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 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 175
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oh theres a cult of sexual gaming out there called "Hoggin"
you would be surprised.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hogging
 MicheleK22
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 176
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Posted: 9/3/2012 9:16:23 PM
OP i feel ya on this one... It's like they also put so much time into getting to know us and then just wanna have sex maybe once or twice and then its like they never knew you. It makes me fustrated they actually put that much effort into it.
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
Msg: 177
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Posted: 9/5/2012 5:01:14 PM
Fifi stop that negativity. Most women have body issues. I myself have gone from 375 lbs to now 161 and I still have the problem with men only wanting sex hence why I delete most messages I get.
 SingleOregon
Joined: 5/26/2012
Msg: 178
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Posted: 9/5/2012 5:46:33 PM
It's wrong for people to do such a thing! I think that most men need to rethink their position in life and have a turn around about what they want. As for BBW and other similar things.... Health is a very big thing....I encourage fitness for anyone.
 SingleOregon
Joined: 5/26/2012
Msg: 179
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Posted: 9/5/2012 5:47:32 PM
me.... I am not after sex. that's for love and marriage down the road... much funner for BOTH PEOPLE INVOLVED when it's in REAL love not lust or passion...
 AmazingApril
Joined: 10/6/2012
Msg: 180
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Posted: 10/20/2012 11:53:57 AM

Why is it that when a guy comes across my profile or any other BBW, they don't want to be friends, they don't want a relationship, All they want is Sex? Why is that? I mean we are more then just a piece of meat!


I get the same reaction. In some situations I think it's more of curiousity or fantasy that some of the guys even message me. SMH
 rache0
Joined: 9/28/2012
Msg: 181
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Posted: 10/20/2012 5:09:50 PM
I have no idea.The guys i meet just want skinny gal's.Go figure.And,i am just on the curvy side.
BBW With Broken Heart!
Posted: 10/20/2012 10:39:14 PM
Pffft....A little over weight(10-15lbs) is healthy. BBW Is not an oxymoron, many men love their fluffy women an vise versa, personally I love curves (curves mind ya....not rolls) . Hate to compare it to this saying but it's like this, one mans trash is another's treasure. I was in a relationship with one for quite some time and loved her deeply. However, how someone takes care of their body is a reflection of many other things about who they are. The only problem I have with some bbws is the whole, "love me for who I am" thing. In that regard I will say be realistic and realise by being heavy set you do limit your options quite a bit, but if you're happy with that, don't complain.
 Drawesome32
Joined: 6/26/2012
Msg: 183
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Posted: 10/20/2012 11:33:06 PM
you really want to know? ok, ill be real with you. men dont like big girls. sorry. ask 100 guys and you might run into 5 that really like big women. and id be willing to guess that 3 of those 5 only date big women cause they cant get small women. you want to fix your dating problems? lose weight. i tell the same thing to my male friends too. very, very few people are really attracted to overweight people.

men dont need female friends. for the most part, if we have female friends, its because we want more from her, but shes not into us and we got friendzoned. this doesnt happen to you because like i said, most men arent into big girls. they just arent willing to put in that time to try and get with you when they dont really want you. many of us will however, use you for sex. why? because most often a bigger woman will give it up easily. not saying youre like that, but many are. if a guy is striking out with the more fit women, he will go get laid from a big girl.

to the posters saying all men want barbie dolls...nonsense. we just dont want women who are flippin obese. there IS a middle ground. most men have no issue with a woman having a few extra pounds, and do not usually look only for crack head thin or barbie doll looking women. thats just nonsense that crazy overweight women say. we like our women with curves, just not curves of belly rolls and backfat.

