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 Witnesstomythoughts
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 ScorpVenus1
Joined: 11/22/2016
Msg: 252
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 12/23/2016 1:49:03 AM
They judge through insecurity
 Nestaron
Joined: 3/22/2016
Msg: 253
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 12/24/2016 10:56:24 AM
I dont get why some people need to judge to begin with. If you cant accept someone for them why are you with them. I dont value it at all, I see no reason as it pertains to them and who they are so it has no bearing with me.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 12/24/2016 11:13:10 AM
Guys hate to think they aren't rocking her world, and if there's a ton of competition...
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/24/2016 8:48:51 PM

gtomustang
Guys hate to think they aren't rocking her world, and if there's a ton of competition..


True words. But late in life, I have achieved another level of maturity. When I was young, I had women tell me they liked me, respected me, thought the world of me, but didn't want to be intimate with me. And I could not deal with that, absolutely could not.

And truthfully, I still can't. But these days, I would place the "like me" and "respect me" ABOVE the desire to be intimate with me.

Both are necessary for a real relationship. I have just reversed the order of importance.
 Groovygirl101
Joined: 10/6/2013
Msg: 256
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Posted: 12/28/2016 6:01:00 PM
Wow, what a ridiculous post. You don't like women having a sexual past before you came along because it might ruin the fantasy that you own her in every way? WHat does love have to do with her sexuality and body image being secret from other people? If a girl has slept with 100 men, how does it make her less loving? Less honest? Less Loyal? Less caring? Less funny? Less ANYTHING?? No. It makes her a normal human being that isn't playing into the misogynistic ownership fantasy. She is MINE!! Sorry... no she isn't. You are involved in a relationship with an independent human being who had every right to a life before you. Not having had sex before is not an indicator of the ability to love. Jesus.... where do these answers come from???
 MohawkMayhemRebel
Joined: 12/30/2016
Msg: 257
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 1/6/2017 3:12:56 AM
No guy gives a rats ass how many you've been with, They just don't want to hear about it , and frankly you are a slut if you go around telling every guy about every guy you slept with.
 norwegianguy456
Joined: 6/11/2015
Msg: 258
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Posted: 1/7/2017 4:58:29 PM

No guy gives a rats ass how many you've been with, They just don't want to hear about it , and frankly you are a slut if you go around telling every guy about every guy you slept with.

Unfortunately, it's not as simple as that. Some guys will ask about it and will want to know -- wanting to think she hasn't been shedding her underpanties in other guys' bedrooms. Some guys are insecure knowing that she's porked other guys in any part of the forseeable past. So yes, there are some who do give a rats a$$. :)

You don't like women having a sexual past before you came along because it might ruin the fantasy that you own her in every way?

It's not (necessarily) about owning at all. Some guys can't stand the idea of being with woman who they Feel has "been around". So if their perception of "been around" is too stringent, then it doesn't take much to strike that chord. It's to Not have a dream running thru their minds -- of her with other dudes and fears she'll go chasing other ones once she gets a little bored or something.

Some will use the excuse of "diseases", but by that rationale, everyone would be fine if one came clean from a checkup. And in 50 years when technology's advanced enough to be able to eradicate any virus or bacteria we wish to eliminate from a body, thus, no middle class citizen in the Western world having any real "disease" -- the notion's Still going to be there. Whether it being overly stringent on the notion, or not liking someone sleeping with a new person every week when single, for fun -- it boils down to cultural identity and/or fear of them having commitment issues.
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 1/14/2017 5:52:28 PM

No guy gives a rats ass how many you've been with, They just don't want to hear about it

In a lot of cases the guy doesn't care...
He might not want a long term relationship with her, so why would he care where she's been or what she's done?
 jco415
Joined: 1/4/2017
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Posted: 1/19/2017 7:44:09 AM
I don't care either way.

Although, I'd probably rather a woman with a very high number than a woman with a very low number...if the reason was that she loved sex versus doing it for self-esteem issues.
 NYCKOSI
Joined: 4/24/2015
Msg: 261
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Posted: 1/19/2017 7:39:18 PM
either men or women that had slept with many tells me one thing. They can't keep a relationship.
 jco415
Joined: 1/4/2017
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Posted: 1/20/2017 5:48:51 AM
^^^^ That's not necessarily true!
 gtomustang
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Posted: 1/20/2017 5:59:06 AM
In feudal times, those with land to pass on to children, or Divine Right to pass on, didn't want half children who could make a claim and dilute the family fortune. Genetically, a male *anything* is "concerned" about dilution of its family line. And guys looking to marry, who think a lot of relationships mean she can't be faithful, will also worry about a high number.

as for the rest of men....
 goodquestion
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 264
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Posted: 1/20/2017 7:51:18 AM

Wow, what a ridiculous post. You don't like women having a sexual past before you came along because it might ruin the fantasy that you own her in every way? WHat does love have to do with her sexuality and body image being secret from other people? If a girl has slept with 100 men, how does it make her less loving? Less honest? Less Loyal? Less caring? Less funny? Less ANYTHING?? No. It makes her a normal human being that isn't playing into the misogynistic ownership fantasy. She is MINE!! Sorry... no she isn't. You are involved in a relationship with an independent human being who had every right to a life before you. Not having had sex before is not an indicator of the ability to love. Jesus.... where do these answers come from???


I could not have said it better. I have read most of these posts and it seems to me we need to learn the difference between ,,,"woman" and "women"
 Mascali
Joined: 4/5/2013
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Posted: 7/26/2017 1:27:32 PM
This man is a firm believer in equality. It does not matter to me how many lovers a woman has had, and women who have had many should not be looked at any differently than men who have. The old SLUT vs. STUD thing should be a thing of the distant past!
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