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 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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I swung in. They swung me out. I didn't have a partner


never been since single guys are not allowed lol

This depends on the club. Some allow single men in, but they are charged a lot of money at the door. Sometimes that's cost-prohibitive.. but they do it as a deterent to the creeps who just want to get their rocks off.
 1javajoe
Joined: 3/17/2011
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Posted: 11/21/2011 3:49:03 PM
I been to a few with someone I cared greatly for. We went out of curiousity,..LOL
mine mostly though she enjoyed it as well..
I tell you it was very interesting, we did not participate in any swinging.
it is expensive. Buut I tell youI envy their relationship, they all semed real solid
everyone is very open, nice and respectful of boundries would love to go more often.
there is a place near me that allows single men but I wouldn't go alone, never seen much love for the single guy, though I'm sure they get their moments..
just not for me, I would feel like a leech.....
 cutenperky2
Joined: 8/2/2011
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Posted: 11/22/2011 4:01:42 PM
I was in one by mistake in NY. I didnt know it was one till i saw porn playing on the tv video screans around the room. The people there were not attracitive.Lots of old guys . Not what someone thinks of when you think of this. Almost only couples. No one was dressed sexy or anything. People seemed to know each other. I was with a guy I was dating and we left were just there by mistake, To me it could have been anywhere. There were some young girls making out with guys 3o yrs older then them ( was gross) Thats the only sex i saw..
 jogngymrat
Joined: 11/16/2011
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Posted: 11/22/2011 4:39:41 PM
i have been to a swing club several times. i was married, ex and i decided to go. we didnt want to go to just any club, so we went to a 'high class' club in Miami area. it was worth it! admission was $75, membership another $75 or so. five star dining, game room with pool table, hottub, private room and an 'orgy room'. if you are thinking you are going to 'play' with other couples, think again. yes it is erotic to participate (actually watching) other people while you and your partner have sex. yes it is erotic to be watched, and once in a while another couple will get a little playful. it is both of your choice whether or not to play, so decide before you ever go in the open room what you are going to do. i do not suggest swapping until you have been several times and both of you are comfortable in your relationship. if you talk to any swingers, they will give you ideas about their 'rules' that they strictly adhere to. such as: no comparing the swing partner to their personal partner. they arrive together and leave together. decide whether or not you are open to interracial. not all people of 'color' are black americans. they can actually be Jamacian or black hispanic with color in their ancestry.
a rule we had..no alcohol or sex with people that had been drinking heavy the evening.
nasca.com is a good place to start looking.
hope this helps
 The_Four_95s
Joined: 10/8/2011
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Posted: 12/28/2011 5:45:38 PM
Yes Indeed.

And I was less than impressed. It was not a good first impression.

Got charged $90 to get in even with a friend with me. Women there were ahem....giants...

and all the noticeably more attractive women were definitely not part of the scene. Some of them were actually trying to promote their businesses.

Research the ones you go to, because I suspect all swingers clubs arent like this one
 The_Four_95s
Joined: 10/8/2011
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Posted: 12/28/2011 5:48:55 PM
oh...yeah and the food looked worse than the women and the women were not attractive, I mean unless you like 320 lb women.

The food looked like it was all burnt. The vodka tasted better than the food
 fultzmagicman
Joined: 11/23/2009
Msg: 27
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Posted: 12/29/2011 5:28:38 PM
I have been to several in the dfw area,the ones i went to were fun,one in dallas was clean and a big 6,000 square foot house.hot tubs poprn rooms,bar,dance floor it was a blast the one in hurst was kinda lousy and dirty.i went with a big tittied blonde friend and another hot lil dark haired friend,we had every dirtry old fat perverted guy in the clkub following us around and every descent looking couple wanting to go to the back rooms with us lol on fridays single guys were allowed in and sat they weren't.i LOVED it and would go again.it cost 50 bucks apiece for our memberships.we were by FAR the best lookinbg people in the ones we went too.
 SweetKel1
Joined: 5/5/2011
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Posted: 1/11/2012 4:04:11 AM
Yes I have been to a few of them in Ontario Canada... It can be a really great time, if you are into that kind of lifestyle!!
 SweetKel1
Joined: 5/5/2011
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Posted: 1/11/2012 5:39:30 AM
You will find them on the net...just search for them.
 lookingforbigo
Joined: 8/10/2011
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Posted: 1/11/2012 7:37:27 AM
i like samathas place in london its a good ice breaker .
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 1/11/2012 7:46:01 AM
Swingers clubs seem to be for couples and single women almost exclusively. I'm sure there are places where the affluent single male can go to swing, but it probably involves some loophole for prostitution... An exorbitant member's fee, or something along those lines.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
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Posted: 1/11/2012 11:36:50 AM
I have been to many ..actually I have done security in many ..and the ones described in this forum are a lot different from the ones i know about .. most of the ones I have been to are classy ans have classy ..and good looking patrons ..most limit the single males with price ..usually the prices are not that bad .. usually like $40 for couples ...$40 for single guys and single women are free..which is not that bad because they have free food and free mixers ...you bring your own alcohol....my wife and I attend them just to dance with each other .they usually are healed in a hotel ball room ..have a large dance floor and a band or DJ... and while they are technically a swinger party ...no means no ...and there has never been any pressure to play ..we have never played at one ..we have been asked many times .yet all it takes is a no thank you and the people just keep being friendly whether you are there to play or not..actually we have been going so long that most of the people there know we dont swing ..but they also know we are not judgmental and we wont tell anything we see that goes on
 ANTONIO4719
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Posted: 1/31/2018 6:22:04 PM
Hi there i m never was in the swingers clubs but I like to go some one
 siisaa
Joined: 8/6/2017
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Posted: 1/31/2018 9:05:18 PM
F*ck no. I'm not into strangers, and definitely not into strangers f*cking near me or even wanting to join in. When I'm intimate with a guy, I am with him and him alone.
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 1/31/2018 11:19:35 PM

I'm not into strangers, and definitely not into strangers f*cking near me or even wanting to join in.

