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 Angel Eyes_Sassy Mouth
Joined: 10/11/2005
Msg: 158
Registered Sex Offender?!?Page 6 of 12    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12)
Sex offenders register because they HAVE to...not because they are just doing society a good deed! For those that didn't read a previous post..there is a web sight called FAMILY WATCHDOG....you can go on to it and find out if there are any offenders in your neighborhood.
 sexi_mama
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 159
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 3/1/2006 5:23:04 AM
Some State police actually keep a list of reg sex offenders available over the internet...I know Island County does in WA State....
 DacaInaru
Joined: 8/18/2005
Msg: 160
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 3/1/2006 6:30:03 AM

dacainaru....


i emailed you and said i was i was SORRY


well I never got the email broken but you dont' have to appoligize to me.. honestly your entitled to your opinion..
 Broken_Wings
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 161
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/12/2006 2:04:41 AM
Hello "dacainaru" how are you doing? just wanted see how everything is going for you.
 rainskiss
Joined: 3/5/2006
Msg: 162
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/12/2006 6:31:46 AM
Alot of men get royally screwed by girls lieing about their age.
But the fact of the matter is something took place.

First let me tell me you this, indecent liberties with a minor sounds more innocent then statutory rape, but alot of states refer to statutory rape as indecent liberties, so if hes trying to pass the IL off as something not as serious or something diffrent, then you need to know this.

Something more had to take place for him to get charged with indecent liberties with a minor,
There had to be proof of something that convicted him.
I would be asking more questions if you know the county where he got charged at you can talk to the judge or the prosecuting lawyer, you may even be able to find transcripts of the trial at the public library, or new article at the library if you know when this happened.

After you check things out for yourself, its up to you make your own judgement call, listen to your instints and follow your intuition and if I was you I would not let him know I was checking until I found out what I needed to know. If its bad and you decide to call it off, do so in the presence of others, not alone, you just never know and you have to protect yourself first and formost. I mean no offense to you but you are 22, I can tell your intelligent but let me tell you hun there is some real smooth talking men out there who can make you believe anything they want you to, check him out more!!!

This sight here is most interesting

My jaw almost hit the floor .......within a 6.04 radious from my house..there is 84 registered sex offenders....


Free site...Check to see who your neighbors are http://www30.familywatchdog.us/


Rain
 Broken_Wings
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 163
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/12/2006 5:30:05 PM
know what's odd/funny about this fourm is that some of yall/us may even KNOW the people or a person who is the sex offenders list i checked for my area the other night and i seen a guy on the list who i went school, with and i never knew he was a sex offender because he was one of the quiest/sweetest guys when we was going school.

so some of us might even know people on that list who we use date or even invited in our homes because we was friend's at that time and you never know, but this is a cold hearted/scarry world we live in but NOT every guy is like the one's we hear about.




~davids mom~

 Broken_Wings
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 164
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/12/2006 6:17:21 PM




Maybe if this girls parents care about her at all they would have had BETTER outlook on what she does and was BETTER parents and tryed teach her right from wrong.
 Darkhorse7
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 165
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/12/2006 7:52:14 PM
Stuff does happen,however a guy who can't figure out a gal is 14 or close to it,is a bit shy on smarts,therefore a liablility.Move on.Just tell him the truth and say it's not your trip.
Peace.
 rainbowfishh
Joined: 4/20/2006
Msg: 166
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/12/2006 8:01:46 PM
msg 1... sorry this has happened
but this goes to prove why you should
do a criminal background check BEFORE
you get in too deep with someone.

Sorry but I dont buy the he was "just kissing" her....
hope you dont get lied to any more by this guy...
shesh... how horrible to find something like that out.
It was like he held it from you
to unload it on you later.

He lied by omission and should have told you this up front...
and you could have checked for this type thing
by going to the police station and paying 10-15 dollars... or use one of the online
sites to do a background check...
and most police stations have registered sex offender info online
did you know that?
maybe you can check his story out.......
and go to the county where he was arrested and see if the info jives with what
he says
as it will tell you a basic history of what he was convicted of.
for instance... sex with a 14 year old male
or female.
and the sites have their pictures too
 Broken_Wings
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 167
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/12/2006 8:20:55 PM
I think this thread has all the information on it as it is and if anybody feels/knows that their is a sex offender in your area warn your loved ones and people you know so just incase one of those "preditors" is closer than you think, so yall/we all could keep a closer eye out and help our kids be safe.


God Bless.


(plz do not bash me for, my statement)
 rainskiss
Joined: 3/5/2006
Msg: 168
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/13/2006 4:05:00 AM
omg here we go blaming the parents..ok first let me say im not bashing you. I totally respect your opinion, but....

