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 Mister Incognito
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 76
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I only judge a woman by how many people she slept with when she brags proudly of how high that number is. If she says nothing... there will be no judging.

I don't ask so don't tell me. Thats my policy. Oh, and don't ask about how many i been with as well.

Hear no evil.. see no evil.. speak no evil.
 r90sboxer
Joined: 9/18/2005
Msg: 77
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Posted: 3/17/2008 5:27:55 PM

Because holes get loose.

I don't want to touch a vagina that can whistle in the wind.

funk that



I have two words for you: double standard.


Who has a penis that got loose and can whistle in the wind??
 Dallyized
Joined: 11/27/2007
Msg: 78
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 3/17/2008 5:44:19 PM
^^^^Ummm, dunno know about that...But you are sadly mistaken if you think that a woman can not tell if a penis has been around the block way too many times...

You guys have a tell on that... Am I gonna tell ya what it is? Nope.
I don't touch those... I see that shizzle and I .

I don't judge but I don't want the beaten down sorry ass peni dude either. I have standards. That is an indication that a dude is NOT keepin' his shizzle in check and as I said...Must keep yourself in check.
 Giantrican
Joined: 1/15/2008
Msg: 79
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 3/18/2008 9:20:32 PM
It must be the guys you go after or where you live, I can care less how many people you slept with my number gets lower everytime I am asked that cause as man you dont want to become some player. But I am 32 and have had over 48 partners amd I dirty no just very curious at a young age and started to work. So just lie to them lol, you get tested right you dont have any STD's so what does he care how many people you slept with lie to the **stard!
 testlogin
Joined: 3/9/2008
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Posted: 3/18/2008 10:31:57 PM

Just a few comments...

1) Who are you to say that the numbers should matter or not? If they don't matter for you, great. If they do matter for somebody else, great, too.

2) About that "stud and slut" thing. Most women here say that they don't date players, or that knowing he likes bed-hopping is a real turnoff. Why are women so judgemental?

3) I never heard a player saying "women who won't date me because I slept with 40 women last month are insecure/immature/not real women".

4) Most women say they don't want to be "another notch in his belt". Guess what? Men don't, either.

5) Yes, I know it is great to spend your youth partying and then say "the past is not important", but real life is not like that. Actions have consequences.

6) Paraphrasing a well-known saying, why to buy the cow, if everybody else already drank all her milk for free?

So, the thing is: If you don't care, it's your business. If somebody else cares, it's his business.

But to try to shame others into thinking like you (he's immature, he's shallow, etc.) only shows that you are so insecure about your choice that you have to seek for assurance in numbers.


SimbadSailor's comment was right on the money.

Many men assume that a woman who has been with a ton of guys will be more likely to stray because she lacks morals. Maybe it doesn't matter if the guy just wants sex, but many guys wouldn't consider a woman like that to be marriage material.
 Mister Incognito
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 81
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 3/18/2008 10:57:16 PM

I have two words for you: double standard.





Who has a penis that got loose and can whistle in the wind??



hahaha

she bit her tongue on that one.
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
Msg: 82
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Posted: 3/19/2008 6:07:23 PM

Maybe it doesn't matter if the guy just wants sex, but many guys wouldn't consider a woman like that to be marriage material.


True, a lot of times when a guy is saying it didn't matter how many my EX was with.... you wonder why she's an EX.....

