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 bestwomanever
Joined: 12/13/2005
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"For some reason" not offended, lol.
Anyway, thought that was funny. I tend to offend people even when I'm not trying, due to being a crass smart-ass. People with a sense of humor tend to not be offended.
It is good to hear that there are a few women who don't fall for the BS. And, this doesn't just apply to the white man/Asian woman topic, it applies to all races that go after another one, purely based on their stereotypes and not the person individually.
 Vannili
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Posted: 4/24/2010 4:42:52 PM
For some reason I'm not offended at all by bestwomanever's posts


I am not offended too, for that is her truth from her experienced and opinions, of Asian people but it doesn't mean that is a validity of the intire Asian mentality.

When I first came to the USA as a new bride 30 years ago ,we were in a restaurant ,as a natural reflexes of being a Pilipino ( we serve old folks, kids, and father/husband before our self ) , I was putting food on my late husband's plate,and I heard from a nearby table, a caucasian woman telling her companion that "Oriental are such slave to a man, ect. ect. ' a real deregatory remarks, my late husband was talking about his work so I presumed he did not hear the converstaion of the next table. I excused myself and kissed him on the cheek , he thought I was going to the rest room, I went straight to the next table and told the couple to " Please shut up your stupid conversation is irritating me, you have no manners at all and I did not know that dishing a person 's plate make a person a slave," they were tongue tied and their faces turn red and I grab their salt shaker. My late husband said " in this country you don't go to other table to get the salt shaker you have to ask the waiter".. LOL!
Some Americans think that Asian are submissive and doormat,well they'll be surprise!!! Vannili
 I-am-Rei
Joined: 9/11/2009
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Posted: 4/25/2010 8:03:36 AM

Please shut up your stupid conversation is irritating me, you have no manners at all and I did not know that dishing a person 's plate make a person a slave," they were tongue tied and their faces turn red and I grab their salt shaker.

Atta girl!!! Cheers Vanilli, you have a way of showing them the difference between a doormat and a "loving wife."
 bestwomanever
Joined: 12/13/2005
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Posted: 4/25/2010 1:28:52 PM
Here's another take on the whole restaurant situation. People always have stereotypes because of things we hear and are told. I'm not saying this is ok, but if your husband was white and you are not an Asian born in American, maybe she jumped to the conclusion that this was a mail order bride situation. Again, I'm not saying this is right and people shouldn't just jump to conclusions, but I'm guessing that's what this woman at the restaurant was thinking. She was probably like "Oh, that poor thing. This man brought her from overseas to marry him and wait on him." I'm sure she was totally shocked when she was told to mind her business and I'm sure she keeps her assumptions to herself now when she goes out
I'm guessing that's where this woman's comment came from. She probably thought she was being concerned for you, but didn't realize that her assumption was offensive.
 Vannili
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Posted: 4/25/2010 2:38:18 PM
Thank you bestwomanever , but I don't think that a person is concerned of my being an Asian woman who is with a white man . This person is just yapping to her male companion that she is a better woman than an Asian woman who serves her male companion , that she will never serve a man. That is her business..

In a polite society if a person has an itchy tongue ,that they want to talk derogatory to an Allien woman they should lower their voices not to be heard by that woman.. I really don't care what imagination she has , she needs someone to knocked her senses not to be concern on other people's life,specially strangers...........

So what !! if the Asian woman is mail order bride ? ? Or the white man is a service man who snared uneducated prostitute from a bar ? Or married a rich educated Asian woman????????? So what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 Vannili
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Posted: 4/26/2010 12:27:50 AM
for the record ,the normal ( and I stress *NORMAL) * Asian girls,who have shred of self-steem*,do not want the white guys with Asian fetishes. So ,it is pretty sad that these guys prey on the Asian girls with low self-esteem *in order to explore whatever weird stereotypes they have about Asian lovers. Also I've heard Asian guys laugh at white guys,because ,at least this is what these guys are saying,white guys who have fetishes usually end up with the least asian girls, but the white guys can't tell the difference. Asian is Asian and they can't tell the difference,lol. So I hope the white guys with the fetish keep in mind. You may think your fetish is pretty awesome, but all the stable and self respecting Asians of the world are either avoiding,completly creeped out by you,or are making fun of you behind your back.


