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 josephk
Joined: 5/18/2005
Msg: 1
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was "way out of my league."Page 2 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
I met a stunning wonderful girl that I have been dating. She is absolutely gorgeous and super cool. I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was "way out of my league." This is a guy who is actually more of an aquintance and is always negative about everybody and I know I should not take it seriously but it is engrained in my head now. Why would he say that if he didn't (at least kind of) think it was true? I know it shouldn't bother me but it does bring out a lack of self confidence that I have. I am a 35 year old 5'10" grad student with a lot going for me. She is 24 and about 5'8 and a grad student also. I am no Brad Pitt but I am far from ugly. I am a bit shy though but real funny when you get to know me. I go through phases of thinking that i can get (and deserve) any girl I want and then go through phases where I don't feel good enough for anybody. Something I need to work on but comments like that don't help my self esteem. Do people really say things out of malace like that? I would never say something like that even if I did think it.
 Ldygmr
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 2
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/18/2006 5:22:40 PM
Do you like this woman? Do you find her funny and intelligent?
Believing some jealous shcmuck over her would be so very stupid. She is dating you voluntarily right?
No one has a gun to her head? She obviously doesn't think the two of you are in different "leagues".

Why should YOU?
 bobbyritmo
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 3
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/18/2006 5:38:45 PM
My, MY, MY isn't he SPECIAL! Doesn't sound like your friend is dating anyone.
Do you really care what anyone thinks? Laugh at him and get make your lady your best friend.
 livinglaughing
Joined: 1/17/2006
Msg: 4
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/18/2006 5:55:25 PM
If she is going out with you, you are not way out of your league! Women are not all about looks.Especially if she is in grad school - she has a brain!!!! Just like their are blond bimbos there are Shallow guys. Be glad she knows a good thing when she meets it and enjoy your relationship to the hilt! If not, your self doubt will ruin the confidence that attacted her in the first place and become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 5
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/18/2006 6:26:01 PM
Why is it that we can get 10 really great compliments in one day and we brush it off or hardly believe it. But we get one insult or negative comment, and we dwell on it for months...???

human nature? You know he is bogus...he is messing with your mind. He probably wants you to chicken out so he can have a grab at her. Failing that, is just plain jealous

Reassure yourself that most incentive for people 'bagging' or degrading other people is feeling threatened or the one is being jealous. And that they wouldnt feel threatened or jealous if there wasnt something good and 'impressive' about you, to others

Concentrate on what your girlfriend thinks about you and forget this loser.
 triplebp
Joined: 10/6/2005
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I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/18/2006 7:02:35 PM
I want a date with Elle mcphearson


Well strangebrew if she likes you then she's in your league.

Everyone here is right but HIM tell him to go beat off if he's jealous. We all at one time or another question ourselves and that is healthy. It's when you start believing these types of idiots that it's not.

Have fun and treat her right as she's a smart cookie.





 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 8
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/19/2006 6:13:05 PM
quote: [ Well strangebrew if she likes you then she's in your league.]


That is such a true and brilliant point !! anyone who likes you is in your league

Well said
 triplebp
Joined: 10/6/2005
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I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/19/2006 8:43:32 PM
@strange

tyra huh??? I always liked her better anyway.

@crystalise


That is such a true and brilliant point !! anyone who likes you is in your league

Well said


Thanks I often like your point of view as well. Ah but then again you are a fellow Taurus.
 crystalise
Joined: 6/11/2005
Msg: 10
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/19/2006 10:28:32 PM
^^ ahhhh then it all makes sense now. re Taurus.... : )


[[[She is 9 years younger and good looking? that is approaching "trophy girlfriend" material. You probably are out of your league.

Not trying to be a hater, but it's true. ]]]

no offence robert paulson - but that is just stereotyping and not always true. I mean its sad to put such superficial limitations on someone adn yourself because of someones age and looks - Anyway isnt a trophy rewarded to people who are outstanding in their field, in fact, those who come FIRST ??



and we keep forgetting this girl CHOOSES to be with him....
 LowerdStandards
Joined: 1/24/2006
Msg: 11
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/25/2006 2:49:42 AM
Your 'league' is exactly what you set it at. Looks and personality have alot to do with how well you get along with someone but your confidence level is actually the game winner or breaker. If you think your'e out of your leage, you are. If you are enjoying yourself and so is she (which it sounds like is the case) then why listen to some jackass that's only jealous?
 Nghtshft
Joined: 11/26/2005
Msg: 12
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/25/2006 4:37:28 AM
Hey......you got the girl on your arm don't you.....tell your friend to go......well

fly a kite.....keeping it clean
 vivienne3
Joined: 4/25/2005
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I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/25/2006 6:16:49 AM
This is not a friend. This person is caustic. Let them go.
 Kelleyisnice
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 14
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/27/2006 3:52:09 PM

I met a stunning wonderful girl that I have been dating. She is absolutely gorgeous and super cool. I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was "way out of my league."...I am a 35 year old 5'10" grad student with a lot going for me. She is 24 and about 5'8 and a grad student also.

She is out of your league. Otherwise, you would not question it. If she was fat or age 44 you would not think she was out of your league and it wouldn't matter who said she was.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 3/2/2005
Msg: 15
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/27/2006 6:16:51 PM
If she's dating you because she likes to be with you....well what else do you want?? Don't listen to your friend, sounds like a jealous person to me. I don't buy into the whole "out of your league" mentality anyway. People use that as an excuse when they can't get someone interested. If you're already dating her, then that shoots that theory in the foot!!
 BBdrgn
Joined: 7/15/2005
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 jennthelpn
Joined: 1/19/2006
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 BBdrgn
Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 18
I was feeling real good about myself until my friend told me that I was way out of my league.
Posted: 1/27/2006 6:49:14 PM
Not True!!!!! We're just in different "Divisions"
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