I get so tired of everyone blaming the parents, you can't be with your kids 24/7, you raise your kid with morals, ethnics and values, but sometimes they just get stupid, and the parents are the last to know. I have seen many 13 and 14 year olds who would easly pass for 17 or 18, come from excellant family, preachers and what not, but wild as all get out when mommie and daddie is not around. If it was the fault of the parents for what the kids do all the time then I should of been the biggest whore growing up, should of been on drugs, running the streets doing god know what with god knows who, cause god knows my mom didn't give a crap about me, she even tryed selling me for her next beer, we don't even want to talk about my step-dad, but you know what I was doing, at age 15 I got a emancipation, stayed in school and worked a full time job, and on weekends worked a extra job, but I had been working like that since I was 14.
 Broken_Wings
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 169
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/13/2006 4:09:11 AM
I am NOT blameing the kids because i know NOBODY can watch their kids 24/7 but you do NOT know how some kids are today esp in this state but everytime i POST something no matter what it is somebody alway's wants to TWIST my words and put, shit in my mouth that i am NOT sayin or tryin make it sound like i am bashing/blameing people.

I just think if kids had a better role model now days they would not turn out so bad and get into trouble but like you said NOBODY can watch their kid 24/7 but that does NOT mean we should abandon our kids and NOT worry/care what they are doing.


Davids Mom
 JAMESDEAN55
Joined: 5/12/2006
Msg: 170
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/13/2006 4:28:56 AM
I'm not going to support this guy at all but will say in his defense I think somtimes it can be hard to tell a 14 yro froman 18yro.I don't really care that it can be hard to tell as I'm not attracted to little tarts anyway for a # of reasons, but I disagree that it's alway's easy to tell these ages apart>>>>> hey guys before you pick up a chick who you think 'COULD" BE under aged ask for ID! NO ID = NO DATE PERIOD!
 Broken_Wings
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 171
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/13/2006 6:26:09 AM
jamesdean55

Yeah you have a point and in first of all where is all these gurls mom/dad at when their little girl is probaly "sneaking" into a bar and most likely comming onto every man she meet's i was so lucky i had a little boy because i do NOT think raiseing a boy would be harder, than raiseing a girl if i had a girl she would NOT date/see any guy/man until she was 18.
 Broken_Wings
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 173
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 6/13/2006 4:15:43 PM
indy38


i agree with you lol and i know how she would react and do and she would sneak behind my back but better safe than sorry i mean i am not if i have a girl going tell her "your not dateing anyone until, your 18" but i would sit her down and explain to her what could happend and the, bad turns out could be if she does end up gettin with a man who is older than her.

but i guess i am a bad mom because i would rather have my daughter if i have one safe and not in any trouble with guy's/law and end up in jail before she hits 18?, i mean parents have to set GROUND RULES if they don't they will end up in worse situration's than they would want to be.
 zonquer
Joined: 6/13/2006
Msg: 174
Experiences...
Posted: 6/13/2006 8:43:22 PM
It seems to me that there is a moral panic going on, a lot of people are going nuts, a lot of people are trying to protect their children by throwing them in jail and branding them for life just because they do what children do. And 14 isn't 18 or 21, but 14 isn't 10 either....

The police did find me, a couple times, when I was 17 one summer when I had a 14-year old girlfriend, found us parked somewhere with fogged up windows, all they'd do is make us move the car. The laws were the same as today, and technically even a kiss was a crime - technically even suggestive language was a crime - but you know they didn't throw the book at kids back then. Today they do. Today it would be The List. And I think that's insane. I bet even the cops know it's insane. But they just follow orders. Good Christian, hardworking people who just follow orders. Heil.

I could be where that guy is at, if I just was in a different place and time.


Heil.
 Broken_Wings
Joined: 6/12/2006
Msg: 175
Experiences...
Posted: 6/14/2006 11:46:48 PM
Yeh i can relate because my cousin was closer than close could ever get to being in this guys shoes because he got in some shit dateing a chick who was 2yrs younger than him and her parents tryed almost everything, to get him locked up and even called the law into it but they was not that much older and my cousin was haveing sexual realtions with this chick and her parents didnt like it so they was trying have him arrested for "sexual abuse" and FORCEING their daughter to have sexual realtions with him.

a sex offender does not always mean haveing sex with kids.
 okema2012
Joined: 7/23/2008
Msg: 176
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 11/17/2008 7:36:43 AM
I too am dating a registered sex offender This happened to him 15 years ago and he has no record since then not even a traffic ticket. I know I checked. One suggestion I have go to the county and check him out on the criminal computer. It is public record and free to do. This will tell you what else is on his record. Use your best judgement here go by what you feel. You know what is right and what is wrong for you if you listen to yourself. Be his friend if nothing else and see what happens
 ***blue***
Joined: 4/21/2008
Msg: 177
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 11/17/2008 10:17:28 AM
"I too am dating a registered sex offender This happened to him 15 years ago and he has no record since then not even a traffic ticket."

My mom is married to one still. And I can tell you that no they don't change. They can curb the inpulse for a time, but I also know that if a 'perfect for them' oppertunity shows itself then it would be very hard for them not to act on it.

