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 HadleyVBaxendale
Joined: 8/25/2009
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I believe in a polite “Thank you ma’am.” at the end of the proceedings
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 15
I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/6/2009 3:26:13 PM
Vocalizations are extremely inspiring.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/6/2009 7:38:11 PM
Yeah, I don't get it either why guys are quiet! I always find a guy moaning and grunting to be a MAJOR turn on! Why not do something that turns on your woman? It lets me know that you like what I'm doing and many times guys will say that they love hearing their woman make noise too, so what's good for the goose is good for the gander, am I right?


Because if you're naturally quiet (like for some of us, learning to do it quietly as a young teenager, so the 'rents didn't walk in on you), it's not an easy habit to change. And I don't know about anybody else, but if I'm going out of my way to make sure I'm making noises, my attention is split, and the lil soldier starts to falter, so to speak.

Not to be rude, or sexist, but women don't exactly know how it feels to not have your dingle work properly. If you're a little dry, you get some lubrication and everything works fine. If a guy goes limp, what is he going to do? Give it a pep-talk?
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 17
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Posted: 9/7/2009 12:24:24 AM
yes, I agree..I like the moaning, groaning, growling =) ,gasping..hot whispers, talking..all of it..I'm fairly vocal myself and I certainly appreciate it when my man is. Now, I gotta say though..some guys are just not wired that way..so you have to rely on the toes curling or the eyes rolling in the back of their heads..lol I guess it is what it is =)
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 18
I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/7/2009 1:43:03 AM
My bf was totally silent when we first got together...I would actually stop giving him head and ask him if he was enjoying what I was doing. His response would be a quiet 'uh, yeah', but as I kept encouraging him, he became a bit more vocal, but he probably never will be a screamer. He is quiet by nature, and a bit shy. I however am the complete opposite. When we're going at it doggie style, and he hits it deep, right on my 'cuss button' and I'm screaming obscenities into the pillow, he has been known to actually get the giggles, but God love him he keeps pounding the hell outta me!

He loves that I'm vocal, he really gets a kick out of it, and I can't help my response to great sex. He is opening up slowly, and who knows, maybe one day he may let out a 'yee haw'. I have gotten him to say my name when he cums many times, and he really likes that, but apparently the women he was with before were duds in the sack and didn't teach him much in the ways of kink. So I'm opening up new worlds to him. Hell, he never even watched porn with them! Or used toys together! I fixed that right quick!

Sometimes I just love being the naughty teacher! LOL
 soflnighteagle
Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 19
I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/7/2009 5:05:21 AM
It seems to me that 90% of sex is about making the woman happy, I have yet to meet a woman that gave any consideration to what I may enjoy. It seems that most woman think taking off their clothes is enough to make a man happy, so maybe the reason most men don't make noise during sex is because it just isn't that great. It's better than nothing, but it just isn't enought to really rock their world. I'll make a lot of noise if the sex is good, but if I'm just working to please you, it isn't going to be that great.
 sxyvirgo
Joined: 7/26/2006
Msg: 20
I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/7/2009 5:33:16 AM
You have to hear something from them, if only to know that you're doing something right....I love that little growl in the back of the throat!
 winfieldbrian
Joined: 8/9/2008
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/7/2009 12:24:21 PM
from Msg: 54


I believe in a polite “Thank you ma’am.” at the end of the proceedings


I did that with a woman I was dating right out of college. She exploded at me, saying that it made her feel like a prostitute and degraded her. I was just trying to express my appreciation at my first intimate encounter after months of a dry spell. Apologizing didn't help; she ended our relationship immediately.
 majyk1
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:09:51 AM
{"Jesus...you'd think that the fact he keeps coming back would be a f*cking clue. You need noises too? Why? Why is it so f*cking paramount that you just HAVE to hear noises during sex? Watched one porno too many perhaps? Maybe a girlfriend told you that if your man is quiet it means he's "just not that into you"? What's with the need for antics if not to satiate some seeded insecurity?"}

Thank you BDJ I LMAO!




Personaly I've never had this "problem". Only once was I with someone "quiet" and even he moaned!
Maybe thats just his personality, or he's shy OR you just wernt as good as you thought. JMO
 totoman
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 9/8/2009 1:13:56 AM
I think it's important to be expressive. Trust me, if you are doing something that is making me feel good.... you're going to either hear it and know it. Silence in my view is for the stoic or shy folk... both which do not apply to me. Hence, I think it has more to do with personality than any specific gender because not every women is expressive either you know. Either way, however, works for me.
 wayfarer4you
Joined: 3/24/2009
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/8/2009 12:28:02 PM
NINJA style here, If my wood that can drive nail's aint enough ,then your loss.
I look at it this way if your getting off on whats going on then wheres the prob,?I've had my share of tooth sucker's ohhh yahhh's and the like ,but I gotta say as long as your azz in coming off the sheet's and you'r into it please oh please leave the porn star talk's at home ........JMO
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/9/2009 7:43:45 AM
Alright, I will admit to not reading the whole thread. But most guys grow up masturbating at home, usually when there is family in the house. So, we learn to come 'quietly', and that never changes. Teenage boys masturbate often; how many women have ever heard their brother's moans and screams of 'I'm coming I'm coming I'm coming!', or 'Ooooooo, ohhhhhh, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!' from the next room? Probably none. And most married men also masturbate. How many get caught doing it? Few; we're quiet. For us, moaning, groaning and chatting during sex usually doesn't really enhance the activity all that much.
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 26
I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/11/2009 4:21:40 PM

