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 molonel
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 91
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?Page 3 of 157    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41)

Well, this thread has sure brought out some interesting things about men. She's worth marrying (for life), but not worth waiting for? I wonder how many understand what marriage is really about? Thanks to the person that started the topic. It's an eye opener for sure.


You either missed, or deliberately ignored, the half-dozen women who also replied expressing similar sentiments. But let's not allow facts to get in the way, shall we?

I think of all the people I know who "waited." Of those:

Couple #1 - He can have sex every day, or two maybe three times a day. On a good month, she has sex once or twice all month, and she flips over sometimes after he satisfies her, and goes to sleep.

Couple #2 - She can have sex two or three times a week. He turned out to have an addiction to pornography, which he prefers to the real thing. The marriage lasted for several years before she gave up and stopped trying.

Couple #3 - She can have sex three or four times a week. He doesn't need it at all. They're getting divorced right now. She's gone stark-raving mad on the dating scene. (Good for her, by the way.)

Couple #4 - He wants to "wait." They've tried to have sex two or three times, and he's Mr. Softie. He promises that all this will change when they get married. She believes him.

I could go on and on. Does every couple who chooses to wait end up like this? Of course not. But stuff like this happens often enough that it's worth considering.

When I tell someone she's "worth waiting for," what I offer is my fidelity. I'm going to have sex with one person, and one person alone. Nobody else. I'm committing myself to her. If she then demands that I not only offer my fidelity, but commit to celibacy until we tie the knot, and enter a lifelong commitment without knowing if we are in any way physically compatible, then we obviously differ in more ways than merely sexual morals.
 hendrix8989
Joined: 5/5/2005
Msg: 92
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:51:58 AM
I would like to say yes......but I know that cannot happen. Maybe for awhile...but not for years
 Ninki
Joined: 4/11/2005
Msg: 93
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:54:39 AM
Nada III, in that case I wouldn't be right for you.


 darkcloud
Joined: 11/20/2005
Msg: 94
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:57:36 AM
the key phase was ' both are not virgins'.

then there's no way i'd wait. why. she's obviously useing sex as leverage. if she does this now then what other hoops is she going to have you jump through, by using the sex card?
 Ninki
Joined: 4/11/2005
Msg: 95
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:08:12 AM
boxer, I don't see the sense in being all sexually frustrated just to make a point, i.e. following your religion or whatever. If the time is right, and you both feel like it, then you should have sex, not put artificial barriers on your feelings.