Where did you heard of this craps ? From the little voice of your brain?? Generally speaking there is no Asian girls with low -self steem , they are too busy being aggressive and working hard in a work force or studying to fulfil their dreams, whether their status are poor or rich.. Their hobbies is not gossiping or making fun of somebody's back, but partying and learning to dance and sing ,most Asian are in some dance and singing ect.ect. contest... We are out going and friendly whether a guy is white ,purple,green,brown,yellow or black we have no problem connecting our self as a lover/wife as long as the guy is decent.. We Asian may not as beautiful as your looks, but we are ALL attractive (we know how to use cosmetics too ,you know), ..
The Asian men has no time to *laugh at white guys on what ever it is, they are too busy working 2 jobs to pay for their expensive car, martial arts, dating classy international women,(great spender), going to university to get their degree.. This is a fact.. Truly ,I am sorry that the reason you're single is because the guys wants only to date short women with dark hair, not a tall beautiful woman like you.. you can learned something from that short woman with dark hair if she is an Asian ,perhaps she said to the WHITE GUY >> I love you long time, I speak nicey words to you and cookey you good food and make you feel gooood and happy all the time..
 bestwomanever
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Posted: 4/26/2010 1:13:15 AM
What I said before came straight from Asian people's mouths, I don't have to make it up or have any gain by doing it. Other Asian women have responded and know the difference between white guys who like them for them, vs. white guys who only like a girl for being Asian and nothing else.
I see what you're trying to say, but it isn't right to assume all white girls are one way and all Asians are another. I know lots of white people who are good and bad and lots of Asians who are good and bad. Many Asian girls and guys work hard and are good people, but I've also known many Asian girls and guys who are big, loud partiers, very materialist and not too bright. I was at a club once years ago and this Asian girl was being totally mean to the Mexican bathroom attendant and called her 'wetback" right to her face and laughed about it. How is that being polite?
It isn't right to make generalizations about entire races and their personalities. This is what causes war in the world.
 Vannili
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Posted: 4/26/2010 1:48:27 AM
I don't believe of what you are saying ,Asian people whether korean,japanese, pilipino,vietnames ect. that comes to America are mostly educated people , they don't stoop so low to be crass smart -ass for their livehood is depended on their good personality on work force and community ,some are not educated from vietnam war and they can not speak English, but they work hard, to have a good education for their children..


white guy who only like a girl for being Asian and nothing else .
LOL! Now you are trying to be a comedian, by insulting the mentality of a white guy who like a girl for being an Asian and nothing else...

There is a medicine that makes a mind brighter, give it a shot..
 bestwomanever
Joined: 12/13/2005
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Posted: 4/26/2010 2:09:17 AM
Since you are quite a bit older, maybe you're speaking from that perspective, like Vietnam war days, but in younger generations, there are different things going on. Try getting out once in awhile and you may see. Even other Asian girls on this thread will agree that the white guys who ONLY like Asians girls and like them for not-so-honest reasons, are really creepy. I have no reason to make this up. In fact, go back and read their posts, saying they don't like guys who do this.
Pretty funny comment about the "medicine" or whatever you said, since I'm not the one living in denial here. The world has changed since the 50s and my Asian friends agree with me.
It's one thing to like a bunch of ethnicities, but to only like one for perverted stereotypes (like the one that all Asians are submissive in bed, etc.) is pretty messed up. I'm sorry that you think men who use women are ok. There is medicine to cure that, also. And men who get mail order brides, I'm sorry to tell you, only do so because of their stereotypes about Asian women being subservient and they don't respect women. Americanized Asian girls generally find this very disturbing and it's really sad that you think this is normal and ok.
 Ed Bear
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Posted: 4/26/2010 9:11:30 AM
Well, here's my two (Canadian) cents' worth: I'm aware of stereotypes and history, but frankly none of the Asians know in Vancouver and nearby even remotely resemble any submissive portraits from the past. Western society has changed a lot, and so has the East. Yes, there are agencies, web sites and magazines offering women willing to play submissive in hopes of leaving squalid poverty, and try to please the sort of person who craves that, so they can get to a better life. But, seriously, I don't find that in my circles or even in people I see casually around the town.

