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 LetitiaLeGrande
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pickme pickme

I agree with you. It would be obvious she just wants the ring on it and is not really turned on by the guy in question. Or just feels sex is for having babies and in the confines of marriage only. Guess what happens. Once she has had the family she wants, the shop is shut. Seen it happen.

I get that some people are screwed up by religious indoctrination and if you can get a man and woman who hold the same views, then yes.
 treeguy100
Joined: 7/17/2014
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/20/2015 6:07:37 PM
A women i was seeing told me that do not expect any intimacy until i had married her. That is her right and i respect that right as I walked out the door. What is sex with me a bargaining chip. I knew her ex BTW he left her because she was sexually frigid. He cheated (actually just found someone who provided what he lacked). Anyhow, imagine i married her just to find out she had issues later. Women will use sex to trap unsuspecting males imo'
 Viper1j
Joined: 2/6/2015
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/23/2015 3:11:06 AM

oh heck no. If a girl starts that line, means they have hang ups and issues.


When a woman says that she doesn't believe in sex before marriage, it is in no way a guarantee that she believes in sex AFTER marriage.

And I've heard it said, that the one food guaranteed to diminish a woman's sex drive is wedding cake.

So you wait, you get married, then you find out that you're sexually incompatible. Now you've got to spend all that money, paying for a mistress across town. Paying for her apartment, car, giving her spending money. Totally huge unnecessary expense, because you failed to test drive before the purchase.
 scotishrod
Joined: 7/11/2010
Msg: 3754
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/24/2015 6:44:50 AM
Yes of course I would wait. God doesn't permit premarital sex anyway so waiting for me would be a huge plus!
 clooneystutor
Joined: 3/8/2015
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/24/2015 12:07:22 PM


God doesn't permit premarital sex anyway


The Devil does.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/18/2015
Msg: 3756
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/24/2015 1:40:30 PM

God doesn't permit premarital sex anyway so waiting for me would be a huge plus!


Yah, what Mr. Clooney said.

If there was a god, you'd think she'd worry about more important things than who's
sleeping with who...there's a lot of stuff going down right now...global changes, etc.

Priorities!
 overunity
Joined: 8/16/2014
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 7/24/2015 1:48:06 PM
Only if I was in Vegas and the "chapel" was across the street.
 naturaltracks
Joined: 6/30/2014
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/26/2016 11:58:47 PM
Being a virgin at age 18 I agreed to wait when I found the love of my life , married at age 23, 25yrs married yrs later a mid life hit her and the cheating began for 4 yrs until I found out, then I did all i could to forgive and do all I could to save the marriage, at 30yrs married she divorced me.... now 8yrs single I have been enjoying all the relationships and all the crazy wild sex I can put out and take..... I regret being that crazy in love and agreeing to no intercourse until the wedding night.Of course I was inexperience ,came wayy too soon that night and it was lousy for both of us for some time. The sex life among a couple should be found out before something as important as marriage !!!!!!!!!
 kidreason29
Joined: 9/25/2015
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/27/2016 1:08:17 AM
is this a simple yes or no question? seems like it. gonna just have to say yes, since the premise is that I found the right woman. minus well get married right away then?
 ebolakitty
Joined: 3/19/2016
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Posted: 3/27/2016 1:32:45 AM
The sun will go red giant before I ever have sex again. Waiting for marriage is meaningless because I won't do that either.

I was casually seeing a woman not long ago and she tried to sound me out on it. She was probably trying to see how long I would wait so I told her. "That subject is permanently off limits. Don't mention it again." That was the last I saw of her. Not that I minded all that much. After all, who wants to be pestered and pressured? Where are all of the frigid ice queens when you need one?
 IgottaName
Joined: 3/29/2014
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Posted: 3/27/2016 3:47:44 AM
At 53 yo? No. But I don't plan on getting married again anway.
 dragonbytes
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Posted: 3/27/2016 8:35:01 AM
In this day and age, I think this is a better question!

GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till divorce?
 Phils20
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/27/2016 11:22:54 AM
I would not wait! LOL
On other side, if I felt our dating relationship was heading somewhere, but she wasn't comfortable yet to get physical (handful of dates, lets say), I would not press her to have sex at all.
Would totally respect her feelings.
If a couple is serious about each other, the physical act is important to experience before marriage.
 norwegianguy456
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/27/2016 11:34:55 PM

It would be obvious she just wants the ring on it and is not really turned on by the guy in question. Or just feels sex is for having babies and in the confines of marriage only. Guess what happens. Once she has had the family she wants, the shop is shut. Seen it happen.

Yep. Ball would be in her court to make a logically, convincingly, satisfying argument explaining why it Isn't like that. If she can't convince -- then it's her Fault, and she's causing the problem.

When a woman says that she doesn't believe in sex before marriage, it is in no way a guarantee that she believes in sex AFTER marriage.

True. Although it has been said that many religious gals who wait for sex before marriage, they're not necessarily going to be boring in the sack or anything -- in fact they can be quite active "phew! finally!". They tend to get married earlier in life than others so still young and frisky at that point. However, that's just a temporary honeymoon phase, but beyond that -- yeah, what's it going to be like?

