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 musicnut46
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 51
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It is a Dating" Site after all Use it to make"friends" if it's mutualy agreeable As long as there's no possibility of "sparks",meeting can be ok too
 Lady~Gurl
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 52
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/20/2006 1:16:03 PM
ACE 76..i am a bit late on this response...but you had asked..if my partner was sleeping..and you were online & horny..if asking someone to HELP you out was concidered cheating? YES..my friend..it is..You are actively seeking out another LIVE person to what?..talk you thru it?..its like phone sex..I mean really..Why don't you wake your partner up..with softness and make love to the person you are with..instead of Cybering it?..I Don't Get IT!! technology rules..but takes away from the REALITY........
 musicnut46
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 53
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 12/20/2006 1:52:48 PM
Or grabbing a "playgirl" and heading for the washroom fot that matter too,especially if she's real That's why reality can suck(hopefully she can too) and computers are just stupid machines anyway Whatever
 Tarika
Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 54
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:07:26 PM
I believe it is cheating even though there is no physical touch.
 musicnut46
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 55
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:57:11 PM
Nope,only one gets the "point" at a time.The get him interested.Case in point,last girlfriend I met the old-fashioned way,found-out I had online profiles and "poof".You know,the whole "open" relationship issue is a thread upon itself.Anybody might get someone "interested" anywhere."cheating" be when you meet them and sparks fly.
 Mortavius
Joined: 1/17/2007
Msg: 56
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/21/2007 7:54:23 PM
The moment you lie, or engage in any obfuscation of an activity with a person other than your partner, in an attempt to keep both relationships.... you are cheating.
 Sportsdesk
Joined: 8/27/2006
Msg: 57
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/22/2007 10:37:50 AM

Well my opinion may be bias but I do think it is cheating. My ex said she was just talking to friends late at night and I am sure that she was at times, however, she ended up leaving me and for some guy she met on the net. The only reason she left was that he had his own business and had more money. The everyone out there, if they are chatting and sharing personal information with others they have already left your relationship and presented themselves as being available.



Typical woman...going after a guy with money
 tick tock
Joined: 7/30/2006
Msg: 60
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Posted: 1/23/2007 9:21:41 AM
It's funny how judgemental we've become of a behaviour that has been the norm for the majority of our existence.
 KenF
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 61
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Posted: 1/23/2007 2:44:05 PM

IMO: is being on POF or another site, while in a relationship considered cheating, not if you've hidden your profile, and indicated not single/not looking etc. But , if one is actively shall we label it " shopping " with or without the profile modifications, then I do consider that cheating.


I'm the guy that welshgal is concerned about. My profile on here has been set to "not single/not looking" same with CK, I just do some voting there. My lava profile has been set to be hidden from all other users.

Ken
 reinouir
Joined: 3/7/2006
Msg: 62
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 1/23/2007 6:47:26 PM
I struck up a conversation with an older lady at the bar last weekend. She was trying to drown her memory of her most recent marriage with alcohol. She had mentioned to me that her ex husband was messing around behind her back and that that previous week had caught the two in the act at a hotel. She further went on to tell me that this all started on the internet through IM'ing.

So IMHO, I think its cheating.

-Jim
 countess_rose
Joined: 1/3/2007
Msg: 63
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 2/10/2007 6:06:28 AM
once a cheater always one,
i feel.
why then would you be within a relationship, if you need some sort of Buzz Via Online?
Why not just be a single player?

I just do not understand when these taken people say its all in fun and games"
why can they not have these type of games with there other half?
to me it's cheating and very missleading...i could never do anything so Hurtful to someone i loved deeply.
ether way it's very wrong.
 chrylann
Joined: 12/8/2007
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Posted: 8/9/2008 9:46:15 PM
It's not cheating.
 3b83
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 65
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 9/6/2008 11:16:45 PM
I think its cheating too. That is a horrible thing to do. How would they feel if they were being done like that? I think that its only a matter of time until the online thing wont be enough and meetings and hookups will start happening. Its like smoking. You start off with a few a day until you have a 4 pack a day habit
 yigenuren
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 66
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Posted: 11/22/2008 4:49:42 PM
They real question is, how does it make you feel?

If it doesn't make you feel good in your relationship, then you should confront him on the issue of your satisfaction...not his actions. Live for you.

How long do you intend to feel bad about it or what kind of mind must you develop to accept behavior you don't like. It doesn't sound healthy to excuse the behavior.

Personally, I wouldn't deal with that at all.
 orchidtigress
Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 67
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/23/2008 12:15:08 PM
Yes in my opinion- mind is just as powerful as the body....the beauty of a relationship between two people is the intimacy...once that has been shared with others even in mind as an intimate moment...you have broken that bond by sharing yourslf with another.
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
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Posted: 11/23/2008 2:09:47 PM
Unless the two have an agreement about it - it's cheating.
 Minau
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 11/23/2008 10:51:34 PM
Yes...turning to someone else for intimacy or even emotional support...absolutely.
 Mr Bain
Joined: 12/6/2004
Msg: 71
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 12:31:11 AM
Depends on what you do with the other person online.

Casual conversation... Sure, you're allowed to. Everyone in the world does that.

Flirting and pursuing someone.... You're kind of in shady territory if you ask me.

Cybersex..... This is cheating. This is f--king messing around on your spouse.
 Tammy the cat
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 72
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Posted: 11/24/2008 2:16:02 AM
Its definitely cheating,no to ways about it.Any intimate talk to help out,should be done by the partner. I guess only if you are into couple swapping as a joint thing,an its ok by your partner,then you cant really say its cheating.
 Major_canadian
Joined: 2/22/2005
Msg: 73
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Posted: 11/24/2008 5:52:49 PM
why is everyone so quick to assume that it's her bf that's the one doing the cyber sex, it might be crzygrl doin the freak.

i will say this though, if you can't have your mate view what you do over the internet, it's probably cheating.
 smoranean
Joined: 11/18/2008
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Posted: 11/24/2008 6:19:42 PM

How about if they say to these people "my gf/bf are gone to bed and I'm really horny....wanna help me out?"
Is that "technically" cheating or not??


If all parties are aware of the mutual relationship and happy to share, then it is not cheating but perhaps more just plain lack of self-control and selfishness.

If, on the other hand, the r/l friend and online friend do not know each other, then wouldn't that be classified as deceitfulness? Cheating = disnonesty = sneaky and it's rather inhumane behaviour towards somebody one claims to care for. It's also possible that false promises can be made to the online friend as well, so it's effectively double-cheating if you don't tell both your friends about each other.

Typically it seems, a cheat may use a computer at her workplace to conduct an online relationship, but refrain from posting from home to conceal the identities of the r/l partner and the online partner from each other.

This can be entertaining for all for a limited time, but the end is likely to be a win-lose-lose or else a lose-lose-lose triangle.

Don't play around behind your lover's back, and that includes online romance just the same as real life.

(I know, a bit of a motherhood statement that, sorry folks. )
 VivaciousVixen2010
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 75
Is It Cheating If Its Only Online????
Posted: 11/24/2008 8:21:53 PM
yes! yes! yes! yes!yes! yes! yes! What is mine is mine and what is yours is yours!!
IT IS COMPLETELY DISHOHEST AND DECEPTIVE TO YOUR PARTNER
Disrespectful and hurtful
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