N.
 pky1988
Joined: 10/3/2005
Msg: 96
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:32:03 AM
I've been stupid enough to wait 4 years for someone. You could imagine my frustration. We lived together for 3 years. Planned the wedding and everything. My family didn't like her and that should have given me a clue right there. I got married to this girl and a month later, she cheated on me with another guy. He was almost 10 years older. I told her to get out and got an annulment. I don’t think I would ever do that again. Plus a lot of times you might not be compatible sexually. I’ve had a girl who was too small and it hurt me when we did IT. Eventually, once you get comfortable with your partner, you should take that chance and not wait as long as I did.
 zgirlbeautiful
Joined: 9/25/2005
Msg: 97
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:36:41 AM
Ok, My ex husband and I met. Neither of us were virgins but we decided to wait until we were married to have sex cause it seemed like the right thing to do. After we got married I found out that I wanted to have sex more than he did..I wanted it daily, and he was fine with once a week. You need to make sure you are on the same page..just a little advice from a sexually frustrated woman..for seven years I was anyway
 millerone
Joined: 1/8/2006
Msg: 98
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:48:11 AM
..so filling every hole except the Baby Maker is NOT sex, eh??..Thank You, Mr. Clinton, and Madonna..
..and Madonna moved to England because she didn't want to raise her kids in such an immoral country!!!..
..I know many people who claim to not have had sex with their wife/husband for 25 years!! One is ethical and would not go outside marriage to get a little-bit, and another is actively utilizing the sleaze factor on street corners and strip clubs. (yeah yeah, I KNOW not all the Go-Go gurls are hoors, but many are...)
..would I tolerate a year or two of Goodnight Cheek Kisses, while the local Biker gang visits her after I go home to Miss Michigan because shes waiting with me to find out if I am "the one"??...
..on the other hand, would I marry a girl who has sex on the first date..with every date she's had..and shes had a LOT of dates??
..I know a guy who used to drink and watch pornos with his GF before they got married..after, she never wanted to see them again..she said she only did it to get him to marry her...
..my own marriage failed, not in that department, but because of other untruths told to me before..
...I am attracted to a woman that is much of what I desire in a long term relationship, and because of past burns, she is celibate. I respect that. (how many people on this site are getting it every night, anyway???) We are friends, but if we spent more time together, learned who each other are and liked what we know, it COULD be possible to simply one day ask her to be the wife.
..But I am still actively seeking a future partner, and yes, sex IS important..NOT everything, but a key component. I've been the route of sex being EVERYTHING and its pretty shallow for a deep guy!! Fun, ohmygawd, yes!!
..but to "date" a girl waiting until marriage, there is a tremendous commitment. Can you know a person fully in say a year, ??..I know of couples who have been bf/gf for eight years (living together with sex, yes) and at least one who agreed to marry on the first date!! (lasted 41 years, not always happy, but HEY, you wouldn't be reading this without them!!)
..so, tough call...you tell me all the things you will do after the wedding and you can't wait...how long does it take before I can trust you enuff to believe you??????
I'm looking for love and sex is a part of that.....
 Gideon797
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 99
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 9:51:15 AM
You say she is the RIGHT WOMAN i met,You did not say She is a virgin,maybe shes having sex elsewhere and seein if she can get over on me,BUT you did say she is the right woman SO yes I would wait,what occures for instanc if you 2 do not and she or you git ill and cant have sex for a while,then what?Good sex involves more than just physical,if I am seeking just sex a call girl is good for that,BUT you said marriage,sorry but I am not marrying a call girl.Should you be that ard up,then go see a call girl and git it ou of your system ,we are talking marriage here,not a 1 night stand.
 VirginiaG
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 101
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 10:25:53 AM
Me and my husband did and I believe that that made a difference on why we are now married as opposed to "just dating" like a lot of you guys.
 molonel
Joined: 12/20/2005
Msg: 102
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:05:22 AM
Me and my husband did and I believe that that made a difference on why we are now married as opposed to "just dating" like a lot of you guys.


You're 25, dear. You haven't earned the right to be c*cky about it, yet. Come back and brag about it in 10 years. Plenty of us walked a lot farther down the road you're on than you have, and that's part of the reason we say, "Never again."
 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 104
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:18:36 AM
skilld23v

May I add this isn't gendre specific. Both gendres seem to want to " test drive " before they move on into a permanent relationship. What happened to test driving the intellect, mind, personality, and the total person?
 IMshrek
Joined: 11/6/2005
Msg: 106
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:23:00 AM
I waited until I was 24 before I lost my virginity. I wanted my first to be someone I cared for. Maybe it's corny, but I like to know that I'm with someone I want to be with other than just sexually. Sex should only be the icing on an already delicious cake. I like the icing and don't need the cake under it, but I can wait for my cake before I get the icing.
 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 107
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:27:27 AM
cosmic connection

what is your definition of a long time?
 Double Cabin
Joined: 11/29/2004
Msg: 109
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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:57:40 AM
The right woman is going to be smart and jump my bones before investing her future on manhood of as yet undetermined substance. Any woman that makes me wait but has already indeed become a woman makes me wonder how much of the actual man within me is of interest to her. Take it slow, but I can't believe that in this day and age we would make a lifetime comittment without knowing the potential satisfaction of a haealty portion of the relationship and life to come. I will not wind up in a loveless marriage. I've got to believe that, and I've got to do everything I can to prevent it from happening.
 Ph0t0g_D
Joined: 12/21/2005
Msg: 110
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 12:03:46 PM
Great Question...
The answer is NO Way, Never Again.

I made this mistake, and thats why I'm here now. I respected her wishes and waited because I thought that it was the right thing to do for my wife. See, if she's not into sex before you get married, then it's likely that she wont be after either. And then your STUCK. I married a wonderful woman, but she has no interest in sex of any kind. She never did, and she never will.