What about watching though? I think that's what most goes on the most at some of those clubs. Just watching and they're not strangers? Can't beat that, right? "Look 'ma! No hands!!"
 CBGB77
Joined: 12/15/2017
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Posted: 2/1/2018 1:53:03 PM
I remember back 40 years ago when Plato's Retreat was all the rage

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 aintnodeal
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Posted: 2/1/2018 3:34:30 PM
20 years back with my gf who was a stripper. I guess she talked about them with co-workers, so we went to a few. There was one place we visited every couple of weeks for close to a year. The places we went were mostly out in the junkyard/strip club areas, far from lights and communities, but our fave spot was actually in the middle of town. Yes, it was expensive, and only let single men in one night a week.

The decor was lousy - owners didn't have money or didn't spend it on decoration, that's for sure. There was buffet to snack on, and a good dance floor, plus the DJ was really good and they played great dance music.

We didn't generally fool around, but we watched a lot, and showed off a bit, mostly dirty dancing. People in general were polite and very open to talk about their lifestyle or what interested them. We talked a lot with the owner/managers who were a very cool couple. There were a few private rooms, and a few 'showcase' rooms where you could watch. At lot of people only wanted to watch, that was clear to see. Mostly older, 40s-50s crowd, but there were always younger folk who hung out together, mostly trying to pretend they were swingers, but not as open/honest as the older folk.

I was self-concious about making out in front of people, but no one harassed or taunted us as a couple. All in all, I would have liked more lights, and newer, cleaner furniture and decor. Still surprised I even did that - I don't think about it much, because I wasn't entirely comfortable. But the people were accepting and respectful.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 2/1/2018 7:48:20 PM
Yes. I had mixed experiences. Some swing clubs had plenty of people that were outgoing, friendly, and actually were interested in having sex. Some swing clubs were essentially like a regular club or bar. There was socializing and dancing. But very little sex. Other swing clubs were cliquey. People would pretty much ignore anyone outside of their immediate swing social circle.



This depends on the club. Some allow single men in, but they are charged a lot of money at the door. Sometimes that's cost-prohibitive.. but they do it as a deterent to the creeps who just want to get their rocks off.


Either that or they only allow a certain amount of single men to keep the gender ratio relatively even.
 aintnodeal
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Posted: 2/2/2018 2:57:15 PM

Either that or they only allow a certain amount of single men to keep the gender ratio relatively even.


Yes, the place I used to go most had a pretty balanced number of men & women, but the men were probably 5-10 years older on average. Most of the people who crowded to watch couples in the "show" rooms were men. Most of the people dancing were women, doing their best to act sexy or in the manner of what they though a stripper would do. I think there were two stripper poles on stage.

So you might say men were there to watch or participate in sex, while women were there to BE watched and appreciated for their sexiness.

ACTION vs. ATTENTION
 norwegianguy456
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Posted: 2/2/2018 5:06:20 PM

Most of the people who crowded to watch couples in the "show" rooms were men.

That'd be great to crash one of those things... and squeeze in among a bunch of guys surrounding a gal getting ball-banged by some guy...

... and then acting, as if it's just another Wednesday afternoon, whip out my peter and start stroking it, then turning to the other onlookers and say "Hey guys! Who's with me???" Or turning to a guy standing next to ya while starting to stroke it and whispering "Sooo, do I wait 'till he finishes to give her a money shot, or should I step up and toss one on her while they're banging? I'm new to this."
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
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Posted: 2/9/2018 5:19:06 PM
I’ve seen a few comments on it being expensive, who does the money go to??
 basilisk123
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Posted: 2/11/2018 12:34:39 AM
I was always curious about these. I doubt the reality of it could live up to the hype.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
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Posted: 2/11/2018 10:38:10 AM

I’ve seen a few comments on it being expensive, who does the money go to??


Rent if they don't own the building where these events happen or the cost of a hotel suite where some of the smaller swinger events happen. Some of the cover charge is spent on condoms, water, snacks etc. Of course the people that run these events want to make some type of profit from it as well.
 HanoverFella
Joined: 1/16/2018
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Posted: 2/11/2018 5:31:23 PM
^^^^ ahhh makes sense, thanks for the info
 feirene
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Posted: 2/15/2018 4:31:57 AM
they're not that expensive round here, for women anyway, men tend to have to pay stupid prices to get in.
i've been, had an ok ffm 3sum but don't really think the voyeuristic nature of swinging is for me personally so only go to them for socials to meet people. socials tend to be cheap for men and women but there's no sexual activity goes on at them. did run socials myself for a while as well and enjoyed that.
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