one last thing. the term bbw should be dropped from everyones vocabulary. just because a woman is big, shes automatically beautiful? no. men dont get a bhm (big handsome man) term. why? because no one thinks big fat men are attractive. dont coddle yourselves ladies. being fat doesnt make you beautiful. usually its the opposite. my friends and i see women all the time with pretty faces and we KNOW theyd be gorgeous if they werent 80+ pounds overweight. its really sad.
 Lilbitofsugaandspice
Joined: 6/30/2011
Msg: 184
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Posted: 10/20/2012 11:48:40 PM
Larger women are beautiful! Seriously- nice round bottoms, nice round tops, thick full lips, and ALL NATURAL! Some men are just afraid to admit/acknowledge the fact they like big girls because they are afraid of what their friends might think.
Life is too short to concern yourself with others. I say to all the guys out there- if you like big women- go for it! I say to all the big girls out there- don't be down on yourself, there are a TON of guys out there that would LOVE to have an opportunity to get to know you- do some research- every poll I've seen on this subject says about 30% of guys out there PREFER larger women. Of the remaining 70%, I am sure many would not date larger women, but I have the suspicion a good deal of those would not find the weight a big issue.
Look on the internet for the term "BBW". If big women were not a major turn on for many of the men, there would not be over 22 million results, would there?
I think many big girls just have the false perception that men aren't attracted to them because 1. They are not noticing subtle advances because they aren't expecting them
2. So much in hollyweird is geared toward anorexic skinny looking women 3. some guys are a little shy about "coming out of the closet" about liking bigger women. 4. The guys that "don't like" big women are so vocal/mean about it (kind of like how the guy that is most voraciously constantly bashing homosexuality always turns out to be a homosexual himself)
Don't get me wrong, I know there are guys out there that genuinely have a preference for thin women, too- but more than you will ever know LOVE BBWs...
I know a guy that will tell people his preference all the time, and it's always the same thing- each group of guys laugh at first like he is making a joke- then later, a few from the group come back to me one-to-one and ask if he was serious about liking bigger girls.... I tell them "yes", and it seems there is kind of a weight lifted off their shoulders, and they will open up and admit to me they like big girls too....
A sexy, confident BBW is a rare and wonderful treat. Don't get discouraged, some people won't get it, some will pretend not to, some will be mean- these are NOT the guys you are trying to win over. But for the good portion of the guys out there that appreciate a beautiful curvy girl, you would be their fantasy.
 IrishEyes02
Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 185
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Posted: 10/21/2012 6:54:13 PM
Obviously if all they want is sex - why would you even worry about what they think? Move on. Be more selective on who you will talk to!!
 Waterl
Joined: 10/15/2012
Msg: 186
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Posted: 10/24/2012 8:26:01 PM
It goes for the thin women also, trust me. Maybe when those men end up 85 years old an alone they'll regret it. lol
 sexysunfish68
Joined: 10/12/2012
Msg: 187
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Posted: 10/24/2012 10:48:24 PM
It is no different for any woman, all sizes get hit on with cyberspace dating sites. However some men think that a BBW will be less choosey and easy because of low self esteem. And some women do give it out easily because of low self image. However these men are pathetic. You are missing nothing.

I am careful what I say about weight as a friend of mine got banned on here for weeks for suggesting an overweight girl could do something about it. Yet all manner of cruel comment is allowed to go on.

 cali.gal
Joined: 6/13/2012
Msg: 188
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Posted: 10/25/2012 2:01:04 PM
I think most guys are just looking for Sx. and I think other guys are so shallow they might worry about what other people think even if they do like your personality and everything else.
 meadowsage
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 189
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Posted: 11/4/2012 5:59:01 PM
If it takes an hour of foreplay for a woman to be turned on, either you are doing something wrong or she is a cold fish.
 meadowsage
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 190
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Posted: 11/4/2012 6:07:30 PM
I'd much rather a response that says they only want to have sex and be a little disappointed then someone that pretends they want to spend their life with me and really all they want is sex. I know what you mean, though. Wish there were more guys out that are actually looking for a relationship. Also, I am a BBW and I think part of the problem is that a lot of men are what I call "under-cover-fat-girl-lovers". Meaning what they really want is big girls because that is what turns them on but they are afraid of what their friends and family would say. Instead they hide it and use us and hide their chubby chaser porn from everyone. All the while dating sticks that they really don't do it for them. But the truth is there are people on dating sites for different reasons and some people are just looking for sex. Like many people on this thread have said, there really isn't anything wrong with that, as long as they are honest.
 meadowsage
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 191
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Posted: 11/4/2012 6:15:19 PM
Isn't part of the reason you are asking a question is to see what other people's opinions are? Take what you find useful and toss the rest to the side. I see more people here trying to be helpful than criticizing. Perspective is everything. I understand your frustration and I know what you are saying. BELIEVE ME. I also think that I get in my own way sometimes. I think the guys that have more confidence happen to be the players. They are more likely to contact you (and me). I sit around and wait for someone to contact me and guess what, they want to go straight into chat and cyber. Not into that. I think a lot of times us women don't give the "right" kind of guys a chance, either. Just a thought.
 indigopeace
Joined: 11/1/2012
Msg: 192
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Posted: 11/4/2012 8:58:13 PM
From my own experience, it seems there are a lot of guys that want to "hook up" with BBWs, but it's seen as some sort of fetish. They're turned on by, attracted to bigger women, want sex with them, but because we live in a society, culture that screams, "fat people are ugly, gross, embarrassing to be with, etc.," they avoid dating them openly. I find it sad and discouraging. :(
 Drawesome32
Joined: 6/26/2012
Msg: 193
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Posted: 11/4/2012 9:57:24 PM
what i want to know is this...why is it there are so many people who talk about how a bunch of men want BBW women and dont want to admit it, or we are all dating "sticks" because society tells us she is hot, and other enabling things for women who are overweight, but no one does it for fat guys? why is there no BBM term for men that are overweight? why dont you hear a bunch of excuses from fat guys about how only real women dig fat guys?
 bestkisser33
Joined: 8/26/2011
Msg: 194
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Posted: 12/6/2012 8:12:01 AM
i love bigger women
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Posted: 12/7/2012 4:07:10 AM
Meh...some want an excuse not to change. The whole "I'm beautiful and you should think so too." thing gets old... We all have preferences, but I will not enable unhealthy decisions. I would no more want an alcoholic or a drug user who can change , but wants you to except them the way they are then someone who doesn't want to be healthy. Not saying big women can't be beautiful, but think about health before anything else and most importantly,be realistic. People seem to treat being over weight with kid gloves. Gotta be pc with women, but men can handle it...... I've lost about sixty pounds in the past year and know it can be done. If you have an actual medical issue, I mean no offense, but there are ways to manage. I know it's hard to lose weight and for some that's enough of an excuse to just say "except me the way I am". I never expect the media portrayed "woman", just one who is conscientious of their health ( I know...hypocrite me with being a smoker 'n all.).
 FullBodiedFlavor
Joined: 11/25/2008
Msg: 196
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Posted: 12/7/2012 10:00:59 AM
I, too, am a BBW and have been for the majority of my life. I've been on this and other dating sites for several years so I feel I can give an informed response to your plight.