My mom's husband attends counseling still (yes after 15 years) and he avoids any kind of function where his 'target' age bracket (sp?) will be, because he doesn't trust himself.

I have no contact with him and will not in the future even, but that is not a chance I would even think about taking.

This is an old thread anyway so maybe all the info can help someone else.
 *~*Royal Majesty*~*
Joined: 8/5/2008
Msg: 178
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 11/17/2008 10:42:18 AM
I would NOT date someone with ANY type of criminal record. Period.

Background checks are very, very helpful and are a great source of personal security, safety &peace of mind, especially in today's crazy world! I highly recommend them.
 caryn86
Joined: 11/1/2008
Msg: 179
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 11/17/2008 4:33:15 PM
Personally, I think you should trust your own judgement. Tell him the truth. If you cant be in a relationship with him, then fine. You have already checked up on what he was in jail for, he was honest about that. And I can tell you, I never told the truth about my age when I was 13/14. Hell I work with a girl who is sixteen and looks older then me, and she has been going into pubs for a year now (Way too young too).
These days people can sue for anything, go to jail for anything, nobody can trust anything anymore. And as for the length of the sentence? It all differs case to case. I have friends, both commited assault, not sexual mind you, (different cases, but very similar) one got a year, the other had three months. It all depends on the actual juries and judges and what not.
 cacconcy1
Joined: 8/7/2007
Msg: 180
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 11/23/2008 9:57:16 PM
I was the victim of a sexual predator and I am not "judging" it is up to the Lord to do so'' All I can say is this. When you read on the State's site about each of these people's history they keep falling into that same category every time they are incarcerated. In my own mind you can think we all make mistakes in our lives but just the thought of a predator or offender with the words listed on that site that says" Lewd and Lacivious Acts" It gives me the cold chills just thinking about woman my age let alone little kids who are also their victims.. I have a restricted phone # as long as this man resides in Florida.. but on that same site shows predators and offenders who are ABSCONDED'' In other words they have lost track of them.. Our system does not have enough police or anyone who can "protect" us all of the time'' And here in Pasco County right on their site is three of them living on the street where there is an Elemantary school. What a terrible thought and the state is aware of that''Sorry this is so long but nothing upsets me more than this topic, I lay awake at nights thinking about the man who attacked me so brutally.. And now he is out on the streets where I testified against him'' What happens to me now?? I am more aware of my surroundings than ever.. Not in a feaful way anymore'' but in a manner of putting these people men and women both away for life so that they cannot hurt anyone else.. Again so sorry this was so long and extended.. Good night to all of you and PLEASE DO THINK ABOUT WHAT I HAVE EXPRESSED TO YOU"" I would not say what I have except my own experience and the States site that backs up everything I am saying to you''
 xsentricity
Joined: 6/18/2008
Msg: 181
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 11/24/2008 10:30:07 PM
A good friend of mine was in this sort of situation. We tried setting him up with girls that he met online, finally he meets one, they went to a bar, had a drink and ended up at his place. For the next few days, all I hear was how amazing she was in bed, etc... LOL! Then he sees her on facebook, with the year "1992" in her profile as her bday (this was about 2 years ago). He made a mistake, believing this girl off the bat (for Christ sakes, he met her in a BAR), and thank god she didnt say anything. If she did it would have been that he seduced her, he raped her, etc..... Just so she could protect herself from her families scorn. I say find the court records for this case, read them then decide for yourself.
Your man DID meet her in a bar, so of COURSE he thought she was of age. Its only proper isn't it?
 ***blue***
Joined: 4/21/2008
Msg: 185
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 11/25/2008 8:59:49 AM
Hell if I know why but it's the way it is and I have absolutely no contact with him.
It's her life to do what she wants with it. As long as she is happy and he's not hurting anyone I can deal with it.
We have had a lot of long talks on the topic, and I guess she loves him. My mom's not one to give her heart away easily at all, and I guess when she does, she really does.
I'm not going to bad mouth her because she is and always has been.
I should also add that she was unaware of his problems when they married and didn't find out about them for 6 years maybe 5, until I told her and they were basically seperated until we were grown up and out of the house.
 luvmygirl
Joined: 1/11/2009
Msg: 186
Registered Sex Offender?!?
Posted: 1/22/2009 6:05:30 AM
I don't like to judge people personally. I'd like to believe that it is easy to see that a girl is only 14 years old, but admittedly, girls look older nowadays. That is by no means an excuse...simply an observaton. By the simple fact that she was in a bar when they met...may be a good explanation as to why he thought she was older...but one of the first questions you should always ask is how old someone is. This girl he used to sleep with...had a moral obligation to tell him that her friend was only 14...and she fell flat on her face with this one. Despite his ignorance, what he did was still wrong.

The issue is you are having doubts. Go with your gut! I have a little girl, and this would be a deal breaker for me...without question.
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