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 valleyguyaz
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 172
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it could be a bad thing for those who have sexual hangups or are closed minded to trying new things sexually.

for those who do not have sexual hangups and are sexually
open minded these things might expand their sexual horizons even further.

 The Saint 77
Joined: 6/22/2008
Msg: 175
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 12/6/2010 9:30:41 AM
Nothin wrong with kink at all. But it only works with someone like-minded. Vanilla's would run and hide!
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 177
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Posted: 12/20/2010 3:08:55 PM
I've been in the lifestyle for years myself.
Definitely kinky. D/s is a big part of my life. And I'm poly.

So for me... it's all good.
Well, within reason of course. ;)
 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 178
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 12/20/2010 3:51:31 PM
Oh, that's an easy one!...I a SERIOUSLY open-minded FREAK!
 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 180
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 12/20/2010 8:30:25 PM
Always had a soft spot for you..(even though you're always tryin' to drive! ) The only thing I like better than wicked, is wicked intellegence,.. and you have both (I'm supposed to be doin' the disiplining though, dayumit!)
I'm sitting in my pick up typing on the laptop, drinkin' Sailor Jerry & cherry coke, and waiting for the lunar eclipse,.. should be a great show starts @ 1:30AM * runs till about 3-something.. you going to watch it in PA?
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 181
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Posted: 12/20/2010 9:09:27 PM

is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing

This is difficult to say, because the definition of kinky is diifferent for lots of people. For some, even oral sex is kinky, and for some religious folks, even seeing the person on the other side of the sheet with a hole in it would be kinky. I don't think any sex is a bad thing, as long as everyone involved is happy with it, and no one doing it gets hurt because of it (people who get upset because of how other people like sex should mind their own business).
 BikerBar069
Joined: 3/26/2010
Msg: 185
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Posted: 6/21/2011 4:46:48 AM
Getting kinky is a good way of exploring and find what really turns you on
 MisterEd0950
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 186
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 6/21/2011 11:58:52 AM
I have never done anything that I considered too kinky. S&M, role play, public sex, and the list goes on and on.
 Bella_247
Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 187
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is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 6/22/2011 6:04:58 PM
Its a good thing :)
 sexypunkgirl
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 188
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 6/23/2011 6:58:56 PM
It's individual opinion if he's kinky. I don't consider myself kinky. Because kinky is defined as bizarre. I don't find gag balls, cuffs, blind folds, and straps bizarre. To others I would definitely be kinky. So really op. Your question can only be answered individually .
 Jayyyy__xx
Joined: 6/26/2011
Msg: 192
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Posted: 6/30/2011 5:07:11 AM
Very open minded, it's just a way of enhancing your sex to make it feel even more better - of course both have to enjoy it otherwise it will fail!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 195
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 7/17/2011 9:13:06 AM
^^^^^^ My take is that "kinksters" are just more capable of "free association" (the mental kind, mostly) than more ho-hum humans. Nothin' evil about it. Hell, my desk is a wilderness of free association.
Stoned Angel could probably scare me, tap into something primal. But, hey, I love whitewater rafting, for the thrill of it. Not exactly a quantum leap to adding like thrills to sex. jmho


. . . then stick it where it fits.


LMAO!!!! I don't care who ya are, that's funny!!
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 7/17/2011 9:40:13 AM
Because those sites are not free but pof is ??
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 200
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 7/18/2011 11:23:08 AM
I think it can be summed up: If you are into something, its cool. If somebody else is into something you are not into, its kinky.
 Cherish Cowgirl
Joined: 4/7/2008
Msg: 201
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Posted: 7/18/2011 1:23:20 PM
i was also in your shoes, not knowing what it was. a friend from this site directed me to another site. simple way of letting you see.... go check out alt.com. they have all kinds at all levels. you might have to sign up for it to go in and sneak a peek, but it's free for just checking things out:)
 sexypunkgirl
Joined: 1/16/2011
Msg: 205
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 8/17/2011 2:22:01 PM
crap, I hope extreme kinky sex and bondage isnt bad... Other wise Im def on santas naughty list this year. Actually i guess i have been on his naughty list for the last 4 years now
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 209
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Posted: 2/10/2012 7:19:12 AM
The only bad sex is not having any. :p

If someone's into the lifestyle, then that's great. They know what they enjoy.
Be it vanilla or kinky, knowing what works for you is important to being happy.

I'm in the lifestyle myself, and I've come across some women who thought it was "weird" or that I was some sort of "deviant". But most women I've talked to tend to be more open minded. Even if BDSM isn't something they enjoy, they can respect my tastes.
And I've introduced a number of ladies to the lifestyle. Some have decided it's not for them, others have taken to it like a fish to water. :)
 Mozzily
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 210
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 2/10/2012 11:14:58 AM
hes just a guy that likes kinky sex, to each his own, plus bdsm and d&s isnt that uncommon these days.
 CarlCraig1960
Joined: 4/18/2012
Msg: 218
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 6/1/2012 12:46:40 PM
I have been a Dom for years and find that it is the only way to go. Vanilla is exactly what it says and it is as equally enjoyable on all sides and I don't consider it freaky at all, in fact very normal.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 219
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 6/1/2012 1:24:35 PM
I dated a women a short while ago that wanted me to beef up my arms so I could better hold her down and force her into sex.

She did fly out to see me when I told her I once rented a dungeon that had chains on the bed, she was into that.

She was interesting all around, but not enough to overcome the negatives. IMO she was also high maintenance, including high maintenance in bed. Do I really want to have to fight a women each time in bed? Have to tie her up just so she can get off? Stay in dom mode all the time because maybe if she gets the upper hand emotionally then she will treat me like a dog? Seems way to much work to me.

But to each their own.
 sol_DYB
Joined: 6/6/2011
Msg: 220
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing [response]
Posted: 6/1/2012 1:49:05 PM
Its not my thing, but as long as both partners are willing, have a safe word...

I put that under freaky, but no judgements here.
 bullie62
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 221
is kinky sex ds, bdsm, a bad thing
Posted: 6/1/2012 2:03:02 PM
Not only is he open minded, he's someone who isn't afraid of testing the limits of his own sexual prowess.

There's nothing sexier, imho, than a man who can take charge and step into a role as a master/freak.
Not many men can.... they're either too afraid, know nothing about it and/or think they alone should be enough.

pffft~

Bring on the kink.... bring on the chances to find your own limits sexually.... bring on the things you read about/dream about/fantasize about!!!! Why just keep that all locked up in your head?? If a man is able to utilize anything in his power to bring his lady to orgasm after orgasm after orgasm, why the hell wouldn't a woman want to partake in some of that?!?

yup yup... A very GOOD thing, indeed.



bullie~
 Acehonestlady
Joined: 4/16/2012
Msg: 222
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Posted: 6/1/2012 9:18:42 PM
No bad thing to me ;o)
 ArticLife
Joined: 2/25/2010
Msg: 223
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Posted: 6/1/2012 9:51:14 PM
If you're both consenting adults of legal age, it's not bad, nor is it illegal. So go for it.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 6/2/2012 12:30:08 PM
kinki people stay married
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