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 designingwoman
Joined: 9/4/2005
Msg: 55
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40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten mePage 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
Well at least I am off the hook when it comes to kids--my brother has two wonderful children.

I hope to be married someday, and could go with either no children or adopting children after being married a year or two, depending on the situation.

Best wishes to all!

DW
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 64
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40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 3/30/2006 4:24:17 AM
UMMM. I dunno where that guy in message 24 got his ideas, but (I hope) he isn't speaking for the entire male sex.

I am a 44 year old never married guy. When I was in my late teen through 20's I was in the military....moving all over the world a lot. In my early 30's, I tried to play catch-up, but all I accomplished was to decide to get a dog, instead. Now, I'm not what would be considered "prime beef" by most, so - here I am.

My opinion about having children (despite the fact that I would not be the one bearing the child) is simply.....If I were to meet and marry, it would be the woman's FINAL decision to have one or not, because she's got to do the hard part.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 66
40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 2/14/2011 5:26:52 AM

B'LADY'S WORDS OF WISDOM...IF LIFE DOES NOT TURN OUT THE WAY YOU ONCE WANTED...LEARN TO ENJOY THE LIFE THAT HAS BEEN GRANTED TO YOU!!



I wish so much that I had gotten pregnant when I was still able too.To never be a mother is a huge regret to me.



~OT~ Well, I've been single much more in my adult life than not. I had a child, but sadly he died. I'm in the Bermuda Triangle of this subject. I'll always be HIS Mother, but he's no longer here to be his Mom. Oddly, that, to many is a curse. I'm "damaged" in the eyes of those who either don't like to know such wretched things happen, or I'm needing rescued from such horror to others. Either way, it's an odd place to be. There will always be those who have to pick apart a situation that simply doesn't need to be picked apart. My opinion ~ maybe they can all date one another and stay out of the main-stream dating pool!! I don't judge anyone's preference for marriage/and/or children or not. It's such a personal choice. JMO
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 69
40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 3/26/2011 5:48:09 PM
^^^^^^^LOL ~ Care to tell us how you really fell about marriage? So if you have a pre-planned speech, why wait til date #3? Wouldn't it be wiser and save time/effort/energy and money to just tell them this before date #1 ?? You wish to be alone indefinitely, why bother with this at all?? Just curious.
 Casper66
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 71
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40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 4/12/2011 11:36:09 AM
Now that I'm in my 40's, I really have no regrets about not having children, I do wonder sometimes but I realized years ago motherhood just wasn't for me, took alot of flak for it at times because people just couldn't understand why I wasn't married with kids like them. I made my life choices to live my life the way I wanted to and not follow the norm and I'm a pretty happy person these days knowing I made the right choice for my happiness.
 LivnnTX
Joined: 4/27/2011
Msg: 72
40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 8/5/2011 4:25:02 PM
I can sum it up for you very easilly: CAREER!
 Pinayto
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 75
40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 8/9/2011 6:44:47 AM
Oh God, I will be in this club next year. Honestly, I never really obsess over having a man with my life any chance I get on those years that I should have. It is only now that I am seriously thinking about it. If a guy I meet here is turned off by the fact that I'm unmarried with no children at my age, it simply means he is not the right guy for me. In order for me to be in a relationship, you have to accept me for who I am, the good, the bad, the ugly. And I do the same for him.
 SunnyBlueSkies23
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 79
40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 8/20/2011 7:30:27 PM
I don't know, I mean as a little girl ,I always dreamed of getting married,of having my own babies.........but as I've found out in my later life, some things,no matter how hard you want them or how much you pray and cry over them,if they're simply NOT meant to be........you can't make them be. I'll admit I toy with the idea of adopting.....there's SO many (TOO many,really) kids out there who desperately need love. And,right now, I can't afford it. Who knows??.....maybe one day I just might adopt one or two.But, when it comes down to basics, I AM basicaly happy with my life. i have a beautiul home, a wonderful family,friends who love me.......and, in my career,children who I'm blessed to see every single (week) day and offer them my joy & love. They love me back too,which is always a GREAT feeling! As my wonderful,beautiful late Mom used to tell me,"Maybe you're not meant to just care for just one child...maybe you're meant to be like a serrogate to A LOT of children,because you're SO loving....ever think of that?!" Thanks,Mom! All in all.yes,I AM happy. Mom also taught me to "Count my blessings...I have SO much to be thankful for!",so I do,every day. Thanks again, Mom!!
 ClaireChristine
Joined: 8/16/2011
Msg: 80
40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 8/20/2011 11:35:55 PM
Right on Tink. It may happen for you too. Lets hope. I am in the same situation and have not regretted my life choices. I have never dreamed of my wedding day or finding a husband. I knew it was not for me. I have had varied love life and my freedom has always been as necessary as breathing for me. I have worked and supported myself and dependent on nobody... I like men but to be committed to one only and supposedly forever limits life experience and I am way too curious for that.

 ClaireChristine
Joined: 8/16/2011
Msg: 81
40, 50, 60 yr old women - unmarried with no children: enlighten me
Posted: 8/20/2011 11:41:04 PM
Wonderful story Bluebutterflies... I agree that there are children that need our care and attention that are not necessarily tied by blood...
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