The only people who seems to be ok with it, are not looking for long term.... or hoping to sound politicaly correct in case some woman on here sees the message and will sleep with them....LOL
Afterall, a lot of guys would f**k a porno star but never marry one....
 medana
Joined: 12/8/2005
Msg: 83
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Posted: 4/7/2008 5:41:44 PM
men don't, women judge themselves - it doesn't matter what a man thinks, after all, u can tell him to go grow a brain, some self esteem, or get over himself. what u believe about urself is what matters.
 Lawman In Black
Joined: 1/16/2008
Msg: 84
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:00:27 PM
This represents common stereotypes. No matter what gender if someone is sleeping around alot it shows two things. One they may carry a disease and two they lack inhibitions. I would not be interested in a woman that sleeps around alot. If she can't control herself then how will she control herself in a relationship. Now granted there may have been a time in our lives when many of us slept around. In college I am sure i slept with almost a dozen women but that was 20 years ago. I wouldn't do that again. It is gross. I am glad I never caught anything and survived those young years. I am sure if a woman does not want to date a guy who sleeps around alot. Everytime he goes out to the bar by himself she will be wondering if he is sleeping around.
 Scorpiodaddy4U
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 85
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 4/7/2008 6:30:02 PM
Unfortunately Many in our society believe in a double standard. They teach their screwed up prejudice and bias to their childeren and so it continues. Boys and men are wimps if they don't and studs if they do. girls and woman are sluts if they do and desirable if they don't, at least not with anyone else. It's disgusting,and it along with all prejudice needs to stop.
 thesecretofjoy
Joined: 1/20/2008
Msg: 86
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 4/8/2008 2:53:08 AM
Most men DON'T judge women by the number of past lovers they have. It seems you've run into one or two who do and now you've made a generalisation. It's easy to do, I've done it before, but really, let's not tar them all with the same brush, eh?
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 4/8/2008 8:18:21 AM

Has anyone here received a gift made for them be a friend/partner/son-daughter? When given that gift its probably meant a lot to you because of the thought and effort that has been put into it, its special to you because it was made with you in mind? Now lets imagined that they had made 9 others of that same gift and totally at random given them to strangers that just so happened to walk past.... suddenly this special gift isn't so special, if 9 strangers could get one for just being in the right place at the right time then why would the one you received have any great value?

I tend to think very much along those lines. If sex can be casual with some people then how can it also be special with only a certain person?
A woman I am seeing who has a very colorful past tried to tell me it was special with me because she had "chosen to be with me". I asked her if she said the same thing to her last boyfriend. She admitted that in more or less the same words, she had. I said so then I'm not special afterall, I'm just the same as him?
 Dreaming-cynic
Joined: 1/28/2007
Msg: 88
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 4/8/2008 9:54:10 AM
I disagree 100%

what is the meaning of slut seriously??? everyones perception is different a Virgin ur a retard, its okay for men to have sex but not woman well hun ur a effin slut~!

I think in a healthy relationship sex is only normal, I havent been with a lot of people but that is respect for myself, I think men should hold it to themselves as well I dont like guys who have slept with the whole ****ing world it grosses me out. so I guess from my perception a man can be a slut as well and I hold both sexes on equal grounds in regard to this....

Makes them loose thats crazy theres exercisez that can be done to tighten, what makes you loose more so is having a kid but you can also get that back depending on the person.

What I would like to know what your perception of love is?

If you read a dictionary love in regards to a relationship is Intimacy...
 allanf123
Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 89
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Posted: 4/19/2008 5:36:29 PM
By and large sluts are given a bad rap. If you live in Iran (and who doesn't?) sluts are beheaded .

The problem is that there are alot of insecure, feeble minded men on POF (and in Iran) who feel threatened by sensuous, sexual women. These idiots are in their forties looking for virgins. Good luck!!

I, on the other hand, welcome all comers.
 nameismarcus
Joined: 2/21/2006
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Posted: 4/19/2008 9:50:35 PM

dont ask me about how many. The numbers should not matter. go for it...


If the man thinks it is important then he has every right to ask. I don't think that makes him insecure or weak. It just means that that is one of the issues he wants to use to consider whether he wants to be in the relationship or not. It's his choice.



its the same "mentality" with why men get paid more for the same job and women quite often get paid less for the same job....


This is not true.
http://www.iwf.org/campus/show/18948.html
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 7/4/2008 10:53:28 AM

The problem is that there are alot of insecure, feeble minded men on POF

It's nothing to do with insecurity, it's simply a matter of personal preferences...
Like Height, weight, eye(hair) color, background...

