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 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 79
Do Women realy have the 'Upper Hand'? Ladies?Page 3 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
I am celibate Kelly , I do not do sex unless I am married or gonna get married soon .

I do not watch porn , I have no porn at home and never will unless I am married and my girl wants it too , you think all guys have to do is have sex and watch porn to be happy , if that is true you do not know all guys .

You think that all guys live for is to jack off and that fixes all unhappines ?

I would love to meet a women and give her all that is me , give her the house the paychecks, be her lover , her friend , her hero, I was one once , was married now widowed , I want that again , it is so hard to meet women . When I met my wife , I guess I found one in a million she was so nice decent , loving , my best friend , my objective was to make her laugh hard all the time to see beer, coffee or milk go out her nose was an objective, for me she being incharge of my finances and money was a load off my brain , she was so good at that and did the best for me , being my best friend , I had no need to look elsewere for anyone , she was such a great lover , no porn star could match her , she was beautiful , a great wife and she dying in my arms told me that no women could ever ask for a better guy , she might have been lying , embelleshing or telling the truth , maybe it is not true but we were a great couple and never fought ever .

I want that again .

I actually want to be happy and meet someone nice and decent . I want to be happy once again with someone , have children , be the man of the house , the fixer of all broken things and problems .... Have someone to make happy .

Jacking off would not make me happy , just drained and frustrated mentally though the body would be calmed .

To move to find women would suck , I have a high paying job , why would I want to quit and work in a fast food joint ? , yeah then I will really get women then , like most women do not care about a guy's personal and economic success , yeah right . Even then women will still have the upper hand .

I guess I just suck , I wish I had the balls and ability to be a liar and a player , those guys like my friends have so much fun and women love them , too bad guys like me do not like to cheat in the basically women's game of dating.
 Kelleyisnice
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 80
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Posted: 3/7/2006 1:29:40 AM
sddude, why is it, I feel like I've been scolded?

In any event, if you have a good paying job, it is because you have skills and talent, not because of where you live.
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 81
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Posted: 3/7/2006 10:58:08 AM
I work for uncle sam , I suck anyways kelly .
 Kelleyisnice
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 82
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Posted: 3/8/2006 9:01:50 AM
I work for uncle sam , I suck anyways kelly .

Sddude, first don't put yourself down. That's not attractive to women. I looked at your profile. You are not bad looking. Now your height does hurt. I suggest shoes that would add 1" to your height and yet not be obvious that's it's your shoes and that is tall enough for 1/3 of the women and that is plenty.

You do live in a place with very high male female ratio. Of the ten cities over 100,000 population having the highest male female ratio, 5 were in California. Since you work for the government you can certainly transfer to the District of Columbia. The following is what I found at http://148.129.75.16/Press-Release/www/releases/archives/population/000440.html

The lowest male-female ratios were recorded in the District of Columbia (89.0) (a state equivalent), Rhode Island (92.5) and Massachusetts (93.0).
 sddude
Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 83
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Posted: 3/8/2006 12:17:26 PM
mmmmmmmmmmmmm , I would rather live in dating misery than move from here , this place rocks , I have been in DC and the east coast. I guess I love misery . Aww not being down , just realistic .
 DonWilliams
Joined: 2/23/2006
Msg: 84
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Posted: 3/14/2006 1:00:53 AM
Getting back to the subject, women [especially young women] have the upper hand because (1) there are too many males born and (2) we are not having the wars that kill off 10 to 25 percent of the young men to the restore the natural balance. On good man can service ten women so there should always be more females than males. What is needed is a low tech war that will kill a few million of us in the U.S. and a 100 million of us world wide. That or find a way to produce more daughters and fewer sons.
 mysterious5
Joined: 4/4/2006
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Posted: 4/9/2006 7:47:00 AM
woman absolutely have the upper hand, just look at the back of any news paper and see how many ads for massage parlours and escorts there are. Even a fairly unattractive woman can get laid pretty much whenever she wants but even a good looking guy could go months if not longer to find a woman to go out with .

When it comes down to just sex woman have the pick of the crop every waking second which must feel pretty nice if you ask me, but if your a guy it is a 100% reversal unless you plan on paying for it.

In regards to just sex : men beg and woman choose and it will never change.
 dare2loveagain
Joined: 3/23/2006
Msg: 86
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Posted: 4/14/2006 3:28:26 PM
Good post and advice gemini3232
so true
 dare2loveagain
Joined: 3/23/2006
Msg: 87
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Posted: 4/14/2006 3:35:31 PM
Getting back to the subject, women [especially young women] have the upper hand because (1) there are too many males born and (2) we are not having the wars that kill off 10 to 25 percent of the young men to the restore the natural balance. On good man can service ten women so there should always be more females than males. What is needed is a low tech war that will kill a few million of us in the U.S. and a 100 million of us world wide. That or find a way to produce more daughters and fewer sons.