To insinuate that 'any other BBW' on this site shares your experience is being a bit short-sighted. And to infer that all men who view the profiles of BBW have the opinion they are merely 'just a piece of meat' and are doing so for the sole purpose of sex is clearly distorted and prejudicial.

While there will always be the few disturbed people who will find enjoyment in attempting to insult others with their sophomoric remarks and gestures, it is important to recognize your enticement of their actions.

I have found that most women on dating sites attract exactly what they advertise for. Unfortunately, the majority have ads (profiles) that are ambiguous and misleading. Men, in general, are literal in their way of thinking. They need clear and concise information. Without it, they are open to their own interpretation of the ad.

As a woman, I find your profile displays a lack of self-confidence, as well as being elusive, as evidenced by the following:

"I really hate talking about myself, but I guess I will give this a shot".
Be confident enough to enjoy telling others about who and what you are.

"I try to be romantic".
Either you are or you aren't.

"I don't wanna find someone who just wants to be with someone so they can say that have someone. I want to find someone who wants to be with me, because they want to be with me. I dont want someone who is going to play head games, or is gonna diss me for the boys ".
This is an open invitation to every narcissist who comes across your profile. It shouts, HEY! Here I am guys! Easy target if you're looking for a woman to be taken advantage of!

"I want to find someone ..."
This comes across as desperation. Again, this shows a lack of confidence in yourself. Don't advertise that you are 'on the hunt'. Present yourself in a manner that conveys your overall attractiveness and allow the men to find you because of what you truly have to offer.

"I can act like the boys too *Mean face* see!! LOL "
Your profile indicates you are 29. This gives the impression your mentality is about 15 years behind your physicality. If you are serious about meeting a mature man, you have to be mature yourself.

"Cause life can never be that perfect".
Anothert negativity. Life can be whatever you want it to be.

"I try to be romantic.. I dunno tho, ..."
A reinforcement of the fact you have no clue how to be romantic.

"Do dreams really come true?"
Is everything you said in your profile simply a dream? Or is it a goal? Are you a strong enough woman to know what you want in life and possess the gumption to obtain it? Or are you the proverbial 'dreamer' who sits back waiting for your fairytale to come true?

"Do U think U have what it takes to make my/our dreams come true?"
The question is, Do YOU 'have what it takes' to to reach your goals in life and the ability to share in a strong relationship?

Even here on the Forum you present your low-self esteem and 'woe-is-me' outlook on life with your comment: "I guess if people are going to be that narrow minded, then I am going to be single for the rest of my life"!
Get off the pity-pot and grow up a bit. No man, other than the one who is looking for an easy mark to get his jollies from, would be favorably impressed with your summation of yourself and what you proffer.

Don't blame your failings on your physical package. Instead, reevalute your whole package and what you are presenting to the men here. If you aren't catching what you're fishing for - Change your bait!

The majority of the men I have met on this site have been respectful gentlemen and, even though I haven't yet met 'the one' with whom I'll develop an intimate relationship, I have maintained an on-going, platonic friendship with several of them.

I wish you the best in your adventures here.
 nikidoll14
Joined: 6/25/2012
Msg: 197
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Posted: 12/8/2012 11:00:14 AM
.I feel exactly d same way all the tym why arent there any real guys?:( all of them on here r only looking for sex..they r just lookn 2 use us throw us oneside??we are the same!!!comeon its realy frustrating....
 moretoohug
Joined: 9/22/2010
Msg: 198
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Posted: 12/11/2012 4:15:12 PM
Me too a BBW with A broken heart.
They are not what they seem. I fell for one and he said he loved me too then he took all my money and beat me up and said he never loved me from the begining. Sad very sad kills your trust in all of them. There may be pleanty of fish but do they all have to be the scum off the bottom of the ocean? more too hug
 Greatguy282
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 199
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Posted: 12/16/2012 6:37:01 PM
People that judge other on looks or size are not worth my time. If your a so called 10 in the eyes of society then you need to be 90 pounds and always working out. I do not mind if your BBW or bigger. As long as your happy and healthy. A bigger gal in my book with a great personality is better in my book. BBW people are real person and have feelings. Be nice get to know the person if there not a good person then walk away don't judge on looks or size. That's shallow and rude. All people have feelings.
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