why a virgin?
Posted: 6/22/2006 9:35:50 PM
guys who want to marry a virgin should build a time machine and go back to the 50's
 medicine woman
Joined: 12/17/2005
Msg: 200
Why a virgin?
Posted: 7/31/2006 1:08:18 PM

alot of guys want a virgin but then again not to many girls that are lol

I was just curious...... of ALL these men hunting a virgin female..... How many of them would be virgins themselves?
And to the males who believe ALL women should remain virgins until they marry... while its not a requirement for men.... who would that leave for the men to F**K if women waited? Each other?

Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 201
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 7/31/2006 1:19:27 PM
Um, that's a no for me, don't really care so as long as the woman enjoys who I am.
Joined: 1/24/2006
Msg: 205
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 8/17/2006 5:41:25 AM
i wouldnt need a virgin to marry.. only if i had to make a sacrifice to the God of the Volcano
Joined: 8/9/2005
Msg: 207
Why a virgin?
Posted: 11/12/2006 8:13:46 AM
I don't know any who would want that. Virginity is a big red flag in my book. Most likely due to some religious moral BS and once you go there, there's no telling what kind of whacked out ideas may surface.
Joined: 11/11/2006
Msg: 213
Why a virgin?
Posted: 2/9/2007 1:08:50 PM
I've never known a guy who wants to marry a virgin. I'm a virgin, pretty much...and I know alot of guys think it's "great" because they want me to lose my virginity to them or whatever...but never heard one say they wanted to marry a virgin. Nobody's ever wanted to marry me, anyway. haha.
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 215
Why a virgin?
Posted: 6/30/2007 10:43:58 PM
Why a virgin indeed.
I couldn't imagine breaking in a virgin. That's a patient person who is looking for them. If you are their first and only, how do you know their mind won't wander to what else is available. I think in this arena an average amount of safe experience is helpful rather than harmful.
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 218
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 7/1/2007 6:37:05 PM
LittleMissScareAll, I cannot believe that men don't want to marry you. Kick anyone who doesn't to the kerb.

As for me, I never used to care. I still don't. But I've met a few women who were not very experience and then had a lot of partners. Suffice to say, the change was NOT for the good.

So if I have to be honest, I want a woman with the mindset of a virgin. If that means she has no sexual experience, then so be it. I will be happy to educate her, and I have a lot of patience and lots of effort and care and sensitivity to give. Comes from a very hard life and very hard choices to make in life. But I won't hold it against her if she isn't and would welcome it, as long as she still thinks sex is special and mating is for life. 2 absolute requirements for me. Not that I don't think divorce exists, it's just that I'd probably make enough effort to avoid it that it would be easier to survive a nuclear war. I could have got married 10 times over and never went for it, for just that reason.
Joined: 12/30/2007
Msg: 226
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 1/21/2008 1:56:38 AM
I'm a male virgin, and I plan on staying that way until I'm married. But I don't put too much importance on whether my girlfriend or even future bride is a virgin. It's "preferable", but that's about as far as it goes. I'd be happy with dating a single mother. I guess my only concern is whether or not I'd be "up to standard" against her previous experiences.

I'd be interested in knowing what women think about male virgins. I know that a lot of men prefer virgins, but is it true that women, even virgin women, prefer experienced men? Do any women find virgin men appealing?
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 227
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 1/21/2008 2:06:13 AM
If a man marries a virgin he never has to worry that he isn't as good as the other guys she has had.
Joined: 9/19/2006
Msg: 228
Why a virgin?
Posted: 1/24/2008 9:56:08 PM
I see nothing attractive about a 30 year old virgin. However, an 18 to 20 year old virgin girl is more valuable and more desirable as a wife or even as a sex partner than an equally attractive non-virgin girl.

Young men place a premium on virginity. Young women place no premium on virginity in a young man and probably prefer young men with some sexual experience.

Therefore, logic dictates that a young man that is seeking a virgin should have sexual experience.
Joined: 6/23/2007
Msg: 230
Why a virgin?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:12:49 AM
I don't do pre-marital sex and I would love to date a virgin. It's not a deciding factor, though. I don't think she's any less of a virgin if she masturbates.
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 232
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:44:20 AM
I think men look at women as medals of honor and the more pure the women the higher the medal...
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 233
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:57:05 AM
The virgin thing went out the window very early in life because most of us lost our virginity early in life and that made it a "mute" issue.

I agree with Cyn that many men prefer women that are very selective with whom their partners were, including number of partners, and prefer a woman that is all lady outside the bedroom, and all tramp long as it is with just them.....

The metal of honor syndrome exists, I am sure for many, and women have theirs as well, but it is much more tied to financially security, and confidence.

Cyn might want to start a new thread on just this subject, and I bet we could have some interesting opinions.....

Just my opinion.......
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 234
Why a virgin?
Posted: 6/19/2008 12:26:45 PM
I agree with this message. once you are married the thought of not being a virgin really is not a issue lol
Joined: 12/14/2006
Msg: 238
Why a virgin?
Posted: 6/19/2008 9:22:21 PM
1. Insecurity
2. Jealousy Issues
3. He considers a woman a posession and doesn't want her "used"
4. If she's never known another, she'll never know if he's really any good
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 239
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Why a virgin?
Posted: 6/19/2008 9:45:07 PM
While I can respect, don't understand, but respect a person's choice to wait until marriage to have sex, I would also expect the person demanding someone be a virgin to also be one, a real one, not just technically or a reborn virgin, whatever the hell that is.
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 240
Why a virgin?
Posted: 6/20/2008 7:46:16 AM
What is the deal with men wanting to be married to a virgin
Which centry did this one crawl out of. Where's the Tardus?
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