Now, with that said, if your wife to be wants to hold off for the month before the wedding, then DO IT. It would make the wedding night really hot, and thats pretty cool.

just my 2 cents.
 gothygeek
Joined: 8/13/2005
Msg: 111
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 12:07:19 PM
Yeah, I know this question is directed at the guys but....

No way in Hades would I wait. It is possible to love someone and have horrible sex with them. Sometimes it just. isn't. there.

Sexual compatibility ranks in my top 3 most important things in a relationship. I KNOW what bad sex is like with someone you love. Never, ever again.


You're 25, dear. You haven't earned the right to be c*cky about it, yet. Come back and brag about it in 10 years. Plenty of us walked a lot farther down the road you're on than you have, and that's part of the reason we say, "Never again."


I have a feeling that life may knock some of the "c*cky" out of her.
 Tinkle
Joined: 12/14/2005
Msg: 113
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 1:06:49 PM
I'd convert her to satanism through some sort of evil naughty spell with Led Zeppelin playing backwards in the background.. ongawha-ongawha-ongawha
 VirginiaG
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 115
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 7:20:18 PM

I waited until I was 24 before I lost my virginity. I wanted my first to be someone I cared for. Maybe it's corny, but I like to know that I'm with someone I want to be with other than just sexually. Sex should only be the icing on an already delicious cake. I like the icing and don't need the cake under it, but I can wait for my cake before I get the icing.

My point exactly.
 Island-Sand
Joined: 9/18/2005
Msg: 116
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 7:33:51 PM
Like my mother always said "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

I'm waiting for marriage, for moral reasons.



I-S
 thegreatrockyhill
Joined: 12/26/2005
Msg: 117
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/18/2006 7:45:20 PM
I would wait for her. Absolutely.
 tictactoe
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 119
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/19/2006 12:34:48 PM
ya472


Bullsh*t !
I think the poster expressed their opinion as you have yours. So does your opinion constitute Bullsh*t. If you dont agree, fine I can respect that. But that poster has their opinion and thier position on this is equally respected.

Now , I disagree with your comment as opportunity does not determine a pesons desire to live by a certain moral standard set out by themselves. As for interest! The poster has already given their position on this. Thus interest is defined.

Of course.. JMO.. ( Just My Opinion )
 Island-Sand
Joined: 9/18/2005
Msg: 122
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/19/2006 1:05:52 PM
You couldn't be more wrong ya472

I myself am waiting for marriage because I believe that sexual purity is important (and as a Christian it is commanded of me.)

I do not agree with premaritual sex. That being said, I definitely have the interest, but I also have something called self control and discretion.

I appreciate your oppinion.

I-S
 dceeeee
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 123
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/19/2006 1:09:08 PM
Earlier I had said that " it would depends on how long the courtship is?
and if someone wanted to go out 3 years and be engaged for 2 years"

My answer was --- NO WAY,,,,

the terrible anology was ""would you buy a car without taking it on a test drive ????""

seems I see a variation of this on many replies here from both men and woman.


and,,, I looks like most want to see if they are sexually compatible, do they fit???

I think that all adults would have the same question,
what if after your MARRIED your wife says she does not desire sex for pleasure
or only once a month or in very limited ways,,,

at what point do sexual acts "" others things"" as the poster put it cross the line?

is Anal entry -- sex
I guess the country is mixed with oral sex

Remember , Clinton said "he did not have sex with that woman"

IS oral sex -- sex before marriage??

I would stick around depending on the situation.
that being said it is important that sexual compatibility and apetite DO exsists

Ok we can talk about it - in that case I guess Oral sex is safe !

I would think that unless one of you is a virgin...(Not at MY age, but maybe for some of you), that all this would be discussed..and honestly before marriage. There should be no holds barred in this conversation, because sex is a VERY IMPORTANT part of a relationship.
 Bryantinfl
Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 124
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 1/19/2006 1:12:08 PM

Me and my husband did and I believe that that made a difference on why we are now married as opposed to "just dating" like a lot of you guys.


You are a married woman on an online dating site, looking for another woman. Seems to me like you are still 'just dating'.
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