It seems to me that 90% of sex is about making the woman happy, I have yet to meet a woman that gave any consideration to what I may enjoy. It seems that most woman think taking off their clothes is enough to make a man happy, so maybe the reason most men don't make noise during sex is because it just isn't that great. It's better than nothing, but it just isn't enought to really rock their world. I'll make a lot of noise if the sex is good, but if I'm just working to please you, it isn't going to be that great.


It might become 50/50 one day but you are probably right.
 EaglesEye
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 27
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Posted: 9/11/2009 11:40:25 PM
shut the hell up you ll wake up the kids
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 9/12/2009 12:26:07 PM
It takes concentration to make a c-ck erect, and sexual stimulation is largely visual for men. We're so focused on the visual of you that sound gets in the way. I mainly do a lot of heavy breathing. But, when I get close to cum, you better believe my breathing turns to vicious groans!
 sub girl wanted
Joined: 5/1/2008
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/12/2009 1:31:45 PM
I was never the moaner groaner type either.However when im cumming i like to bury my face in the girls neck,and emit a low gutteral tiger growl ...if that counts.
 totoman
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 30
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Posted: 9/12/2009 3:06:40 PM
Blow farts to the stomach are always cool too.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/13/2009 11:44:33 PM
Ahh come on guys, tell them the truth. We don't make noise so we can hear a car door slam or your husbands key unlocking the front door. Also, if we screamed all the time...how would you know when your big ass was on top of our nuts?
 totoman
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 32
I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/14/2009 3:58:07 PM
This boils down to simple communication and etiquette which can be expressed and exercised in many different ways.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/14/2009 4:10:33 PM
I don't yell or anything, but I am vocal. And a bit of trash talkin here and there makes it kinda fun for both parties... Communication is a great thing.
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 34
I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 9/14/2009 6:36:57 PM
OP So you want a man to make noises and last for 4 hours without Viagra?

Making noises defeats the purpose of the zen ritual that is enjoying what you are doing without focusing on it so you can last long enough shoot without killing her-lol

Seriously though it feels good in a way that is not emotionally as fulfilling which why most men won't make noises like a howler monkey bitten by a werewolf during a full moon.
 sxyvirgo
Joined: 7/26/2006
Msg: 35
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Posted: 9/14/2009 7:44:54 PM
I don't get all the guys talking about how they grew up "having to be quiet"...like we women didn't have the same constraints? Yes, women practice "self-love" too...and had the same issues with parents, roommates, whatever. Somehow we managed to get beyond it and now can practice healthy self-expression!
 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 36
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Posted: 9/16/2009 1:38:54 PM


Msg: 58 -- women don't exactly know how it feels to not have your
dingle work properly. If you're a little dry, you get some lubrication
and everything works fine. If a guy goes limp, what is he going to do?
Give it a pep-talk?


Wow, a man's dilemma capsulized in a small paragraph, and no truer
words spoken. A woman can so CONVENIENTLY hide her attraction or lack
thereof. A man can NOT. A man ALWAYS shows his attraction. The
revelation is quite EASY. The question can be so easily resolved by
simple observation of two EASY formulae: HARD = "I want you, and I
want you NOW!!!" or SOFT = "not now, not EVER!!!"

SYNOPSIS: A man can NEVER be deceptive about his attraction toward a
woman. The "HARD/SOFT" dilemma is EASILY derived by a PERCEPTIVE
woman. The man is at a LOSS should he choose to deceive the woman
concerning his attraction.

The woman, OTOH, has free reign at deception. She has NO outward
physical revelation of ANYTHING contrary to what she has expressed.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 10/5/2009 8:44:13 PM
From the earliest times, sex was only available in only SEMI private surroundings. Her parents house or mine, her dorm room or mine, group houses at college (with almost no privacy between rooms), and FINALLY my own house, but shortly afterwards with children to be quiet for. I just hope I find a more welcoming situation sometime before I die.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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I can't hear you guys.
Posted: 10/6/2009 7:39:47 AM
Too bad this doesn't work the other way around, because some of you nagging ladies would be getting sex 24/7. That's why men love blow jobs.....a few minutes of silence.
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