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 cali_desert_girl
Joined: 1/1/2007
Msg: 51
Why is a great person like you single?Page 3 of 13    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13)
Being single is so much better than being a lot of other things... rude, mean, shallow, homeless, sick, etc. etc. etc. I don't know why it's such a big deal to some people that I'm not taken. I know they think I should be based on some criteria they have in their minds but, I agree, it's a silly question.

Honestly, this is the longest I've been single since I was 18 and I'm taking it easy... when it's right, I'll know it and so will he. Here's hopin' for forever with the next one. :)

I love everyone's answers... LOL! I have to say "you'll see" was my favorite.
 ponygrl™
Joined: 7/22/2006
Msg: 52
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/14/2007 5:22:53 PM
hmmm, why is a great person like you single?

1 - i enjoy being single, it keeps me out of trouble.

2 - i just haven't been in much of a mood to date.

3 - i just haven't found anyone interesting yet.

4 - i haven't found anyone that's interested in me yet.

5 - there are just too many rude people out there i'm being careful with who i choose.
 DAVE632
Joined: 6/17/2006
Msg: 53
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Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/14/2007 9:07:30 PM
Lemmie see ...

Reason # 1. She died.

Since then ...

I'm picky.

I enjoyed the intimacy too much to just get off on sport fu¢king now. Jumping into the sack just to have sex would cheapen what I hope one day to have again with a woman I feel is THAT special to me. Dumb? Maybe. Not for me. I don't think it will be for her either when we finally meet.

Almost everybody I've met since has lied (some WHOPPERS but the most common? Saying they were born one or two DECADES before their D/L indicates) or they've been divorcees terrified of making another mistake so if they detect a guy actually LIKES them, they run like he's Jack the Ripper.

Their loss but it doesn't do me any good either.
 seeking darshan
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 54
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Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/14/2007 9:25:51 PM
People who ask this question may always need to be in a relationship. Perhaps their only experience is with serial dating and they don't know how someone else could prefer to be single sometimes.

In my case, I'm very picky and don't compromise on quality. You're special, so you wait.
 sweet5red
Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 55
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/14/2007 10:24:04 PM
i have yet to find the fella that will appreciate the sweet, wonderful, kind, loving, passionate, tenderhearted. country music, outdoor loving woman that i am..Sweet N Louisiana
 MEGA_CHULO2007
Joined: 11/15/2006
Msg: 56
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/14/2007 10:45:44 PM
My thought is, I'm the kind of person that loves to pamper and spoil his woman. I feel like if I don't feel 100% about a woman, I don't want her for my s/o.....I can't half step.
 MDNinja
Joined: 1/9/2005
Msg: 57
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/14/2007 10:52:46 PM
No one is an island... just cause you aren't dating someone or anyonre, doesn't mean you are single. Everyone has friends and family, no one is single.
 BuddhaNature
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 58
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/14/2007 11:30:55 PM
Here is an old quote: If you choose to be married or choose to be single you will regret it.

My preference is to respond to feelings and intentions - not statements. In this case something along the lines of a thank you are in order.

I appreciate you noticing my better qualities; what in particular made you say what you did?

They better have a detailed response immediately or they will drop a level in my estimation of them as a person of substance.
 Jadore
Joined: 9/7/2006
Msg: 59
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 4:02:37 AM
To message no 6: Rofl.....Great answer....I'll definately be using that one....
 GM1966
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 60
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 5:54:40 AM
hmmmmm lm not single !!! there is ME MYSELF AND I
 charlie_girl
Joined: 11/28/2005
Msg: 61
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 6:28:41 AM
Let me answer you by asking you this:

Would you (any one) be any less or any more of a great person if you weren't single?