Think of it like buying a puppy. Some people want a fresh, untrained puppy. Then they spend the time to nurture and train the puppy so that it grows into a valuable and loved member of the family. If there's a litter(s), you get a say in the future of the litter...The downside is the extra effort and involvement required.... ie chewing, housebreaking etc... With proper training, it will be faithful and devoted...
Others, want an older, more experienced dog, that is already able to fit into an ongoing household. The drawbacks, are that it has been trained by someone else, to respond to certain cues, may have already had a litter(s)(which you have no say in...), and may not respond the way you like, and it's remaining lifespan is less that that of a puppy.... With proper training it will be faithful and devoted... But if it encounters it's past owner, it will often go back to it even if it was abused by it's previous owner...You may also have to retrain it to get rid of unwanted behaviours and issues from it's previous owner(s).
 Pleasurelimits
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 92
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Posted: 7/4/2008 11:51:55 AM
As women who have many lovers and have a tendency to get 'loose' we guys do it so our d**k gets bigger we are just considerate while we search for our ultimate lover
 MrCappy
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 93
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Posted: 7/4/2008 11:55:14 AM
i do not care if they have had a lot of partners ( within reason ) , just means they will know what their doing ! as for the loose issue , no one likes to throw a hotdog down a hallway !!!!!! do ur bum clenches ladies tighten that junk up !
 Jeff_21740
Joined: 6/26/2007
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Posted: 7/4/2008 12:14:38 PM
I actually find VERY experienced women extremely attractive and how found they are the most sensual, erotic, fun women to be with. I cant imagine why their past would be an issue unless the issue isnt their past at all, it is a problem "measuring up"
My .02.....
 69_dude
Joined: 10/30/2006
Msg: 95
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Posted: 7/4/2008 12:21:31 PM
exactly...
I agree the number should not matter... as long as it is not Gene Simmons numbers...
Personally I do not like asking that quesiton and do not like answering...
more than 10 less than 1000 is all I need to know....LOL
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 7/4/2008 3:42:49 PM

I cant imagine why their past would be an issue unless the issue isnt their past at all, it is a problem "measuring up"

Well, for a start, their past can be a problem if they has issues or baggage from it.
A woman can have had a very very promiscuous past, but now regret it so much that she isn't at all comfortable in the bedroom. If she feels like she's been 'used' in the past, she may actually hate sex. It's all up to the situation. I'd rather have a willing learner who wants to know how to please me, than some woman with baggage who knows how to please the football team.
 Jeff_21740
Joined: 6/26/2007
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Posted: 7/4/2008 3:49:00 PM

Well, for a start, their past can be a problem if they has issues or baggage from it


Well at that point wouldnt you be judging her on her baggage and not her past lovers? It really isnt one in the same. Her baggage is her negative experiences with past lovers not just the pure number of lovers she has had... food for thought.
BTW... girls who know how to please the entire football team are incredible! You should really try it.
 sireel
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 98
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Posted: 7/5/2008 12:19:27 AM
Isn't the answer to this question obvious? The more sexual partners one has had, the more difficult it is to actually bond and commit. While today we have the pill and more ppl choose not to have children or fewer, .... The fact is only women know for sure who their children are. Men must trust. Trust is earned through reputation. Its a primitive concern with its roots from a time when family was everything. That is a definition of family that included fathers in their traditional role. It's all really very passe and obsolete now though, because it's no longer a practical concern. Or so I've been told by most women these days lol.
 midnight_crossing
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 99
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Posted: 7/5/2008 12:29:27 AM
This is just one of those questions that shouldn't be asked. If its too low, people lie. If its too high, people lie. So unless you want to hear a lie, which I DON'T, then don't ask. If they are with you, why should it matter? As long as he/she is bringing some nasty STD in to the relationship, then it should not matter what the numbers are. That's my $0.02 anyway.
 David Lewis
Joined: 11/18/2007
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Posted: 7/5/2008 4:26:32 PM

sireel wrote: The fact is only women know for sure
who their children are. Men must trust.

With DNA testing, that may not necessarily be the case.
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