There was a time when Canadian men were urged to "keep their women in line," too. That's not all gone, but it's not something many Canadian women seem to be looking for.
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 bestwomanever
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Posted: 4/27/2010 6:44:47 AM
So master, what is a real fetish, then? And what makes England the all-mighty authority on deciding what a real fetish is and what isn't? Just curious. We poor, lowly Americans and Canadians need to be enlightened and taught the real ways of the world.
And playing golf would be considered a fetish if it is the only thing you like doing and if you enjoy doing peculiar things with your golf clubs and putting the golf balls...well, I'm giving you too many ideas for your next round of "holes." You can figure it out yourself.
Do you enjoy playing "the back 9" then? Lol.
 winteragain
Joined: 3/26/2009
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Posted: 4/28/2010 7:27:01 AM
I was at a party. 3 asian girls. All three had white boyfriends. I didn't ask why because I didn't really care. An asian guy came to the party with a white girl in his arms. No problem. I would like to point to the fact that asians can be as hot as whites and it's true not all whites are hot as much as not all asians are hot. And hot people should be with hot people. I know I'm being a hottist but that's how I feel. Being a hottist isn't as bad as being a racist which I am as well but that's another story.
 I-am-Rei
Joined: 9/11/2009
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Posted: 4/28/2010 10:12:34 AM


Asian people whether korean,japanese, pilipino,vietnames ect. that comes to America are mostly educated people.

I disagree, most are poor and uneducated....They're the ones working long hours doing grunt work and living in squalor condition....One can hope their children receive a decent education and when the parents are old provide some care and not shuffle them off into a retirement home.

I don't know about Korean, Japanese, Chinese, etc. but Filipinos who had migrated to America and other countries are mostly educated. Firstly, the Philippines had been short of good professionals: doctors, nurses, teachers, engineers because they have left the country to work in other countries. It is true that they work long hours and maybe doing grunt work but I am certain that it was all in the beginning and given the time they will be able to pull themselves up from menial work to work in their true fields of profession. Secondly, one had to be educated to be able to pass the very strict US immigration officers who interview the applicants for US visa.
 mrcyrus
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Posted: 4/28/2010 9:14:09 PM

steven2o1o's blabber


Okay, you think you are more intelligent than North Americans. Let's explore that for just a second.


More nonsense, which again no doubt you're an American/Canadian (or somewhere around there) as this obsession with labelling things as fetishes seems to only come from people from that side of the world.


Would you read this and tell me how in the hell it qualifies as a sentence? Is this how you speak out loud, too? Is your mouth too busy frothing to make the right words come out?

How many people have you met who are obsessed with labeling things as a fetish, anyway? Is this something you just DO in your spare time?
 joseph_1023
Joined: 7/9/2008
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Posted: 5/3/2010 8:38:36 AM
You have excellent tast my friend........I have had relation ships with 2 asian ladies. One from combodia who sadly became americanized and one from korea ,that died suddeley last feburary...........they have excellet family values and are very loyal. i find i get along much better with theses ladies and I am insearch of one now....i live in wilmington nc..best of luck in your search
 christ on a crutch
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Posted: 5/5/2010 12:50:08 AM

We are not physically beautiful

vannili, i have to respectfully disagree

but we got something to offer as a person and as a woman.... " A loving /kind heart and intelligent brain."

and in your case, a generous dose of wisdom with a vibrant sense of humor ... which now that i think on it, are two halves of the same whole.

you rock.
 dmyc
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Posted: 5/6/2010 6:11:05 PM
From my expirence:

Chinese girls are quite shy or they can be crazy... They crazy only seeps out after you drop you guard... A majority of them are very conserve. Takes time, but generally like young white males.

Korean girls are very reserved if they are first generation, but if their second generation or have an Americanized family, then their basicly white girls. I heard from korean friends that a majority of the korean parents would like their sons/daughters to marry another korean.

Japanese have some fetish for black men for some reason... They also swoon over white guys if their straight from japan.

The souther asia like filipino are very loud and active. Their more into dancing loud music and part compared to the rest of asia. If you can keep up go for it.

In the end every person is different, but those are the general things I see.

P.S. from my exprience malaysian, tawianese and singapore people are to beware of. Also new immigrant are to beware of. They can be great and submissive, but they have a great chance of an alter motive.
 Ed Bear
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Posted: 5/6/2010 11:14:37 PM
That's not the only definition of "fetish." Don't forget the magical object or collection of objects of power, common in African Shamanism. At another level, any very special object of reverence. And an object of devotion, human or not. Or a fixation or obsession of any sort. Or a shamanic ceremony related to a fetish object.