IMO, if the guy's real religious, and her reason as a young gal, which is obvious, is that she's a virgin and real religious -- I don't see a problem with waiting until marriage, especially when that waiting once in college is not going to last that long at all. So that's one case with specifics where it wouldn't be an indicator that she'd hate sex. Now, if she was 35 or something, there's more to worry about right there.
 2016summer2016
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/27/2016 11:58:53 PM
I could. But shouldnt have to. And therefore would have women on the side until marriage.
 albertafor51st
Joined: 3/8/2016
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Posted: 3/29/2016 4:51:28 AM
No.If a woman could wait that long with a man she was apparently interested in....she wouldn't be normal by my standards.
 albertafor51st
Joined: 3/8/2016
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Posted: 3/29/2016 4:51:39 AM
No.If a woman could wait that long with a man she was apparently interested in....she wouldn't be normal by my standards.
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
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Posted: 3/29/2016 4:59:17 AM
I suppose everyone has there own parameters for what is "normal" Mr. Alberta but your answer sure does unsettle the hopeful romantic in me. But that my issue not yours. :)
 flman2015
Joined: 10/3/2015
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Posted: 3/29/2016 6:04:34 AM
In theory, marriage is a contract to guarantee the well being of the offsprings a couple may have should the coupling be broken at some point in time in the future.

In practice, it has been extended to be a sort of "propriety" licence for a couple to give each other physical pleasure. That part is irrational. People should be free to express their emotions towards each other, particularly in this case, where emotions are the driving force behind a couple's desire to give each other physical pleasure.
 Strider324
Joined: 2/17/2016
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Posted: 3/29/2016 4:02:43 PM

God doesn't permit premarital sex anyway so waiting for me would be a huge plus!


Except that the Hebrew god says nothing about premarital sex. He was too busy calling for death to those that committed the abomination of having sex during a woman's period, as well as a number of other 'sins', but premarital sex was really just the hang up of Paul and his gang - and Paul had a habit of contradicting Jesus every chance he got - so I wouldn't put much stock in what he says.

Further, Porneia is the greek word used in the KJV to cover illicit sexual intercourse - including the really icky stuff like bestiality and (gasp!) lesbians and homosexuals. But as was typical, it was mistranslated as 'fornication' by the church fathers.

The bottom line - there is no word in either koine greek or Hebrew in the bible that specifically refers to sex before marriage. The church just wanted to use a shotgun approach to keep the sheep in line.

Personally, I would never, ever consider marriage to someone I had not experienced sexual intimacy with, just as I would not be stupid enough to marry someone without knowing if we were intellectually, spiritually or emotionally compatible.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 3/29/2016 4:32:51 PM
were she boob-a-licious, its amazing how many guys will still keep waiting long after she's ditched him to go sleep with someone good looking :)

animals will do a lot for pleasure, even forsake the button for food to press the button for the shot of cocaine.
 norwegianguy456
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 3/29/2016 5:05:25 PM

I suppose everyone has there own parameters for what is "normal" Mr. Alberta but your answer sure does unsettle the hopeful romantic in me. But that my issue not yours. :)

Then Truly a vast majority of guys 25 and over unsettle the hopeful romantic in ya. :) It's certainly not a "ehhh, with some it's this way, with some it's the other way". It's quite a vast majority of people of all different types that aren't going to be keen on it, guy or girl, at 25+.

were she boob-a-licious, its amazing how many guys will still keep waiting long after she's ditched him to go sleep with someone good looking :)

If she's solidly out of his league, a Mr Nice Guy with little to no sexual experience who she didn't want to have sex with (and not much of anything else physically with) will be willing for quite some time if he's a real pushover. Of course, rarely does marriage actually come into the picture in those Mr Nice Guy + Hot Babe + No Physicality but Paid Dates, as they fall short beforehand for very understandable reasons (usually way way beforehand).
 kj521
Joined: 9/20/2015
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Posted: 3/29/2016 6:03:46 PM
"Then Truly a vast majority of guys 25 and over unsettle the hopeful romantic in ya. :) It's certainly not a "ehhh, with some it's this way, with some it's the other way". It's quite a vast majority of people of all different types that aren't going to be keen on it, guy or girl, at 25+."


I suppose you are correct Mr. Norwegian. I can't help but be a bit unrealistic where love is concerned. Just who I am...I suppose. :)
 HopeAndDreams77
Joined: 3/25/2015
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Posted: 4/16/2016 8:55:31 AM
Yes i could wait till marriage and even longer if the woman wasn't ready real Love isn't about sex its about being with someone you have feelings for and know you want to spend the rest of your life with.
 dragonbytes
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 4/16/2016 9:11:33 AM
I never really made a strong connection between sex and marriage. I think of marriage as a lifetime commitment towards each other that involves mutual support, companionship and pooling of resources. Sex is usually part of that mutual support, but you can have sex without a lifetime commitment or pooling of resources.

And since I never had a goal of getting married, it would have made life very different for me.
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