Really!!!!!what an awful thing to say...as if we arent losing enough of our men and women to war right now...
and OP, not all women have the upper hand some do...I can agree with that but, then again some men do too...and I think a lot of good advice has been given here if you sift thru and find it I think if you take some of it...it can benefit you...

and the guy complining about being short, dude...my nephew is 4' 5" and just married a 5' 8" woman who is beautiful...so height has nothing to do with it...good ppl don't care about height...it all has to do with attitude
 ladyrcmt
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 88
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Posted: 4/14/2006 3:42:43 PM
didn't read all six pages here..sorry if someone already made my point...but women having the upper hand is a crock.
whoever wants it more is in the weaker position.
it is as simple as that.
 Damo1974w
Joined: 7/30/2018
Msg: 90
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Posted: 8/19/2018 4:25:56 PM
Google it and see the ratio from men to women all you men are wasting your time I don't take this site serious anymore do yourself a favour and get a girl the old fashioned way I set up a fake account pretending to be a woman obviously with no picture I had 30 messages in one day I would be lucky to get 3 messages in 6 months it's not rocket science
 __TEXASCHICK__
Joined: 11/9/2011
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Posted: 8/22/2018 6:40:06 PM
I'm confident, talented and have a lot to offer and give.

^^ we have no real way to know that as ya have no picture .
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Posted: 8/23/2018 9:44:49 PM

didn't read all six pages here..sorry if someone already made my point...but women having the upper hand is a crock.
whoever wants it more is in the weaker position.
it is as simple as that.


How can it be a crock when it's factual? Men are the ones that pursue and women are the ones that choose. That gives them an upper hand by design alone.
 CBGB77
Joined: 12/15/2017
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Posted: 8/24/2018 9:34:53 AM

Posted By: coma_white on 8/23/2018 1149 PM
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didn't read all six pages here..sorry if someone already made my point...but women having the upper hand is a crock.
whoever wants it more is in the weaker position.
it is as simple as that.

How can it be a crock when it's factual? Men are the ones that pursue and women are the ones that choose. That gives them an upper hand by design alone.


But according to this article

"Men Are Just As Picky As Women About Who They’d Date—If They’re the Ones Being Pursued"

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/men-are-just-as-picky-as-women-about-who-theyd-dateif-theyre-the-ones-being-pursued-180947850/
 julystorm22
Joined: 6/15/2018
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Posted: 8/24/2018 10:41:53 PM
The better looking you are, whether you are a man or a woman, the more of an upper hand you have. There are many guys who don't have problems finding women on pof.
 LBJfan600
Joined: 8/22/2018
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Posted: 8/26/2018 8:18:43 PM
it is a fact that women have the upper hand. men are the pursuers and women are the pursued, dating sites prove this. women get hundreds of messages a week, men would be lucky to get that in a year unless you're a model
 2ufo
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 8/27/2018 8:14:50 AM

Men are the ones that pursue and women are the ones that choose.

But men choose who to pursue.

Different people have the upper hand at different times.
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Posted: 8/27/2018 11:34:30 AM

But men choose who to pursue.

Different people have the upper hand at different times.


Just go to a bar, you'll see that men aren't that picky about who they pursue lol.
 2ufo
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 8/27/2018 12:41:04 PM
I don't go to bars.
Even as social experiments.

However, is pursuit of a one-night stand really a pursuit in the context of dating?
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Posted: 8/27/2018 6:15:40 PM

I don't go to bars.
Even as social experiments.

However, is pursuit of a one-night stand really a pursuit in the context of dating?


Why not? A lot of dates end up as one night stands. That's a huge part of dating. Some relationships start out as one night stands.
 2ufo
Joined: 12/25/2017
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Posted: 8/28/2018 8:22:47 AM
^^^
True...
but the starting mentality in the search of a ONS vs a LTR would be very different, I think.
 julystorm22
Joined: 6/15/2018
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Posted: 8/28/2018 10:01:35 AM
I'm not so sure of that. While I said in another thread that I could only think of one couple I knew who got together IRL over the last 10 years (all other couples I know met online) previous to the last 10 years, most of the couples I knew did meet IRL in bars or at parties and hooked up that first night and stayed together, at least for the short-term (who knows if they are still together).The only couples I know of who actually dated in the traditional way (one person asking the other out then dating for a while) were my parents' generation or older. My age, most of the "first dates" occurred after someone had hooked up with someone else at a party or something.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 8/28/2018 8:15:57 PM
I’ve said this enough times, I guess it can’t hurt to say it again.

In 1981, I was footloose and fancy free, on the prowl, only interested in fun. Drinking, dancing, partying, chasing women, it was all good. I was 30 years old, in great shape, making really good money, had a lot of friends (most of whom were living the same way I was). Then one night I met a woman in a night club, we spent the night together. For some reason, I actually kept her phone number. Then I called her, and we got together again.

We were married for 27 years. And most of those years were very good years. Yes, it does happen.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 103
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Posted: 8/29/2018 12:38:52 PM
So how many STD's have you guys had?!
 Coma_White
Joined: 9/15/2013
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Posted: 8/29/2018 11:02:50 PM

So how many STD's have you guys had?!


Zero :)
I've only had intercourse without protection with one person that I was in a long term relationship with.
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