Humans use languages metaphorically, creatively, and sometimes wrongly, and language is as language is used. It's not productive to start narrowing down "true" meanings.
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 I-am-Rei
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Posted: 5/7/2010 3:37:42 AM

Some guys have a 'preference' for asian females based on some stereotype they've bought into, and I didn't say all guys, just some....And how do I know that? Because I've already said it in a previous post that my ex-gf who get hit on by these older white males in their late fifties and sixties (and she in her late 30s) in the tennis group she belongs to are only interested in her based on stereotypes they have about asian women and much of it sexual according to her. When she declined their invitation for a date they become defensive and start in on her with racial slurs

I think it has nothing to do with a fetish nor preference when a white male hits on an Asian woman based on that experience of your ex-gf. It was simply an azzhat behavior of some white men who are belittling or degrading women because they thought that the color of their skin made them superior. You were right about the stereotyping. It has been inculcated in their mind since time immemorial that Asian women are: helpless, submissive, shy, conservative, loyal, etc. etc.....So even if these men saw Asian women who have been raised in America, the first thing that comes to their mind is these stereotypes ignoring the fact that these women were brought up with westernized values and that even their local counterpart had been modernized and liberated.
JMO
 leanco
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Posted: 5/8/2010 3:02:19 AM
she is a racist and I objectified her.


Haha, now that's funny! They say that "most people deserves each other", I guess it's true then...

Seriously though, that study is more accurate then I like it to be. Strictly speaking from personal experience, I've known or have come across a disproportional amount of Asian women who would only date "whiteys", presumably because they feel that dating Caucasian men are more hip and give them a sense of prestige. This of course plays right into the hands of those Caucasian men who are fixated on Asian women (and I know a few of those too).

Call it a fetish or call it a preference, but really who cares?!? There is a lid for every pot. For those who object to Caucasian men seeking (only) Asian girls, just keep in mind that there are Asian girls who would only date Caucasian men. And who are we to judge? So let them find each other - because they deserve each other!
 leanco
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Posted: 5/8/2010 12:21:15 PM

The reason given for why they don't want to date Asian men is that Asian men (American borns just as much as FOB's) are stricter and more traditional.


This may be true, but I suspect there is alot more than just being stricter and more traditional. Pop culture - especially Hollywood - has always projected the Asian male as dorky and perverted... just as the Asian female has always been projected as docile and submissive. The truth may be far from that, but it's easy to fall prey to these stereotype and prejudice. That said, if some white dude insists on dating only Asian girls, let him. I've dated Asians and non Asians and if you ask me, there really isn't that much difference. Each ethnic group has its own pluses and minuses and in the end, they are way more alike than they are different.
 bane175
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Posted: 7/4/2011 9:54:09 AM
Ever be in the bed with Asian girl??? If you did, you know the answer.
Eight years ago I was dating Asian girl for the first time in my life and I am not dating any other girls but Asians since. Why? Find yourself Asian girlfriend, lover, or just one night stand and you will never look back.
 Vannili
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Posted: 7/4/2011 4:16:23 PM
^^^^ Sweety,

As an Asian woman from the Philippines...
Vietnam,Cambodia,Thailand,ect not all Asian women are petite,pretty have morals and values we are the same as western women some are good some are bad, some are pretty,some are ugly... Just trying to wake you up to reality.


I thought American men are all good looking and kind, then I woked up to reality. Not all of American men.
 pureblisscatch4u
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Posted: 7/5/2011 12:26:49 PM
I think Iamalwaysright is-well, right! Lol. We should only care about who we're attracted to and who we click with.
I think Vanilli's last post was right also. People need to quit judging entire races and saying, "Oh, this race of women are all hot and moral, this race isn't." Doing that is entirely stupid and pathetic. Guys who are doing this, ever heard of Hitler Germany? Maybe you need to look that little tidbit of history up and see the similarities to what you're saying.
 Soul Union
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Posted: 3/28/2012 2:20:57 PM
"Asian girls are simply hot . . . "

I'll pass on that generalization.

When I think of Marilyn Monroe, Miss Barbara Stanwyck, and all the other gorgeous Caucasian women of the silver screen, no Asian woman comes close.

I love Caucasian gals, and I'll keep searching for one, even if it takes me a lifetime. I don't cross racial boundaries. The idea leaves me stone cold.
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