I say, enjoy your life. It's a banquet! Be happy with who and what you are. HAVE FUN! But don't betray the "great" person you are by putting so much pressure on yourself to not be single. Being married, having a significant other -- both can be great. But then so can being single. Give yourself an opportunity to grow -- connect with the person you are first-- don't force it. It'll happen or it won't. But you'll have a fantastic journey along the way!
I honestly believe that.
 sassyfox
Joined: 4/29/2006
Msg: 62
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Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 6:46:10 AM

Because my greatness is unappreciated. lol


^^^ Ditto!!
 hca777
Joined: 12/19/2006
Msg: 63
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 6:50:00 AM
Some of these answers are great in that they are creative and funny, for here...but I don't think meeting someone first with sarcasm, some even harsh sarcasm, is a good idea. Let's be honest, the situation first presented is someone who does not know you well and some ppl are nervous when first meeting ppl. We all say stupid things sometimes or fall back on an old standard when lost for something to say. Ok, it's annoying and you are sick of being asked, to the point of no longer wanting to be clever or creative. I know the feeling, but what is great about this situation is that you are both in it! Like justyouandme said take it as a compliment, because that is how it is meant.

Try this when asked, compliment him back:
Smile (a genuine smile not a sarcastic one - lol, seemed I should say that) and say, "You go first...why are you?" Have him answer his own question. Then you can either say something, "that's pretty much the same for me or almost the same," or maybe something creative will pop into your head and you can give a generalized idea of the dating scene and not give a specific answer that relates only to you. Maybe that's too personal up front. If he's intuitive he'll be more careful with his questions, if a little slower, you may have to do it a couple of more times to other questions, if he simply doesn't get it at all, be nice but no second date. Good nice ppl ask the wrong questions sometimes!
 genuineman04
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 64
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 9:37:58 AM
because I only seem to meet psychos
 Jarbarian
Joined: 2/9/2006
Msg: 65
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 9:51:31 AM
I'm asked all the time. My answer is always the same:

"I wasn't ready when I was younger to be married and I certainly did not want to bring a child into this world and raise them in a broken home."

Now that I am ready, all it's going to take is Ms. Right to come along. Note, I did not say Ms. Perfect or Ms. Hot or Ms. This or That.

I'm not going to settle but I am well aware that everybody is imperfect and has flaws (myself included).
 JustCallMeMike
Joined: 5/29/2006
Msg: 66
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Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 9:55:27 AM
Well, isn't obvious, the single women don't find me that great. Besides, I don't play the game like other people do, so I am not seen. That is fine by me, just means I have no one else to thank but myself for my accomplishments and the riches that comes with it.
 Jarbarian
Joined: 2/9/2006
Msg: 67
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 9:55:53 AM

Being single is so much better than being a lot of other things...


"Better to be single and lonely than married and miserable...."
 tickle124
Joined: 1/12/2006
Msg: 68
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 10:00:00 AM
Just because I havent met the right man for me? That says it all doncha think!!!
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 69
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 10:05:43 AM
"Because every time I meet a really great guy who "gets" me, he gets beamed back to the Mother Ship. Dude, look out for that tractor beam!"
Cindy O
 sweet unknown
Joined: 2/9/2006
Msg: 70
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Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 5:24:23 PM
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 Love_on_fire
Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 71
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/15/2007 11:29:10 PM
I get asked this quite abit and each time I really can't totally say a firm answer. I know some reasons that may make me alittle more reserved maybe, like some initial shyness and just being cautious and so forth, but other then that I don't ussually have a clear answer for it, maybe thats a good enough answer.
 MetalQueen
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 72
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/16/2007 12:16:15 AM
because I do not have a big enough backyard to bury another ex.
but it really is because guys are too flippin picky and only want supermodels.
 Valley of the Dolls
Joined: 10/24/2006
Msg: 73
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/16/2007 12:46:08 AM
Well! TaxiDancer

I get that line too and I don't know why I'm single. I don't feel I make it my choice to be single. I just don't think I'm lucky. The one man that I know that would like to be my boyfriend lives in the United Kingdom. Don't know if our relationship will become real with the obvious distance between us. But I'm flattered that he likes me and it's too bad we don't live close by.
 hca777
Joined: 12/19/2006
Msg: 74
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/16/2007 5:56:04 AM
MetalQueen
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 Stones4Ever
Joined: 1/9/2007
Msg: 75
Why is a great person like you single?
Posted: 1/16/2007 10:59:40 AM
So I have more time to be on POF!!!
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